"One of the best books I've ever read on suffering!" --BRITTANY PRICE BROOKER, speaker
"Lisa Appelo is the wise and trustworthy friend we all need to help us navigate life on the other side of devastating circumstances." --BECKY KEIFE, author of The Simple Difference and No Better Mom for the Job
Life has shattered all around you. Now what?
What do you do when you are suddenly navigating a life you didn't sign up for? You never saw this pain coming, and you're facing a future you'd pass up if you could.
Lisa Appelo understands deeply. She has experienced the raw emotions and uncertainty that come when everything falls apart. Lisa went to bed married and woke up a widow and single mom to seven children. She wrestled with impossible questions about her future--and then found life-changing answers that gave her the strength to move forward with true joy.
With compassion and rich biblical insight, Lisa will help you
· find your footing when circumstances bring massive change; · process hard emotions with God, who welcomes them; · overcome paralyzing fear with three scriptural steps; and · anchor your faith when your hope seems threadbare.
Your unexpected future may feel like Plan B, but it's God's purposeful Chapter Two for you as He reshapes your shattered heart. With each tender, intentional step, you'll see you will not merely survive this, but that life can be good again.
Lisa Appelo is a speaker, writer, and Bible teacher who inspires women to cultivate faith in life’s storms. She’s a Florida girl born and raised and followed her passion for writing into law, where she worked as a litigator for many years. As her family grew to include seven children, Lisa retired from law to raise and home educate her children.
Ten years ago, Lisa went to bed happily married to her high school sweetheart and woke up a widow and single mom. As she navigated grief and shepherded her children through their own grief, God reshaped all that seemed shattered. Lisa is passionate about rich Bible study and has taught a weekly ladies Bible class at her home church for many years. She launched a local ministry for widows in Jacksonville, Florida and serves the Facebook group Widow Mama Collective. Lisa writes at LisaAppelo.com and manages a team of writers of HopeinGrief.com. She’s been published at Proverbs 31 Ministries, (in)courage, Risen Motherhood, Jennifer Rothschild and has been a contributing writer for iMOM.com, The Life of a Single Mom, and the Inspire Journal.
Her days are filled top to bottom with stewarding her precious children, writing, ministry, speaking and running enough to justify lots of dark chocolate.
Thank you, Bethany House Publishers, for the advance reading copy.
I have been reading this book for the past few days. I had to stop in between the pages every now and then when I started reading it as my heart was breaking and I was sobbing really hard to continue on. Dear author, it must have been really difficult for you and I can feel what you must be going through.
I find such books sharing such difficult personal experiences through books is such a precious gift to the rest of us. Not everybody wants to share and not everyone is ever ready on how to face such situations. Until it happens to us and we all feel lost and devasted.
I feel reading and sharing such experiences do lessen the hurt and the feeling of loss. Sometimes it can be too much and sometimes too numbing an experience it can be. Either way, we need something to tell us and let us know life can be okay again.
I do agree on leaning on to the faith we follow/believe in during such times. And this book tells us exactly how to do that. I really appreciate it.
Keep this book with you. We all will need this book one day or the other. Keep sharing such good books. You never know how it will heal and save someone.
I needed this book so much. I’ve been making an effort to read through books that talk about and process suffering from a Christian perspective. I think Lisa’s book is great for when the suffering is fresh, but even better for when you’ve sat in it a while and don’t really see a way out. She encourages you with scripture and compassion, while sharing her own story of working through health challenges in her family, as well as the death of her husband. If you’re hurting right now, God sees you and you are not alone. When you’re ready and able to read longer than a couple minutes, Life Can Be Good Again will be here.
This was a touching book that I deeply appreciated reading. While there's a lot I could say about this book, perhaps I'll just include one of my favorite quotes and leave it at that. If this quote moves you, you'll appreciate the rest of the work.
"God does not give us second best. He doesn’t serve you the leftovers of a life that should have been five stars. Maybe you think God has given you a stone for a gift. But if we would pick it up and see it for what it is, we would see he has actually given us bread. God cannot give stones.
