Struggling to let go of negative emotions? Discover a step-by-step process to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Weighed down by negativity? Are painful emotions keeping you from doing the things you love? Author and founder of WhatIsPersonalDevelopment.org Thibaut Meurisse wants to help you take back your life. Through his latest book, you
The guy (quoting other authors doesn’t make one an author) did a little research on emotions by reading other self help books and watching TED talks on Youtube and shared a few nuggets of wisdom he learned.
The book is only half written and hardly edited. The title is misleading. There’s almost no insights on how emotions work, or references to scientific literature. He throws out an idea and then literally says: “if you want to know more, search “topic X” on YouTube.” Sorry, but I paid for this book, so you better explain everything you learned from that video yourself, you lazy sod!
The ideas are nothing new or grand either - stop creating problems in your mind, sleep well, exercise and reprogram yourself to be happy. Brilliant, Sherlock! Absolutely brilliant!He constantly contradicts himself and repeats the same cliché ideas over and over again to fill the pages but never really puts an effort into more detailed discussion of any zillion things he mentions.
Anyway, I’m still glad I read this book - there are some good points in it that he copy-pasted from more insightful books from serious authors who actually have a deep level of knowledge on the subject.
I would recommend this book to people who very much like simple books without much depth.
I started reading this because it was free on Amazon Prime and I love any good self-improvement book. I even printed out the workbook to go along with it; I was dedicated. I slogged through at least the first third of it before I finally gave up.
The advice in this book was so basic that I felt like the author was insulting my intelligence. This is not an actual quote, but it read almost like, "Are you sad? Try going outside or listening to music! Are you mad? Try to calm down and think before acting on it." Like. Is this written for lizard people trying to blend into society? Anyone who has taken even a MOMENT to think about their emotions knows what this book is saying. I found myself groaning with each new piece of advice. No idea why this has such high ratings.
Read this on a whim because it was free on Kindle Unlimited.
As someone who finds himself sometimes overwhelmed by their emotions. Mainly worriness or nervousness, I thought I might give this book a chance.
The layout of the book is great. Each chapter focuses on a different problem that is created by your emotions this may be jealousy, fear of unknown, anxiety and etc... Chapter starts out as to why emotions have something to do with this and how to combat it with some direct actions.
I haven't applied everything I learned in this book but a lot of it seems useful.
There also isn't some ground breaking technique or info in this book. It is very basic imo but it is simple and a fast read. Basic things such as distracting yourself to stop a negative emotion for a short term is a strategy. Then there is a long term strategy to let go of those negative emotions. Such as asking questions why you feel that way and what are the things that bring out those negative emotions out of you.
Anyone who has read a self help book will find many similar mantras(self affirmation, positive thinking, zen quotes etc) and many actually the author quotes from other self help books. One thing that stood out to me is how the author states how important emotions are because emotions = thoughts = action. But also states we give our emotions too much importance especially the negative ones. Also there isn't any pseudo science here of be happy 24 hour. He states we might over dramatize negative emotions but they are important to also know something is wrong.
Good read. I took a lot of notes and will try to use them in the future and see if it helps me.
I mainly struggle with procastination, shyness and getting out of my comfort zone. I will update this if any of the tips do help me.
To be honest, this did nothing for me in the grand scheme of things. One cannot master ones emotions, control them perhaps, yet everyone has the predisposition to fly off the handle from time to time, so really this becomes redundant very quickly in my opinion...
Interesting book that tells you how to deal with your emotions. One of the best quote that I love from this book is 'you are not your emotion'. So you are not angry you just feel angry. Emotion comes and goes.
A book I'll read again. Most self help is blah blah blah this book legit. This isn't a book it's a lighthouse.
