Nghệ Thuật Từ Chối

by Damon Zahariades

Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO - Without Feeling Guilty!
Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?

If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.

Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process.

DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)
Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.

In THE ART OF SAYING NO , you'll discover:

my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no
10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)

PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!

If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."

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Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Personal Development, Business, Communication, Productivity

Unknown Binding

First published January 1, 2017

Reviews

[Jake A. Smith]

Meh. I got fed up and didn’t finish the last bit. This book should have been titled, “The art of explaining yourself to other people.” It covers 27 different excuses you can use instead of simply saying “no.”

No. Just no. “Why not?” Because I said no! I’m not going to waste my time trying to convince you my answer is acceptable. You don’t have to approve of my decision, your only role here is to accept it and move on. It’s pretty simple, really.

The one thing I did like was the suggestion to provide alternative people, places, or resources to help others meet their objectives. That one is a great idea and an easy way to quickly help someone move forward without getting directly involved. That’s a paragraph though, or maybe a blog post, the rest of the book is a waste of time.

[Sara Kamjou]

کتاب دقیقا همون چیزیه که عنوانش می‌گه: چطوری به بقیه نه بگیم، به خودمون حق بدیم و جوری نه بگیم که کمتر باعث ناراحتی بقیه و حس بد خودمون به خودمون بشه.
به نظرم کتاب خیلی می‌تونست مختصرتر بشه جوری که من گاهی چشمی صفحاتش رو رد می‌کردم یا خیلی جاها برای رسوندن مطلب یه مثال کافی بود.
در مجموع به نظرم برای کسی که خیلی براش سخته نه بگه، کتاب ساده و خوبیه برای شروع مسیر ولی برای تکمیل تغییر نیاز به تمرین زیادی داره.

[Vivek Vikram Singh]

Read the title. That’s the whole book. Really. Learn to say “No” to blog posts masquerading as books; starting with this one.

[Bobodyowens]

Book so good, I said no to the book after 10 pages.

Book so good, I said no to my boss, and jobless now.

Typical self help book. Explaining same things a million times.
Some good points here and there

[شريف عرفة]

هذا الكتاب يتناول موضوع " الحسم" أو القدرة علي وضع حدود واضحة بين ماتوافق عليه ومالا توافق دون الشعور بالخجل أو الذنب .. الكتاب مقسم إلي أربعة أجزاء.. ويشرح الأسباب التي تجعلك غير قادر علي رفض ، كي تتجاوزها دون إشعار الآخرين بالاستياء، بل زيادة شعورهم بالاحترام و التقدير لك ولوقتك والتزاماتك الأخرى.
الكتاب مبسط للقارئ العادي لكنه لا يلم بكل الأساليب التي تساعد في قول لا، كما يعيبه الاستطراد الذي تتسم به الكتب الأمريكية عادة..

لو كنت مهتما، يمكنك مشاهدة فيديو لي بموقع المنتور عن كيفية قول لا
(في دورة الذكاء العاطفي: الفيديو مجاني مفتوح للجميع)

[Sergio]

I like the fact this book covers many different life situations where you can say NO and also remember to take care of your own priorities; however, it also sounds like a book of excuses, where you’re provided with many ways to justify your NO...you don’t need to justify or explain yourself all the time. In a nutshell, despite not agreeing a 100% with the author, reading this book helped me understand the act of saying NO from various perspectives and I appreciate that.

[Ardavan Bayat]

خوانش: 1400.11.26

خوندن یا نخوندنش تقریبا هیچ تفاوتی نداره. سراسر تکرار و البته تکرار مکررات.
البته موضوع کتاب باعث این همه تکراره. نویسنده اگه یه جستارنویس خوب بود باید در کمتر از سی صفحه به‌خوبی کارش رو انجام می‌داد.
پیشنهاد می‌کنم در مرده‌ترین زمان‌هایی که دارید بخونید. اصلا کتابی نیست که نتونید به‌جای پست‌های اینستاگرامی بخونیدش.

[Ronde Asay]

Informative

I found a lot of truth in this book, things that helped me learn and grow as an individual. I recommend that you take time to learn these skills

[Shalini]

After reading this book, I got some serious insight on my own personality traits.
Being an occassional people pleaser, I want to come out of the cycle by politely refusing to people's needs.
I also found that I have a high degree of FOMO, and I avoid conflicts with people.
I am gonna put some of the strategies mentioned to make my and other people's lives better.

[Atiyeh]

The Art Of Saying NO is a practical and thoughtful guide about boundaries, self-respect, and the courage to prioritize our own needs without being overwhelmed by guilt. What I found valuable about this book is that it does not present saying “no” as a selfish act, but as an essential part of having healthier relationships and protecting our time and energy. It made me reflect on how often we agree to things because of fear of disappointing others or being rejected. A helpful reminder that respecting ourselves also means teaching others how to respect our limits.

[Dinesh]

Someone asks you for your time, attention, or money, and you respectfully decline the request.

That's the whole content of this book.

I am averse to most of the strategies the author is suggesting to follow.

[Mahdi Mohamadi]

هنرِ «۱۶۰ صفحه تکرار».

[Natasha Belle]

Писать ли отзыв к этой книге? Пожалуй, что нет =)

P.s. Какой-то отзыв Шрёдингера получается)

[Haris Čustović]

The ideas thrown in the book are generally fine, but don't offer anything groundbreaking or too interesting. It's your everyday self-helf book with a couple of nice points and a ton of accompanying filler to pad it into something that can be advertised and sold as an actual book.

