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Marriage: 100 Stories Around India’s Favourite Ritual
Marriage, by mythologist Devdutt Pattanaik, brings together stories from Vedic, Puranic, Tamil, and Sanskrit literature, from regional, classical, folk and tribal lore, from oral and textual traditions, across 3000 years of history and 3 million square kilometres of geography, to reveal the diversity and fluidity of Indian customs and beliefs around marriage. ‘Let all the gods and the waters anoint our two hearts.’ —Rig Veda
232 pages, Paperback
Published May 10, 2021
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About the author
Devdutt Pattanaik
287 books3,344 followersDr. Devdutt Pattanaik (born December 11, 1970) is an Indian physician turned leadership consultant, mythologist and author whose works focus largely on the areas of myth, mythology, and also management. He has written a number of books related to Hindu mythology, including Myth = Mithya: A Handbook of Hindu Mythology, a novel, The Pregnant King, and Jaya: An Illustrated Retelling of the Mahabharata (2010).
He is the Chief Belief Officer of Future Group, one of India’s largest retailers, bringing the wisdom of Indian mythology into Indian business, especifically in human resource management. He also writes a column for the newspaper MID DAY.
He has also written a novel based on a tale from the Mahabharata titled 'The Pregnant King' published by Penguin Books India
He is the Chief Belief Officer of Future Group, one of India’s largest retailers, bringing the wisdom of Indian mythology into Indian business, especifically in human resource management. He also writes a column for the newspaper MID DAY.
He has also written a novel based on a tale from the Mahabharata titled 'The Pregnant King' published by Penguin Books India
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January 20, 2022
The institution of marriage is universal and probably tells us that it does serve some important social functions in the society. This book by author attempts to bring forth the fluidity of Indian customs and beliefs around the concept of marriage. I must say that the author is able to make a strong point by representing the diversity of thought. The stories are sourced from vedas, regional,classical and tribal lores. The main emphasis is on the epics like mahabharata and ramayana here too.
It does give an impression that indian customs and beliefs were far more progressive than it is supposed to be now. The growing attempts to create one singular religious identity and ideology seems like the greatest threat to the otherwise diverse stream of thought. Irrespective of that this book does offer an interesting commentary and one can think more about it while reading. The 100 short story format is again helpful to keep the material concise and intriguing at the same time.
It does give an impression that indian customs and beliefs were far more progressive than it is supposed to be now. The growing attempts to create one singular religious identity and ideology seems like the greatest threat to the otherwise diverse stream of thought. Irrespective of that this book does offer an interesting commentary and one can think more about it while reading. The 100 short story format is again helpful to keep the material concise and intriguing at the same time.
December 15, 2021
This book comes as a surprise to me in terms of the content. The astonishing stories in the book project a society which we could have never thought existed, amidst the cultural norms of Hinduism.
I may not have got what I expected looking at its cover but nonetheless it was a good amalgamation of short unheard stories.
I may not have got what I expected looking at its cover but nonetheless it was a good amalgamation of short unheard stories.
June 28, 2021
The book includes 100 stories about marriage from Vedic, Tamil, Sanskrit literature, folklore. When I picked this book, I was sure that I must be aware of a lot of stories but there were only a couple of stories I heard about.
The book was divided into various parts ranging from Origin to Separation. Each section had amazing stories that were either taken from Mahabharata or vedic purans
I got to know about a lot of stories that are a part of our holy books but I didn't know about the stories.
The story I kind of liked was- Prajakta
There was once a plant fell in love with the sun God, Surya. She adored him gently, but he showed no interest in her. Heartbroken, she decided she would bloom only at night so that the sun would never experience her fragrance.
On the whole it was an amazing book. Anyone who wants to learn more about the cultures and traditions practised during marriages in India should definitely read this book.
Thank you Rupa Publication for the review copy.
The book was divided into various parts ranging from Origin to Separation. Each section had amazing stories that were either taken from Mahabharata or vedic purans
I got to know about a lot of stories that are a part of our holy books but I didn't know about the stories.
The story I kind of liked was- Prajakta
There was once a plant fell in love with the sun God, Surya. She adored him gently, but he showed no interest in her. Heartbroken, she decided she would bloom only at night so that the sun would never experience her fragrance.
On the whole it was an amazing book. Anyone who wants to learn more about the cultures and traditions practised during marriages in India should definitely read this book.
Thank you Rupa Publication for the review copy.
February 6, 2023
The book is a collection of stories from Indian mythology pertaining to marriage. As typical with Devdutt’s work, he connects each of the stories back to the sociological conditions present in the era, touching on some important aspects like female sovereignty over her body and marriage and the recognition of non-binary genders in the institution of marriage.
The stories present an evolution of thought on marriage as an institution in India, and make for a fascinating read. They also give an insight into the rituals and symbols of an Indian wedding.
Overall, a good read.
The stories present an evolution of thought on marriage as an institution in India, and make for a fascinating read. They also give an insight into the rituals and symbols of an Indian wedding.
Overall, a good read.