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How you feel the determins of quality of your life Most rejections are no big deal One life doesn't play out to your personal story you get upset Emotions always come and go but I remain I'm feeling mildly depressed due to a lack of results Negative issues exist only in your mind Don't let your mind over dramatize things buy clustering unrelated issues What you don't focus on doesn't exist Light from screens can miss cue the brain at night Do you give up when you encounter your first major setback? Do you believe her for a reason or do you wander through life without any clear purpose? Do you believe problems are bad or they are a necessary part of life? Write down one or two emotional problems you currently have What differentiates people who have a happy life from people who are miserable is often how they choose to interpret their lives What would I need to believe for my story to be true? Come see me for the best f****** deal possible Have a couple of naps throughout the day as necessary After 5 mins your mood elevates with excecise A messy desk can be demotivating Don't forget to breathe for energy What emotional clothes are you wearing right now? Release your emotions and declutter them To start letting go of your emotions you must first become aware of them Get more in touch with your body Each thought or image crossing your mind isn't your isn't necessarily true Observe your emotions with detachment I'm not sad I'm experiencing a feeling of sadness The more you distance yourself from your emotions the easier it will be for you to label them and detach yourself from them I feel not good enough Let go of the victim mentality Let go of the pride that says the world needs to be changed I struggle with procrastination and experience guilt and shame Could I let this feeling go would I and when? I have positive expectation Deposit positive thoughts in your mind People with low self-esteem disem barb their mind with disempowering thoughts Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect If you can do the things you don't feel like doing you'll have everything you ever wanted Give yourself 5 seconds you have 5 seconds to send the email talk to the person etc etc Emotional suffering tells you something is wrong with your mind The need to be Right stems from your desire to protect your story or your ego In every LIE there's a kernal of Truth The truth is stress doesn't exist outside of yourself but you probably experience stress on a regular basis and probably more often than you would like to Sort out your worries and label them things you have control over and things you don't and things you sort of have control over some control no control right down things you can do concrete actions to take control over them to relieve the pain Can you Let go of your need to control them and stud except them Take 100% responsibility for your stress and worries How on Earth can another's thought about you harm you? It is your thought about his thought that harms? Change your thought... Change your perception of how people perceive you Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies it just won't work Resentment is here to tell you that you must love yourself and value your peace of mind more than anything else Resentment is a poison you consented to drink Non-clinical depression occurs when you're not where you want to be in life you've lost any hope to ever be and you can't accept it depression results from feeling hopeless and one or several areas of your life I've had fear of not being able to sustain My success with all the pressure on my shoulders Even the most successful people on Earth feel fear What is one thing I should be doing but fear has made me procrastinate over? Afraid they'll do a poor job people procrastinate What does procrastination cost you? How does it affect your peace of mind your self-esteem your ability to achieve your dreams? The more you're sick and tired of procrastination the more likely you will be to actually do something about it What are you telling yourself? If you keep putting off tasks you'll begin to lose motivation and eventually feel stuck without even knowing why Start becoming aware of your excuses write them down and address them one by one they control you because you let them... Commit to addressing them If you like motivation you're probably out of touch with the essence of who you are Touch people at an emotional level sales If you feel overwhelmed you probably have too many open loops in your life or from procrastinating on a major task Identify all the tests that need to be done identify one task that you've been putting off complete that task Breaking the chain of low self-esteem
This book gives a mildly interesting perspective of treating emotions. Treat emotion as a temporary visitor in your mind where they come and go but you still remain. Hence, be mindful enough to treat it literally like a visitor and not so seriously. Just as Rudyard Kipling says in 'If' - 'if you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those imposters just the same'. I'd say if we can treat the positive and negative emotions the same, then you've got a deal.
My fav quote from the book is 'some people die at 25 and aren't buried until 75'.
Also, the author contradicts his own POV on problems by first stating 'problems don't exist' and then saying 'everybody has problems'. While I understand the latter is accurate, it was confusing to read the back and forth perceptions by the writer. It almost feels like he is saying the same thing again and again - how emotions are formed, how to be aware, let go, deal with negative emotions etc. The author writes about a zillion things to do which I will neither remember nor action. He could have been more focused in his writing as opposed to just saying it all to fill pages of the book.
Overall, the intent was right but the execution got lost mid way. The best part about reading books is getting recommendations to read other insightful books (next up is Nick Vujicic's Life Without Limits) . The 1 line message I got from this book is 'you are constantly choosing' whatever that choice might be.
I picked up this book, as I was going through my hard time in dealing with humans around me. We've never really been taught to control our emotions. However, controlling emotions is significant in turning our lives magical or miserable.
We should reprogram our brain when one criticises us and limit our own assumptions to go with reality. Sometimes our addictions can rob our happiness so we tend to pay less attention to other things by which we ruin our lives by ourselves. Hedonic adaptation occurs when one postpones one's happiness to the time till he achieves his first goal.
Doing exercise and doing our favorite things helps us lift our moods. Negative events can serve as a wake up call, they do not act as a hindrance in attaining success. We need to take them as experience and learn from them. They help us to experience and learn something about ourselves.
This manual is full of positivity, shows the association between our emotional state and the external environment. It guides us in dealing with negative emotions which can be converted to personal growth. An exercise is present at the end of every chapter. It's clear to know that the author had referred to various other sources and confined them in the book which makes it all helpful for individuals who love nonfiction.
Most parts of the book is already repeated in the other books in the series so it wasn’t like a new read as I read one book before this one. Not much difference is there.
