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The Relationally Intelligent Child: Five Keys to Helping Your Kids Connect Well with Others
Get the guidance you need to help your child—and help yourself!—experience full, lasting relationships.
Most parents today understand brokenness and loneliness when it comes to relationships. Then comes the need to teach relationship skills to their children! Having experienced isolation and loneliness on their own, parents can be terribly aware of how much their own children need and long for relationships.
The Relationally-Intelligent Child teaches parents the crucial insights of a must grasp relational intelligence. This tool for growth and connection will not only change a child’s life, but also a parent’s own relationships. You’ll discover five key elements that can engage and equip your child with skills for being relationally intelligent with family, friends, and others.
This book also includes a special online version of the Connect Assessment® to help parents understand their children’s relational strengths. You’ll find a hands-on application plan, as well as links to powerful podcasts, videos, and resources. Your child was created for connection and designed for loving relationships. Get the help you need to guide them to develop the skills they need to do so.
Most parents today understand brokenness and loneliness when it comes to relationships. Then comes the need to teach relationship skills to their children! Having experienced isolation and loneliness on their own, parents can be terribly aware of how much their own children need and long for relationships.
The Relationally-Intelligent Child teaches parents the crucial insights of a must grasp relational intelligence. This tool for growth and connection will not only change a child’s life, but also a parent’s own relationships. You’ll discover five key elements that can engage and equip your child with skills for being relationally intelligent with family, friends, and others.
This book also includes a special online version of the Connect Assessment® to help parents understand their children’s relational strengths. You’ll find a hands-on application plan, as well as links to powerful podcasts, videos, and resources. Your child was created for connection and designed for loving relationships. Get the help you need to guide them to develop the skills they need to do so.
- GenresParenting
173 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 6, 2021
About the author
John Trent
154 books26 followersDr. John Trent is an award winning author of marriage and family books such as The Blessing.[1] He is the creator of the Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver (LOGB) way of looking at personalities. He is the President of StrongFamilies.com and the Center for StrongFamilies both are organizations committed to strengthening marriage and family relationships worldwide.[2] He and his wife Cindy have been married for 30 years and have two daughters Kari and Laura.
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July 26, 2023
This book has a place, I'm sure, but it wasn't the parenting book I was looking for. I wanted something more down-to-earth that would give me some ideas for helping my 5-year-olds develop some needed social skills. This felt very physiological, abstract, and started about five steps below my starting point. (i.e. children need secure attachment in order to have good relationships -- which I definitely believe but already assumed.)
June 10, 2021
This is such a timely book, with over a year of at-home learning and social distancing because of a worldwide pandemic. Life is beginning to return to normal, but many people, kids especially, have suffered from the lack of face-to-face, in-person relationships.
We were created to be social beings, and with social media and the digital age, kids tend to 'socialize' via a screen. This doesn't feed the soul and spirit or prepare them for the future, when social behavior in the workplace and a successful family life (etc.) is so critical.
The Relationally Intelligent Child reveals five key elements in preparing our children. These elements help kids connect with people, become independent thinkers, be hopeful, empathetic, and helpful to others. It also encourages adults to be models for their children. Let them see your strong, healthy relationships so they can learn by example.
Dɪsᴄʟᴏsᴜʀᴇ: I ʀᴇᴄᴇɪᴠᴇᴅ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟɪᴍᴇɴᴛᴀʀʏ ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴏғ ᴛʜɪs ʙᴏᴏᴋ. Mʏ ʀᴇᴠɪᴇᴡ ᴡᴀs ɴᴏᴛ ɪɴғʟᴜᴇɴᴄᴇᴅ.
We were created to be social beings, and with social media and the digital age, kids tend to 'socialize' via a screen. This doesn't feed the soul and spirit or prepare them for the future, when social behavior in the workplace and a successful family life (etc.) is so critical.
The Relationally Intelligent Child reveals five key elements in preparing our children. These elements help kids connect with people, become independent thinkers, be hopeful, empathetic, and helpful to others. It also encourages adults to be models for their children. Let them see your strong, healthy relationships so they can learn by example.