"With God, there are no Plan Bs; there are chapter 2s."
I decided to read Life Can Be Good Again when I saw that a friend who just lost her husband was reading it. I wanted to connect with her through whatever resources she was finding helpful, and this was a good way to understand how she might be processing.
This book might come off a little bit preachy for those who are fresh in their loss of a loved one, but overall it had helpful content that was both Scripture-filled and spiritually sound.
Lisa’s heartbreaking story is one of losing her husband very unexpectedly and suddenly, and having to learn how to navigate life as a grieving widow with seven littles.
I too have found myself facing an unexpected season of grief after recurrent pregnancy loss, and even though our losses were very different, I have found her words so honest, encouraging and reassuring - life can be good again!
This is a book that I just know will offer so much hope for the future to anyone who is grieving any kind of loss, or struggling with questions about where God is in their pain. I can’t recommend it enough!
I can't tell you how much I needed this book. I'd lost my joy and thought life was over, but Lisa's words of hope reminded me that God is not finished writing my story yet. I can't thank her enough for putting into words exactly how I feel and standing beside me and gently nudging me to trust God has a plan for my tomorrow. It may look different than I'd planned, but God can bring beauty even after devastation.
I was especially encouraged by the chapter Lisa wrote titled "Your Emotions Are Welcome Here." I have cried so much this year, and sometimes you wonder if you are ever going to stop crying. But Lisa let me know that tears are part of the healing process, and that I need to process my emotions. I don't need to apologize for crying. God is counting my tears in a bottle, and He weeps with me.
If you are in a dark place, this book will help you move forward and overcome bitterness and discouragement. After reading this, I know I have not reached a dead end. God is with me and will bring courage as I trust Him with my disappointment.
"Life Can Be Good Again" is a very basic primer for a theology of suffering. The author shares stories from her early days of widowhood as while as those of other women to illustrate her points, as well as numerous scripture references. This book offers very elementary lessons for helping women walk through some of the fundamental struggles and doubts when dealing with struggles and trials. The title may be a huge turn-off for some as the very idea that life can be good again when they are hurting is too much to bear. Some of the issues discussed in the book lack nuance, such as dealing with asking for help. This book would be best suited for a suffering person about one to two years out from their primary suffering situation.
Change is inevitable. We live open-handed, knowing that this moment in time is a passing thing. Even so, some changes land in our lives like a force of nature, uprooting the landscape and causing us to whisper, “Will life ever be good again?”
This was Lisa Appelo’s story after her husband died suddenly in his forties, leaving her to raise their seven children alone and to walk a path of grief for which she was completely unprepared. Life Can Be Good Again is a trail of breadcrumbs for her readers, strewn in faith that after the tidal wave of emotion that accompanies loss, there is a way forward to a new and flourishing life.
God’s promises are not nullified by grief or loss. His goodness and faithfulness are unchanged, even in seasons of difficult emotions, so he welcomes us into his presence, bringing with us our pain and sadness. The North American tendency to stuff our emotions and resort to happy talk and bootstraps is unbiblical.
In fact, Appelo points to scripture as our play book for walking through the wilderness. Sticking close to biblical truth ensures that our hearts will receive a “daily dose of hope,” nourishment in what feels like a howling wasteland, and a “daily exchange of our thoughts for God’s thoughts.” Furthermore, the words of lament in scripture provide words for bringing our load of painful emotions to God.
While it’s true that the unthinkable can and does happen, we do not walk through tragedy alone. A well-placed hope in God’s faithfulness carries the believer to the other side of tragedy with a deeper connection to him and a stronger faith in his ability to restore beauty in spite of brokenness.
Many thanks to Baker Publishing for providing a copy of this book to facilitate my review, which is, of course, offered freely and with honesty.
Lisa’s online writing has encouraged me in difficulty, sadness, or disappointment for many years, so I was looking forward to her book. It is what I hoped for and more.
