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Then There Was Her
The bestselling, heartfelt memoir from social media and business entrepreneur Sophie Cachia. This edition features a brand-new final chapter with Sophie’s reflections from the past year.
Sophie Cachia had her white picket fence life. By the age of 25, she was a mother and happily married, and had also built a very successful business by documenting her every move online.
But Sophie and her comfortable existence were thrown a curveball when she met a woman who prompted her to ask herself the questions: What more can I do? What more can I learn? What more can I be?
In Then There Was Her, Sophie describes how challenging the set social narrative for a young woman led her down a path of awareness, empowerment and acceptance as she navigated identity, sensuality and the true meaning of authenticity as a mother and a woman.
A deeply honest and inspirational memoir of a strong female who made peace with her decisions all in the unrelenting glare of the public eye, Then There Was Her encourages readers to stop fearing the unknown in life and to instead be excited about what may just come your way.
Sophie Cachia had her white picket fence life. By the age of 25, she was a mother and happily married, and had also built a very successful business by documenting her every move online.
But Sophie and her comfortable existence were thrown a curveball when she met a woman who prompted her to ask herself the questions: What more can I do? What more can I learn? What more can I be?
In Then There Was Her, Sophie describes how challenging the set social narrative for a young woman led her down a path of awareness, empowerment and acceptance as she navigated identity, sensuality and the true meaning of authenticity as a mother and a woman.
A deeply honest and inspirational memoir of a strong female who made peace with her decisions all in the unrelenting glare of the public eye, Then There Was Her encourages readers to stop fearing the unknown in life and to instead be excited about what may just come your way.
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Published May 3, 2022
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May 7, 2022
Narcissist vanity project. Was it self published and edited? The writing is terrible and story mundane. I think Sophie needs evaluation for the Dunning-Kruger effect
“The Dunning-Kruger effect is a type of cognitive bias in which people believe that they are smarter and more capable than they really are”
“The Dunning-Kruger effect is a type of cognitive bias in which people believe that they are smarter and more capable than they really are”
May 10, 2022
I don’t know why this book was published. It’s narcissistic and vapid, and as others have said, throws many people in her life under the bus. It’s also portly written - so many hyphens and long sentences.
Sophie says she is is amazing, the best, so successful and a good person.
Sophie is really open to feedback from people if she’s wrong, and wants to have honest conversations with them.
Sophie is really good at giving blow jobs.
Sophie was really good at netball.
Sophie has lost a lot of friends because they just aren’t in her league.
Sophie was put on this earth to be a mother.
Sophie will encourage her kids to have as many sexual partners as possible.
Sophie really wants another baby, but wants to have the baby alone, as then they baby will be hers alone, and she won’t risk another broken home as she doesn’t know if she and Maddie are forever.
Sophie discloses mental health and diagnosis of two people close to her.
Sophie makes a lot of money - double her ex partner and then some.
Sophie’s detailing of meeting the woman who made her realise she’s into women is creepy - so predatory.
Sophie’s obsessed with her ex partner - I hope her ex partner is ok. The Mamamia interview was probably more defamatory than the book, and the interview named her.
Sophie got bullied as a kid, due to her Dad’s job in football - I really hope her kids don’t get bullied due to the content of their Mum’s book.
Sophie’s treatment of her current partner is deplorable and this book is a massive red flag for her - run!
I also hope her ex husband and the kids are ok, and her Mum and sisters are too. This book is not fair on any of them.
She’s achieved very little in her life - this book is unnecessary. You’d have to wonder why a publisher would invest in such a self absorbed, uninteresting, portly written, nasty story; and who would look to Sophie as a role model.
What a flipping embarrassment for her kids.
Sophie says she is is amazing, the best, so successful and a good person.
Sophie is really open to feedback from people if she’s wrong, and wants to have honest conversations with them.
Sophie is really good at giving blow jobs.
Sophie was really good at netball.
