God Speaks Your Love Language: How to Feel and Reflect God's Love

The 5 Love Languages

by Gary Chapman

More than 200,000 copies sold

Feel God’s love more personally. Do you realize that the God of the universe speaks your love language, and your expressions of love for Him are shaped by your love language? Learn how you can give and receive God’s love through the five love words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

In this revised and updated edition of The Love Languages of God, Gary writes, “As we respond to the love of God and begin to identify the variety of languages He uses to speak to us, we soon learn to speak those languages ourselves. Whatever love language you prefer, may you find ever deeper satisfaction in using that language in your relationship with God and with other people.”

As you begin to identify the variety of languages God uses to speak love to you and others, you can learn to speak lovingly back to God and to those around you. No matter what love language you prefer, you will become more deeply connected with God and watch this bond transform all of your relationships.  Contains personal reflection questions and a study guide for groups

Genres: Nonfiction, Christian, Self Help, Faith, Christian Non Fiction, Christian Living, Religion

240 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2009

About the author

Gary Demonte Chapman is an American author and radio talk show host. Chapman is most noted for his The Five Love Languages series regarding human relationships.

Reviews

[Oceana Reads Co. · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love how practical this was! The testimonies he used were great too. Would recommend!

[Ron Wroblewski · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first half of the book is excellent where the author matches scriptures with each of the 5 love languages. In the second half the author both gives examples of each of the 5 plus some advice on how to develop secondary love languages. Then he deviates from the topic and goes into general evangelistic issues which I though detracted from the emphasis that the book title indicates. I still believe the principle of the 5 love languages is good and should be developed in each major relationship, including the relationship with God.

[Isobel Poland · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really helpful in clearly identifying ways in which God speaks every love language. Also challenging in helping me to understand the importance of speaking the love languages that I don't speak very well, and especially being able to show God's love to others by speaking their primary love language. Would definitely recommend.

[Michaela Bush · Rating 5 out of 5]

I received a complementary copy of this from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

This book was incredibly logical and thought-provoking, both in how to understand the importance of love languages of others around you, but also how God uses them to help you see His love. I found Chapman's book allowed another level of worship or communication with God to open up. This book is, I believe, one of the most important things you can read if you're looking to strengthen or understand your faith better.

[Paige Cuthbertson| Turning_Every_Paige · Rating 3 out of 5]

DNF.

It’s not a bad book, but it feels repetitive. If you’ve read the original Love Language book, you get the point, and it makes this book feel redundant.

Also, he seemed to imply that your love language is the only way you really need to love God. So if your LL isn’t quality time, you might not spend much time in prayer or scripture reading, and that’s supposed to be okay. But that isn’t okay— that’s neglecting the most basic part of the relationship you have with God. That’s leaving out the communication factor, and that’s not okay in ANY relationship. Maybe this isn’t what the author intended, but I don’t see how else it could’ve been understood.

[Lydia Howe · Rating 5 out of 5]

WHY I CHOOSE THIS BOOK

This is literally a book I wanted to write. In fact, at one point in time (before this book was published) I even started researching and taking notes for this book. That's because I think it's a really important book. So, when I saw it was published and that the publisher was willing to send me a copy to review, I jumped at the chance. (Although to clarify, this is one of those books I totally would have bought if I wasn't sent one for free.)

WHAT I THOUGHT ABOUT THIS BOOK

I think so highly of this author that I didn't think it was possible, but he actually succeeded my expectations. Yeah, it was that good. 

If y'all have been around long at all you've probably heard how learning about the 5 Love Languages changed my life when I was in my teens. Since then I've read multiple editions of the books, told hundreds of people about them, and taken the test many times. Still, this book presented me with new information, giving me several great "ah-ha" moments where my life was brought into a clearer focus.

For instance, one of my top love languages is touch. I also like to dance at church. And people at my church don't exactly dance, so as you can imagine, I've sometimes pondered why I do dance? Well, as it turns out, there's a correlation between having touch as one of your primary love languages and dancing, etc... while worshiping. I would have never guessed, but it made so much sense to me. Pretty cool, right? 

This book does a great job of providing a quick but good foundation as to what the love languages are, how they fit into everyday life and then showing how God speaks everyone of the love languages - which is totally wonderful. The author points out that God created languages in the first place, and He also created us to respond to certain love languages, so it makes sense that He also speaks all the love languages.

Learning about you might relate to God differently than those around you can be very helpful in helping you to stop feeling less spiritual, or maybe judging someone else as being less spiritual. It can also give you a greater understanding of how you can learn to know God on a deeper level.