For anyone navigating hard times, this book will be a comforting and inspiring companion. Lisa understands grief and depression firsthand, yet she also encourages us to look at God’s unchanging faithfulness, goodness, and love when life does not turn out as we hope. This book gives us practical encouragement and solid strategies for coping with loss and suffering while reminding us of our truest hope.
Life Can Be Good Again helps me not feel so alone in my struggles. What I most loved about the book was all the Biblical encouragement to remember God’s goodness and faithfulness, yet the tone of the book is compassionate rather than preachy. Lisa presents helpful Biblical truths in such an engaging, relatable style. She helps us process our difficult emotions and build a stronger relationship with the God who loves us and sustains us in all circumstances.
I heard about Lisa Appelo from another Christian author I follow on Instagram. In "Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart", Appelo details the horrifying morning when she woke up to discover that her husband was having trouble breathing. Despite calling an ambulance and rushing him to the hospital, he sadly passed away. This book is an account of the rollercoaster of emotions that followed, and her desperate attempt to hold her family together. I appreciated her honesty and the transparency with which she shares her story. She doesn't try to whitewash anything, and you can feel her genuine emotions as she has to figure out how to go on.
She speaks very honestly about her faith and encourages women who are going through their own difficult times. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. All opinions are my own.
Have you wondered if life could be good again after walking through grief? After walking through something really hard like a divorce or the loss of a loved one. If so, I highly recommend reading Lisa Appelo’s book, Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart. Lisa vulnerably shares about the loss of her husband and how God took the broken pieces of her life and as she entrusted them to God, He reshaped what was shattered. There is so much hope and encouragement in her book.
If you want to hear more about this book, you can check out my conversation with Lisa on episode 127 on the Depth Podcast. https://jodirosser.com/depth-podcast-...
Are you hurting today? Stinging from the pain of what could have been or what will never be? Grasping for answers or simply looking up with tears and saying to God, "Why?" Lisa Appelo's book gently guides you through all of those things and more. Unlike the author, I didn't unexpectedly lose a spouse; however, I have experienced the profound sadness of dreams that were not realized and wondering where God stood in it all. Your grief could come from the death of a loved one, the loss of a career, loss of a relationship, financial loss, a devastating illness, or any number of experiences.
What makes this book so readable is that Lisa walks us through her story in a relatable way. I was able to follow her story of grief over the death of her husband while also navigating my own story of loss. All the while, she pulls in Biblical stories and principles to help illustrate God's plans and purposes for our lives. I'm not a Biblical scholar or academic; so, I appreciated her easygoing approach to showing us how God acts on our behalf and offers us healing right where we are today.
I received an advance copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. Truly, I recommend this book to anyone who has experienced a loss and is grappling with big emotions and questions. This book can help you turn your story of loss into a story of renewed happiness and restoration.
I didn't realize how much I needed to read this book until I started reading it! Life is full of hard, unexpected, life-altering events. Throughout her book, Lisa encourages us not to lose hope by guiding us to seek God and place our hopes in him during those difficult circumstances. I appreciated her raw honesty in every personal story she shared and the practical biblical applications in every chapter.
No matter what we are going through, I believe this book will help readers navigate through those tuff seasons by encouraging them to hold on to God and the truths in his word.
This book was received as an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
I recently lost my husband unexpectedly in Feb 22. This book has been a Godsend to me. I feel like I have a friend waking beside me that has been in my steps. God bless you Lisa.
If you're looking for superficial solutions to cope with painful loss, don't read this book. Lisa does not follow the pattern of this world by either blaming others (including God) for her suffering, or by slapping a platitude "band-aid" over pain and hoping it will just go away. She has experienced deep loss and endured it by embracing deeper truths from the Savior who walked with her through it. Lisa graciously shares her story and the lessons it is teaching her in the hope that you, too, will find Him faithful. "Pain doesn't get the final say in your story. God does."
I just love this book! Having lost my husband about two years ago, Lisa Appelo speaks straight to my broken heart in her book “Life Can Be Good Again”. It is so comforting to know that somebody has gone through similar circumstances and struggles and just gets you. I love her way of sharing her personal experience with fresh biblical insight. I found particularly helpful the chapters about processing hard emotions with God. This book is a real hope booster.
