Zane's Dear G-Spot: Straight Talk About Sex and Love

by Zane

Dear G-Spot is New York Times bestselling author Zane's long-awaited guide to what she knows better than anyone love and sex. Dear G-Spot includes real letters from real people, both women and men, who have sought Zane's advice over the years -- the preacher's wife worrying about being judged, the virgin, the guy next door, the gay man next door, the woman with low self-esteem, and the other woman with a sex drive over the moon. In her own uniquely can-did and humorous way, Zane answers all your questions -- even questions you never thought to ask -- about making whoopee.

Genres: Erotica, Nonfiction, Adult, Sexuality, Urban, Self Help, African American

256 pages, Hardcover

First published July 10, 2007

About the author

Zane is the New York Times bestselling author of Afterburn, The Heat Seekers, Dear G-Spot, Gettin’ Buck Wild, The Hot Box, Total Eclipse of the Heart, Nervous, Skyscraper, Love is Never Painless, Shame on It All, and The Sisters of APF; the ebook short stories “I’ll be Home for Christmas” and “Everything Fades Away”; and editor for the Flava anthology series, including Z-Rated and Busy Bodies. Her TV series, Zane’s Sex Chronicles, and The Jump Off are featured on Cinemax, and her bestselling novel Addicted is a major motion picture with Lionsgate Films. She is the publisher of Strebor Books, an imprint of Atria Books/Simon & Schuster. Visit her online at EroticaNoir.com. - See more at: http://authors.simonandschuster.com/Z...

Reviews

[Mya · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think the advice for women was beyond helpful, but I felt like she bash men just a little bit.

[Betty · Rating 3 out of 5]

​Title: Dear G-Spot: Straight Talk About Sex and Love
Author: Zane, a well-known African-American writer of romance novels (pen name for Kristina Laferne Roberts), most famous for her novel Addiction which was recently turned into a movie
Genre: Adult, nonfiction, advice
Setting: Modern-day America
Reason for Reading: 50 book PoC challenge book #12
Relevance to the Project: I knew I wanted to read at least one relationship advice book in this challenge. I'm considering also reading Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man although from skimming it I think I might find the patriarchal, sex-negative attitude a bit tough to take.
In terms of what I got out of this book and what surprised me, there was minimal treatment of nonmonogamy (one chapter on swinging, and the author is pretty clear that she thinks it's a bad idea) and almost none of sexual violence (just one reader letter asking for advice in the aftermath of recovering from sexual assault, and the author response was very sympathetic but she frankly said she didn't know how to help). I found the latter especially sad when there are so many resources for survivors of sexual violence available these days.
Finished In: Days. It would have been faster but the cover of the edition I had is sufficiently salacious that I thought I shouldn't read it publicly.
Pages: 256
Copyright Date: 2008
Cover: Skin, with a rhinestone G in the middle of the title.
First line: "To all the women -young, middle-aged and elderly - who still believe that we were placed on this earth to 'service' men. May this book liberate your pussies, free your minds from the chains of sexual oppression, and make you realize that you are entitled to fuck your way."
Favorite quote: No one in particular but there were many parts of this book that made me laugh out loud.
Themes and Triggers: Sex, oral and anal sex, sexism, infidelity, strong language. :)
Best part: This book is very funny and readable.
Worst part: There was one reader letter saying that her husband enjoyed crossdressing and anal penetration. Zane's response was to say that he was obviously gay. :( That is just not true, there are plenty of straight crossdressers in the world who love getting pegged. Maybe there's a cultural difference here given the idea of the downlow and (I believe) much higher social penalties for men of color coming out as queer, but it broke my heart. On the plus side, a simple google search on "husband crossdress" will likely lead similar people to Helen Boyd and other helpful resources, so hopefully this wasn't the LW's only option.
Imaginary Theme Song: Until Then - Jill Scott
Grade: B. Most of it was very funny but there was also a lot that was so conventional. No mention, for instance, of the fact that many women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone. Vibrators are mentioned but mostly just for foreplay. It's very mononormative and intercourse-centric, although positive about female same-sex relationships in the one chapter where they are covered.
Related Reads: Something by Isadora Alman or Dan Savage.

[HeavyReader · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is all about sex and relationship advice from an African American perspective. Some of it is in Q&A format and some of it consists of essays by the author who doesn't seem to have any training as a sex therapist, but who does write sexy novels.

I really like that the author stresses communication in her advice. I don't like that she says things that aren't true, like a woman can get pregnant 365 days of the year. (A woman can only get pregnant when one of her ripe eggs and one of her partners sperm meet in the egg tubes. A woman is only fertile a few days each month.)

