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Majd lesz időd magadra, amikor a gyerek alszik
Suzy és Demi gondtalanul élték húszas éveiket. Jól érezték magukat, nem kellett nagy döntéseket hozniuk. Aztán egy nap elhatározták, hogy gyereket vállalnak. Viszlát, lusta hétvégék, üdv nektek, álmatlan éjszakák, viták és ipari mennyiségű csoki! A nagy életmódváltás közepette Suzy rájött, hogy a legtöbb szülőknek szóló tanács enyhén szólva fenntartással kezelendő. De leginkább semmire se megy velük az ember.
1. Az újszülöttek állandóan alszanak
2. A szoptatás alatt könnyebben lefogysz
3. A második terhességnél már minden sokkal egyszerűbb
4. Az első év után jobban élvezed majd
Suzy K. Quinn, New York Times bestsellerszerző kíméletlen igazságai hamar célba találnak. A szülőség számos oldalát mutatja be, a szép mellett a kihívásokkal telit is, és valamennyi olvasónak segítséget nyújthat a szemléletével, a tökéletes szülő mítoszának elengedésével. Bátran kijelenthetjük, hogy leplezetlen őszinteségével és humorával szülők ezreinek kedvence lett. Szórakoztató sikerkönyve végre magyarul is megjelenik.
1. Az újszülöttek állandóan alszanak
2. A szoptatás alatt könnyebben lefogysz
3. A második terhességnél már minden sokkal egyszerűbb
4. Az első év után jobban élvezed majd
Suzy K. Quinn, New York Times bestsellerszerző kíméletlen igazságai hamar célba találnak. A szülőség számos oldalát mutatja be, a szép mellett a kihívásokkal telit is, és valamennyi olvasónak segítséget nyújthat a szemléletével, a tökéletes szülő mítoszának elengedésével. Bátran kijelenthetjük, hogy leplezetlen őszinteségével és humorával szülők ezreinek kedvence lett. Szórakoztató sikerkönyve végre magyarul is megjelenik.
304 pages, Hardcover
Published January 1, 2020
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Suzy K. Quinn
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Suzy K Quinn writes romantic comedy / rom com books / cozy mystery and has sold over 1 million books worldwide. She is a bestseller in the UK, US and Germany and has plans for total world domination with more feel-good books (bestsellers, obviously) in the near future. Her books exist in the space between Jojo Moyes, Richard Osman and the Midnight Library.
Suzy lives in Wivenhoe, Essex, with her husband Demi and two daughters. She is a twin, an incompetent parent of two and now fully decaffeinated. Her twin sister, Cate Quinn, is also a bestseller author. When she's not writing, she is reading rom coms and cozy mysteries.
Suzy loves her readers and is ALWAYS happy to chat on social media - she's @suzykquinn on all the socials. You can also get a free book at her website.
Suzy K Quinn writes romantic comedy / rom com books / cozy mystery and has sold over 1 million books worldwide. She is a bestseller in the UK, US and Germany and has plans for total world domination with more feel-good books (bestsellers, obviously) in the near future. Her books exist in the space between Jojo Moyes, Richard Osman and the Midnight Library.
Suzy lives in Wivenhoe, Essex, with her husband Demi and two daughters. She is a twin, an incompetent parent of two and now fully decaffeinated. Her twin sister, Cate Quinn, is also a bestseller author. When she's not writing, she is reading rom coms and cozy mysteries.
Suzy loves her readers and is ALWAYS happy to chat on social media - she's @suzykquinn on all the socials. You can also get a free book at her website.
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August 20, 2019
I really loved this book, it was hilarious! I love books that I feel like I can relate to and that stir up emotions in me and this book definitely did that. Right off the bat it had me with tears in my eyes and feeling a sense of belonging and understanding. I don't know how many times I have cried these things to my husband. Why do we tell mothers these lies? It does nothing at all to help them, only leaves them feeling alone and isolated. It was written with the perfect amount of humor to be really funny but still very real and serious. I love that she has shared all of these stories with us. And I really liked the random comments her husband inserted, they always made me laugh and I would have like even more of them.
Definitely recommend this book to all of the parents out there! However, if you are not a parent I really don't think you would get much of the humor and probably would not enjoy it.
I received and ARC of this book through Netgalley and Lake Union Publishing. Thank you!
Definitely recommend this book to all of the parents out there! However, if you are not a parent I really don't think you would get much of the humor and probably would not enjoy it.
I received and ARC of this book through Netgalley and Lake Union Publishing. Thank you!