June 29, 2021
As soon as I laid my eyes on this book, I couldn’t resist picking it up. It has such a beautiful cover. I will only discuss key features here to give general idea about it. Because discussion of general review for this author’s work is we all know is useless because I don’t feel I am eligible for it. He has done some great work and I am fan of his work. The book consists of 100 stories around India’s marriage rituals. As we know marriage is a big step and occasion in India. And families and belief system is a huge part of it. I grew up with grandparents telling mythological stories to me. So among all, few I already knew, rest were new to me. The book consists of all types of stories. They are divided into sections like origin, children, fidelity, etc. The stories like Shiv- Sati, Sita- Ram we already knew. While stories like Sumedha’s same sex spouse and Chandra and the Nakshatra’s are new to me. Author mentioned the stories and it’s origin, significance and related rituals till date in all kinds of religions or areas. Author has covered majority of geographical areas and religions too. I won’t discuss further routine reviews as we all know author is a legend and I feel privileged to read his work. It always teaches something new to me. This was also quite informative read for me. Just go and grab it. strongly recommended from my side.
August 18, 2025
4.5/ 5
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A fascinating, non-mainstream take on marriage through 100 myths and customs, condensed beautifully without feeling rushed. As someone about to get married, I found the context both grounding and eye-opening—reminding me that there’s no single “correct” way, and every union has its place. Loved the inclusivity, especially the representation of marginalized communities in historical myths. More factual and interpretive than fictional, with charming illustrations to match. Docking 0.5 points as some of these stores are disturbing and creepy.
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A fascinating, non-mainstream take on marriage through 100 myths and customs, condensed beautifully without feeling rushed. As someone about to get married, I found the context both grounding and eye-opening—reminding me that there’s no single “correct” way, and every union has its place. Loved the inclusivity, especially the representation of marginalized communities in historical myths. More factual and interpretive than fictional, with charming illustrations to match. Docking 0.5 points as some of these stores are disturbing and creepy.
May 5, 2023
Nice book about mythological stories about marriage. Devdutt Patnaik never fails to enchant the reader with his nuanced take on myths.
January 8, 2022
Marriage - 100 Stories around India's favourite ritual | Devdutt Pattanaik | Rupa | Book 5 of 2022
Recommended for people -
- who are not privy to Devdutt's earlier works
- who want to have an quick and comprehensive, yet selective Hindu(not Indian) outlook to marital stories
- to delight in the beautiful artwork and illustrations etched between the pages
- to get along with traditional sanksrit vedic, puranic, upanishadic, mahakavyic, bhramanic and other Sanskrit literature of mainstream(58 in count), as well as the rituals, re-telling's and histories from oral, tribal and regional traditions, customs and literature, although less in number (35 in count)
Not recommended if -
- you want to buy the book judging the content in its cover and blurb.
No, it does not include stories from "pan-Indian" rituals, communities, religions and histories as such. It borrows few Sikh, Muslim, Buddhist, Jain folklores to reference and use as footnotes, and in no-way tells the reader how marriages are conducted in these communities. In doing so, it brazenly pays lip-service to the marketing with which book is sold - i.e with popular mainstream "Indian" context of Hindu-marriage.
- you want to avoid a lazy work of writing
What could have be bettered -
Including more stories from other diverse aspect of "Indian" culture, religion and lore. Of the 100 stories told, 58 stories are from mainstream Hindu texts, 35 from Regional/Oral communities, 5 stories made popular or known via literature, and 2 Buddhist lore. Even in references/footnotes - the division is gigantic with 80 sources of Hindu mainstream texts, 48 Oral/Regional lore, 4 Buddhist stories, 7 from popular literature, 6 Jain references, 2 from Arabic/Muslim/Sikh community, and a single Christian/Portuguese footnote.
Recommended for people -
- who are not privy to Devdutt's earlier works
- who want to have an quick and comprehensive, yet selective Hindu(not Indian) outlook to marital stories
- to delight in the beautiful artwork and illustrations etched between the pages
- to get along with traditional sanksrit vedic, puranic, upanishadic, mahakavyic, bhramanic and other Sanskrit literature of mainstream(58 in count), as well as the rituals, re-telling's and histories from oral, tribal and regional traditions, customs and literature, although less in number (35 in count)
Not recommended if -
- you want to buy the book judging the content in its cover and blurb.
No, it does not include stories from "pan-Indian" rituals, communities, religions and histories as such. It borrows few Sikh, Muslim, Buddhist, Jain folklores to reference and use as footnotes, and in no-way tells the reader how marriages are conducted in these communities. In doing so, it brazenly pays lip-service to the marketing with which book is sold - i.e with popular mainstream "Indian" context of Hindu-marriage.
- you want to avoid a lazy work of writing
What could have be bettered -
Including more stories from other diverse aspect of "Indian" culture, religion and lore. Of the 100 stories told, 58 stories are from mainstream Hindu texts, 35 from Regional/Oral communities, 5 stories made popular or known via literature, and 2 Buddhist lore. Even in references/footnotes - the division is gigantic with 80 sources of Hindu mainstream texts, 48 Oral/Regional lore, 4 Buddhist stories, 7 from popular literature, 6 Jain references, 2 from Arabic/Muslim/Sikh community, and a single Christian/Portuguese footnote.
