Susan Reinhardt, in The Beautiful Misfits, provides readers with a story about family, with much of the focus on addiction. However, this one is told from the perspective of a parent, what their child’s addiction is like for them and dealing with their life amidst it. However, unlike many parent/ child addiction stories I have heard (fact and fictional accounts), instead of completely ridding oneself from the life of her child, in the “hopes” that this will help bring the addict’s bottom up sooner, force the addict’s life to get so bad that they have to seek out treatment, along with providing relief for the non-addict (or an addict themself) parent to be able to live their life without the burden of their child any longer (whatever the rationalization of the parent is for doing this), this mother, Josie, no matter what she has been told, the stressors she feels, what she sometimes thinks she has to do, remains there for her son. This is a mother that, when her son needs her, whenever he is ready to stop, no matter how many times, is ready to drop and answer his call when he is ready to change his life.
Finley is her son, her eldest, and even though he is grown, having finished college, drugs have been a big part of his life for almost a decade now. Unfortunately, the stress of her son’s addiction and then, with the stress of her marriage falling apart, her husband wanting to put their “later in life” daughter, who is four, in a facility, rather than raise her themselves; on air when she learns that a girl her son once dated has died from an overdose and, her dealer is being the first in the state ever charged with murder (for an overdose), the fact that she has no idea where Finley is, alive or dead, or, if he will be this way at any time, well, Josie unravels right on screen. At the time all this happens, she is working as a reporter for a news station and all of these actions that night, cause big life changes. Josie loses her job, has to move, everything having happened because of a mere eighty four seconds of losing herself.
Josie has some addiction issues of her own. While her on screen unravel was fueled with hard alcohol she was carrying on her person, she dealt with her own issues, having overcome them to take care of her children. And despite all her other problems (that come from everyone else in her life), she tries to construct a new life together for herself and children. While Finley is out using (well, Josie is really never sure of what her son is really doing, as he never seems to tell her the truth), each day she hopes for him to come home to her. After all, she is a mother who has two children who need her. And, with one that has severe addiction issues, another that will never mentally grow into an adult, the woman has a full plate along with her new job which seems more stressful than her old career.
However, what makes Josie a modern day heroine, and one of the best modern mothers, is that while many people would see her two children as a burden, after all, how many times have I (and others) heard that “your children are not your life”, for Josie there could be no other greater purpose for her, than raising her children. There is nothing more important in her life. And, even though she attends 12- step meetings for parents of addicted children there are some things she just will not do such as cutting herself completely off from her son, no matter how bad things get. And, the messages Josie receives from her son, they hurt. I am sure anyone, any mother, would be hurt by them, as they are some of the worst things I have ever heard said to a parent. However, Josie waits for her son, understanding this is his addiction; Josie, the ultimate expression of a mother and a person who does not blame the addict for their addiction. She solves this by finding a way to balance the things she can for her son during his addiction and things she will not do for her son, at this time.
Reinhardt brought up many issues within the book, things that I, myself, take issue with personally, so much so, I didn’t know if I even wanted to write a review, at one point. I have a hard time understanding parents who shut the door on their child completely while they are in active addiction; this “tough love” theory that I can’t seem to understand. To me, it has always seemed like a “cop-out”. But, that is why I, and other readers, must admire Josie. Because no matter what issues her children may have, Josie sticks by them. While she left her husband when he wanted to institutionalize the “late in life” daughter they just had, because she was born with a mental retardation, and very much wants to be by her son’s side while he rehabilitates, Josie is there. And, in the end, the results that her family receives are all because Josie is and was the type of mother who never gave up.
If readers want to learn a lesson in parenting, really, life in general, pick up The Beautiful Misfits by Susan Reinhardt. While the book very much includes some flawed individuals, even Josie herself, there are many powerful messages within its pages, especially for parents who are dealing with problematic children. Reinhardt has developed a story with characters who never give up, no matter what they are confronted with, and no matter how hard they may have fallen, during their troubles get up and find a way to go on.
No matter what, family should always remain. In the end, readers see that never giving up, how important that really is. After all, when someone has no one to turn to, what is left for them, but to give up? And maybe that is and was the problem for so many of those with troubles, that there was no one left to turn to. That “tough love” was actually too tough, after all; leading to a devastating end.
The Beautiful Misfits is a story about why giving up should never be an option. And, when you don’t, what kind of ending you can look forward to. While the ending may not be perfect, what in life ever is?
Happy Reading!