November 22, 2020
This book is a tongue in cheek debunking of phrases that are used for 'mums'. Things such as 'your baby will let you know what it needs' or 'pregnancy is such a special time' - LOL!!
Suzy Quinn gives a warts and all account of her experience with pregnancy, childbirth, managing (or not) a newborn and then going all through it a second time. Her delightful partner Demi has 'footnotes' throughout the book explaining and sometimes defending himself.
There are some real LOL moments in this book as she grapples with 'parenthood' with all of its ups and downs (downs being more than where your boobs point after feeding a baby for months).
If you have had your family then you will laugh along with her, if you are yet to have kids this book could prove to be a very effective contraceptive!
Suzy Quinn gives a warts and all account of her experience with pregnancy, childbirth, managing (or not) a newborn and then going all through it a second time. Her delightful partner Demi has 'footnotes' throughout the book explaining and sometimes defending himself.
There are some real LOL moments in this book as she grapples with 'parenthood' with all of its ups and downs (downs being more than where your boobs point after feeding a baby for months).
If you have had your family then you will laugh along with her, if you are yet to have kids this book could prove to be a very effective contraceptive!
November 2, 2024
Funny and insightful journey of bestselling author Suzy Quinn’s experience into motherhood. The ups and downs are revealed with full disclosure balanced with copious amounts of hot chocolate and whether the author feels she is doing a good job.
I love this author’s voice and her humor is fantastic. I laughed at the parts where Suzy and Demi struggle not only to cope with the challenges of their lives irrevocably changing forever and Suzy’s intake of hot chocolate which appears to be turning into an addiction and empathizing with the struggles of breastfeeding, permanent body changes and dealing with home issues like mold and moving to a new location entirely.
Just when Suzy and Demi have their lives situated into a semblance of normal routine, it’s time to have another baby! The lies mothers are told continue, but ultimately Suzy and Demi get a grasp on managing and come out happy families in the end.
My Final Verdict: I’m not usually a fan of non-fiction or memoirs, but this one was fantastic! This is the first time I have read this author and she is one to be on the lookout for. Her humor had me laughing, almost guffawing until tears rolled down my cheeks. Becoming a parent isn’t a decision one should make lightly, and Suzy and Demi find out the hard way. I highly recommend this book to parents for the advice and non-parents for the entertainment.
Thank you to the publisher, Lake Union Publishing, who provided an advance reader copy via NetGalley.
I love this author’s voice and her humor is fantastic. I laughed at the parts where Suzy and Demi struggle not only to cope with the challenges of their lives irrevocably changing forever and Suzy’s intake of hot chocolate which appears to be turning into an addiction and empathizing with the struggles of breastfeeding, permanent body changes and dealing with home issues like mold and moving to a new location entirely.
Just when Suzy and Demi have their lives situated into a semblance of normal routine, it’s time to have another baby! The lies mothers are told continue, but ultimately Suzy and Demi get a grasp on managing and come out happy families in the end.
My Final Verdict: I’m not usually a fan of non-fiction or memoirs, but this one was fantastic! This is the first time I have read this author and she is one to be on the lookout for. Her humor had me laughing, almost guffawing until tears rolled down my cheeks. Becoming a parent isn’t a decision one should make lightly, and Suzy and Demi find out the hard way. I highly recommend this book to parents for the advice and non-parents for the entertainment.
Thank you to the publisher, Lake Union Publishing, who provided an advance reader copy via NetGalley.
August 12, 2019
I engaged with this true story as my own daughter when she was baby was always crying, and had to be fed every 3 hours. A delightful book with Suzy Quinn explaining what its like to have a baby. Suzy Quinn had a baby that had to be fed more frequently than every three hours. I have to admire Suzy's husband who was fully supportive helping out as much as he could, unlike my ex husband who would demand shut that baby up! Open this window and where is my dinner? Phone going answer it, and then he would shout to me someone is at door, open it!. When my baby was just a few months old I left him and never went back to him.
July 14, 2019
Brilliant, funny, real!
LOVED this book. So funny and so real, there is something in there that every mum can relate to. Parenting is a journey indeed. I've read and mothers diary too and enjoyed that so now will be searching Amazon for more by this author.
LOVED this book. So funny and so real, there is something in there that every mum can relate to. Parenting is a journey indeed. I've read and mothers diary too and enjoyed that so now will be searching Amazon for more by this author.
