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Living Reconciled
We all experience difficult relationships. Oftentimes we try to reconcile but the other person simply won't, or else we find they can't keep the commitments they made during reconciliation. How do we handle these tough relationships in a way that brings peace to our lives and glory to God?
Through seven clear and actionable shifts drawn from Scripture, P. Brian Noble shows you how to change your thinking when it comes to tough relationships so that you see the challenging people in your life as God sees them. He then outlines practical and proven ways to reach reconciliation and keep the peace--even when the other person doesn't hold up their end of the bargain.
If you long to be reconciled and live at peace with the people in your family, workplace, church, and community, this book will give you the courage, compassion, and tools to do so.
Through seven clear and actionable shifts drawn from Scripture, P. Brian Noble shows you how to change your thinking when it comes to tough relationships so that you see the challenging people in your life as God sees them. He then outlines practical and proven ways to reach reconciliation and keep the peace--even when the other person doesn't hold up their end of the bargain.
If you long to be reconciled and live at peace with the people in your family, workplace, church, and community, this book will give you the courage, compassion, and tools to do so.
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272 pages, Paperback
Published January 11, 2022
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January 12, 2022
What a great guide to fixing relationships. I have tried to make amends to my sister-in-law without success. I have a nineteen year old daughter that has gone away to college and I feel like I have lost any hope of having a relationship with her. I cry every day wondering how I can get her to return my text or call me. It like she wants nothing to do with me. P. Brian Noble has really given me hope through Scripture and God. How to handle these tough relationships in a way that brings peace to our lives and glory to God. Thanks P. Brian Noble. Highly recommend.
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May 20, 20262 Cor 5
Pg 41 - You are a Christian. You are a Christ-follower. The bottom line is that in your relationships in this world, you will need to, you will get to, and you are called to reflect the gospel. Jesus died for the ungodly, and we are called to die to self for those who do not know God. Dying to self includes laying down our rights and preferences, surrendering our will, and following God. We are not dying for their salvation but as an example to draw them to the cross. The gospel is both death and resurrection. You have the opportunity to show others that you can die to yourself and walk in newness of life. You have the opportunity to model grace and truth. At your greatest point of injustice is your greatest opportunity for Christlikeness.
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Conflict is inevitable, for we live in a fallen world. Reconciliation is eventual. Seek to have an eternal perspective.
Pg 51 We call ourselves Christ-followers; however, often when we're in conflict we don't want to follow in Christ's footsteps. We - okay, fine, I'll keep it personal - I only want to apologize for those behaviours I intentionally, willfully, and premeditatedly do against someone else. The fact is, if Jesus had that same attitude toward me, I would be stuck in my sin. Let's make our ambition match Jesus's ambition. He died - for reconciliation.
Pg 82 When Christ's love is controlling you, you will simply out-love the other person in a conflict. This act of out-loving is so key. It is less based on their response and more based on Jesus's action. Some of you may protest, "Bust I am angry with them; they did horrible things to me!" I am truly sorry. And I hope you understand that when you allow the love of Christ to control you, it doesn't mean there will be no accountability for others. It simply means you are relinquishing your right to be the one who holds them accountable. The key to walking a reconciled life is to be controlled by eh love of Christ, which makes our love for others inseparable.
Pg 93 I admit it always suprises me when I recognize myself as needing a saviour, considering that when it comes to my interactions with others and conflict, I can only see how "right" I am.
Pg 120 Christ lives in you. Christ lives in you even in the tension and the conflict you are experiencing. Don't get me wrong; when circumstances are touch, just saying, "Christ is in me" doesn't seem to make it easier. But for your soul, for your eternal perspective, I want you to grasp this conceptL in the midst of all your circumstances, Christ lives in you. The Creator lives in you. The miracle worker lives in you. The Resurrected One lives in you. The Redeemer lives in you. The best friend of all best friends lives in you. God lives in you. This doesn't make you God. This makes you God's possion. You are owned by God. he bought you. He paid the price for you. And he is with you in the midst of your circumstances.
Pg 120 Live by fairh in the Son of God. He loves you and gave himself for you. You may not see everything made right at this very moment; however, faith is what we are living. We don't see Christ, but we believe him. We can't touch the Holy Spirit, but we are in his presence and his presence is in us. We may not experience obvious miracles, but we have experienced God moving in our lives. it is faith. Not feelings. So many of us want to say we are saved by faith, but when it comes to our conflict, we don't want to apply faith. We want to apply self-righteousness. We want to apply self-justification. We want to defend ourselves, explain ourselves, and show the world we are vindicated. Yet that is not the faith we live by. In fact, the gospel I know is that I am wrong, and a sinner, and Jesus is right and righteous.
Pg 135 However, let's say you come to your senses and realize that Jesus paid for your $100 and my $1000. And not only did he pay for those offenses, but he deposited an amount into each of our bank accounts equal to whatever Jesus's hypothetical bank account is worth. You then begin to look at me and at yourself through the dollar amount of Jesus's deposit in each of our accounts. And, through that balance, you begin to reconcile our relationship. You reconcile all negatives to what the Jesus bank has to say, and all discrepancies are gone because Jesus took care of them.
