Dnf @ 29%. Fuck this transphobic bullshit.
I really thought “huh the trans incompetence really reads like an old school MM romance from 15 years ago, maybe this is an older book” NOPE it’s from the year of our lord 2020. Nora Phoenix has no excuse for this rotten, ignorant transphobia when everything you need to be aware of how to talk about gender is a 10 minute YouTube video away. People really think they can just waltz into queer fiction with no knowledge or understanding of queer people and just write whatever they want. If you’re gonna have your male character disguise himself as a woman, you had better do the most cursory research on how to handle that in a way that isn’t insulting and invalidating to thousands of people.
But no, Nora Phoenix couldn’t be fucking bothered.
Indy “disguises” himself as a woman to hide from someone (some grim dark mobster abusive ex, of course) and is very concerned about everyone else “finding out,” which is understandable to an extent and also something plenty of women worry about. While he is making out with a stranger on the floor of a convenience store during an armed robbery (no, it didn’t make much sense in context either), he feels like he is “discovered” when he starts grinding his erection on the other guy. He’s convinced the other guy “knows” now. “Okay,” I’m thinking, “this could be fine. We haven’t run into too much blatant transphobia, just a lot of assuming that the other characters are transphobic. Which is a fair assumption of a total stranger who you’re sucking face with in upstate NY. I’ll give Nora Phoenix time to convince me that *she* doesn’t believe that dick = man.”
And the suck-face-stranger (MC2) seems to be doing a good job! He consistently “she”’s Indy and calls him “female”. Keep in mind Indy has introduced himself as a woman, has a license with his girl name and an “F” on it… like, he has made it abundantly and unequivocally clear that he’s a woman and no one has any non-transphobic reason to believe that Indy is not a woman at this point.
And then Indy is in the hospital and meets McDreamy (MC3 ofc) and is again very worried about being “found out”. At this point the lack of awareness of how a trans woman might feel in this situation is really starting to bother me. But I had to find out if the other characters were good about Indy’s gender! Like, it could be a fun twist if they truly are like “I mean yeah obviously Indy’s a girl” this whole time and Indy has to like, un-come-out. I assumed through much of the doctor examination scene that our McDreamy was being really careful and conscientious of Indy because he understood the difficult and precarious position of being a trans woman needing emergency medical care.
Welp.
Suck-face and McDreamy take Indy to their home when he’s released from the hospital (cuz that makes any sense) and *immediately* start he/him-ing Indy.
Now I’m fucking pissed. At *NO POINT* has Indy mentioned that actually he’s a dude disguising himself as a woman. All he’s done so far is get an erection, revealed he has a stuffed bra, use his deeper voice, and say “un-ladylike” things like “fuck” *massive eyeroll* .. oh yeah and mentioned enjoying football. NONE OF THESE THINGS MAKE YOU A MAN. Plenty of women get erections. Lots of women have low/deep/resonant voices. Many women have to stuff their bras. I have never met a women who didn’t say “fuck” and they can certainly enjoy football for FUCKS SAKE.
You had BEST NOT bring a random and intensely traumatized woman home from the hospital and immediately start calling her a “guy” and “he”. Wtf???!!!
I gave Ms Phoenix a little more time to make it up to me and prove that she has any trans competence.
It was a waste.
To start, she committed the unfortunately common and no less infuriating transphobic error of equating having a penis with being a man. MC3 mentions that MC2, although soft and feminine looking, had a big gorgeous dingaling that “proved beyond a doubt that he was a man”. FUCK ALL THE WAY OFF now you’ve insulted every trans person on the planet. Having a dick *does not make you a man*. People of many genders have dicks — including lots of women — and plenty of men don’t have dicks.
To make it worse, MC3 also briefly wondered about Indy’s gender. “What the hell was going on in Indy’s life that he felt the need to hide his gender and identity? It could be that he was transgender, gender neutral, or simply enjoyed cross-dressing”…. Um, Indy actually was *quite clear* about his gender this whole time, and as far as you know isn’t hiding *anything*. He has consistently referred to himself as a woman, and showed you his goddamned *license* ffs. There’s no reason to think he’s hiding anything! He’s been very clear to you from the start that he’s a woman!! Also referring to a human as “gender neutral” just feels like the ignorant topping on a this transphobic cake.
I’m out of here. I was hoping for some kind of discussion moment where Indy was like “I know u thought I was a woman but actually I’m in disguise” and everyone is like “oh wow yeah you told us u were a girl so I thought you were a girl” (cuz that’s actually how gender works, people!!!) but honestly I’m only likely to get the worst version of that convo, where they’re like “yeah I felt ur big hard dong and knew immediately that you were pretending to be a girl when really ur a guy.” THINK ABOUT HOW FUCKING BAD THAT SOUNDS, NORA PHOENIX, FOR ONE FUCKING SECOND, BEFORE YOU WRITE A WHOLE BOOK ABOUT IT. What the fuck are ignorant transphobic authors doing writing queer romance?? *looks around at the rampant transphobia in mm romance* sigh. Why do I even bother?