Sophie has lost a lot of friends because they just aren’t in her league.
Sophie was put on this earth to be a mother.
Sophie will encourage her kids to have as many sexual partners as possible.
Sophie really wants another baby, but wants to have the baby alone, as then they baby will be hers alone, and she won’t risk another broken home as she doesn’t know if she and Maddie are forever.
Sophie discloses mental health and diagnosis of two people close to her.
Sophie makes a lot of money - double her ex partner and then some.
Sophie’s detailing of meeting the woman who made her realise she’s into women is creepy - so predatory.
Sophie’s obsessed with her ex partner - I hope her ex partner is ok. The Mamamia interview was probably more defamatory than the book, and the interview named her.
Sophie got bullied as a kid, due to her Dad’s job in football - I really hope her kids don’t get bullied due to the content of their Mum’s book.
Sophie’s treatment of her current partner is deplorable and this book is a massive red flag for her - run!
I also hope her ex husband and the kids are ok, and her Mum and sisters are too. This book is not fair on any of them.
She’s achieved very little in her life - this book is unnecessary. You’d have to wonder why a publisher would invest in such a self absorbed, uninteresting, portly written, nasty story; and who would look to Sophie as a role model.
What a flipping embarrassment for her kids.
May 10, 2022
This book is what is wrong with the publishing world.
May 9, 2022
This should have stayed as diary entries. The fact that it wasn’t particularly well written is the least bad thing about it. Sophie has spent an entire book talking down about all the people in her life, she makes her current partner sound like a doormat for coming back over and over again, she publishes people’s private medical information that should be their stories to tell, she says she takes accountability for all her mistakes but it certainly doesn’t sound like it. While brave for leaving her marriage and sharing her experience she may have been better spending more time focusing on her successful businesses and less time throwing her family and ex-friends under the bus.
July 28, 2022
I've been following Sophie on instagram for years and was drawn to her persona as a young mummy. It was an added bonus a few years ago when she came out on instagram with a female partner and was completely keen to read more about her journey in discovering her sexuality.
This book definitely covers her time married to Jarryd, having her two kids super young, starting her business ventures and then discovering another part of her sexuality. I quite liked this aspect of the book. However, this book is at times quite hard to read. It's not written or structured well, and Sophie seems to have no real conscience in the way she discusses those around her. It's cringeworthy at multiple times, and there were moments where I had to skip chapters as I just couldn't bear to listen to her singular viewpoint. I felt for those she completely roasts in this book, including her ex-husband, her mother, siblings, ex-partner etc etc. It felt more like a smear campaign at times, with her also telling us how fantastic she is at absolutely everything she does. It was completely exhausting.
This book definitely covers her time married to Jarryd, having her two kids super young, starting her business ventures and then discovering another part of her sexuality. I quite liked this aspect of the book. However, this book is at times quite hard to read. It's not written or structured well, and Sophie seems to have no real conscience in the way she discusses those around her. It's cringeworthy at multiple times, and there were moments where I had to skip chapters as I just couldn't bear to listen to her singular viewpoint. I felt for those she completely roasts in this book, including her ex-husband, her mother, siblings, ex-partner etc etc. It felt more like a smear campaign at times, with her also telling us how fantastic she is at absolutely everything she does. It was completely exhausting.
May 14, 2022
I finished this book but it wasn’t easy!
She claims to be ‘outspoken’ and ‘honest’, but I just found her really nasty. She also claims to be a woman that brings people up, but she tore her own mother down. Would not recommend and I’m off to donate mine to the op shop.
She claims to be ‘outspoken’ and ‘honest’, but I just found her really nasty. She also claims to be a woman that brings people up, but she tore her own mother down. Would not recommend and I’m off to donate mine to the op shop.