October 10, 2019
Great laugh out loud book about motherhood and all that comes with it
August 4, 2019
I’m just amazed how many positive reviews this book has when I thought it was entirely negative, slightly delusional and nothing to do with the ‘lies’ that are each chapters title (eg baby led weaning is hard?? It’s not even discussed!)
As a new mum myself, this was one of the first books I’ve taken time to read and honestly, I feel it’s been a waste of a few precious hours-it just made me incredibly annoyed. It’s self indulgent, shows the complete immaturity of the writer and suggests that perhaps she has PND for a lot longer than ‘months’. It’s not a reflection of real life with a baby and could have been written to actually tackle some of the lies we ARE told, or the challenges we face. This is written from the perspective that all difficulties relate to losing the life of a drinking, partying 20-something rather than the actual challenges (eg such as the frantic panic of how much to pack in when you get precious 30-minutes to yourself....)
Yes raising a baby is hard, yes it changes your life but it’s also a privilege and if your focus is that you just want to get back to drinking every night, perhaps you didn’t actually want a baby at that time in your life.
Some people spend a lifetime trying for babies they are absolutely desperate for and are willing to give up anything for, so the authors focus on wanting to get back to festivals as a priority? I found it incredibly irritating.
Also, the take home message appears to be you’ll only be happy when you have all the ‘stuff’ (car, big house, new kitchen, life in the country...). It makes me incredibly sad. I’m grateful for the little boy in my arms and I know most mothers would say the same. I’ve yet to come across one whose main complaint is they lost their body shape, can’t wear neon and want to get drunk every night 🙄
As a new mum myself, this was one of the first books I’ve taken time to read and honestly, I feel it’s been a waste of a few precious hours-it just made me incredibly annoyed. It’s self indulgent, shows the complete immaturity of the writer and suggests that perhaps she has PND for a lot longer than ‘months’. It’s not a reflection of real life with a baby and could have been written to actually tackle some of the lies we ARE told, or the challenges we face. This is written from the perspective that all difficulties relate to losing the life of a drinking, partying 20-something rather than the actual challenges (eg such as the frantic panic of how much to pack in when you get precious 30-minutes to yourself....)
Yes raising a baby is hard, yes it changes your life but it’s also a privilege and if your focus is that you just want to get back to drinking every night, perhaps you didn’t actually want a baby at that time in your life.
Some people spend a lifetime trying for babies they are absolutely desperate for and are willing to give up anything for, so the authors focus on wanting to get back to festivals as a priority? I found it incredibly irritating.
Also, the take home message appears to be you’ll only be happy when you have all the ‘stuff’ (car, big house, new kitchen, life in the country...). It makes me incredibly sad. I’m grateful for the little boy in my arms and I know most mothers would say the same. I’ve yet to come across one whose main complaint is they lost their body shape, can’t wear neon and want to get drunk every night 🙄
July 13, 2019
You showed them
Excellent loved it we all feel like that but are afraid to say it because of what people will think.
Excellent loved it we all feel like that but are afraid to say it because of what people will think.
July 11, 2019
This book was hilarious!
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February 13, 2022Read 10% of this and was mildly irritated by the author’s apparent inability to write a paragraph containing more than two sentences, and generally immune to the charms of the author’s voice.
July 2, 2019
Witty, funny and so true to life! I absolutely loved it
February 14, 2021
Hilarious. I could relate to so much of this. It was clever how each chapter was a 'lie' that we tell mothers, yet still followed a chronological timeline of the author's experience. Lots of laughs. This author writes very well. I've already recommended this to a few of my 'mum friends'.
November 13, 2019
Now, I'm someone who doesnt have kids... but I absolutely loved this book! It was so funny and charming and I love how open and honest Suzy was about her life! Although, I'm sure at regular intervals throughout this book, I decided that I definitely dont want children! Haha
July 4, 2019
Funny and relatable
I read this for nostalgia around my eldest 12th birthday and loved every page. It reminded me of the expectations around pregnancy and childbirth and how the reality never matched up, but was delivered with humour and warmth. The overriding message is that you wouldn't have it any other way, once the baby years are over, I forgot how harrowing it can be in the thick of it. As I mourn the end of another stage of my child's life, as they enter high school, this book was timely to remind me that each stage gets better, not necessarily easier but with acceptance and gratitude for what is, it gets better.
