How to Go on After The Loss of Your Mother: A Life Changing Guide to Stop Feeling Guilty, Forgiving Yourself and Coping with Grief and Loss

by Melanie Aniston

We Don't "Move On" From Grief. We Move Forward with It- If you're feeling heartbroken after losing your mother and this heartache has been going on for a remarkably long time (and nothing you do seems to help get you out of this state)- If you are “stuck” after the loss of your mother and feel you can’t move past feeling heartbroken over the grief, then ...This book will work to help you to find your peace.But first, a Before we go further, let me make something abundantly This book is for you but it's not just an information product.- This book does not contain a "magic wand" that will bring you instant relief without having to do any work.So with that said, let me tell you…Do the following symptoms sound familiar?Agitation – Inability to relax, shaken upAnger – A strong emotion of displeasure with others or with an eventAnxiety – Feeling nervous and worriedApathy – Things do not seem important anymore, not caring what happensBetrayal – Feeling someone purposely chose to hurt youDespair – To lose hopeDisbelief – Trouble accepting the loss really happenedEmptiness – Feeling hopeless and sad, with nothing to give othersFear – The individual does not feel safe or worries for the safety of loved onesGuilt – Self-blame, feeling regretful about doing or not doing somethingHelplessness – Feeling like there is nothing one can do to make a difference in a situationImpatience – Want things right away and have trouble waitingIsolation – Removed or away from othersLoneliness – Feeling aloneNumbness- Can’t feel any emotionPowerlessness – Having no control over what is happeningRelief – To feel free from stress, pain or burdenSadness – Feeling unhappy and sorrowfulShame – Feeling dishonored or disgracedShock – Feeling surprised and disturbed by a sudden powerful eventStrength – Tough, powerfulThankfulness – AppreciativeUncertainty – Feeling unsureUselessness – Feeling worthlessWeakness – Frail, powerlessThe list goes on….You don't have to live this way forever.Here's a little sneak preview of what you’ll - Resolving family conflict after the loss- The grief process- Grief and Anxiety- Grief and Relationships- The Physical Impact of Grief- How to deal with regrets- Coping with your mother’s reappearance- Finding grief-coping techniques- What not to say to someone who is grieving- Strategies to finding happiness again- Ways to heal after the lossWhat’s Holding You Back? - “I’m afraid of really hearing the truth.” My book is designed with YOU in mind, and all of the information is delivered to you in a loving, gentle manner.

159 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 12, 2021

Reviews

[ReaderReviewer · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hhhmm

I would like to know what the author Melanie Aniston specialises in to warrant writing this book. I think it would benefit the would be reader to know this in advance. Many self published authors have reviewes from supportive friends and family so not always unbiased. I have no idea who the author is, if she is therapist (didn't think so), a bereavement support either etc. I read her book as I couldn't find anything else.

As per another recent review there is a tone/style to her advice which might not work for everyone... "don't think that try and think this". I think it would help readers if she could word things softly.

I did find some points useful such as if you are having a tough time communicating with family due to emotions flying all over the place than use email etc. Also how men and women grieve differently was good to understand.

Some true life stories or samples from real life people could have helped make the book more relateable.

How to deal with the shock of being bereaved and explaining how the brain works in response would also be useful.

Anyway I personally found therapy by the far the best option but would have appreciated a book to read that helped.

[Eileen · Rating 2 out of 5]

While some things in this book were helpful after losing my mom, I found the book to be written by an amateur. What credentials does she have to offer advice? By the way the book is written, I would say she is not a professional therapist and is just a random person with random advice that often contradicts. The book is very disjointed with very random thoughts, nothing is cohesive and her thoughts jump from one topic to the next, many times repeating herself. The editing is poor with many typos. I think there have to be better options for books about losing one's mother out there in the literary world.