It can be handily just replaced with the following short summary, and nothing of substance will be lost, but you'll sure save yourself a lot of time: https://paminy.com/summary-of-summary...

[Michael]

Amazing book

This was an amazing book, it really teaches you how to say no with confidence and not to be persuaded to say yes because of a lot of insecurity and other people perception. It was short and concise,very good book with amazing tips.

[Soumyajyoti Nandy]

Much needed read

Needed this book a lot. Glad i got it and most of the things made much sense. Just neede to read it written somewhere. Hope i can follow the instructions.

[Lindsay Davis]

4.5 ⭐️

For a non fiction book this was such an easy read.
The information was presenting in a very digestible manner and gave specific helpful life examples. The only thing is I wish it spent less time on how to say no within the work force and more examples for other parts life but considering the probable target audience that would make sense

[Stephen]

I struggle with saying no. I’m a people pleaser and I don’t like letting people down. Sometimes I sacrifice myself because I feel a strong sense of obligation when a friend asks me something. That's why I picked up this book. This book is good. I liked it and it's short and it's a friendly solid piece of advice. I like the author and think they did a good job writing something fairly concise and practical. It's really about putting it into practice.

If I were to summarize the book in a sentence it would be: It's ok to say no and to prioritize yourself and your time as long as you do it honestly and candidly.


NOTES FROM READING:

Are you a natural-born people pleaser?
Do you prioritize other people over yourself?

No one will protect your priorities. It’s up to you to do so.

You can learn to say no with grace

Step 1. Be Assertive. Being assertive means expressing your needs and wants in the face of opposition. It doesn’t mean being dominant or rude. It’s declaring your point of view and not feeling you need others' approval or validation. At its basic form, it’s candid conversation.

Assertiveness is not aggressive. Assertiveness is respectful. Aggressive is belligerent.

Saying no can feel egocentric, mean, and cold-hearted.
We don’t want to offend anyone. We don’t want to appear selfish. We desire to help others. We want to be liked. We want approval. We want to appear valuable. We want a feeling of status.

You must care for yourself

Recognize and Overcome the impulse to say yes. Recognize your motivation for saying yes.

Be candid in your rejection and use the word “because”

If you know you’re going to say no, don’t stall for time. It will lead the other party on and delay something you are going to do. It also opens up the door to negotiation. It’s a worse way of handling things than being candid.

You are not responsible for other people’s reactions. As long as you are respectful, courteous and civil then you are not responsible for their reaction.


Question Method & Test:

1. Describe assertiveness in the context of the book.
2. How is assertiveness different from aggressiveness?
3. List some negative feelings that saying no can illicit and describe a counter argument to them.
4. Describe the “because” method.
5. There are 10 strategies for saying no in the book. List and describe 6.

[Noemie Falardeau]

J'ai trouvé que c'était bien interessant!

je me suis reconnu dans plusieurs mise en situation.

est-ce que ca va m'aider, qui sais mais j'ai bien aimé!

[Anil Swarup]

It is indeed an art, the art of saying no. The author makes it look simple as he underlines the importance of this art in the beginning, " Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can develop". It is an essential ingredient of a successful personality and through practice it can be developed. Damon provides an action plan for this purpose.

[Deepu George]

Hmm... when u want to say no.. just say no.. that's it. No need to read a book on that. But if u want to get some body to support your stance to say no... just read it be happy and then say No... its up to u

[Anuj]

Don't expect much from this - it repeats a handful of ideas through different chapters and everyday situations. However if you really struggle with saying no, you can quickly skim it and hope that the repetition helps you put in action what you already know.

[Natasha Kareeva]

Мы не в отвественности за эмоции других, надо почаще себе напоминать.

[Swapnil Rawat]

The book is very average with some good ideas. don't expect too much from it, most of the ideas are just common sense but yeah it's good for the quick read.

[Surajit Roy]

A line about this book

"Saying no can help reduce resentment that you may feel towards the person who made the request."

This book is about a person who is trying to improve their productivity and self growth. The key chapter is where Damon ask the readers to self analyze whether they are people pleaser or not by asking some prominent but important questions. Once we have analyzed that there exists the problem, author takes you on a journey where he gives all the practical tips on how to overcome the habit of saying “Yes”. The bonus part is where he explains how to say no in courteous manner to every aspect of life situations, ranging from relatives to spouse to coworkers.

This book is about, how to say no, and how to know when it is the right time to say no. The article says that even if we start to think about when we should say no, we will still find ourselves in situations where saying yes is the better decision.

Read a comprehensive review of the book, The Art of Saying No

[Daisy]

Wow. This was maybe the most repetitive book I've ever read. My first thought was, "This sounds like it was written by ChatGPT." The advice is so generic and obvious that it's not worth the money.

Nothing here is wrong. It's just not helpful.

These are the two sentences that encapsulate the whole book:
No one will protect your time and prioritize your needs as much as you.
There is a limited amount of time in the day, so when you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else.

[Nadja Nastez]

Really good one! 💛

[aves]

It was good…it was okay. Kind of repetitive but nice for a short audiobook read, it was just a little over 2 hours.

[Whitney Hunter]

Gave up on finishing it. A few good options for situations were provided; but it mostly stated the same idea of “No” over and over and just worded it slightly different each time.

[Nitin]

Quick read. Mostly common sense, but acts as a refresher on things you can do and approaches you can take