July 14, 2024
While the subject was interesting the lazy writing did a complete injustice to it. The myths and stories were summarized in a manner which took them out of context and made the prose inconsistent. It would have been better to include 10 stories in detail rather than the 100 summaries. The only positive in the writing was the addition of author-note like text after each summary which occasionally gave sone interesting insights.
August 28, 2021
Marriage in India is not just a traditional ritual but a traditional fest. 🌝
From gorgeous traditional clothes to various dishes. There's always a huge fuss.
But also in a diverse country like India rituals differs from region to region.
Marriage by Devdutt Pattanaik is a collection of short stories. The author has tried to compact the stories and beliefs about marriage from Purana to regional folk lore.
To my surprise there are some stories that break the barrier and talks about queer couples. Again, there are some mention of prohibited relationships and marriage laws still we are following.
But what didn't work for me is author's way of telling a tale. Some stories felt so blunt. The writing seems like essays rather than short stories.
Sadly, I can not suggest this book from my end. But read it if you think it'd work for me.
From gorgeous traditional clothes to various dishes. There's always a huge fuss.
But also in a diverse country like India rituals differs from region to region.
Marriage by Devdutt Pattanaik is a collection of short stories. The author has tried to compact the stories and beliefs about marriage from Purana to regional folk lore.
To my surprise there are some stories that break the barrier and talks about queer couples. Again, there are some mention of prohibited relationships and marriage laws still we are following.
But what didn't work for me is author's way of telling a tale. Some stories felt so blunt. The writing seems like essays rather than short stories.
Sadly, I can not suggest this book from my end. But read it if you think it'd work for me.
December 16, 2021
The book is a folklore about marriages. The stories are a part of Ramayan, Mahabharat,other Upanishads, and also people's beliefs and practices that were prevalent in the ancient times. Some stories are fascinating and others make you question the beliefs and practices. At the end, the author also provides his take on the modern weddings.
July 2, 2022
An eternal ritual
Like many of the previous books, the author has done justice to the topic by taking it through the ages from puranas to Vedas to contemporary time. An insightful book to understand the meaning of marriage, its rituals and its origins.
Like many of the previous books, the author has done justice to the topic by taking it through the ages from puranas to Vedas to contemporary time. An insightful book to understand the meaning of marriage, its rituals and its origins.
March 9, 2024
India thrives in Chaos, a popular sentiment may well be an interpretation of "All ideas, all contexts and all points of views have found at home in India". And this book is a great representation of that. So many themes and yet so many representations of those marriages, all to do justice with the context. All to ensure the one basic thing that we work for, happiness. Everything is ok as long as the parties involved are happy.
What else I was looking for is the significance of current rituals. Other than that, loved to read this new perspective.
What else I was looking for is the significance of current rituals. Other than that, loved to read this new perspective.
February 28, 2023
Collection of short stories.... It's a nice simple read
December 21, 2021
A book saluting the diversity of India
Mr. Devdutt shares conjugal folklore, mythology and history from the length and breadth of India. Once again, Mr. Devdutt's skill of simplifying stories come to the fore as he presses the diversity of India and how various rituals and beliefs have been shaped. At the end, there is also a pointer about how the law of the land can learn from the culture to accept more diversity itself.
Mr. Devdutt shares conjugal folklore, mythology and history from the length and breadth of India. Once again, Mr. Devdutt's skill of simplifying stories come to the fore as he presses the diversity of India and how various rituals and beliefs have been shaped. At the end, there is also a pointer about how the law of the land can learn from the culture to accept more diversity itself.
August 9, 2021
(If you’re reading this, I want you to read this piece by imagining Rajasthani folk wedding music playing in background – the sound of khartal, shehnai and drums)
They say matches are made in heaven. So I’m going to start my piece this way: Read this book to know why you will marry one day? And how you will be tied in a nuptial knot one day?
Marriage is a subject of great excitement in Indian families. Strictly speaking, it wouldn’t be wrong to say Indian weddings, a great fuss. Things have changed now but if you ask me about nearly a decade ago, as soon as you reach marriageable age, this pressure is imposed on you and there’s no way you are expected to deny it. Some people even had different tantrums:
“Bro! Kaisi ladki chahiye?”
“Ekdam safed aur sunder.”
“Kitni?”
“Naphthalene balls dekhin hai? Bilkul waisi!”
“Bro what? Tune dudh nahi piya kya kabhi?”
In a diversity stricken country like India, weddings happen/vary according to region and religion, and so their respective rituals, ceremonies, practices, beliefs and cultural significances. The beauty of a typical Hindu wedding definitely lies in its colourful rituals, vibrant dressings and cheerful environment. One of the reasons why traditional Hindu weddings are celebrated and fancied all over the world.
Devdutt Pattanaik in his latest acknowledges those aggregate symbolic and spiritual truths of such diverse rituals, that are not solely Hindu but also come from Islamic, Jain and Christian roots. And that’s what makes a traditional Indian wedding so special and meaningful.
He takes you to the adventure of the multiplicity of Indian weddings through stories from different Hindu scriptures. Besides, Pattanaik also gives his insightful commentary after every story as footnotes. Almost 40% of the book’s volume contain footnotes. And you can’t just end your review of any of Devdutt’s books without a special appreciation for his remarkably beautiful illustrations.