The book is also super easy to read (as with all of this author's writings), interesting and gives the most practical of tips of how to make your life more balanced. 

CONCLUSION

I highly recommend this book. There might have been a thing or two that I don't fully agree with, but as I'm writing this review only glowing positives come to mind. Y'all should read it. (And yes, it can be read even without having read any of the other love language books.) 

RATING

I'm giving God Speaks Your Love Language five out of five stars and super duper highly recommend it. Also, thank you so much to the publisher for giving me a copy so I could review it and share with y'all. 

[Debbie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book talks about how the 5 love languages apply to our relationship with God. The author briefly talked about the 5 love languages. He then looked at each love language (words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch) and discussed how God has shown His love to us in each of these ways. He also provided stories about how people with that primary love language felt most connected to and loved by God (like through studying the Bible, prayer, giving, serving others, or worship). He then challenged readers to show love to God by using the other love languages, too.

I was surprised to realize that I already do enjoy expressing my love to God using all five love languages, but I did learn some interesting insights into how people differ in how they feel most loved by God. While you get a general idea from this book, it helps if you already know your primary love language. Overall, I'd recommend this book.

I received an ebook review copy of this book from the publisher through NetGalley.

[Missy · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.75/5

[Amanda Anger · Rating 5 out of 5]

As someone who has read both the original Love Languages book and singles version, I was really excited to see that there is a version geared towards every Christian and their relationship with God. The book did not disappoint.

I was fascinated by the author's insight into various Biblical heroes, and what he deduced their love languages to be. I've never been a "words of affirmation" girl, but learning that David was likely a "words of affirmation" kind of guy has made the Psalms come alive even more for me in my personal study.

Knowing in advance that my love language is "quality time" made that hater come alive so much for me! The example of George Mueller as someone who spent quality time with God in prayer encouraged me that even though prayer is one of my greatest struggles, it can become one of my greatest connections to God, as He seeks to spend that quality time with me. No wonder the devil finds ways to distract me from prayer, and provides ample ways for me to waste my time on many other pursuits.

Thinking through the love languages with my relationship with God has completely changed my perspective! I would recommend this book to all Christians seeking to deepen their relationship with God, even if you are unfamiliar with the original love languages book. It can definitely stand on its own.

[Rachael Marsceau · Rating 4 out of 5]

I loved this! Without a doubt, this is my favorite Chapman book I've read so far. It was beautiful to see him pull from Scripture instances where Christ displayed each of the five love languages (even though some I'll admit were a bit of a stretch). I was uncomfortable with the chapter on physical touch, because nearly all the personal examples he gave smacked of Pentecostal worship practices, but whatever. I was pleased to read that he doesn't believe the solution to world peace is one world religion, or even more sermons on love. He recommends showing divine love to individuals via personal relationships, therefore leading them to eventual salvation (which he calls "making the God connection"). The chapters were very long, so sometimes I split them up for my daily devotional reading, but I really enjoyed this.

[Sarita · Rating 3 out of 5]

God will love you when everyone else walks away from you. Everybody is somebody in God's eyes.

This was again another great practical eye opening guide from Gary Chapman. Some of the example of other people, how they experience God's love and what the love language is, made me realise how and when I experienced God's love and motivated me to again dig deeper and focus on my love language areas more purposefully.

Christ came to save, never to exploit.

Thanksgiving and praise are cousins. Praise focusses on who God is, while thanksgiving focuses on what God does.

The last 10% just didn't feel like it should have been part of this book since it felt like the author jumped subjects.

Love is the distinguishing mark of the Christian.

*I received a free copy from the publisher via Netgalley. All reviews expressed are my own.*

[Ann T · Rating 3 out of 5]

Thank you Moody Publishers and Netgalley for an ARC of this book.

I have read a few of the love languages books and was happy to have the opportunity to read this latest book by Gary Chapman.
This book is a continuation of the five love languages theme, written specially in relation to the readers relationship with god. I didn’t find anything particularly new or relevant for myself within this book, however I am sure there are many who will find his useful, especially if new to the love languages.

[gandalfthepink · Rating 5 out of 5]

,,Dacă am putea umple oceanul cu cerneală
Și dacă cerurile ar fi făcute din pergament,
Dacă fiecare tulpină ar fi o pană de scris
Și dacă fiecare om ar fi de meserie scriitor;
Dacă ar fi să scriem iubirea lui Dumnezeu Cel de sus,
Am seca oceanul,
Iar pergamentul nu ne-ar ajunge,
Chiar dacă l-am întinde de la un cer la altul.''