God, I feel like an asshole whenever I put a somewhat negative review.
That aside, this book didn't really do it for me. As with all self-help books, there were a few nuggets of wisdom that stood out to me from others within its genre, but in this case they weren't explained in a cohesive manner. I think there's a lot of value in detaching yourself from the idea of your immediate thoughts and emotions (?) being an ego inclined to defensiveness and rash action in the pursuit of self-preservation, but it was frankly poorly explored. It could have been the saving grace of this book if it became the big idea.
The writer's intentions appear to be good, but through his several anecdotes on his struggle with writing and finding his career as a self-help guru, the inefficient execution/written style uncovers its roots. I find that he really under-valued the importance of delivery in his message under the message itself.
However, it's worth acknowledging several notable merits of the work. The organization and thorough sectioning would allow for easy reference if a reader finds it helpful enough to refer back to in times of strong negative emotion, and there is a solid attempt to translate his philosophy on handling emotion to real life through provided worksheets.
One of the most life-changing creations of Thibaut Meurisse. This has totally changed the way I think and feel when I’m anxious, stressed and depressed. As always, I appreciate you putting all of the master series, Thibaut!
I’d recommend this if your feeling a bit flat and demotivated
I read this book as I was feeling pretty down in the dumps and I could understand why, the book is well written and not overly serious. I finished it in a few days.
The key points were the author helps you to get inside your mind areas where you just need a little push.
The paragraphs on motivation and depression were especially good as these areas affect a lot of us, the Author helps to think about what’s going on and to give you that push to realise it can get easier if you think about it differently.
I got this free on kindle unlimited but I would pay for the book and I think I’ll read over it again in a few weeks.
✨ "Your emotions are here to guide you. Learn as much as you can from them, and then let them go. Don't cling to them as if your existence depends on them. It doesn't. Don't identify with them as though they define you. They don't. Instead, use your emotions to grow and remember, you are beyond emotions. How could you not be? They come and go, but you stay. Always."
Makes some good points, such as how we feel emotions but we are not our emotions. The book also emphasises that often it's our interpretation of events and not the event itself that is causing negative emotions.
Another aspect that stuck with me is the likening of emotional pain to physical pain, in that both are a signal for us to do something about our current situation: "Perhaps, you need to let go of some people, quit your job, or remove a disempowering story that creates suffering in your life."
However, the overall contents of this book are not really relevant or specific to what I'm going through right now. It feels like there's a lot of over-generalisation but so much of life is greyness and not everything is so straightforward.
It’s the most practical Guide to Mastering Your Emotions.
The author, Thibaut Meurisse presents a variety of strategies to help you cope with negative emotions, and stress, and to help focus your mind on more positive emotions.
As one who has a tendency of going through my emotions of overthinking things that are WAY out of my control, letting resentment build-up, and procrastination, this book was the perfect refresher that I needed and you could benefit from it as well.
Master Your Emotions provides you with ways to deal with your negative emotions so that you can live a much happier, and more fulfilling life.
The book is packed with exercises that feature specific examples of all types of emotions that one goes through, that will have an immediate, and positive impact on your emotional state.
It really is a great starter for someone that is beginning their journey into reading self-help books as this really covers all of the basics.
This book can help you understand what emotions are, what impacts your emotions, how to change your emotions, and how to use your emotions to grow.
Just like any self-help book, if you take action from what you read, you will see positive change in your life.
Also what helps is that there is a step-by-step workbook to go along with the book that the author pushes you to do as you read. It’s great!
I thoroughly enjoy this book, from cover to cover. A lot of books in the self-help area talk about emotions and how you are affected by them, but never, truly go into as much detail as Master Your Emotions did. I love how this book is clear and straight to the point– there isn’t random fluff.
If you are someone who struggles to deal with your negative emotions or want to learn how your emotions function and how you can actually use them as a tool for your own growth, this book is just for you.
Please. Humans. Do yourselves a favor and skip this one. At best the author is glossing over very important and useful material and methods. But the book is also full of misinformation, and gross oversimplifications. It's not actually within our capacity as humans to "manage your feelings." All we can do is manage our perceptions (framing) about what our feelings are telling us. Meurisse's discussions about our ego are grossly oversimplified and misleading. If you really want to understand this important topic and learn truly healthy ways of recognizing when your ego is getting in your way, and how to recognize and use your emotions to guide your life (rather than suppressing them and causing all kinds of side effects), do yourself a huge favor and read "Bonds That Make Us Free" to start learning how to not deceive ourselves, followed by "The Surrender Experiment" and "The Power of Now" along with "The Law of Attraction" and "The Astonishing Power of Emotions". Also highly recommended are "The Way of Integrity", "Loving What Is" and "Emotional Agility." There just aren't any quick fixes for this, people! We are simply too complex, and our challenges are far too complex for the oversimplified methods Meurisse is touting! There is hope, though! Put in the effort and the rewards are HUGE!