They say matches are made in heaven. So I’m going to start my piece this way: Read this book to know why you will marry one day? And how you will be tied in a nuptial knot one day?
Marriage is a subject of great excitement in Indian families. Strictly speaking, it wouldn’t be wrong to say Indian weddings, a great fuss. Things have changed now but if you ask me about nearly a decade ago, as soon as you reach marriageable age, this pressure is imposed on you and there’s no way you are expected to deny it. Some people even had different tantrums:
“Bro! Kaisi ladki chahiye?”
“Ekdam safed aur sunder.”
“Kitni?”
“Naphthalene balls dekhin hai? Bilkul waisi!”
“Bro what? Tune dudh nahi piya kya kabhi?”
In a diversity stricken country like India, weddings happen/vary according to region and religion, and so their respective rituals, ceremonies, practices, beliefs and cultural significances. The beauty of a typical Hindu wedding definitely lies in its colourful rituals, vibrant dressings and cheerful environment. One of the reasons why traditional Hindu weddings are celebrated and fancied all over the world.
Devdutt Pattanaik in his latest acknowledges those aggregate symbolic and spiritual truths of such diverse rituals, that are not solely Hindu but also come from Islamic, Jain and Christian roots. And that’s what makes a traditional Indian wedding so special and meaningful.
He takes you to the adventure of the multiplicity of Indian weddings through stories from different Hindu scriptures. Besides, Pattanaik also gives his insightful commentary after every story as footnotes. Almost 40% of the book’s volume contain footnotes. And you can’t just end your review of any of Devdutt’s books without a special appreciation for his remarkably beautiful illustrations.
June 13, 2022
Marriage is always an exciting, colourful, interesting, joyful, beautiful affair!!
Connection of two souls celebrated with grandeur....
Indian Marriage history dates back to so many centuries and it had it's own way of evolution !!!
This book gives a brief history of various types of marriages some interesting some shocking and some of passion and romance...
This book by takes us back to many epic marriage stories intertwined with myth mystic magic . It describes that perspective of marriage was different for different sets of people in the history .
Quite an interesting read which I read before my marriage 😁
Connection of two souls celebrated with grandeur....
Indian Marriage history dates back to so many centuries and it had it's own way of evolution !!!
This book gives a brief history of various types of marriages some interesting some shocking and some of passion and romance...
This book by takes us back to many epic marriage stories intertwined with myth mystic magic . It describes that perspective of marriage was different for different sets of people in the history .
Quite an interesting read which I read before my marriage 😁
August 3, 2021
I’ve always wondered ‘who discovered marriage’? Why is marriage so important? Can’t we spend our life with just ourselves?
Devdutt Pattanaik in his book has disclosed many secrets, logics and analysis of how marriages have become an important part of our society.
The book is an anthology of stories based on marriage and how they are connected to Ramayana, Maharashtra and Vedas. The stories are divided into categories which supplements the bond of marriage.
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We call ourselves the Gen-Z and our society as orthodox but who would have thought that 10000 years ago (or maybe more) the eras of the gods was more modern than us!
Live-in & children without marriages were a thing back then. Women were free to date and marry multiple men without being judged.
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I love how the author compared the Hindu, Buddhism and Jainism’s rituals and gave an insight into how marriages actually work and what’s their origin.
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Also I absolutely loved the illustrations in the book, they were so interesting.
Overall I enjoyed reading the book as it taught me so many things. I really admire the Hindu culture and reading about it always makes me happy.
It’s definitely a good read.
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Devdutt Pattanaik in his book has disclosed many secrets, logics and analysis of how marriages have become an important part of our society.
The book is an anthology of stories based on marriage and how they are connected to Ramayana, Maharashtra and Vedas. The stories are divided into categories which supplements the bond of marriage.
✨
We call ourselves the Gen-Z and our society as orthodox but who would have thought that 10000 years ago (or maybe more) the eras of the gods was more modern than us!
Live-in & children without marriages were a thing back then. Women were free to date and marry multiple men without being judged.
✨
I love how the author compared the Hindu, Buddhism and Jainism’s rituals and gave an insight into how marriages actually work and what’s their origin.
✨
Also I absolutely loved the illustrations in the book, they were so interesting.
Overall I enjoyed reading the book as it taught me so many things. I really admire the Hindu culture and reading about it always makes me happy.
It’s definitely a good read.
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August 12, 2022
If you are an ardent follower of Devdutt Pattanaik's work, you'll find that you have already read about 50% of the stories. Yet, it is another great compilation from the author of stories that revolve around marriage from Folklore as well as Hindu mythology. New readers will thoroughly enjoy this.
April 25, 2023
Fast read but unsatisfactory. A collection of tales loosely connected to the central theme of marriage. The footnotes were mostly bland and a few that had potential but were left unexplored.
Didn't connect or relate at all.
Didn't connect or relate at all.
October 4, 2022
Okay read
It looks like no proofreading was done for this book!! It is an average read containing few good stories. An okay read!!
It looks like no proofreading was done for this book!! It is an average read containing few good stories. An okay read!!
July 12, 2021
Marriage is quite a magnificence in India, in terms of magnitude and essence. Nowadays some families plan their entire lives around their wedding, whereas some like to stay true to just the metaphor of union, the strands of togetherness.
