What Am I Feeling?

by John M. Gottman

Adapted from Dr. John Gottman’s Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child , this book helps adults identify their parenting and care giving style. It explains the five important steps in “emotion coaching” children to ensure that children are guided to healthy emotional growth. Gottman argues that kids who can accept and share their emotions form stronger friendships, achieve more in school, recover from emotional crises more quickly, and are physically healthier. Beautiful illustrations of parents and children help convey the vital message of this guide.

Genres: Parenting, Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships, Counselling, Mental Health

32 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2004

About the author

Dr. Gottman was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. He is the author or co-author of over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love Last; Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love; The Relationship Cure; Why Marriages Succeed or Fail; and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child — among many others. Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, Reader’s Digest, and Psychology Today.

Co-founder of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, John was also the Executive Director of the Relationship Research Institute. He is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded “The Love Lab” at which much of his research on couples’ interactions was conducted.

Reviews

[Sylwia · Rating 3 out of 5]

This very short book is informative and would benefit both the uneducated and the educated parent. I think that it is a useful tool even for those of us who don’t plan to have children, as it explains which ways of approaching the emotions of others are incorrect ways and which way is the correct way. As always, Gottman doesn’t talk down to you, but instead opens your eyes. I’ll read anything written by this man, and I recommend this to others.

[Allison · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful booklet to read and have as a reference in helping kids understand and respond to emotions.

[Jonas · Rating 3 out of 5]

An easy read on the art of parenting, on how to help children hone their emotional intelligence skills. The book contains illustrative pictures for each emotion covered plus lots of references and citations from Gottman’s Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child .

“Listen with empathy & set healthy boundaries” pretty much sums it up.

[Jarmo Larsen · Rating 3 out of 5]

På en måte er dette en veldig forenklet versjon av «Hjerteforeldre». Passer bra for de som ikke ønsker å ta seg tid til å lese i dybden. Mange korte sider og avsnitt, og enkelt forklart.

[Ashlea Marshall · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not really helpful. Too brief and vague to actually be any use.

[Samuel Kassing · Rating 4 out of 5]

A small pamphlet that details some basic parenting styles.

[April Braswell · Rating 5 out of 5]

What Am I Feeling? a Thoughtful and Helpful Guide to Parents and Life Coaches

Whether you are a parent hoping to be a better mother or father and improve your parenting style or you are coach or therapist working with adult clients desiring to empower your clients with their emotional heritage and increase their emotional intelligence Emotional Intelligence and be a person with great personal self mastery then this is a sweet and short book to help guide you successfully!

Many adults were not raised by parents with an "Emotional Coaching" parenting style. This is not to blame our parents at this late age.

Rather instead, "What Am I Feeling?" empowers and equips adults to fulfill their own lives now to give then their emotional validation and identification which an ideal parent from 20+ years ago just didn't have.

This is a marvelous tool to add to your Life Mastery toolkit, whatever your age.

Think of "What Am I Feeling?" as a really lovely illustrated short pamphlet which anyone can read at any time, complete with very practical "Real Life" applications with children. This is a very digestable book, not a massive tome. So, it works well in any therapists waiting room or family therapist's resource shelf when working with children and families, as well as for anyone in a related helping profession such as a rabbi, pastor, or priest.

"What Am I Feeling?" is a quick tips reference manual to start to help you apply and distill the strategies and tips from the much lengthier John Gottman book, Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting.

Part of what I so adored and appreciated about Gottman's book and the photographic illustrations from the marvelous Talaris Research Institute is how they just very sweetly without much fanfare managed to illustrate this quick guide with photographs of multiple races and ethnicities to empower and equip us all.

Emotions span the barriers. And Gottman clearly desires to help us either as a parent or an adult. It's never too late to discover and empower yourself with identifying, "What Am I Feeling?"

[Beth · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you don't have time to read "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by the same author, this book is a very short, quick overview of the same ideas. It helps teach ways and strategies for helping your child learn to communicate their feelings. It is a great tool for parents, and can give them something to think about in their own interactions with others.

[Katherine · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a parenting book that is supposed to aid in helping adults with children and parenting with feelings and to have an added benefit of helping adults figure out their feelings as well. Didn't really work for me but it was a short read and lots of big pictures. :)

[Lisa Vermaas · Rating 2 out of 5]

Jag trodde att boken skulle innehålla mer av allt. Mer råd, mer fakta osv.
Det är ett viktigt tema men boken känns bara som en kort introduktion till emotionsträning. Jag hade som sagt förväntat mer.

[Donna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wonderful book for educating parents about how to talk to their children about their feelings and their behavior--in the right order, in the right ways.