Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself: Making the Journey from Condemnation to Compassion

by Chris Thurman

Every one of us struggles with faulty ways of thinking that lead to our emotional health damage, damage our relationships with others, and spiritual growth and development. One of the most toxic and destructive ways we view reality is to think in terms of how things should be or shouldn’t be, something that keeps us from accepting the difficult things that come our way and coping with them properly. This book is an emotional health book that examines twenty of the most toxic “shoulds” we suffer from and how to overcome them so that our lives can flourish and also help us in finding joy in life.WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT THIS among us doesn't wrestle with toxic guilt? Who has never been ravaged by unhealthy self-punishment? Who hasn’t experienced the damage of unwavering shame? Well, Chris Thurman has done it again! In this eye-opening book, he offers the antidote to self-condemnation, an elixir guaranteed to induce better emotional health, and the secret balm for more grace and compassion - for you and those around you. Don’t miss out on this life-changing message. —Les Parrott, Ph.D. #1 New York Times bestselling author of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.I wish this book had been around twenty years ago! I recognized myself in just about every chapter. Chris Thurman’s work provides important insight into the struggles that often keep people from recognizing their full God-given potential and, better still, offers a remedy to put a stop to the “should” game. Trust me when I say, you SHOULD buy this book! —Vicki Courtney Speaker and bestselling author of Move On, Rest Assured, and 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter, and 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son.“Should” is a word we’ve all said a million times, but Dr. Thurman insightfully helps us see how often it leads to shame, perfectionism, or a critical spirit that we need to let go of so we can become healthier, more loving people. If you want to break free from the shame and self-condemnation caused by “shoulding” all over yourself and experience a fuller taste of the abundant life, read this book. —Pastor John Burke New York Times bestselling author of No Perfect People Allowed and Imagine Heaven.ABOUT THE Chris Thurman is a psychologist, author, and public speaker. He has a doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of Texas and has been in private practice for over thirty years. Chris has authored numerous books, including the bestseller The Lies We Believe (over 250,000 in print), and conducted hundreds of seminars for churches and corporations around the country. Chris and his wife, Holly, have been married for forty years and have three grown children and three adorable grandchildren. In his spare time, Chris loves to play golf, follow his beloved Texas Longhorns, and, most importantly, teach others how knowing the truth can set them free to live the abundant life. For more information concerning Dr. Thurman’s seminars, please contact him at his website, drchristhurman.com.

269 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 17, 2021