Devdutt writes, "What is unique about Hindu weddings is that it is not viewed as a contract, as in a Islamic wedding. There is no promise made, no contract signed. It is rather performative, full of symbolic rituals with deep metaphors, related to union and fortune. Also, the brahmin is not legitimizing or solemnizing the wedding as the Jewish rabbi, or the Catholic or Zoroastrian priest. The brahmin is simply enabling the rite of passage by chanting Vedic hymns that traditionally only he can chant----which is changing now...."
Hindu mythology has a plethora of representation when it comes to marriage, companionship or even any kind of joint union. What's beautiful is that not all marriages in mythology is as sacrosanct or orthodox as it's generally perceived to be. Even when it comes to gods and goddesses and other celestial beings, there are quarrels among the partners, relationships falling apart, instances of infidelity and multiple consorts and what not. There is no particular gender or sexual rigidity either. There are instances of goddesses who prefer the company of women, and gods who prefer companionship of men too. In a vast assortment of intellectual and physical truths, Hindu mythology is teeming with various dimensions of union and marriage--not just the traditional, husband-wife notion of it.
Devdutt's insight, once again is very interesting. While many stories here are short, toned down and crisp---what makes this book a wonder to read is the amalgamation of such a wide array of stories and lores. Pattanaik cites instances of marriage from the epics, from the puranas, from the indigenous local retellings, from religious texts and lots more. His stories come with the original abridged version of the plot, then a set of reflections, analyses and further thoughts which give background to the story. The footnotes give many angles to look at the same story and this is how it becomes a delight to read about god-men and demi-gods, about kings and demons, humans and celestial creatures. A book that can be cherished chapter at a time, soaking in the thoughtful metaphors and witty representations.
Thanks Rupa Publications for the copy.
Devdutt writes, "What is unique about Hindu weddings is that it is not viewed as a contract, as in a Islamic wedding. There is no promise made, no contract signed. It is rather performative, full of symbolic rituals with deep metaphors, related to union and fortune. Also, the brahmin is not legitimizing or solemnizing the wedding as the Jewish rabbi, or the Catholic or Zoroastrian priest. The brahmin is simply enabling the rite of passage by chanting Vedic hymns that traditionally only he can chant----which is changing now...."
Hindu mythology has a plethora of representation when it comes to marriage, companionship or even any kind of joint union. What's beautiful is that not all marriages in mythology is as sacrosanct or orthodox as it's generally perceived to be. Even when it comes to gods and goddesses and other celestial beings, there are quarrels among the partners, relationships falling apart, instances of infidelity and multiple consorts and what not. There is no particular gender or sexual rigidity either. There are instances of goddesses who prefer the company of women, and gods who prefer companionship of men too. In a vast assortment of intellectual and physical truths, Hindu mythology is teeming with various dimensions of union and marriage--not just the traditional, husband-wife notion of it.
Devdutt's insight, once again is very interesting. While many stories here are short, toned down and crisp---what makes this book a wonder to read is the amalgamation of such a wide array of stories and lores. Pattanaik cites instances of marriage from the epics, from the puranas, from the indigenous local retellings, from religious texts and lots more. His stories come with the original abridged version of the plot, then a set of reflections, analyses and further thoughts which give background to the story. The footnotes give many angles to look at the same story and this is how it becomes a delight to read about god-men and demi-gods, about kings and demons, humans and celestial creatures. A book that can be cherished chapter at a time, soaking in the thoughtful metaphors and witty representations.
Thanks Rupa Publications for the copy.
February 5, 2024
While the majority of us are set to embrace the month of love, I picked up a book that encapsulates the idea of love through the institution of marriage. The book is a gift to me by my husband.
Marriage by Devdutt Pattanaik is a golden fleece with 100 stories signifying the union of two souls. While each story finds its origin in Hindu mythology, Vedic, Puranic, Tamil, Sanskrit literature, and other regional folklore, there is something about them that makes them unique yet so familiar. The familiarity is because of the author’s simplistic writing to explain the depth and relevance of marriage in India. Each story establishes marriage as a universal institution, giving a vivid picture of the customs and traditions that are followed in Indian society. While reading the book one can easily comprehend that not much has changed around the institution of marriage barring the new additions where marriage ceremonies are modernized or rather customized to suit the needs of the individuals and their families.
The book particularly stands out in highlighting the progressive beliefs, customs, and practices that have always existed in our society. Singledom, coupledom, female agency, re-marriage, co-parenting, inclusivity, and gender fluidity are substantiated by factual tales of Buddha, Rukmini, Satyavati, Ram, Sita, Arjuna, and many other popular figures, gods, and goddesses in Hindu mythology. The book acknowledges the institution of marriage and also brings to light the importance of physical intimacy, emotional support, love, having children, supporting partners, fidelity, and quality of life for a successful marriage. In addition, each story uniquely acknowledges the role of good looks, the exchange of property, the power of true love, family dynamics, and challenges with love marriages and same-sex marriages that exist even today. For those interested, the book also explains different rituals, the seven-step ritual, and others that complement a marriage ceremony. However, as we near the end of the book the author also attempts to explain the importance of marriage registration, a must document for married couples today.