May 24, 2022
I didn’t have high expectations going into this book yet I still found it disappointing. After following Sophie on social media, the nosey housewife in me wanted the goss on all of her relationships from her divorce from her husband to her new fiancé. And whilst the book certainly delivers the details I was craving, this was the only enjoyment I got out of it. Although the writing was raw, honest and casual, Sophie is no writer. It is poorly written and edited, often jumping from one topic to the next. Sophie also needs to reconsider her own convenient self definition of arrogant. What she defines as confidence and self love, is in reality what most people would see as arrogant, self-indulgent and self-important.
In short, this is a book by Sophie Cachia talking about why Sophie Cachia thinks Sophie Cachia is so fantastic. I regret spending my $19 on this book and contributing to her own personal profits.
In short, this is a book by Sophie Cachia talking about why Sophie Cachia thinks Sophie Cachia is so fantastic. I regret spending my $19 on this book and contributing to her own personal profits.
May 5, 2022
What an embarrassment. Can’t believe this was actually published. Way to trash everyone in your life.
May 7, 2022
Beyond awful. A narcissistic work of fiction that throws her family and friends under the bus.
July 19, 2022
Did not finish. This was like a terrible version of Untamed by Glennon Doyle. It felt very narcissistic and lacked sooo much self awareness yikes
May 10, 2022
I had never heard of Sophie Cachia before, saw that she’d been interviewed for a Mamamia podcast and I’d give it a go.
I found this book really uncomfortable to read to be honest. The construction is poor, and it felt like an sensationalised version of events to paint a main character in a likeable way.
There are far more honest, complex, warm and well written books on women’s liberation and sexual awakening- to say that this book is great because it does that spits in the face of professional female authors.
I found this book really uncomfortable to read to be honest. The construction is poor, and it felt like an sensationalised version of events to paint a main character in a likeable way.
There are far more honest, complex, warm and well written books on women’s liberation and sexual awakening- to say that this book is great because it does that spits in the face of professional female authors.
May 28, 2022
I have followed Sophie for a long time on social media and have been invested in all aspects of her life for many reasons, giving me a great desire to want to read her book. Although by reading this, it gave me more insight into her world which I can say I enjoyed, I did not like how she spoke ill of some of her family members and seemed very self centred. It was quite repetitive, jumped between topics and was very poorly edited.
May 4, 2022
Real, raw and oh so open. Thank you Sophie for sharing your story, as someone else who ended their marriage at 27 to discover myself and my sexuality I could relate to this so much. The open sexual discussion is encouraging to read, it’s 2022 this is just how it should be but we still have a way to go much of the time. Absolutely loved this insight into this powerhouse of a woman’s life.
May 13, 2022
This book has to be a joke!!! It seriously has to be self published without even an editor reading it through it is that bad! The only rating I can give is 1 star (I'd give it none if that was possible) don't waste your money even if it's in the bargain bin!! It's absolute garbage.
May 28, 2022
This book is so incredibly bad I can’t even read it all the way to the end. A waste of $20
August 1, 2022
How to be a narcissist. 0/5 ⭐️
This was painful to read. I kept hoping it would become better but it got worse.
This was painful to read. I kept hoping it would become better but it got worse.
June 25, 2022
I listened to this over a few travel stints and had to stop it a few times as it frustrated the heck out of me. There were times that I really got into it, but the frustrating moments turned me off it. So many times I heard “then there was her” and so many different hers throughout the story.
September 21, 2022
“I went around the circle of unfamiliar faces, smiling, shaking hands, introducing myself…. Then there was her. As our hands touched, time froze. My whole world changed forever…”
If you don’t know who Sophie Cachia is you definitely should check her page and brands out. Sophie is a bad ass business woman with a heart of gold, who is raising two emotionally intelligent children and pushing social boundaries.
I throughly enjoyed learning about Sophie’s younger life and learning how her hard work and sporting achievements paved the way for her ever growing online success.
Sophie was 25 and happily married with two children. The perfect life on paper. The book delicately covers her marriage to Jaryd, it’s breakdown and coming finding them comfort to come into her own and everything in between. Jaryd actually starts the book off and it’s was such a great example of coparenting and being mature adults.