4🌟 Primer libro de este tipo que leo. Al dar a luz a mi bebé empecé a experimentar un poco de ansiedad y depresión, siempre e sabído que estás sensaciónes las controla la mente, por eso cuando ví este libro me anime a leerlo y todo lo que dice es real y correcto. Te ayuda a comprender como funciona la mente y como sacar provecho siempre de las cosas. Lo recomiendo.
Master Your Emotions is an insightful and practical guidebook that provides valuable tools and techniques to help readers overcome negativity and effectively manage their feelings. Authored with clarity and simplicity, this book offers accessible strategies that anyone can implement to enhance emotional well-being.
The author begins by emphasizing the importance of recognizing and understanding one's own emotions. Through anecdotes and relatable examples, readers are encouraged to develop self-awareness and identify the root causes of their negative feelings. By acknowledging and accepting their emotions, individuals can take the first step toward positive change.
One of the key principles outlined in the book is the practice of gratitude. The author highlights the transformative power of gratitude in shifting focus from negativity to appreciation. By cultivating a mindset of gratitude, readers learn to recognize the abundance in their lives and experience increased happiness and fulfillment.
Furthermore, Master Your Emotions underscores the significance of mindfulness and deep breathing techniques in managing emotions. Through simple exercises and guided meditations, readers are taught how to stay present in the moment and alleviate stress and anxiety. The practice of mindfulness enables individuals to respond to challenging situations with clarity and composure.
The book emphasizes the importance of effective communication in navigating emotions. By encouraging open and honest dialogue with trusted individuals, readers learn to express their feelings constructively and seek support when needed. The author emphasizes the value of building strong connections with others to foster emotional resilience and well-being.
Throughout Master Your Emotions, the author presents a series of practical exercises and action steps that readers can implement in their daily lives. From journaling prompts to relaxation techniques, each tool is designed to empower individuals to take control of their emotions and lead a more fulfilling life.
This book is a comprehensive and empowering guidebook for anyone seeking to overcome negativity and cultivate emotional balance. With its practical insights and actionable advice, this book serves as a valuable resource for personal growth and transformation.
Your emotions are influenced by more than just your survival mechanism. Your ego has a significant impact on how you feel. To have better control over your emotions, you must first comprehend what your ego is and how it functions. Your ability to comprehend how your ego functions is determined by your level of self-awareness.
Master Your Emotions is your 'how-to' manual to improve your emotional state. With the help of this personal workbook, you'll be able to integrate the lessons from the book more deeply. As a result, you'll start regaining control over your emotions, which will help you become happier and more optimistic.
The Master Your Emotions Personal Workbook will help you: Develop a better understanding of how emotions work Identify the behaviors and activities that negatively affect your mood Replace negative emotions with positive ones And much more.
I would not recommend this book. It looked promising at first, but in my opinion used a lot of dangerous rhetoric around mental health. It was repetitive and seemed to mostly utilize common sense, continual quoting of other researchers’ findings in a non-applicable way, and each chapter in the book circularly referenced other chapters in the book. I felt that it could have been much more concise.
Not going to lie, at first at the beginning of this book I was like ehhh. As I continue to read the book and got to the part where he went into each emotional state. The depths of how to handle depression, jealousy, etc caught my attention. I also enjoyed the journaling prompts at the end of each chapter.
If you're looking, I mean truly looking to master your emotions and become a better you. Then read this book.
I was surprised by this book, because I was expecting it to be a common reading. However, the author presented simple but at the same time well described ideas, reasons why we do what we do. Besides, he could keep clear ideas and exercises to be done to better understand our reasons and to better work with our emotions. I would definitely recommend this book and I think it is worth reading it again.
A good book that can help you to manage your emotions better! It's a simple written and you can read it in few days, what is an plus. It's not something very original, but which relatively new self-improvement book is? One idea what I like from this book is that ,,we are not our emotions", and i can't agree more, we need to overcome our negative thoughts and don't allow them to control our life.
It's not a completely bad book, but the few ideas that are useful are kind of obvious and more importantly are lost among vast amounts of irrelevant information. The author tries to cover as many topics as possible, from Depression to Procrastination, which does not do this book any good.
This was an easy read and I really connected with it. The exercises were helpful and thought provoking. I will be revisiting this book when I need reminders on handling my emotions in a way for me to grow rather than digress. Would recommend!