Overall, the book is an insightful read that connects traditional folklore to present-day practices. I would recommend this book to anyone seeking a break from heavy reading and wanting to indulge in beautiful stories of love, agency, valor, and marriage. The best part is that one can enjoy reading and at the same time reflect on their own lives and draw connections.
Happy Reading!
Marriage by Devdutt Pattanaik is a golden fleece with 100 stories signifying the union of two souls. While each story finds its origin in Hindu mythology, Vedic, Puranic, Tamil, Sanskrit literature, and other regional folklore, there is something about them that makes them unique yet so familiar. The familiarity is because of the author’s simplistic writing to explain the depth and relevance of marriage in India. Each story establishes marriage as a universal institution, giving a vivid picture of the customs and traditions that are followed in Indian society. While reading the book one can easily comprehend that not much has changed around the institution of marriage barring the new additions where marriage ceremonies are modernized or rather customized to suit the needs of the individuals and their families.
The book particularly stands out in highlighting the progressive beliefs, customs, and practices that have always existed in our society. Singledom, coupledom, female agency, re-marriage, co-parenting, inclusivity, and gender fluidity are substantiated by factual tales of Buddha, Rukmini, Satyavati, Ram, Sita, Arjuna, and many other popular figures, gods, and goddesses in Hindu mythology. The book acknowledges the institution of marriage and also brings to light the importance of physical intimacy, emotional support, love, having children, supporting partners, fidelity, and quality of life for a successful marriage. In addition, each story uniquely acknowledges the role of good looks, the exchange of property, the power of true love, family dynamics, and challenges with love marriages and same-sex marriages that exist even today. For those interested, the book also explains different rituals, the seven-step ritual, and others that complement a marriage ceremony. However, as we near the end of the book the author also attempts to explain the importance of marriage registration, a must document for married couples today.
Overall, the book is an insightful read that connects traditional folklore to present-day practices. I would recommend this book to anyone seeking a break from heavy reading and wanting to indulge in beautiful stories of love, agency, valor, and marriage. The best part is that one can enjoy reading and at the same time reflect on their own lives and draw connections.
Happy Reading!
October 2, 2024
Is Marriage just the bond between a husband and a wife? Or is it a multifaceted ritual with its fair share of complexities and twists here and there? Devdutt Pattanaik’s Marriage: 100 Stories Around India’s Favourite Ritual . seeks to answer these very questions by using 100 different stories as examples.
One mythological story is more than enough to keep a reader engaged. Imagine 100 separate stories at your disposal in the form of this book, which answers questions about a very specific socio-cultural theme in our society - Marriage. From these, we learn how Hindu mythology has connected Gods, humans, animals, and Demons together to form a different kind of philosophy. Additionally, the author has provided some insight at the end of every story to help us connect it with either some other story or socio-cultural value.
What is a spouse meant to do for their other halves? How do two people manage this new relationship? What do parents do for their children’s marriage? What can parents do for their children’s marriage? These are just a few examples, but the book makes sure that almost every question you have ever asked yourself about marriage gets answered. And it does so with the help of the right stories from Hindu mythology. I should tell you one thing though - these are short stories and you will have to find the longer versions yourself if you want to learn more about them. Some stories might seem too backward as compared to the way we think today, but make sure you read them with an open mind and try to connect with the anecdotes the author has included. I recommend this book for everyone who wants to understand either marriage or the Hindu culture a bit better.
One mythological story is more than enough to keep a reader engaged. Imagine 100 separate stories at your disposal in the form of this book, which answers questions about a very specific socio-cultural theme in our society - Marriage. From these, we learn how Hindu mythology has connected Gods, humans, animals, and Demons together to form a different kind of philosophy. Additionally, the author has provided some insight at the end of every story to help us connect it with either some other story or socio-cultural value.
What is a spouse meant to do for their other halves? How do two people manage this new relationship? What do parents do for their children’s marriage? What can parents do for their children’s marriage? These are just a few examples, but the book makes sure that almost every question you have ever asked yourself about marriage gets answered. And it does so with the help of the right stories from Hindu mythology. I should tell you one thing though - these are short stories and you will have to find the longer versions yourself if you want to learn more about them. Some stories might seem too backward as compared to the way we think today, but make sure you read them with an open mind and try to connect with the anecdotes the author has included. I recommend this book for everyone who wants to understand either marriage or the Hindu culture a bit better.
September 23, 2022
This book offers 100 stories from the Hindu mythology revolving around marriage, its origins, rituals involved, matters connected to courtship, fidelity, legality of children, property and even heartbreak.
It's astonishing how women in the earliest texts are portrayed as fierce and independent in their choices of partners, their sexuality given importance. But in the consequent texts in the later era, turned them into property of fathers, husbands and sons. Their chastity (even in thoughts!) is of utmost importance, while men (gods and mortals alike) can go about marrying, seducing, and duping women to procreate.
It's disheartening how rape or lack of mutual consent are glorified and justified in our religious history. The present age is just a reflection of such mentality!!
Surprisingly earliest texts have embraced the LGBTQ and individual sexuality in a much simpler manner. Since souls have no gender and marriage is believed to be the union of 2 souls, how does gender, caste or creed matter in marriage then!
