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Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care
Practices for well-being, based in neuroscience and geared toward kindness.
When we experience trauma or need to find a way to protect ourselves from interpersonal hurt, we make unconscious contracts with ourselves, such “I will never let myself get treated that way again” or “I will never forgive myself for that.” But these contracts often result in harmful behaviors like self-criticism, lack of trust, and procrastination. Until we recognize and free ourselves from these damaging contracts, we can never truly heal.
Your Resonant Self From Self-sabotage to Self-care takes us through the world of relational neuroscience and, using the lens of unconscious contracts, explores how our brains, nervous systems, and bodies react to the brains, nervous systems, and bodies of others. Case studies, resonant-language practice, questionnaires, meditations, and journaling provide readers with healing strategies for uncovering and rewriting these contracts. Following Your Resonant Self, this workbook provides the tools to turn inward with kindness, warmth, and curiosity and create opportunities for self-healing.
When we experience trauma or need to find a way to protect ourselves from interpersonal hurt, we make unconscious contracts with ourselves, such “I will never let myself get treated that way again” or “I will never forgive myself for that.” But these contracts often result in harmful behaviors like self-criticism, lack of trust, and procrastination. Until we recognize and free ourselves from these damaging contracts, we can never truly heal.
Your Resonant Self From Self-sabotage to Self-care takes us through the world of relational neuroscience and, using the lens of unconscious contracts, explores how our brains, nervous systems, and bodies react to the brains, nervous systems, and bodies of others. Case studies, resonant-language practice, questionnaires, meditations, and journaling provide readers with healing strategies for uncovering and rewriting these contracts. Following Your Resonant Self, this workbook provides the tools to turn inward with kindness, warmth, and curiosity and create opportunities for self-healing.
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Published May 25, 2021
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June 14, 2021
I have had the pleasure of learning directly from Sarah for many years, and to say that unconscious contract work changed my life would be an understatement. For years as a coach, I would sign up and study every method of “rewriting your story” only to find myself a bit disappointed that my story persisted, and nothing changed or moved on a fundamental level. What they were missing was a trauma informed lens, warmth and a loving invitation toward integration. And unconscious contract work has all three.
This book is a rich and wonderful resource of so many years of cultivated wisdom built from a foundation of synthesized relational neuroscience. Unconscious contract work is fundamentally transformational, inviting the unconscious and the body to speak, and creating space for each reader’s inner wisdom to guide their personal healing and change. This work has the power to create shifts on an identity level, rather than just a cognitive level. I use it every day in my client work and my own personal healing and growth. I’m so grateful for such a beautifully constructed guidebook and highly recommend it on your path toward wholeness, healing and self-love.
A wonderful addition to Your Resonant Self.
This book is a rich and wonderful resource of so many years of cultivated wisdom built from a foundation of synthesized relational neuroscience. Unconscious contract work is fundamentally transformational, inviting the unconscious and the body to speak, and creating space for each reader’s inner wisdom to guide their personal healing and change. This work has the power to create shifts on an identity level, rather than just a cognitive level. I use it every day in my client work and my own personal healing and growth. I’m so grateful for such a beautifully constructed guidebook and highly recommend it on your path toward wholeness, healing and self-love.
A wonderful addition to Your Resonant Self.
July 21, 2021
A great companion to "Your Resonant Self." If you're looking for a way to further immerse yourself in the warmth of Peyton's writing, this is the book for you! I especially loved working through this book as I read through "Your Resonant Self" for the second time, as I discovered new depths to my capacity for self- understanding.
July 17, 2021
I've been working my way slowly through the chapters of this books for the last six weeks, and it's slowly but surely changing my entire relationship with myself. I'm noticing more than ever the sensations of my body, and from there I get curious about what I am feeling and what I need. In this is the warmth and self-care that Sarah Peyton tells us we can cultivate. I am being warm to myself. I am listening to my body, my feelings and my longings, and as I do so I am meeting myself with compassion. Last week I woke up in the middle of the night, uncomfortable and feeling stress in my body, and I automatically went to self-warmth and curiosity! That's how much this work is integrating in me. I'm doing it in the middle of the night! To me, this new orientation towards caring for and listening to myself is what I have worked towards through many modalities and years of personal growth work, somewhat elusively. But with her guidance, it's truly coming together for me. There is a great deal of science and research woven though out all of Peyton's work, which satisfies me greatly. I like information!. But also, Peyton shares stories and examples, and walks with her readers so gently and kindly, offering exercises and meditations that are effective, practical and habit-changing. I could tell when I read her first book, Your Resonant Self, that if I applied what she taught, so much in my world would change, but I read that first book fast. So this one, the workbook, is one that I am content to take slow and steady, doing all the exercises, meditations and journaling prompts. I still have a few chapters left, but I've already received more than I expected.
December 3, 2021
I love the structure of the workbook. Stories, questionnaires, meditations, discussions. I could really hear Sarah's voice as I read it through it. I was fortunate to interview Sarah about this book and what it means to be resonate. Full interview: https://youtu.be/0lgx86p-GtE
We discuss:
Do you. Like yourself? What is that dependent on?
Why it’s important to feel understood and how that changes our neural connections.
Memory tangles created by the amygdala
“How do I take care of myself” as you move from self-sabotage to self-care.
