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The Dark Side of The Human Needs: Help Clients Answer the Question 'Why Do I Do That?' and Stop Self Sabotage
Do your clients ever ask you 'why did I do that'?
Do they wonder why they sometimes self sabotage or act against their own self interests?
This book is the answer.
It will guide you to help them to untangle the strange reasons why we all make bad decisions in life from time to time. And in understanding this, they’ll understand themselves, and they’ll be able to make better decisions in the future.
In this book, you will
How you can be manipulated through your natural need for attentionHow the need to feel safe and secure can lead to chronic anxiety and people-pleasing – and could land you in a cultHow the need for love and intimacy can lead to you accepting abuse and tolerating toxic relationshipsHow the need to feel a sense of control can ruin relationships, cause political tyranny, and lead to depressionHow the need for community and connection can lead to distress, cruelty, and self-destructionHow the need for status can lead to bullying and self-destructionHow the diverted drive for meaning and challenge can wreak havoc in your lifeThis book will show you how to help your clients stop your unmet emotional needs messing up their lives – and how to start feeling happier and make better decisions today.
If you are a therapist or coach of any persuasion; counsellor, psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, life coach, bodyworker, in fact anyone who works in the helping professions, you will glean valuable, actionable ideas, tips and techniques from the Uncommon Practitioner Series of books.
This book is also useful for anyone wanting to better understand human nature – you don’t have to be a mental health practitioner to get something from it. It’s written in a clear language that’s easy for everyone to understand.
Do they wonder why they sometimes self sabotage or act against their own self interests?
This book is the answer.
It will guide you to help them to untangle the strange reasons why we all make bad decisions in life from time to time. And in understanding this, they’ll understand themselves, and they’ll be able to make better decisions in the future.
In this book, you will
How you can be manipulated through your natural need for attentionHow the need to feel safe and secure can lead to chronic anxiety and people-pleasing – and could land you in a cultHow the need for love and intimacy can lead to you accepting abuse and tolerating toxic relationshipsHow the need to feel a sense of control can ruin relationships, cause political tyranny, and lead to depressionHow the need for community and connection can lead to distress, cruelty, and self-destructionHow the need for status can lead to bullying and self-destructionHow the diverted drive for meaning and challenge can wreak havoc in your lifeThis book will show you how to help your clients stop your unmet emotional needs messing up their lives – and how to start feeling happier and make better decisions today.
If you are a therapist or coach of any persuasion; counsellor, psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, life coach, bodyworker, in fact anyone who works in the helping professions, you will glean valuable, actionable ideas, tips and techniques from the Uncommon Practitioner Series of books.
This book is also useful for anyone wanting to better understand human nature – you don’t have to be a mental health practitioner to get something from it. It’s written in a clear language that’s easy for everyone to understand.
- GenresPsychologySelf Help
120 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 10, 2021
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June 19, 2021
Why we do what we do not want to do.
Powerful succinct treatise on legitimate human needs and what can go wrong when these needs are not recognized and go unmet. Tyrrell raised my Awareness about how I and so many others try to get honest needs met through dishonest means.meeting needs dishonesty set us up to manipulate self or others or conversely slow others to use our unfulfilled needs to manipulate us.
Powerful succinct treatise on legitimate human needs and what can go wrong when these needs are not recognized and go unmet. Tyrrell raised my Awareness about how I and so many others try to get honest needs met through dishonest means.meeting needs dishonesty set us up to manipulate self or others or conversely slow others to use our unfulfilled needs to manipulate us.
October 20, 2022
Informative, insightful, easy to read
As a future therapist I was curious about this book. I found it to be not only accurate, but things were stated in a way that makes them more relatable to the average person. I loved that the writing style of this book did not come from a place of “I am educated, so I know more than you”, but rather from a perspective of one person talking to another on equal grounds. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in the topic.
As a future therapist I was curious about this book. I found it to be not only accurate, but things were stated in a way that makes them more relatable to the average person. I loved that the writing style of this book did not come from a place of “I am educated, so I know more than you”, but rather from a perspective of one person talking to another on equal grounds. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in the topic.
July 1, 2026
Great Insight!
After reading this book, I have a better understanding of human motivations. It all makes complete sense, and the explanations are very relatable. I’d recommend this book to anyone interested in human behavior and psychology, even if they aren’t a mental health professional.
After reading this book, I have a better understanding of human motivations. It all makes complete sense, and the explanations are very relatable. I’d recommend this book to anyone interested in human behavior and psychology, even if they aren’t a mental health professional.
September 20, 2021
to the point
I enjoyed the ease of reading this book. The content was direct and insightful. I would recommend this book for a different perspective of emotions and reactions to them.
I enjoyed the ease of reading this book. The content was direct and insightful. I would recommend this book for a different perspective of emotions and reactions to them.
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June 17, 2021
Not just for practitioners…
This little monograph gathers together a great deal of uesful content which has been included in Mark’s articles over the years. It is addressed to therapists, but is certainly accessible and potentially useful to any intelligent reader. Well worth a thoughtful read.
This little monograph gathers together a great deal of uesful content which has been included in Mark’s articles over the years. It is addressed to therapists, but is certainly accessible and potentially useful to any intelligent reader. Well worth a thoughtful read.
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