Overall, an insightful read.
#qotd Did you know that applying henna on the bride's hands or the groom's sehra (veil of flowers) are not of Indian origin?
🤎"We have the imagination to break all boundaries, reimagine all categories, and accommodate much more, as we expand (brah-) our hearts and minds (manas) and make the expansive spiritual journey towards the infinite (ananta) divine (brahman)."
🤎The British confused dharma-shastras, which were meant only for brahmins and the land-owning elite, as codes for all of Indian society. And so, many people think wedding rituals described in Sanskrit texts are ‘correct’ Hindu rituals. They are not."
It's astonishing how women in the earliest texts are portrayed as fierce and independent in their choices of partners, their sexuality given importance. But in the consequent texts in the later era, turned them into property of fathers, husbands and sons. Their chastity (even in thoughts!) is of utmost importance, while men (gods and mortals alike) can go about marrying, seducing, and duping women to procreate.
It's disheartening how rape or lack of mutual consent are glorified and justified in our religious history. The present age is just a reflection of such mentality!!
Surprisingly earliest texts have embraced the LGBTQ and individual sexuality in a much simpler manner. Since souls have no gender and marriage is believed to be the union of 2 souls, how does gender, caste or creed matter in marriage then!
Overall, an insightful read.
#qotd Did you know that applying henna on the bride's hands or the groom's sehra (veil of flowers) are not of Indian origin?
🤎"We have the imagination to break all boundaries, reimagine all categories, and accommodate much more, as we expand (brah-) our hearts and minds (manas) and make the expansive spiritual journey towards the infinite (ananta) divine (brahman)."
🤎The British confused dharma-shastras, which were meant only for brahmins and the land-owning elite, as codes for all of Indian society. And so, many people think wedding rituals described in Sanskrit texts are ‘correct’ Hindu rituals. They are not."
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July 4, 2024
"Marriage: 100 Stories Around India's Favorite Ritual" by Devdutt Pattanaik is a rich tapestry of narratives that explore the multifaceted institution of marriage in Indian culture. Pattanaik, known for his deep dives into mythology and cultural history, presents marriage not just as a social contract but as a ritual embedded in diverse traditions, beliefs, and regional practices.
Each story in this collection reveals unique perspectives on marriage, ranging from the mythological unions of gods and goddesses to contemporary tales reflecting modern challenges and adaptations. Pattanaik's storytelling is engaging and insightful, offering readers a blend of historical context, mythological references, and personal anecdotes. His ability to weave in comparative mythology and draw parallels with global traditions enriches the narrative, making it accessible and intriguing for a broad audience.
The book stands out for its inclusivity, highlighting stories from various communities across India, thus painting a comprehensive picture of the country's cultural diversity. Through these stories, Pattanaik addresses themes of love, duty, social expectations, and the evolving dynamics of marital relationships.
Overall, "Marriage: 100 Stories Around India's Favorite Ritual" is an enlightening and thought-provoking read.
Each story in this collection reveals unique perspectives on marriage, ranging from the mythological unions of gods and goddesses to contemporary tales reflecting modern challenges and adaptations. Pattanaik's storytelling is engaging and insightful, offering readers a blend of historical context, mythological references, and personal anecdotes. His ability to weave in comparative mythology and draw parallels with global traditions enriches the narrative, making it accessible and intriguing for a broad audience.
The book stands out for its inclusivity, highlighting stories from various communities across India, thus painting a comprehensive picture of the country's cultural diversity. Through these stories, Pattanaik addresses themes of love, duty, social expectations, and the evolving dynamics of marital relationships.
Overall, "Marriage: 100 Stories Around India's Favorite Ritual" is an enlightening and thought-provoking read.
August 21, 2021
This book is a collection of 100 odd tales from the Vedas, Upanishads, the Epics, and folk tales from around the country, concocting a delicious platter.
There are separate parts, each dealing with an aspect of marriage, property, children, among other things. He speaks of the prohibited relationships mentioned in our historical texts that the law deems to be immoral in the current scenario.
There are mentions of queer couples, of marriages not made in heaven, love that transcends the limits of the mortal life, and those that do not conform to family standards. The stories are short, around a page each but convey the point through their brilliant narrative.
In the end, he speaks of the ancient Vedic rituals, the stages of a typical Indian marriage, and the mantra that binds the two souls in rhythm.
As mentioned, the book is a short and delightful read that traverses across the length and breadth of the country through the tales on marriage and family. I'd recommend this strongly for a beginner as the language is simple and crisp. However, I had expected a more in depth history of marriage and it's eclectic rituals that make India stand out as a culturally diverse country in the world.
There are separate parts, each dealing with an aspect of marriage, property, children, among other things. He speaks of the prohibited relationships mentioned in our historical texts that the law deems to be immoral in the current scenario.
There are mentions of queer couples, of marriages not made in heaven, love that transcends the limits of the mortal life, and those that do not conform to family standards. The stories are short, around a page each but convey the point through their brilliant narrative.
In the end, he speaks of the ancient Vedic rituals, the stages of a typical Indian marriage, and the mantra that binds the two souls in rhythm.