[Kimberly Jobe · Rating 2 out of 5]

Never. Skip. On. An. Editor. There are a lot of typos, typing errors, repeated words/phrases/sentences throughout the entire book and it's obvious it wasn't edited or proofread. The writing was just...not good.
That being said, even though it felt a bit unorganized and all over the place it kinda worked? One thing this book does really well is covering pretty much every base. What I mean is that the author does a really good job of showing and describing as many ways grief can manifest as possible. I actually felt seen and validated and I hadn't found that in a grief book previously.
While the author doesn't seem to be a professional she does present some helpful tips and advice, but I think where she really shines is that this feels like a friend talking to you and trying to make sure you hear what you need to hear in one of your darkest moments. Sometimes that's all we need. To be seen and to have someone tell us that we aren't doing anything wrong. That our grief is as varied and individual as we are.
It's sometimes difficult to read. There's a lot of contradictions. It wasn't edited or proofed. It's kinda sloppy and a bit disorganized. But I would still recommend it if you're struggling over the loss of your mother or know someone struggling with the loss of theirs. It definitely helped me and gave me a lot to think about.
...including the state of self-published works...oof.

[Karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to Go On After The Loss of Your Mother by Melanie Aniston is a step by step analysis of the grieving process of possibly the most impactful relationship in life. The book states that we don't move on from grief, but move forward with it. The stages of grief include The Loss, Resolving Family conflict after loss, The Funeral, The Will, The Turmoil of Emotions, Gender Differences in the grieving process, How to deal with Regrets, and for me, How Losing Your Mother Impacts Your Brain, Adjusting to the New Normal and other very meaningful chapters. The chapter about brain changes explains how this death alters the functioning of the anterior cingulate which is the regulator of emotions, the amygdala, which regulates sleep patterns and the hippocampus which regulates stress hormones and memory. There are also chapters that say what not to say to a person who is grieving, and strategies for finding happiness again. A meaningful statement about death that is presented is: Death is the only universal process that turns everyone into beginners.

[Lisa McQueen · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to Cope After Losing your Mother

Reading this book was bittersweet.. It's a reminder but it's also something that needed to be handled... It's already been a few years but not a day goes by that I don't think about her. There were many issues and I never got closure. I have learned to let go of the unresolved issues and focus on the good memories. Not all siblings grieve the same and daughters definitely grieve differently than sons. I don't carry any guilt just remorse Over so much time loss before her passing.. I know she's there watching over me and smiling . The funny things she used to say and do and the funny faces she used to make. This book helped me release and embrace her at the same time. The thing that helped me the most was journaling and then going back and reading and analyzing what I was feeling. Some days are better than others but there are definitely more good days than bad now. Very helpful book.

[Ruthann · Rating 5 out of 5]

Soooo helpful to me after the death of my mom. I am having trouble articulating my heart and this book gave language to the many feelings I am sorting through. It also validates the grief stages and processes and points out how we jump all over the place in our journey!
Highly recommend this read if you have lost your Mom, even if the loss wasn’t recent- as you never get over the loss of you Mom you just learn to live on while you carry the loss forever with you. Which is part of what makes it so hard and sad.

[Alissa Holmes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read

This is a wonderful, well written book. While I was reading it, I thought about things I had not considered since the loss of my mother. I cried while reading this book, unashamedly. And the tears were healing and cleansing. If you have had a great loss, the loss of a parent, read this book.

[Gayla Gomes · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loss of your mother

The loss of a loved one can be devastating and the loss of a mother even more so. This book can help you understand your grief, or the grief of others. It shows how grief affects different aspects of our lives

[Jodee Thompson · Rating 5 out of 5]

So Helpful

I lost my Mother a long time ago, but this book has been a big help to get me thru the times I still think about her. And It helped me with assisting my siblings who are all younger and still miss her every day.

[Joey Loya · Rating 1 out of 5]

I was hoping for more from the son's perspective. There were a few times I thought the book spread its self think and tried to do too much. That being said it was a good read that brought up a lot of interesting perspectives.

[rebecca white · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good Book

This was very interesting and heart felt. It's definitely recommended for everyone learning more on how to cope with the loss or support someone close to you.

[Hollie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a really good book to read 6 or more months into the grieving process.