There is a life beyond "This is to Hard" Speaker, writer, and Bible teacher Lisa Appelo is also a widow and single mother of seven children. Her book "Life Can Be Good Again. Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart", published by Bethany House Publishers, is her honest and open personal testimony about the unexpected death of her husband. Appelo starts her introduction with the nightmare waking up to her husband's irregular breathing including the statement "But God had not spared Dan. In two short hours, life took a turn I never saw coming." She underlines that "life can dish out many kinds of loss." As a goal for this book she states: "This book is for all of us navigating the space between the life we desperately wanted and the life we’re living. Later in this book, you’ll find stories of other women who navigated their own shattering disappointments" (in Introduction). In thirteen chapters with titles such as "This Is Too Hard. I Cannot Do This," Find Your Footing," or "Hanging On to Threadbare Hope," talks about different kinds of disappointments, different kinds of loss. Appelo opens every chapter with Bible verses and quotes from various persons (e.g., Washington Irving, Anne Graham Lotz, or Martin Luther King jr.). I appreciate her statement in chapter 1: "Circumstances that are too much for us to handle make us face the reality that self-sufficiency and control are illusions. Finding ourselves neck-deep in overwhelming, unexpected circumstances may be the first time we realize we are utterly dependent on God, which is partially why these crises are so shocking. How do we move beyond these centers of self and control and allow God to hold us in our deep loss and sadness? Let’s go there." In the same chapter she says: "God delights in doing what we cannot. And while you wouldn’t choose the circumstances that landed you here, you’re now in a place to see God in ways you never would otherwise." The book also includes two appendices: "40 Promises of God" and "Grace Guide for Hard Seasons", as well as Endnotes for reference and further study. I consider this book as a book that needs to be read more than once and highly recommend it to people who are going or went through loss and for those who walk alongside of them. The complimentary copy of this book was provided by the publisher through NetGalley free of charge. I was under no obligation to offer a positive review. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own. #LifeCanBeGoodAgain #Netgalley #BethanyHousePublishers
On August 23, 2022, my beloved Mama and best friend suffered an unexpected stroke, went into cardiac arrest, and almost died. After two weeks in the ICU and a life-saving pacemaker surgery, she miraculously recovered and was able to come home. Something none of her doctors thought possible.
While I’ll be forever grateful God gave our story a happy ending, life will never go back to the way it was before. Instead, we’re facing a new life of follow-up appointments and daily medications. New challenges in the form of overwhelming exhaustion, emotional after-shocks, and scars no one can see. While we didn’t lose my mom, we almost did, and the almostness casts its own oppressive shadow.
All that to say, when I came across this title on NetGalley—Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart—it could not have been timelier.
A poignant testimony of God's sustaining grace, "Life Can be Good Again" is a beacon of hope for those experiencing the darkest days of their life. Navigating the subjects of grief and trauma with a tried voice of experience, Lisa Appelo shares her story of unexpected loss with raw vulnerability and extends a tear-wetted hand of empathy to the reader. Instead of blithe quips, she gives the brokenhearted permission to feel and space to process their emotions. Not alone, but in the company of our ever-present Comforter. With gentle encouragement, she reminds us of Biblical truths our pain has made us forget and offers practical ways to start taking those first tremulous steps toward healing.
“Life Can be Good Again” is more than a book title. It’s a promise that this too shall pass. That one day, life will most assuredly be good again, because our loving God is good always.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. A favorable review was not required. All views expressed are my own honest opinion.
Most of us have experienced a loss having at least lost one person life or had other kinds of loss.
I lost my mom & step dad in a small plane accident when I was 16. My brother in a motorcycle accident when he was 34. My Father in Law ultimately from agent orange… way too early. We have been walking through Alzheimer’s with my Mother in Law for years now. Which is ongoing loss.