As mentioned, the book is a short and delightful read that traverses across the length and breadth of the country through the tales on marriage and family. I'd recommend this strongly for a beginner as the language is simple and crisp. However, I had expected a more in depth history of marriage and it's eclectic rituals that make India stand out as a culturally diverse country in the world.
November 20, 2022
"One needs to be vigilant (savadhan) when it happens, as it marks a turning of life, and the world."
This book is a collection of stories (100 to be precise) on marriage from different mythological texts drawing upon how and why various wedding rituals are maintained, and why the wedding itself is performed. The Indian wedding we see now is a consortium of traditions from many cultures and has different origins. In some cultures, women hold the responsibility of the entire family while in others it's the men. Weddings are performed out of love, burden, and duty to secure power, wealth, status, and companionship. The stories of marriage between gods and goddesses, princes and princesses, and even between common people from folklore articulate the meaning of weddings or unions. Bisexuality, asexuality, and homosexuality are dated back to these mythological texts. Ideas of independent free-willed women are also well documented in these stories. Hence these are not new and strange ideas of the modern world.
Some of these stories are covered in other books by the author while there are many new and enlightening ones. It's good to get acquainted with and know the meaning of different rituals in wedding ceremonies across India.
This book is a collection of stories (100 to be precise) on marriage from different mythological texts drawing upon how and why various wedding rituals are maintained, and why the wedding itself is performed. The Indian wedding we see now is a consortium of traditions from many cultures and has different origins. In some cultures, women hold the responsibility of the entire family while in others it's the men. Weddings are performed out of love, burden, and duty to secure power, wealth, status, and companionship. The stories of marriage between gods and goddesses, princes and princesses, and even between common people from folklore articulate the meaning of weddings or unions. Bisexuality, asexuality, and homosexuality are dated back to these mythological texts. Ideas of independent free-willed women are also well documented in these stories. Hence these are not new and strange ideas of the modern world.
Some of these stories are covered in other books by the author while there are many new and enlightening ones. It's good to get acquainted with and know the meaning of different rituals in wedding ceremonies across India.
August 13, 2023
In responsibility, success and pleasure, may I ( the bride) always be on your side. In responsibility, success and pleasure, may I (the groom) always be on your side.
Marriage used to be a contract that was signed at a specific age. It’s like a cow’s duty to produce milk, similarly it’s a responsibility of both the partners to be there for each other.
Men can have a a lot of success, money and fame but they need someone to celebrate with. And so they have wives( plural), how can only one woman satisfy all the needs of this split men alone.
The only thing that men think about is how undress whatever you are wearing. And so they’re always overthinking. This is the reason they’re smart. They think a lot. And so they hire a wife to satisfy’em.
Women have a caring nature and so most of the time they’re caring about someone not themselves*.
Women are successful but they don’t earn money for spending on themselves. They earn so that they can feed their baby.
Women don’t usually know what gives them pleasure because they’re busy satisfying their parents first, then their husband and then the baby. And then they die
Marriage used to be a contract that was signed at a specific age. It’s like a cow’s duty to produce milk, similarly it’s a responsibility of both the partners to be there for each other.
Men can have a a lot of success, money and fame but they need someone to celebrate with. And so they have wives( plural), how can only one woman satisfy all the needs of this split men alone.
The only thing that men think about is how undress whatever you are wearing. And so they’re always overthinking. This is the reason they’re smart. They think a lot. And so they hire a wife to satisfy’em.
Women have a caring nature and so most of the time they’re caring about someone not themselves*.
Women are successful but they don’t earn money for spending on themselves. They earn so that they can feed their baby.
Women don’t usually know what gives them pleasure because they’re busy satisfying their parents first, then their husband and then the baby. And then they die
December 10, 2022
The maximum number of stories come from the usual suspects i.e. Ramayana and Mahabharata.
Some of the stories are just few sentences long and we get meaning or interpretation from Mr. Patnaik which seems different.
However what stuck me most was the concluding remarks.
Courts are still confused between age of (sexual) consent, with age of marriage, as people still assume that boys and girls wait for marriage for their first sexual experience. Indian state often assumes tradition is fixed and rigid. It is not. It also confuses control with power, rather than insecurity. A grounding in the ancient (shashwat), eternal (sanatan) and infinite (ananta) wisdom of India will enable them to see marriage as the ritual of love, so that they remove all obstacles to the union of any two, mature and willing souls.
1 extra star in review for the take of author on modern marriage. The last summary is worth reading again and again as a reference point or reminder for a happy married life (no, not writing it as an oxymoron)!
Some of the stories are just few sentences long and we get meaning or interpretation from Mr. Patnaik which seems different.
However what stuck me most was the concluding remarks.
Courts are still confused between age of (sexual) consent, with age of marriage, as people still assume that boys and girls wait for marriage for their first sexual experience. Indian state often assumes tradition is fixed and rigid. It is not. It also confuses control with power, rather than insecurity. A grounding in the ancient (shashwat), eternal (sanatan) and infinite (ananta) wisdom of India will enable them to see marriage as the ritual of love, so that they remove all obstacles to the union of any two, mature and willing souls.
1 extra star in review for the take of author on modern marriage. The last summary is worth reading again and again as a reference point or reminder for a happy married life (no, not writing it as an oxymoron)!
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