Pg 157 Again attitude six is to stop counting. The Father reconciles us to himself, and then he doesn't count our trespasses against us. Now, if the Creator of the universe can stop counting, so can we. Stop counting! If you have ever experienced injustice, this will probably be a difficult attitude to practice. You can't do it in your own power. However, the Holy Spirit dwelling in you will provide reconciliation for you.
Pg 176 God's love for humankind propelled him to reconcile us to himself by giving his only begotten Son. Think about that again. God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son. Love that is inactive is not legitimate love. I truly believe that reconicliation between God and me only happens because Jesus paid the price.
Pg 41 - You are a Christian. You are a Christ-follower. The bottom line is that in your relationships in this world, you will need to, you will get to, and you are called to reflect the gospel. Jesus died for the ungodly, and we are called to die to self for those who do not know God. Dying to self includes laying down our rights and preferences, surrendering our will, and following God. We are not dying for their salvation but as an example to draw them to the cross. The gospel is both death and resurrection. You have the opportunity to show others that you can die to yourself and walk in newness of life. You have the opportunity to model grace and truth. At your greatest point of injustice is your greatest opportunity for Christlikeness.
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Conflict is inevitable, for we live in a fallen world. Reconciliation is eventual. Seek to have an eternal perspective.
Pg 51 We call ourselves Christ-followers; however, often when we're in conflict we don't want to follow in Christ's footsteps. We - okay, fine, I'll keep it personal - I only want to apologize for those behaviours I intentionally, willfully, and premeditatedly do against someone else. The fact is, if Jesus had that same attitude toward me, I would be stuck in my sin. Let's make our ambition match Jesus's ambition. He died - for reconciliation.
Pg 82 When Christ's love is controlling you, you will simply out-love the other person in a conflict. This act of out-loving is so key. It is less based on their response and more based on Jesus's action. Some of you may protest, "Bust I am angry with them; they did horrible things to me!" I am truly sorry. And I hope you understand that when you allow the love of Christ to control you, it doesn't mean there will be no accountability for others. It simply means you are relinquishing your right to be the one who holds them accountable. The key to walking a reconciled life is to be controlled by eh love of Christ, which makes our love for others inseparable.
Pg 93 I admit it always suprises me when I recognize myself as needing a saviour, considering that when it comes to my interactions with others and conflict, I can only see how "right" I am.
Pg 120 Christ lives in you. Christ lives in you even in the tension and the conflict you are experiencing. Don't get me wrong; when circumstances are touch, just saying, "Christ is in me" doesn't seem to make it easier. But for your soul, for your eternal perspective, I want you to grasp this conceptL in the midst of all your circumstances, Christ lives in you. The Creator lives in you. The miracle worker lives in you. The Resurrected One lives in you. The Redeemer lives in you. The best friend of all best friends lives in you. God lives in you. This doesn't make you God. This makes you God's possion. You are owned by God. he bought you. He paid the price for you. And he is with you in the midst of your circumstances.
Pg 120 Live by fairh in the Son of God. He loves you and gave himself for you. You may not see everything made right at this very moment; however, faith is what we are living. We don't see Christ, but we believe him. We can't touch the Holy Spirit, but we are in his presence and his presence is in us. We may not experience obvious miracles, but we have experienced God moving in our lives. it is faith. Not feelings. So many of us want to say we are saved by faith, but when it comes to our conflict, we don't want to apply faith. We want to apply self-righteousness. We want to apply self-justification. We want to defend ourselves, explain ourselves, and show the world we are vindicated. Yet that is not the faith we live by. In fact, the gospel I know is that I am wrong, and a sinner, and Jesus is right and righteous.
Pg 135 However, let's say you come to your senses and realize that Jesus paid for your $100 and my $1000. And not only did he pay for those offenses, but he deposited an amount into each of our bank accounts equal to whatever Jesus's hypothetical bank account is worth. You then begin to look at me and at yourself through the dollar amount of Jesus's deposit in each of our accounts. And, through that balance, you begin to reconcile our relationship. You reconcile all negatives to what the Jesus bank has to say, and all discrepancies are gone because Jesus took care of them.
Pg 157 Again attitude six is to stop counting. The Father reconciles us to himself, and then he doesn't count our trespasses against us. Now, if the Creator of the universe can stop counting, so can we. Stop counting! If you have ever experienced injustice, this will probably be a difficult attitude to practice. You can't do it in your own power. However, the Holy Spirit dwelling in you will provide reconciliation for you.
Pg 176 God's love for humankind propelled him to reconcile us to himself by giving his only begotten Son. Think about that again. God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son. Love that is inactive is not legitimate love. I truly believe that reconicliation between God and me only happens because Jesus paid the price.
March 4, 2022
I received this book through a Goodreads giveaway and am providing an honest review. Depending on where you are in your Christian faith journey, you may find it easier to skim the first three-four chapters and review the end of chapter notes. During these beginning chapters I personally felt the ‘I already know this…where is the actual help?’ I do though understand the need for building a base for where this book will take you. The difficulty in books that profess to help in conflict resolution, is that every person is different and therefore how they handle conflict is different - not to mention the person who they are in conflict with. It’s like rolling a pair of dice - the combination is nearly endless. Ultimately resolution is not easy, and I’m not sure how I feel about the premise that if it isn’t resolved in this world it will be in the next band aide answer (given that both are of faith). I will say this book does offer much to consider in moving toward reconciliation but not enough on how to proceed with living unreconciled - because that too happens.
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