Fast forward to present, Sophie is engaged and is a flourishing Entrepreneur with multiple business. A true role model for young women everywhere, Sophie continues to encourage others to be authentic and true to one’s self.
I found this memoir so insightful and empowering and couldn’t recommend it more.
If you don’t know who Sophie Cachia is you definitely should check her page and brands out. Sophie is a bad ass business woman with a heart of gold, who is raising two emotionally intelligent children and pushing social boundaries.
I throughly enjoyed learning about Sophie’s younger life and learning how her hard work and sporting achievements paved the way for her ever growing online success.
Sophie was 25 and happily married with two children. The perfect life on paper. The book delicately covers her marriage to Jaryd, it’s breakdown and coming finding them comfort to come into her own and everything in between. Jaryd actually starts the book off and it’s was such a great example of coparenting and being mature adults.
Fast forward to present, Sophie is engaged and is a flourishing Entrepreneur with multiple business. A true role model for young women everywhere, Sophie continues to encourage others to be authentic and true to one’s self.
I found this memoir so insightful and empowering and couldn’t recommend it more.
January 6, 2023
This book is fun if you're looking for a cosy night in bed with a red pen and have a fondness for editing messed up grammar and reading stories told by a narcissist.
I think her editor actually stopped reading the book because Year 5 students could have proof read it better.
Other than that, it's a dull read with stories about other people's lives to try and make it interesting.
It honestly makes me mad that there are so many amazing writers waiting to be published and this trash has beaten their work to the shelves.
I think her editor actually stopped reading the book because Year 5 students could have proof read it better.
Other than that, it's a dull read with stories about other people's lives to try and make it interesting.
It honestly makes me mad that there are so many amazing writers waiting to be published and this trash has beaten their work to the shelves.
November 4, 2022
I'll echo other comments and say this was beyond painful to read (I did the audiobook version and there were SO many editing fails). If she was trying to be inspirational, she fell wildly short and came off as deranged and deluded.
June 22, 2022
It was a real struggle to finish this. The book jumped around quite a bit and at times it was quite hard to follow.
August 24, 2022
ZERO stars.
Couldn’t finish. This was terrible.
As stated many times, a self indulgent vanity project. DO NOT RECOMMEND
Couldn’t finish. This was terrible.
As stated many times, a self indulgent vanity project. DO NOT RECOMMEND
January 21, 2024
Narcissism. The Sophie Story.
Still love her pjs though 😂🤷🏻♀️
Still love her pjs though 😂🤷🏻♀️
August 4, 2022
To be honest, I have seen both really good and really bad reviews for this book so I was keen to give it a try and form my own opinion. I don't really follow any social media influencers, but quite a few people that I know that don't read at all said they read this book & enjoyed it so that was enough to sway me to give it a go! I have somewhat mixed thoughts, so I'll get into what I did and didn't like:
The not so great:
My initial impression was that Sophie was hyped up A LOT - first by her ex husband, and a lot by herself. I'm all for self love and confidence, but it was a little much to repeatedly listen to a long list of never ending compliments. For example, Sophie talked a lot about how she would have most definitely been a professional athlete if she didn't give it away or have an injury. Maybe it was the case, but those statements can give me the ick. I hear so many people say that they would've been a professional 'if'..... and then a range of excuses.. I guess I feel that it undermines people who have actually achieved these things with their own drive and skills when people said 'oh I would've done that but...'
I also feel that this book dragged some of Sophie's family members or people in her life. Once again, I think it comes down to your attitude as some people have praised it as being honest but I somwhat feel uncomfortable reading what feels like 'dirty laundry' or a diary entry that perhaps didn't need to be shared.
Elements of Sophie's dating life were extremely repetitive and toxic which was frustrating to read, but hey - i'm sure we've all been there in our own lives or will go there unfortunately.
