This book was relatable and not relatable at the same time.
I listened to the Audible and I’m usually happy when the author narrates their own work, especially when they’re English, so that they don’t have that robotic American voiceover which sounds awful. But in this case, I really wish she’d chosen someone else. Her voice is grating, and the delivery is jilted and overly deliberate, like being forced to read aloud in school. It sounds like she’s trying to add cadence and tone, but it doesn’t land.
Aside from that (which is totally personal preference), I found the book a real mixed bag. Some parts deeply resonated - even my mum overheard and said, “that sounds exactly like you” - while other parts felt oddly… privileged.
The section about not sleeping at all for years was particularly frustrating and, frankly, misinformed. A sleep study showed she slept 5.5 hours, yet she remained adamant she hadn’t slept at all. When approaching the sleep specialist again for explanation, she is allegedly told that parts of her brain may have been asleep while others were awake. This is either poorly explained, misunderstood, or oversimplified, because it’s not quite accurate.
What actually happens in insomnia is well established: less deep sleep, more light and fragmented sleep, frequent micro-arousals, and heightened arousal systems. Sleep still occurs, but it’s shallow, unstable, and broken into short fragments. Sleep studies add these fragments together to give a total sleep time, even though subjectively it never felt like sleep. Memory is the key issue here - we don’t remember sleep, only wakefulness and interruptions. If sleep never deepens enough to shut off memory formation, it’s completely understandable to believe you were awake all night, even when you weren’t.
Later on, it becomes clear that the author has misunderstood this entirely. When discussing CBT-i, despite being told she slept 5.5 hours, she insists that reducing time in bed is impossible because she “sleeps zero hours”. That simply doesn’t hold up. If someone truly slept zero hours for years, they’d be dead.
Once a sleep study has shown 5.5 hours of sleep (even if you believe that not to be the case) you have been given a timeframe to work with. Logically, you would base time in bed around that figure. Instead, the concept is brushed off as unrealistic, as though CBT-i doesn’t apply to her supposedly unique form of insomnia where no sleep occurs at all. She even discusses this with a medical professional and again, whether this is a misunderstanding or poor communication I don’t know, but the professional appears to reinforce her belief rather than challenge it. Instead of clearly explaining that her time in bed should be reduced to roughly 5 hours and adjusted from there, the idea that CBT-i simply doesn’t apply to her is allowed to stand. As a listener, it’s genuinely infuriating, especially given how vulnerable and desperate many people seeking help for insomnia are.
What’s frustrating is that this isn’t a flaw in CBT-i, but a misunderstanding of it. Presenting it this way risks reinforcing the very misconceptions that keep people stuck, particularly for readers who are desperate for accurate information and practical guidance.
And lastly, CBT-i is one of the most effective treatments for insomnia, yet it’s only skimmed over - something I see far too often in sleep books. I know how to apply it, but for readers desperately seeking answers, that lack of depth feels like a missed opportunity to truly help them.
That said, the book clearly helped a lot of people, judging by the reviews, and I won’t take that away from the author. I also found the book a really easy read and, despite the authors voice, I looked forward to listening to the next instalment whenever I had the time. I just can’t rate it any higher for the reasons explained above.