Dɪsᴄʟᴏsᴜʀᴇ: I ʀᴇᴄᴇɪᴠᴇᴅ ᴀ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟɪᴍᴇɴᴛᴀʀʏ ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴏғ ᴛʜɪs ʙᴏᴏᴋ. Mʏ ʀᴇᴠɪᴇᴡ ᴡᴀs ɴᴏᴛ ɪɴғʟᴜᴇɴᴄᴇᴅ.
July 9, 2021
There are different types of intelligences. Emotional intelligence has been talked about a lot lately. This book is about relational intelligence. Relational intelligence is about how you relate to other people.
The book talks about the five elements of relational intelligence which are: secure attachment, fearless exploration, unwavering resilience, wise decision making and future-focused service. Each section tells you more about that element and how it relates to your child.
During the first element, we are asked questions about when we were age 10. We are supposed to use those answers to help guide us through the rest of the elements. You will need to refer back to them. At the end of the book are some worksheets to fill out for you and each kid to help you make a plan to put the book into action.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review
The book talks about the five elements of relational intelligence which are: secure attachment, fearless exploration, unwavering resilience, wise decision making and future-focused service. Each section tells you more about that element and how it relates to your child.
During the first element, we are asked questions about when we were age 10. We are supposed to use those answers to help guide us through the rest of the elements. You will need to refer back to them. At the end of the book are some worksheets to fill out for you and each kid to help you make a plan to put the book into action.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review
January 3, 2022
A great resource for raising well-balanced children. I will be reading this once a year.
August 15, 2023
4.5 stars
November 24, 2023
This book covers five "key elements" to develop in our own relationships with our children that will help set them up to connect successfully with others.
Part of the book is "workbook" style. There are questions to ask of your own relational intelligence, upbringing, and personality evaluations of your children. The authors refer often to more resources available on their website.
🌟 One of the most fascinating portions in this book was a chart of defining characteristics of each generation from the Baby Boomers through Generation Z. This birds eye view comparison was very helpful for me to get a better understanding of varying cultural distinctions between the generations.
On the whole, I appreciated this read! I took away a few solid thoughts and plan to look into more resources on their site soon.
Part of the book is "workbook" style. There are questions to ask of your own relational intelligence, upbringing, and personality evaluations of your children. The authors refer often to more resources available on their website.
🌟 One of the most fascinating portions in this book was a chart of defining characteristics of each generation from the Baby Boomers through Generation Z. This birds eye view comparison was very helpful for me to get a better understanding of varying cultural distinctions between the generations.
On the whole, I appreciated this read! I took away a few solid thoughts and plan to look into more resources on their site soon.
August 15, 2026
Some helpful nuggets, skipped around to the chapters that seemed more interesting. Nothing groundbreaking.
November 10, 2021
Five Keys to Helping Your Kids Connect Well With Others
As I started reading the book, I wasn't immediately drawn in. It felt like a lot of time was taken writing about what they were gonna write about and where to go get more resources. But once they got into the five keys, I found it helpful and good to read about. In all honesty, a lot of the information shared would be things that I already work at every day. Did I need reminding? Yes, yes I did. I am not always the intentional mom I would like to be.
Attachment, resilience, wise decisions, etc comprise the five keys to relational intelligence. At this point, teaching resilience when told no is the biggest hurdle in this household and it's one I have been working on more intentionally since reading this book.
I think my biggest takeaway from this book would be to continue to be intentional with my children and to guard their use of technology. Make sure they know how to hold face-to-fact conversations and have learned the art of getting along with people in their physical worlds, not their online worlds.
I received this book from Northfield Publishing, formerly Moody Press, and was not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are my own.
As I started reading the book, I wasn't immediately drawn in. It felt like a lot of time was taken writing about what they were gonna write about and where to go get more resources. But once they got into the five keys, I found it helpful and good to read about. In all honesty, a lot of the information shared would be things that I already work at every day. Did I need reminding? Yes, yes I did. I am not always the intentional mom I would like to be.
Attachment, resilience, wise decisions, etc comprise the five keys to relational intelligence. At this point, teaching resilience when told no is the biggest hurdle in this household and it's one I have been working on more intentionally since reading this book.
I think my biggest takeaway from this book would be to continue to be intentional with my children and to guard their use of technology. Make sure they know how to hold face-to-fact conversations and have learned the art of getting along with people in their physical worlds, not their online worlds.
I received this book from Northfield Publishing, formerly Moody Press, and was not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are my own.
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