There were also quite a few errors in this book - from a few things that didn't make sense, spelling/grammar mistakes, and repeated lines which was a shame to see as i'm sure a lot of work went into making this book.
Some positives:
I really liked how pro sex & pro self love this book was as I think it's a healthy aspect of adult life that needs to be normalised more. It's definitely interesting to see how relationship norms are changing so much with each generation as shame as stigma are slowly going away or improving. Sophie and her partner also seem to have a really healthy co parenting relationship which was great to see being discussed.
I also thought that Sophie did a great job of narrating the audiobook herself and it was a relatively easy listen which I finished in 24 hours.
The not so great:
My initial impression was that Sophie was hyped up A LOT - first by her ex husband, and a lot by herself. I'm all for self love and confidence, but it was a little much to repeatedly listen to a long list of never ending compliments. For example, Sophie talked a lot about how she would have most definitely been a professional athlete if she didn't give it away or have an injury. Maybe it was the case, but those statements can give me the ick. I hear so many people say that they would've been a professional 'if'..... and then a range of excuses.. I guess I feel that it undermines people who have actually achieved these things with their own drive and skills when people said 'oh I would've done that but...'
I also feel that this book dragged some of Sophie's family members or people in her life. Once again, I think it comes down to your attitude as some people have praised it as being honest but I somwhat feel uncomfortable reading what feels like 'dirty laundry' or a diary entry that perhaps didn't need to be shared.
Elements of Sophie's dating life were extremely repetitive and toxic which was frustrating to read, but hey - i'm sure we've all been there in our own lives or will go there unfortunately.
There were also quite a few errors in this book - from a few things that didn't make sense, spelling/grammar mistakes, and repeated lines which was a shame to see as i'm sure a lot of work went into making this book.
Some positives:
I really liked how pro sex & pro self love this book was as I think it's a healthy aspect of adult life that needs to be normalised more. It's definitely interesting to see how relationship norms are changing so much with each generation as shame as stigma are slowly going away or improving. Sophie and her partner also seem to have a really healthy co parenting relationship which was great to see being discussed.
I also thought that Sophie did a great job of narrating the audiobook herself and it was a relatively easy listen which I finished in 24 hours.
May 22, 2024
I didn’t have high expectations but it surprised me and I found myself wanting to know more! Looking forward to reading book 2
May 8, 2022
The book sets out to fill followers (and haters) in on a period of Sophie’s life where she was discovering herself. It opens up about when she was hurting and her personal growth but at times it also felt very shallow. In saying all that I devoured the book in one sitting but felt it would have been better as a podcast or essay format.
June 9, 2022
Very open, honest story which highlights topics that many people may go through during their lifetime. It encourages you to live life they way you want to without the expectations of society!
May 12, 2022
I had high expectations for this book. I’ve been following Sophie for a long time and as someone that can relate to her (I had my children and the same age and got married at the same age), I was expecting more. There were so many errors in the book, words in the wrong places or completely missing, no spaces in between words, double ups of words. I felt like I was trying to sort through a jumbled diary entry of all the people in her life.
I love Sophie and all that she stands for but this book could have been so much better.
I love Sophie and all that she stands for but this book could have been so much better.
January 5, 2023
If you've heard the publicity interviews, you've heard the book. Wasn't much more to the story which I found a bit disappointing after all the hype.
I liked that it felt like you were chatting to her, but withcommon friends of some of the people written about - some parts were uncomfortable to read.
I liked that it felt like you were chatting to her, but withcommon friends of some of the people written about - some parts were uncomfortable to read.
May 7, 2022
Feels wildly controversial to say that I enjoyed this lol
Was this a project in vanity? Maybe
Was it also an interesting discussion about sex, relationships, and navigating mental health? Yes, and I do think that is valid praise
Was this a project in vanity? Maybe
Was it also an interesting discussion about sex, relationships, and navigating mental health? Yes, and I do think that is valid praise
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