I became office manager at our church of over 30 years and then 5 years later to the day… lost it. I felt this was my ministry and way to serve but due to issues with the new Sr. Pastor I no longer was welcome. I lost my job, ministry and church home of over 30 years. I felt I had failed. I struggled.
Recently, I lost my niece, Lauryn, to Covid after an 8 month fight in February. She left behind a loving husband and a 3 year old and 10 month old. I’ve struggled with each loss. I think every time I’ve come to a place where God has given me the peace only He can give… Every new loss spirals me down… I end up picking it all back up.
This book has given me much to ponder and wrestle with. It has challenged me in ways I haven’t expected. There are prayers and scripture and much encouragement.
I highly recommend this book to those wrestling with their own pain and loss.
I received a complimentary ARC of this book from NetGalley on behalf of the Publisher and was under no obligation to post a favorable review.
The author of "Life Can Be Good Again" knows what it's like to have life fall apart. She's struggled with the aftermath of shattered circumstances. She understands how it feels to desperately wish God would change the plan to something more palatable. The author of "Life Can Be Good Again," Lisa Appelo, has dealt with hard in her life, but in that hard, she's seen God's faithfulness like never before. In the pages of this book, Lisa vulnerably shares how difficult life became after her 47-year-old husband died suddenly, leaving her to raise their 7 children as a single parent. She reveals the emotions she felt, the questions she had, and the hope she found in God's promises and in His grace. She shares engaging stories, biblical applications, prayers, and practical suggestions for finding our footing following such shattering circumstances. "Life Can Be Good Again" is a hope-filled companion for anyone going through a season of great hardship. With insight won in the depths of suffering, Lisa teaches fellow sufferers how to smile again.
Lisa knows what it’s like to have your world come crashing down and change forever overnight. Now she is helping others to pick up the pieces of their own broken stories and find a way to move forward. In this book, Lisa shares some of the difficult things she faced as well as the lessons she has learned in the aftermath of tragedy that have enabled her to walk through it. I love how she emphasized bringing our hard emotions to God as a necessary part of processing our grief and pain. He understands what we are going through because He, Himself, has experienced our suffering and He welcomes our us to come to Him in our pain and confusion. Another vital thing Lisa shares is the need to look for and find the “good” in our lives when we are walking through a difficult season - she does this with gratitude. I recommend this book for anyone who has found themselves in unexpected circumstances and is in need of the reminder that God is with us and has not left us alone in our suffering.
My husband died on Christmas Eve with a heart attack, leaving me a single parent with three children in their late teens and early twenties. He was the man I had loved for 27 years, but his journey on earth had ended. There were moments I wished mine had ended, too. The pain was real and visceral. Six months later, my heart still aches. Lisa's story resonated with me in a deep and meaningful way. She acknowledges that we serve a God who can bring beauty from ashes. A God who is altogether good. A God whose ways are perfect even when we don't understand them. He just asks that we trust Him. I have proven that He can be trusted. In the midst of this pain, I have found joy. Joy from seeing how my heavenly Father shows up for me each day, strengthening me with His righteous right hand. Underneath are the everlasting arms. Thank you, Lisa, for your powerful testimony.
Absolutely fantastic book! There is so much encouragement in Lisa's book on navigating loss and hard seasons. It's not just "words" and emotional fluff, it's packed full of Scripture and Biblical hope from someone that has been deep in the trenches of loss. It's not just a "feel better" book, it's truly transforming. "We have a choice with our hard emotions: buy in to the lies and grumble against God, or exchange the lies for truth and trust God." "There is a difference between grieving what’s lost and grumbling over what’s lost. In grief, we cry out to God; in grumbling, we cry out against him." Throughout her book she shows us how to run to God with the hard emotions and painful brokenness. I love how she helped me reframe so much of my loss and how it's opening up healing in those deep wounds I carry.
As a women's ministry leader, I collect resources that I can grab at a moment's notice to help women in crisis.
Life Can Be Good Again by Lisa Appelo is one resource that's now on my list.