I didn't read the erotic story sent in to Zane by a male author who is a fan of hers. It was just not my style, too cheesey and not turning me on.

All in all, I would say this is not the best sex/relationship advice I have ever read, but maybe it stands out because there's not a lot out there directed specifically at folks of African descent. I just don't know.

[Alysia · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is very educational to the sex life. Anything you can think of about sex is in this book. The people that write to her are very funny when they talk about their mates. She can really help your sex life by reading this book.

[K Riquena Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dear G-Spot" was the second Zane book that I read. It is a great book in the sense that it is an honest raw look at sex, love, and relationships from an African-American women. I enjoyed "Dear G-Spot" particularly because of its approach to various situations. After watching Zane's interviews, and reading this book again (I read it initially over four years ago when I was unfamiliar with her work). I enjoyed it even more. I loved that it was not your average "how to get your man back, your man is a dog" kind of book. Zane provided a fresh look at various aspects of interpersonal relationships. I enjoyed this book.

[Jennifer · Rating 3 out of 5]

A nice informational book for those who aren't well versed in relationships, sexual behavior, and so forth, but if you've read sex education/reference books before or are just very intrigued by the subject and well read on it "G-Spot" is nothing new. This book is especially good for the African-American audience it is targeted to. Zane gives logical and thoughtful advice to all the e-mails she lists and divvys the chapters up between sex, relationships, commitment, adultery, etc.

[Steve Lozier · Rating 3 out of 5]

I picked this book up for reseach for a play I'm writing. I didn't learn much - but a lot of people would! Zane does seem like a very interesting and important author. It will be interesting to check out some of her fiction.

[Kaneisha willingham · Rating 3 out of 5]

i think it a good book

[Eden · Rating 4 out of 5]

now that i have finished it, it wasnt all that i thought it would be. but it was good, and i do advise anyone to read it!!

[Ashia Robinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was good....she gave alot of advice on relationships and sex. I would recommend this book to those that are interested in advice from the perspective of an African American woman...

[Mike · Rating 4 out of 5]

A no holds barred book about sex by a contemporary erotica author.

[Twyla · Rating 3 out of 5]

I'm not sure if this book is supposed to be funny, but I laughed through most of it.

Thanks Nita!

[Tieya · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is really interesting!

[Sachki · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just glanced at some of the parts that interested me....

[Jevon Scott · Rating 3 out of 5]

Zane makes you feel so comfortable with your sexuality and in your own skin, I'm a Zane fan so as long as she wrote it alone I'll read it.

[Mel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great Q&A book

[Shemeka Mitchell · Rating 5 out of 5]

What can I say? Zane is the greatest!

[Klalina Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ladies get in touch with G-Spot

[Kemera · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good Asss book

[Jenise Shumaker]

A lot of interesing reading. I was amazed at some of the things people are having problems with.

[Shà · Rating 3 out of 5]

it was okay the hype behind it was more than enough to make you want to read it and then when I got it, it wasn't all of that

[LaToya Jackson]

I haven't read it yet

[India · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it! Gave me lots of thoughts.

[KSG · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is not a detailed book that will give you some sex tips to try out. It is incredibly brief and tame. I found the writing style a bit juvenile, like how all men were referred to as 'brother', and the book as a whole quite boring. I had to skip the end section which was very cringe. An 'erotic' story from a fan who fantasised about having sex with Zane. A bit egotistical to add this I thought.

[Myesha-Tiara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Favorite Quote: “If you are sexually oppressed, sexually repressed, or have any sexual hang-ups whatsoever, please put my book down and slowly walk away from it. It is too damn hot for your ass.”~Zane

This self help in the bedroom book mixed with real advice to women and men on how to navigate the dating and marriage world is definitely one to keep in the bathroom or night stand.

[Audrey Dawn · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’ve always enjoyed email style books even since I was a kid and this one was no different, except this one was all about SEX 😜 I’ve never read anything by Zane before but I really enjoyed reading this! It was very interesting and informative as well as had a comedy aspect to it when she “keeps it real!”
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[Falisia Tyler · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's absolutely a sexy read! If you are interested in having a page turner and a different perspective... read this book!. I'm a huge Zane fan, and I can't get enough of all the mental adventures you will take. You won't be disappointed after reading just the first few pages.

[Justlesa Hall · Rating 2 out of 5]

LOL to some of the advice in here.

[Tracy S · Rating 5 out of 5]

🔥🔥🔥🔥Letters from real people from All over sending letters to Zane for sex & love

[Alex · Rating 3 out of 5]

Read for a book club, and it wasn’t terrible. Most of the advice was good, but it’s a bit dated/somewhat offensive in spots due to being older.