Frederick M. Lehman - ''The Love of God''

[Chris · Rating 3 out of 5]

Parts of it were really good and very helpful. Other parts seemed to drag and sometimes I couldn't figure out what point the author was making with his story. I may have to read the original Five Love Languages though and I'm going to guess that one might be better.

[Elizabeth Meadows · Rating 5 out of 5]

I listened to this several years ago. I'd like to read it again. It applies the 5 Love Languages to how we worship God. It was very insightful.

[Levi Izvernar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Îți mulțumesc, Doamne, căci m-ai apropiat de dragostea dintâi prin această carte.

[林 · Rating 3 out of 5]

A excellent book, actually, if you want to know more about getting closer to God. For me, it helped me understand the different kinds of prayers and expressions of love to God. There are people who find God as they worship in church; there are people who find God in the silence of their meditation. Neither method is better or worse - each are more suited to different people.

I never quite figured out my primary love language, though. Gary Chapman suggests 5 love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, physical touch - and 3 questions, which I shall attempt to answer briefly here (under a spoiler cut in case you're really not interested in this):
(1) How do I often express love to other people?
By listening as they speak. I really, genuinely want to listen. Perhaps, this is an act of service? Or is it quality time?
(2) What do I complain about most often?
That people don't listen/understand me, I think. Unkind words spoken without any explanation can hurt me very deeply if you're a person I care about very much. I'm quite sure this suggests words of affirmation speak very loudly to me.
(3) What do I request most often?
...I don't. Maybe I just want someone to really care for me without asking. But I know this usually doesn't get across.

With the questions rephrased a little (by Chapman) to relate to God, my responses are quite different:
(1) How do I most often express my love to God?
Through worship - singing, or playing the keyboard or piano. Is this quality time? Physical touch (because I want to feel God's presence this way)?
(2) What do I most often complain to God about?
That I don't feel Him. I'm quite sure this is physical touch.
(3) What do I request of God most often?
Wisdom. Courage. Somewhere in this book it says that wisdom suggests words of affirmation. But honestly I don't know what mine is supposed to indicate here.

Well, I think I should read the first Love Languages book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate or the one written for singles The Five Love Languages for Singles. I'll never understand God's love, though I know He knows how to love me best. But it's the people that I want to understand, so perhaps the other books will help better.

Yes, I "really liked" this book. It's a little short of "amazing" because nothing particularly struck me. But I must say that it's really an eye-opener, though non-believers may find it unconvincing.

[Kristin · Rating 3 out of 5]

I love the idea of this book so much. It just didn't really get to the depths I was hoping for. While he hits on certain ways God may be speaking our Love Language to us, there seem to be so many more examples that could have drawn readers in to God's love.

The best part about this book was the way it encouraged me to think about the many ways God speaks our Love Language to us (beyond what's actually suggested in the book). It has helped me in my evangelization efforts to desire to connect each person I encounter with the expression of God's love that will best resonate with them.

[Helen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have a new way of looking at people

I can truly say I will never look at others again without trying to learn their languages and then approach them thru their language. Wish I’d have known about the different types of love languages while my husband was alive. I know I missed a lot I’ll need to try harder.

[Katrina Jørgensen · Rating 2 out of 5]

DNF

The first half was fine. But it got repetitive and then rather conservatively evangelical. I stopped reading when he directly dealt with homosexuality as a sin/not the life God wants for us. Out of all the examples he could have used, it was unnecessary at best.

[Audrey Gillies · Rating 3 out of 5]

Loved the idea of this book and there were plenty of wonderful points. However, it could have been condensed 50%. Very long-winded and too many stories that all sounded the same.

[Marcus Goncalves · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great book, but a lot of it was from its original Five Love Languages, not getting to the depths I was hoping for. It hits on ways God may be speaking our Love Language, which is insightful.

[Mechthild · Rating 5 out of 5]

Your Love Language is important

Gary Chapman is a New York best-selling author of books that treat relationship, marriage, and workplace issues and well-known author of The Five Love Languages as well as the Five Love Languages for Children / Men / Singles / Teenagers. With "God Speaks Your Love Languages" he adds another book that treats this topic.
Chapman states in the introduction that "so many things influence our response to God: culture, family background, life experiences (good and bad), the teachings of our religion. But love is a matter of the heart, the soul—not ritual or religion or what our families or peers do. And each of us expresses and understands love differently—including God's love. Each of us speaks and understands love differently. I am convinced that each of us has a “primary love language,” and when we listen to God in our heart language, we will experience His love most intimately. I am also convinced that God speaks each person's love language fluently." In this book which Chapman shows how God speaks the five different love languages (affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch) and he shows how the individual can use love languages in the relationship to God, especially in worship. He encourages the reader to discover his primary love language, but also to get out of the comfort zone.