What the best way is to tell whether we are in our instrumental brain or our relational brain and how do we recognize it in others.
How do you get your the resonating self-witness voice to override the instrumental, critical inner voice
Why there is anxiety and how do people get to the root of their anxiety.
Why there is an aftershock of trauma
The journey out of depression and the benefit of self-warmth meditations.
The one common denominator of Addiction
How do we cultivate this permaculture garden of our minds to dissolve the negative contracts to release them and create the positive counter part.
How can people use this workbook and the unconscious contracts to step into their joy?
Quote in the book from Canadian epigeneticist
Moshe Szyf
Moshe Szyf
Connect for more inspiration at Flourish Dot Mom
Live an Inspired Life! Diane
Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care
We discuss:
Do you. Like yourself? What is that dependent on?
Why it’s important to feel understood and how that changes our neural connections.
Memory tangles created by the amygdala
“How do I take care of myself” as you move from self-sabotage to self-care.
What the best way is to tell whether we are in our instrumental brain or our relational brain and how do we recognize it in others.
How do you get your the resonating self-witness voice to override the instrumental, critical inner voice
Why there is anxiety and how do people get to the root of their anxiety.
Why there is an aftershock of trauma
The journey out of depression and the benefit of self-warmth meditations.
The one common denominator of Addiction
How do we cultivate this permaculture garden of our minds to dissolve the negative contracts to release them and create the positive counter part.
How can people use this workbook and the unconscious contracts to step into their joy?
Quote in the book from Canadian epigeneticist
Moshe Szyf
"Every cell in your prefrontal cortex carries the signature of the presence or absence of your mother”
Moshe Szyf
"Our mother is in every cell of our prefrontal cortex”
Connect for more inspiration at Flourish Dot Mom
Live an Inspired Life! Diane
Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care
May 30, 2023
I want to preface my comments by saying that I started reading this book as part of studying with Sarah. It means I have been reading it very slowly, though at a certain point I decided to read through to the end. I know I will read the book again. I also struggle to give a rating, because I know my experience of engaging with Sarah's material is greatly enhanced by my studies with her. Another way of saying this is that I believe you might have to study with her to experience the full five-star experience and this belief is reflected in my rating.
By way of context, in recent decades studies in the world of biology and neuroscience have accelerated, allowing us a much deeper understanding into our human functioning - how we work. New insights now sit alongside traditional psychology, enabling us to meet our needs more fully, to enrich our lives and to be present to and heal from trauma. It's worth saying that we now understand that trauma is far from exceptional; most of us carry some degree of unhealed trauma.
I credit Sarah both with her nerdy interest in scientists' recent revelations and with her ability to translate this for the lay person, creating ways to use science's insights in our own lives. I welcome her core message that we make sense - our behaviour always makes sense in the context of what we have experienced throughout our lives.
This book has a particular focus on healing the kind of contracts we made when we were very young and which we maintain, unconsciously, at great cost to ourselves (and perhaps to those we love.) It's a workbook, and its value lies in doing the work. Sarah's subtitle, "From sabotage to Self-care" tells you what this means in practice.
I can recommend Sarah's work, which leads to the kind of personal healing that radiates outwards to create a better, more compassionate and safer world.
By way of context, in recent decades studies in the world of biology and neuroscience have accelerated, allowing us a much deeper understanding into our human functioning - how we work. New insights now sit alongside traditional psychology, enabling us to meet our needs more fully, to enrich our lives and to be present to and heal from trauma. It's worth saying that we now understand that trauma is far from exceptional; most of us carry some degree of unhealed trauma.
I credit Sarah both with her nerdy interest in scientists' recent revelations and with her ability to translate this for the lay person, creating ways to use science's insights in our own lives. I welcome her core message that we make sense - our behaviour always makes sense in the context of what we have experienced throughout our lives.
This book has a particular focus on healing the kind of contracts we made when we were very young and which we maintain, unconsciously, at great cost to ourselves (and perhaps to those we love.) It's a workbook, and its value lies in doing the work. Sarah's subtitle, "From sabotage to Self-care" tells you what this means in practice.
I can recommend Sarah's work, which leads to the kind of personal healing that radiates outwards to create a better, more compassionate and safer world.
October 17, 2021
This workbook is an exceptional piece of information. Anyone who is interested in the human brain, why it functions the way it does, attachment theory, Non Violent Communication, healing...really truly healing, well this is THE book to read. Along with her first book, Your Resonant Self. I highly recommend this workbook. Sarah Peyton starts at the very beginning and moves you into the why and how of anger, depression, blame and more. This workbook has a definite focus on unconscious contracts and how exactly to release them. Get it! It is worth the exploration into your own psyche.
April 26, 2024
This was a great book. I will recommend this for anyone who fall into self disruptive or self sabotaging patterns and wants to break that cycle.
The exercises in the book are not always easy to follow as they can open old emotional wounds and traumas but following the guidance in this book can certainly lead to a deep understanding of oneself.
The healing process as outlined in the book is time taking and might seem unintuitive at times but it has really helped me.
The exercises in the book are not always easy to follow as they can open old emotional wounds and traumas but following the guidance in this book can certainly lead to a deep understanding of oneself.
The healing process as outlined in the book is time taking and might seem unintuitive at times but it has really helped me.
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