Deschide usa inimii sotului tau cu cheia incurajarii
Pe rafturile librariilor se gasesc multe carti care afirma ca te pot invata cum poti obtine ceea ce vrei de la barbatul tau, dar o relatie afectuoasa si durabila se dezvolta sanatos si aduce fericire ambilor parteneri atunci cand procedezi contrar acestor sfaturi: nu mai fi preocupata de ceea ce poti obtine, ci doreste sa daruiesti cat mai mult. Pe paginile cartii "Crede in sotul tau si incurajeaza-l" vei gasi cai biblice, practice si dovedite utile de testul timpului pentru a face din casnicia ta un loc sigur al incurajarii, respectului si dragostei. Autorul de succes si consilierul in probleme de familie H. Norman Wright include multe marturii ale unor barbati ca si sotul tau, barbati care vorbesc despre temerile, sperantele si dezamagirile lor. De asemenea, vei citi si despre femei ca si tine, femei care doresc din toata inima sa cunoasca nevoile si dorintele sotilor lor si care au invatat cum sa deschida usa inimii sotiilor lor prin acceptare, sprijin si incurajare. Pe baza experientei acumulate in urma consilierii a mii de cupluri, doctorul Wright stie foarte bine cat de mare este impactul unei sotii asupra sotului ei si iti arata cum sa folosesti acest impact pentru a avea o casnicie plina de dragoste si de bucurie, care rezista cu brio la testul timpului.
H. Norman Wright is a well-respected Christian counselor who has helped thousands of people improve their relationships and deal with grief, tragedy, and other concerns. He helps couples bring vibrancy to their relationships through counseling, seminars, and more than 90 books, including Before You Say “I Do” and After You Say “I Do.” Norm also reveals insights for spiritual growth, great relationships, and success in devotionals that include Strong to the Core, Quiet Times for Every Parent, and Truly Devoted: What Dogs Teach Us About Life, Love, and Loyalty. www.hnormanwright.com
This book is not very thick, but it's packed with helpful advice that must be ingested slowly. I kept it next to my bible and read it as part of my morning devotions. So many times my husband was in the next room over and I would literally pause, read him a passage, then ask, "Does that describe you?" The answer was unanimously "Yes."
We had some good talks and I found several new ways to better communicate with and show love to my husband. Also, I understand him way better now. I realize there are so many other men out there who act just like him in certain situations. That understanding will go a long way in strengthening our trust, and it just feels better!
There were really good Biblical insights references and advice. But this book could have been half as long without including every comment received on surveys. Maybe with so much included, there was something applicable to more situations.
Overall, this book was okay. If you've read Wright's Communication: Key to Your Marriage, then there's a lot of overlap. In addition, two whole chapters are given to comments: one from women and one from men. It's not one I'll read or reference again.
While I enjoyed some of the parts written by the author, the filler "speak out" portions caused me to roll my eyes more than once. Very refreshing to see a Christian book encouraging women NOT to pick up after their husbands (and so emasculate her husband by treating him like a child). Then the women encourages speak portion told me to be dressed and have my hair and make up done when my husband got home seemed to undermine everything I'd learned.
The first five chapter were helpful and to the point. However, the last 4 ones (about 40% of the book) were just testimonials, that may be a bit encouraging but did not add value to me in a way that made me skip some parts.