Then Comes Marriage

by Mark D. Ogletree, Douglas E. Brinley

From the best-selling co-authors of First Comes Love

Genres: Nonfiction, Marriage, Religion, College, Lds

242 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2005

Reviews

[Haley · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was pretty helpful, as far as marriage advice!

[Aaron Ashton · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just finished listening to the audio recording of the book. There are a lot of great points given that can help me make a great marriage. In the end of it all, if we can keep Christ at the center of our marriage it will live. I hope to get the book for my personal library.

[Chrisanne · Rating 2 out of 5]

Then comes marriage and all the marriage advice you could ever want in the format of gifts of books. :)

But it wasn't all that bad. I just got a lot of books that said similar things.

[Apzmarshl · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book concentrates on having a Christ centered marriage. The authors draw from many other popular sources and then incorporate Christ.

[Jacqui · Rating 5 out of 5]

I need to re-read the book because I stopped and started too many times. The last handful of chapters are the freshest in my mind. The great thing is that I already learned through other study and through mentorship about a lot of the principles shared here, but it was nice to be reminded and to have them reiterated from an LDS perspective.

I have experienced the power in setting goals with your spouse and having weekly meetings together to review goals, the past week, upcoming week and to discuss different areas of your life, including relationship, finances, schedule, work/business, spiritual, etc. It is a true success principle!

One little tidbit that I loved for decision making is for each spouse to rate on a scale of 1 to 10 of how important the ______ is to him or her, so that you can have a better measure to help you decide what is the best fit overall for you together. It sucks when you say yes to something that you actually weren't really keen on or no to something that you will regret later! My husband and I are starting to implement this idea.

I am looking forward to reviewing this book again and again. I would recommend this book to any newlywed couple, or any married couple looking to work on their marriage more (or just have some validation that they are on the right track!). You never "arrive" at having the perfect marriage. It is always a work in progress :)

[Catherine Buhler · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such an amazing tool for a newlywed couple. We often find ourselves knowing that we need to change something in our relationship but not knowing HOW. I read this book in 2 days and it was definitely a good resource for my new life as a Mrs. Ill be having my husband read it as well. I was able to highlight a lot of key facts and important "aha moments" I had.

I loved the standard of living a Christ centered life within your marriage that this guide book talked about. When the gospel is everything to you, making part of it within your marriage is completely necessary.
Although this book is aimed at newlyweds I would recommend it to anyone who is getting married Or those who already are. Knowing how to improve your relationship is the best knowledge we can have.

[Kristin Anderson · Rating 4 out of 5]

My husband and I read a few chapters of this book together and really liked them (the chapters about differences between men and women and about the 5 most common needs men have in order of importance and the 5 most common needs women have in order of importance). It brought about some good discussion. Continually strengthening our marriage is something my husband and I both want to do, and this book was great (I wrote some things down from it so that we can remember them and apply them!) Overall, I really liked the information, reminders, perspectives, and LDS quotes and doctrine included about marriage.

[Stephanie · Rating 3 out of 5]

By far my favorite part of the book was the last chapter on centering our marriage on Christ.

From that chapter: President Howard W. Hunter said, “Please remember this one thing. If our lives…are centered upon Jesus Christ…nothing can ever go permanently wrong. On the other hand, if our lives are not centered on the Savior and his teachings, no other success can be permanently right.”

My favorite marriage counsel remains "For All Eternity: A Four-Talk Set to Strengthen Your Marriage" by John L. Lund.

[Kristen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Probably the best book I've read on marriage. We read it together as a couple and found it entertaining and helpful. A great introduction to marriage. LOVED it and recommend it to all newlyweds (ok, and non-newly weds)!

[Dacia Mumford · Rating 4 out of 5]

Kevin and I took a marriage prep class from Brinley and really enjoyed it. We both read this book and enjoyed some great discussion topics on how to improve our marriage and make it even better! I hope to even reread this in years to come to remind myself of important perspectives!

[Kirsten · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lots of good information in this book, If I were getting married I would definitely read their book "first comes LOVE"
followed by this one to get things started in the right way!

[Raini · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this one after, "first comes LOVE". It was just as helpful and gave just as good of insight but about the time after marriage. My husband read it as well. Very helpful.

[Amy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book- I read it in Puerto Rico a year ago, but it was great!!

[Gina Flanders · Rating 2 out of 5]

Sequel to 'First Comes Love.' It had a lot of good points, but I was bored half way through because it felt very redundant.

[Sherry · Rating 3 out of 5]

Rather Utah-centric, but overall a good book.

[Carlie Hughes · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was a gift to us when we were married. I was SO skeptical but it turned out to be hilarious and fun!! It does great at explaining both sexes needs in marriage. Love it.

[Megan · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have read a few marriage advice kind of books and this is my favorite so far!!!

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really liked this book. I was encouraged to read it before I got married but after reading it now that I'm married, I feel like it applies to me better than if I was engaged.

[Cody Robertson · Rating 2 out of 5]

I would probably rate this book better but it took years for my wife and I to get through which made it difficult to like. I recall it having good advice and such but can't speak to much else.

[Jacquie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a great book for newlyweds.