I read this for nostalgia around my eldest 12th birthday and loved every page. It reminded me of the expectations around pregnancy and childbirth and how the reality never matched up, but was delivered with humour and warmth. The overriding message is that you wouldn't have it any other way, once the baby years are over, I forgot how harrowing it can be in the thick of it. As I mourn the end of another stage of my child's life, as they enter high school, this book was timely to remind me that each stage gets better, not necessarily easier but with acceptance and gratitude for what is, it gets better.
July 5, 2019
Excellent. Again!
Suzy is s lovely writer who is not afraid to say what the rest of us are thinking! Her books appeal to many types of readers; and I should know, thrillers and romance are not normally on my t.b.r (to be read) list, but when Suzy releases a book I read it in record time! She is so lovely on her Facebook page.and really.does.take the time.to read each comment and review. As long as Suzy keeps writing, I will continue to read her books.
Suzy is s lovely writer who is not afraid to say what the rest of us are thinking! Her books appeal to many types of readers; and I should know, thrillers and romance are not normally on my t.b.r (to be read) list, but when Suzy releases a book I read it in record time! She is so lovely on her Facebook page.and really.does.take the time.to read each comment and review. As long as Suzy keeps writing, I will continue to read her books.
July 27, 2019
Funny and honest - as a woman with a six week old, I've already been told many of the "lies" that Suzy K. Quinn debunks in Lies We Tell Mothers by detailing her own experience - and having someone tell it like it is is a massive help, as well as giving hope that one does eventually come out the other side. Laugh out loud funny at times, as well as being surprisingly poignant about the struggles that come with remaking one's identity.
October 15, 2019
This was so relatable, took me back to the early days with my children when I was struggling. A good honest portrayal of the changes parenthood brings to your previously orderly life.
March 4, 2020
Haha, good read. Funny. Witty. Engaging. But a little bit, like, seriously, did you not think this baby thing through??
April 24, 2020
As an unmarried 29 year old with no children, I'm probably not in the main target group for this book; and yet I loved it! I've been around a few kids by now (being the main babysitter for 2 cousins during several summer holidays will teach you a few things), and a lot of my friends have had their own babies in the last few years, so I have witnessed up close the struggles behind the "blissful mum breastfeeding" image.
It's an easy read - I finished it in two sittings, and I was laughing so hard at times, that my fiancé came to check if I was watching any funny videos without him. The author, well healed from the unexpectedly traumatic early motherhood, is now able to look back at those memories fondly, have a good laugh at how naive she was before giving birth, and be proud of how far she's come. Yes, having kids is difficult (especially when you've been told your whole life what a wonderful experience it will be, conveniently leaving out the details of how painful and exhausting it is in the first few years), but they DO grow and it does get better. Eventually.
My only regret is that I bought this book on kindle, as I would have loved to pass it around to my friends and brighten up their days with the promise of better days. Not a huge issue though, Amazon has plenty of paperback copies in stock, ready for gifting!
It's an easy read - I finished it in two sittings, and I was laughing so hard at times, that my fiancé came to check if I was watching any funny videos without him. The author, well healed from the unexpectedly traumatic early motherhood, is now able to look back at those memories fondly, have a good laugh at how naive she was before giving birth, and be proud of how far she's come. Yes, having kids is difficult (especially when you've been told your whole life what a wonderful experience it will be, conveniently leaving out the details of how painful and exhausting it is in the first few years), but they DO grow and it does get better. Eventually.
My only regret is that I bought this book on kindle, as I would have loved to pass it around to my friends and brighten up their days with the promise of better days. Not a huge issue though, Amazon has plenty of paperback copies in stock, ready for gifting!
November 7, 2019
I was very happy to receive a copy of the book from NetGalley in return to my honest review. I requested the book because I am currently interested in reading about other women's perspective on childcare.
In her book, Lies We Tell Mothers, the author tries to go over the lies new mothers hear, such as: "Pregnancy is such a special time," "Breast is best," "Your stretch marks will go eventually. Use cocoa butter!" She uses her own experience to refute the lies but not in scientific way but in a "Let me tell you how it actually is" way. The book is well-written and it was a pleasure to read it. Unfortunately, it only lasted 3 days. I might need to pick it up again sometimes. It is a fun and entertaining read. The comments from the author's husband made the book less like a read and more of a " conversation with the friends" situation.
I highly recommend Lies We Tell Mothers to new mothers, wanna be mothers, dads and anybody who is interested!
