The Rhythm of Us: Create the Thriving Marriage You Long For

by Chris Graebe, Jenni Graebe

Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? Do you long to enjoy your spouse over a lifetime but you don't know how to get there?

Chris and Jenni Graebe want you to know that every marriage can thrive. Using thoughtful, accessible stories and practical guidance, the Graebes provide an "anyone can do it" vision for healthy marriage, leaning into life-giving, universal rhythms that guide our deepest passions and priorities. For marriage partners, Chris and Jenni show how the classic spiritual practice of the rule of life can create a dynamic and lifelong "rhythm of us."

Together and individually, you will learn how to create space in your busy lives to spend time with Jesus and become more like Jesus. Instead of reacting to the pull of life into a thousand meaningless directions, you will learn how to craft an intentional rhythm to guide you toward a life and marriage of significance.

What profound yet seemingly ordinary everyday rhythms can bring you closer to God and each other? What core rhythms are key to every healthy couple? You will answer these questions in unique ways to your relationship and situation. The Rhythm of Us also includes exercises to evaluate your personal habits, values, and vision inventories.

Leave behind the busy life of chaos and hurry and develop your unique Rhythm of Us. Change your marriage for the better. Start living intentionally and fully now.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction, Christian, Self Help

224 pages, Paperback

Published November 16, 2021

Reviews

[Becca · Rating 4 out of 5]

The Rhythm of Us is basically a book about intentionality. We don’t just wake up one day 25 years into marriage and find that a thriving marriage has just “happened.” Rather, we must decide who we want to become together and establish rhythms in life that move us toward that goal.
Husband and wife Chris and Jenni help us think through what rhythms and ruts might currently be in our marriages and how we can make changes to what will work better for us.
The second part of the book discusses rhythms that every healthy marriage should incorporate, including speaking life, serving, slowing down, seeking adventure, and staying in awe.
The third and final part of the book is a framework for married couples to work together to identify their own values and goals and craft rhythms that reflect those.
All in all, this is a solid marriage book aimed at helping couples resist drifting in their relationship and instead work together toward a thriving marriage.
I received an ecopy of this book through the Goodreads Giveaways program. All opinions are my own.

[Another_Book_to_Ponder · Rating 5 out of 5]

This Had Lots of Good Information and Insight!

I am always looking for good Marriage books to recommend to friends and family. This would be high on my list. I liked that they switched off and gave different perspectives on a topic. Having been married now for 34 years I think I could say my husband and I have experienced many of the areas they touch on in the book. It hasn’t always been easy but I can say we are loving being empty nesters and are enjoying our time together very much!

I think this would be a great gift for a couple you care about and want to see their marriage thrive!

Audiobook: It was easy to listen to and read by the authors which is my preference for books like this. You really get to hear from their hearts and you get so much more from it.

I received a complimentary ARC of this book from NetGalley on behalf of the Publisher and was under no obligation to post a favorable review.

[Rachelle Cobb · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have read a lot of marriage books, but it has been a while. This is a good one. A poignant reminder that rhythms make our lives, and a long, loving marriage is built in the everyday.

I would’ve loved to hear more about their personal story in a chronological way; the personal illustrations were sometimes hard to follow because they were out of order. And I just picked up their book without knowing anything about them (their podcast. Etc.) Also, they use a lot of quotes, but I will read their upcoming book on family.

[Sarah Poling · Rating 3 out of 5]

I wanted to like it. But I was also listening to it. And the One Audio book system is a pain, and you end up listening to things over and over or different parts of the book simultaneously.

This book is a nice concept, but didn’t stand out as unique, especially helpful, or biblical.

It’s fine.

[Kate · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is fantastic! It is a quick read, but the authors share the key ways they have helped keep their marriage and relationship alive and thriving. Through committing to God and each other and continually prioritizing both, they have developed tools that help keep their relationship strong and share them with the reader. They are simple, but powerful and effective tools that anyone can apply to their own relationship. I really enjoyed both of the authors and the book as a whole.

[Kate · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is fantastic! It is a quick read, but the authors share the key ways they have helped keep their marriage and relationship alive and thriving. Through committing to God and each other and continually prioritizing both, they have developed tools that help keep their relationship strong and share them with the reader. They are simple, but powerful and effective tools that anyone can apply to their own relationship. I really enjoyed both of the authors and the book as a whole.

[Kristine Bastin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very powerful and inspiring book! I’ve read some marriage books that are just too cliche but this one just made me feel so much joy and hope that the next several decades of marriage can be just as wonderful as the first decade. A lot of tangible points and practices and I love how it was all woven through God!

[Rachel C]

"Some of the greatest opportunities for his work to flow freely through us come to us disguised in inconveniences."

"...looking for magic in the middle of the mundane, going out of our way to find small things to celebrate. Reasons to celebrate are all around us, all the time, if we choose to see them."

[Rachel N · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such an incredible resource! My husband and I just finished listening to it and it prompted so many good and healthy conversations.
We will definitely be using many of the “check in” questions over and over again.
A must read!

[Scott Kedersha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really enjoyed this one. Challenged to think through our own rhythms in our marriage, how to be thoughtful and intentional in strengthening our marriage.

[Kristin · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was hoping for a bit more, comfortable read just nothing out of the ordinary.

[Bill Rodriguez · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great read for married couples.

[Natalia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it! Love how they take us on a journey of discovery on what is what we want as a marriage. Definitely will take all the questions to write and visualize our rhythms.

[Shelley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book! I took my time reading it. I will return to it as I need to. Good reminders about daily life in a marriage and how to make it thrive!

[Martha D'Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Well written, with some humor, had good questions at the end of each chapter for discussion. A good book to read every few years as a check in for marriage.

[Kendra Bradford · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good practical content! My husband and I used this book along with Right Now Media video sessions to lead our church small group. We all enjoyed it!

[Thomas Zeller Jr. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nice relationship book for helping to align your marriage and goals in life together.

[Libby Smith · Rating 3 out of 5]

I’m not married or in a serious relationship obviously this book isn’t for me.

But I can see how this is helpful and useful and it seems like a pretty good solid advice

So yeah a good solid 3 1/2 ⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Jill · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 stars
The Rhythm of Us: Create the Thriving Marriage You Long for
By Chris Graebe; Jenni Graebe
This is just a wonderful book! The Graebe's have written a study for married couples to strengthen and enrich their marriages.
This study can be done alone or in partnership with your spouse. The Rhythm Of Us is sure to improve many marriages. I have been married for over 30 years and I still found nuggets of wisdom within these pages to improve my marriage.

I highly recommend this book.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher and Netgalley.