I was blessed to have Lisa share her story of becoming an unexpected widow with 7 children during the Ministry to Women Summit a couple of years ago. Her advice has helped many leaders love grieving women well.
I knew her story in the written form, would be powerful,and it is.
Lisa provides encouragement for any woman going through a life-changing event that's caused their world to fall apart.
Lisa does not point women to herself; she points them to God and His Word - the one true place where we can find hope and peace.
Leaders, be sure to add this book to your resource library! It is certain to bless the women who receive it.
Most of us have experienced a loss having at least lost one person life or had other kinds of loss….
Recently, I lost my niece, Lauryn, to Covid after an 8 month fight in February. She left behind a loving husband and a 3 year old and 10 month old. I’ve struggled with each loss. I think every time I’ve come to a place where God has given me the peace only He can give… Every new loss spirals me down… I end up picking it all back up.
This book has given me much to ponder and wrestle with. It has challenged me in ways I haven’t expected. There are prayers and scripture and much encouragement.
I highly recommend this book to those wrestling with their own pain and loss.
I received a complimentary ARC of this book from NetGalley on behalf of the Publisher and was under no obligation to post a favorable review.
Very good book. It is unlike most other books dealing with grief and recovery, Lisa brings not the “how-to’s” and theories but a sound, Biblical foundation upon which to base one’s “new life.” While she recognizes the tremendous loss, her focus is on the present and the future rebuilding in Christ and His promises.
I picked up the book to continue my own education and gain insights from others as I serve as a hospice chaplain. On that level I found it helpful and encouraging. But then I found it even more rewarding for me personally. Even though I am not going through a time of loss, every chapter had insights I needed to hear. Thus, I feel, it is a book for any and everyone wherever you are as you continue your journey with God’s purposes, presence and joy.
Easy to read. Please have a highlighter handy when you do read it.
Life is full of hard. Death, divorce, diagnosis, job loss, the list goes on. So often the hard comes in a shocking blow that hits us from out of nowhere when we were least expecting it, while we were busy making other plans. But life can be good again! In her latest book, Lisa Appelo gently weaves the truth of Scripture with difficult lessons learned in her own life after the sudden death of her beloved husband, Dan. As a widow, single mom to seven, and devoted follower of Christ, Lisa transparently exposes real life, relatable raw emotions and the life-sustaining grace of Jesus Christ. Allow Lisa’s experience and wise counsel help you walk the road to putting your life back together again.
I have looked forward to reading this book since I heard it was coming out and was thrilled to have the opportunity to get my hands on an early copy to read in advance of its release. Having lost my husband like Lisa, I felt like I could relate to so much of her story and what it is like to rise from the ashes after losing someone you love. This book is full of grace, encouragement and hope for the reader. It is a reminder that no matter what difficult season you are going through, we have a God who walks through it with us. It is hard not to connect with and admire someone who shares their deepest pains and their story of how to continue seeking to find the good in every single day. I can't recommend this book enough!
I'm so thankful for Lisa's wise words - from a place of experience - when life falls apart. As a woman of faith, I've been afraid of reacting "wrongly" to personal suffering. But Lisa uses scripture and her own journey of widowhood to reassure the reader that all emotions are safe with God, who longs to walk with us and comfort us in our trials. She leads the reader to fight fear and despair with God's truth, honest lament, and gratitude in the midst of sorrow. She offers real hope for those with a shattered heart.
I'm sure I'll refer to this book often when life brings unseen hurt. Lisa's book offers needed encouragement to persevere when you see "Life Can Be Good Again" after such deep loss.
This book was a hard read. Not because it was bad, but because it made me feel EVERY EMOTION. I love books like this. I appreciate the connection from the author, by explaining what she went through and could only imagine how difficult it must've been for her to get it all out on paper. It's always hard sharing what hurts the most, but I appreciate it. Especially knowing I'm not alone. I applaud the author, and agree that leaning on faith can help. It has for me a lot lately, but understand it's not for everybody. I would read this book again, and recommend it to others.
This book was recieved as an ARC in exchange for an honest review.