In her book, Lies We Tell Mothers, the author tries to go over the lies new mothers hear, such as: "Pregnancy is such a special time," "Breast is best," "Your stretch marks will go eventually. Use cocoa butter!" She uses her own experience to refute the lies but not in scientific way but in a "Let me tell you how it actually is" way. The book is well-written and it was a pleasure to read it. Unfortunately, it only lasted 3 days. I might need to pick it up again sometimes. It is a fun and entertaining read. The comments from the author's husband made the book less like a read and more of a " conversation with the friends" situation.
I highly recommend Lies We Tell Mothers to new mothers, wanna be mothers, dads and anybody who is interested!
September 23, 2019
Throughout this book I found myself reminiscing the time when I was pregnant with my first child and when she was born. Yes, I too was young and delusional. I found myself reading the book really quickly, nodding at many parts as I was saying to myself me too!
There was a lot of humour in the book and I couldn't help laughing, the one lie per chapter made me want to read more and more.
Suzy wrote an honest book which many of us will relate to. It was well written and so refreshing.
There was a lot of humour in the book and I couldn't help laughing, the one lie per chapter made me want to read more and more.
Suzy wrote an honest book which many of us will relate to. It was well written and so refreshing.
September 2, 2024
Strange one, often titles of the chapters had nothing to do with the contents. Also it's extremely subjective moaning about parenting difficulties and nothing backed by science or references. Some "lies" I found really weird to be in the book as they're widely talked about during pregnancy and it's interesting that someone who's already got a baby is surprised by them (e.g. real milk coming in etc). Either way it's a quick, "no brain involvement needed" type book, that's somewhat entertaining but mainly boring and misleading.
January 17, 2021
Probably not a book I should’ve read when I’m less than a month away from having my second child, whilst having a toddler in tow, but I really liked this. Just the right mix of reality and humour. Definitely doesn’t lie though!
February 7, 2022
This was a realistic but heartwarming account of the ups and downs of starting a family. It didn't shy away from the hard times, but the humourous and honest tone of the whole book made even these parts enjoyable to read.
It was so easy to get it into, and it made me chuckle several times. It's the sort of book that might be targeted at parents, but you don't need to be one to enjoy!
It was so easy to get it into, and it made me chuckle several times. It's the sort of book that might be targeted at parents, but you don't need to be one to enjoy!
January 11, 2024
This book was a distinctly average re-telling of a distinctly average experience of motherhood. Did not share any kind of new or unique take on the hard Labour of the early years of motherhood; no kind of social commentary on why we have these myths around mothering. In fact it feels there may be a considerable amount of internalised misogyny weaved through this work. And it wasn’t particularly funny, think I only laughed twice and considered DNF on multiple occasions.
I’ll concede that perhaps if I was still in this phase of motherhood I may have felt more of a kindred spirit with the story but in retrospect this book offers nothing to truly inform of the complexities of parenting. I wouldn’t recommend this.
There are funnier, more emotive and all around better versions of this type of book; e.g. the un-Mumsy mum.
I’ll concede that perhaps if I was still in this phase of motherhood I may have felt more of a kindred spirit with the story but in retrospect this book offers nothing to truly inform of the complexities of parenting. I wouldn’t recommend this.
There are funnier, more emotive and all around better versions of this type of book; e.g. the un-Mumsy mum.
August 30, 2019
Very true and very funny. I love the way this author writes with such conviction. She manages to turn anything she comes across as a tale worth telling. Fantastic writing style.
September 5, 2019
What a totally fantastic read, loved every minute of it, was a really funny and told the trials of parenthood perfectly, love her fiction and thought this was bloody fab too
February 14, 2021
Rubbish
What a pile of garbage. The women was delusional and she irritated me. She shouldn't have had that child the way she behaved.
What a pile of garbage. The women was delusional and she irritated me. She shouldn't have had that child the way she behaved.
February 3, 2022
It was a great insight into suzys life
I definitely related to lots of bits, I love my kids but i want my life back!
I am a huge fan of the bad mothers series and so so pleased they were written and self published, so thank you suzy!
Great book and very enlightening!
I definitely related to lots of bits, I love my kids but i want my life back!
I am a huge fan of the bad mothers series and so so pleased they were written and self published, so thank you suzy!
Great book and very enlightening!
gave-up
February 20, 2023I seriously can't imagine how this book gets so many stars. It's a compilation of funky and awkward situations that women might encounter during pregnancy, labor and newborn baby stages. It is trying to be funny but it is not, and there are no lesson to be learned either. I can see how some of the descriptions in the book might resonate with a new mom, but having had four children, it just leaves me questioning the literary value of this book.
RIP, DNF at 28%
RIP, DNF at 28%
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