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Not Really: The Devastating Feeling of Never Arriving and the Truth Behind It
Are we slaves or do we enslave ourselves?
Gordon is a middle manager in an international grocery store in Japan. He’s working very hard to prove his worth, but the world doesn’t seem to respond. Drowning his misery in alcohol, he desperately tries to find love while his career is taking unexpected turns. He aspires to be whole, but all he can think of is his fear of not being enough. Shame is penetrating every hour of his existence and the harder he tries to escape, the more problems he invites into his life. He’s captivated by a story nobody ever tried to challenge, and in his quest for the truth, he realizes a new beginning is often tied to a painful end.
Not Really consists of two parts. The first tells the tale of a hard-working loser, the second tries to explain why everything in life depends on the story we tell ourselves. By utilizing sociological, psychological, philosophical, and other ways of thinking, the book explores the workings behind our reality, how we can shift from being to becoming and why life will always be a compromise.
Gordon is a middle manager in an international grocery store in Japan. He’s working very hard to prove his worth, but the world doesn’t seem to respond. Drowning his misery in alcohol, he desperately tries to find love while his career is taking unexpected turns. He aspires to be whole, but all he can think of is his fear of not being enough. Shame is penetrating every hour of his existence and the harder he tries to escape, the more problems he invites into his life. He’s captivated by a story nobody ever tried to challenge, and in his quest for the truth, he realizes a new beginning is often tied to a painful end.
Not Really consists of two parts. The first tells the tale of a hard-working loser, the second tries to explain why everything in life depends on the story we tell ourselves. By utilizing sociological, psychological, philosophical, and other ways of thinking, the book explores the workings behind our reality, how we can shift from being to becoming and why life will always be a compromise.
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339 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 6, 2021
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November 27, 2021
Gordon is a Japanese big Company manager, he has a little overweight that affects his self esteem in some way. Is a great person who tries hardly to pleased and be successful on his position.
Most of whatever he do, is questioned or is “ok” but could be better.
On his meetings he try to support logically his decision’s but always is going to be something wrong.
His refugee for this suppose failings was alcohol, where he tried to minimize the failures and blames that he bought from his boss and that make feel more like a victim and lower more his self esteem.
He touch the deepest feelings of failure’s, loss his job and had to start again from nothing. The author show us the way he need to follow in order to get success again. Get the point that he reaches his goal but after a long time of try’s and failures.
On the second part the author shows us a wide open hand view; philosophical, psychological, sociological analysis what invite us to find new ways to get a better world.
I fully recommend it’s reading to whoever wants to question the way of life that we are having on this days. I really underline a lot of quotes and I think if a read it again I’ll find some more, it’s up to my moment of life… I love it and I’m looking forward for new publication’s . I would like this one to be translated to other languages.
Congrats!!! is a great book.
Ps. Ask for your comprehension if I have mistakes on my written. I’m not Native English speaker.
Most of whatever he do, is questioned or is “ok” but could be better.
On his meetings he try to support logically his decision’s but always is going to be something wrong.
His refugee for this suppose failings was alcohol, where he tried to minimize the failures and blames that he bought from his boss and that make feel more like a victim and lower more his self esteem.
He touch the deepest feelings of failure’s, loss his job and had to start again from nothing. The author show us the way he need to follow in order to get success again. Get the point that he reaches his goal but after a long time of try’s and failures.
On the second part the author shows us a wide open hand view; philosophical, psychological, sociological analysis what invite us to find new ways to get a better world.
I fully recommend it’s reading to whoever wants to question the way of life that we are having on this days. I really underline a lot of quotes and I think if a read it again I’ll find some more, it’s up to my moment of life… I love it and I’m looking forward for new publication’s . I would like this one to be translated to other languages.
Congrats!!! is a great book.
Ps. Ask for your comprehension if I have mistakes on my written. I’m not Native English speaker.
September 14, 2021
This book is a slow burn that explores the theme of culture, humanity, and ones place in this world, amongst other things. This story has a very broad scope that is hard to condense in very few words. "If money equals happiness, happiness is lost" is one theme among many that the author explores. Indeed, author Stefan Eberhard is a very deep thinker and this book is an exhaustive read that cannot be completed in a single sitting. One needs to read this book in snippet portions and allow his thoughts to sink deep into the soul.
September 14, 2021
Interesting read
September 21, 2021
Interesting and great read, I really enjoyed it.
November 6, 2021
This was such a surprising read which pulls you in and will keep you there until you reach the end. You will be unable to put it down until you reach the very last page
January 11, 2022
Gordon is a manager of a large Japanese company, he is a little overweight that affects his self-esteem in some way. He is a great person who strives to please everyone and be successful in his role.
Most of what he does is questioned and "okay," but could be better.
In his meetings, he try to logically bear his decisions, but something will always go wrong.
He takes refuge in alcohol, trying to minimize the faults and blame attributed to him by his boss and that made him feel more victimized and lowered his self-esteem.
He touched the deepest feelings of failure, lost his job, and had to start from scratch. The author shows us the path to follow in order to be successful again. Get the point that you reach your goal but after a long time of attempts and failures.
In the second part the author shows us a more open vision, philosophical, psychological, sociological analyzes that invite us to find new ways to achieve a better world.
I fully recommend reading it to anyone who wants to question the way of life we are having these days. I really underlined a lot of quotes and I think if I read it again I will find more; It depends on the moment of life in which I am… I love it and I look forward to new publications. I would like this to be translated into other languages.
Most of what he does is questioned and "okay," but could be better.
In his meetings, he try to logically bear his decisions, but something will always go wrong.
He takes refuge in alcohol, trying to minimize the faults and blame attributed to him by his boss and that made him feel more victimized and lowered his self-esteem.
He touched the deepest feelings of failure, lost his job, and had to start from scratch. The author shows us the path to follow in order to be successful again. Get the point that you reach your goal but after a long time of attempts and failures.
In the second part the author shows us a more open vision, philosophical, psychological, sociological analyzes that invite us to find new ways to achieve a better world.
I fully recommend reading it to anyone who wants to question the way of life we are having these days. I really underlined a lot of quotes and I think if I read it again I will find more; It depends on the moment of life in which I am… I love it and I look forward to new publications. I would like this to be translated into other languages.
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