I highly recommend this book as a supplement to Chapman's previous "Love Language" books. Whereas the other books primarily treat the expression of love between humans, this book treats the expression between God and his children. It is a good help to realize that different people experience God's love differently and show God their love differently.
The complimentary copy of this book was provided by the publisher through NetGalley free of charge. I was under no obligation to offer a positive review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
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[Megan Jones · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read Mr. Chapman's Five Love Languages- Single Edition before and I really enjoyed it. This Edition is really good as well. It recaps The Five Love Languages Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. He explains how they apply to a believer worships God. For example, 1. Words of Affirmation Praising God through prayer thanksgiving. 2.Quality Time Study Scriptures, reading a devotional book, mediating. 3. Gifts Money, Meeting The physical Needs of others, and Giving Encouragement. 4. Acts of Service to others, and cooking. 5. Physical Touch Washing Feet. Mr. Chapman says God communicates through worship with us through our own love languages. So, worship is more personal because we can express it through our own way. There is no barrier or boundaries. It comes down to us and God.

I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher and I am not required to provide a positive review. All opinions are solely therein my own."

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[Tamara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Title: God Speaks Your Love Language
Author: Gary Chapman
Genre: Christian
Rating: 4 out of 5

Millions of people say The 5 Love Languages saved their marriage. Now Gary Chapman applies those love languages to God and those who follow Him.

Some people see God as an impersonal, far away deity, but He is really an up-close-and-personal Father who chooses to speak to us in the language we are most comfortable with. This book both reveals ways that God speaks to us in each love language and shows us ways we can speak to Him and learn new love languages.

I’ve never read The 5 Love Languages (Yet. But I did just buy it, after reading this), yet the author speaks so candidly and simply that all the concepts are easy to understand and relate to. I loved the sections on different forms of worship!

(Galley provided by Moody Publishers in exchange for an honest review.)

More reviews at Tomorrow is Another Day

[Michelle Kidwell · Rating 5 out of 5]

God Speaks Your Love Language
How to Experience and Express God's Love
by Gary Chapman
Moody Publishers

Northfield Publishing
Christian
Pub Date 04 Sep 2018


I am reviewing a copy of God Speaks Your Love Language through Moody Publishers and Netgalley:


This book will help the reader to feel God’s love more peesonally!


Gary Chapman reminds us that God speaks a language of love, and in time we learn to speak that language ourselves. In this book we are shown how we can give and receive God’s love through the five love languages which are words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.


This book includes a new chapter to this Christian Classic called ”Getting Out of the Comfort Zone.” This chapter will teach the reader the joys of Speaking the love language you aren't used to with God.


I give God Speaks Your Love Language five out of five stars!


Happy Reading!

[Kathleen Garber · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read the original 5 Love Languages 9 years ago and LOVED it. This offshoot of that book is equally good. I believe the book was divinely inspired because of course the Bible was written long ago and was inspired by God. God Speaks Your Love Language makes multiple references to the Bible stories that show how God uses all 5 love languages to communicate with us. He also shows how believers communicate with God in different ways.

It all seems so obvious that it had me wondering how I didn’t see this for myself. It’s obvious once you read it, it all makes sense, but it’s not one of those books that seem pointless, not at all. It’s not obvious till you read it.

If you are having trouble connecting with God or you are worried that someone you know isn’t connecting with God, you should read this book.

[Jonathan Beigle · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you read the original 5 Love Languages book, then you aren't going to see a whole lot of new information here. Chapman reinforces the ideas that were written in the original and applies them to our relationship with God. I thought it was interesting how he talked about how the way we feel closest to God is often determined by our love language (for example, if you feel closest to God during your morning devotions, then Quality Time is probably your love language). My favorite chapter was probably the last one. Chapman really focused on while there is no such thing as a perfect church or perfect Christian, when we try our best to put all five languages to work, then we can be an effective instrument for helping others come closer to God.

[Stephanie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Love Gary Chapman and his Love Language books. Reading them has really opened my eyes to a lot of things and improved how I communicate with friends, family and in romantic relationships. Love relating the concepts to our relationship with God and think it's definitely a must-read., as are the rest of the books in this series. Chapman makes the concepts easy to understand and relatable to the real world and to ourselves.

[Sarah Logan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was SO helpful in understanding my own relationship with Jesus but also how others have relationships with Him that look so different. It helped me understand why some people experience God’s love the greatest in worship, some in spending time alone with Him, others hearing words He has spoken about them, and others in serving people - and how all these are so similar to the ways we receive and show love in our relationships with people.

So many “aha” moments. Highly recommend!!