what hapend with your life

by desy rachmawati

Setiap orang punya kehidupan masing-masing. Itu sudah pasti. Namun, pernahkah mempertanyakan apa yang sebenarnya terjadi dalam hidup? Apakah hidup sudah berjalan dengan baik? Apakah bila terus menjalani hidup seperti ini, kita akan nyaman? Segala sesuatu dalam hidup ini terjadi karena suatu alasan dan tidak semua yang terjadi dalam hidup berada di bawah kontrol kita. Kita tidak bisa mengendalikannya. Lalu, kita harus bagaimana?

Melalui buku ini, kita bisa lebih mempelajari apa yang terjadi dalam hidup dan bagaimana cara kita merespons apa yang terjadi dalam hidup. Harapannya, apa yang disajikan dalam buku ini bisa membuat hidup terasa lebih baik. Juga, bisa dijadikan sebagai pembaruan semangat dan keyakinan ketika merasa hidup sulit, hingga membuat kita terluka.

240 pages, Paperback

First published September 6, 2020

Reviews

[Annisa Listiana · Rating 5 out of 5]

um, ya, buku genre self improvement punya pesan tersendiri tentu untuk pembacanya, salah satunya adalah aku.
Jujur, beberapa bab dalam buku ini membantu aku untuk 'pulih' dari beberapa keadaan yang ternyata itu struggle banget untuk aku, and ya, maybe ga segampang itu, but, serious, damagenya kena banget ke aku. Thanks, ka Desy, udah bikin buku ini, u did a great job!

[Salman Prasad · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book titled What Happened with Your Life is a written work developed with full dedication by the author, Desy Rachmawati, and officially published by Brilliant Publishers. The second edition of this book came into the public eye in 2021, with a print run reaching the second edition. The author, Desy, is a woman who has completed her higher education at one of the state universities in Yogyakarta, adding an academic dimension to her work. Her interest and love for the world of literature have guided her since her school days, and Desy has successfully channeled her passion into the world of writing.

This book, as a manifestation of the thoughts and experiences of the author, becomes a work that provides a profound insight into the reality of life. With a thickness of 204 pages, this book is not just a collection of words but a deep and educational narrative. Through this work, Desy invites readers to reflect and understand the essence of life. With hope, the author urges all of us to learn from the events in our lives and see life from a broader perspective. Central to its moral message, this book teaches the importance of stepping out of the comfort zone, motivating readers to continue growing and innovating.

Desy, with her linguistic skill, carefully crafted this book, presenting thought-provoking illustrations and enlivening each chapter with captivating quotes, creating a pleasant and profound reading experience. The presentation of her work becomes an effective solution to prevent reader boredom, considering each chapter is adorned with elements that spark interest. However, despite its brilliance, the book also exhibits some shortcomings, especially regarding the use of foreign words or sentences, particularly in English. Although Desy has provided some definitions to facilitate reader understanding, there is a need for readers to seek the meaning of certain words or sentences. Nevertheless, this can be seen as an opportunity to enhance the reader's foreign language skills.

The book presents three interesting discussion focuses that capture the reader's attention, one of them being in the second chapter titled Love Isn't Everything. Desy sharply encourages readers to reflect on the common view that love is considered the center of everything in life. In this context, the author reveals that love, aside from bringing happiness, can also be a source of sadness, heartbreak, disappointment, and skepticism. The importance of understanding love, including love at first sight, is highlighted in this chapter. The explanation of love at first sight as not true love but merely lust enriches the reader's perspective by incorporating scientific elements, particularly the chemical reaction process in the brain needed to experience true love.

In the eighth chapter titled Introvert or Extrovert, Desy introduces the concept of human personality involving two main types, namely introverts and extroverts. Individuals with an introverted personality tend to avoid small talk and prefer conversations that are substantial or directly related to the core issue. This personality is also characterized by deep thinking, strong imaginative abilities, skill in managing emotions, and a high sensitivity to feelings. On the other hand, individuals with an extroverted personality tend to feel comfortable in interactive environments, actively participate in social interactions, and have quick thinking abilities. Desy explains that someone with a balanced frequency of both personality types can be referred to as an ambivert. Despite the differences in these characteristics, the emphasis is on the importance of accepting and coexisting with different personalities.

The twelfth chapter, titled When You Feel Worthless, discusses two main things that humans desire in their lives, namely success and happiness. Desy details that when these two things are not achieved, feelings of chaos and worthlessness arise. Trapped in negative thoughts about the unattractiveness of life and feeling worthless, a person tends to feel desperate and believe that they have no valuable worth to the world. The author notes that too much focus on one's shortcomings can hinder understanding of the strengths one possesses. Desy emphasizes that life can feel shorter when trapped in a cycle of lamenting deficiencies. Reducing the habit of comparing oneself to others is also an important piece of advice, considering that individual standards of success vary.

[Pipit Aryaningrum · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pernah nggak sih kalian tuh lagi di mode mikirin banyak hal tentang apa yang terjadi di kehidupan kita ?

Nah buku What Happend With Your Life ini menurutku mungkin akan jadi jawaban atas semua yang kalian pikirkan selama ini.

Membaca buku ini rasanya seperti diajak untuk ngobrol berdua sambil merenungi banyak hal tentang setiap titik yang terjadi di kehidupan. Kadang juga kalau dibaca pas malem sadar gak sadar kalau baca buku ini jadi overthinking mode on.

• Kelebihan

Desain buku :
- Dari segi font yang digunakan aku suka banget meskipun kecil-kecil tapi terlihat mudah dan nyaman ketika membaca.

- Dan beberapa kalimat penting menggunakan font yang di bold hitam, jadi tidak perlu repot lagi untuk menghighlight.

- Terdapat beberapa illustrasi menarik di setiap halamannya termasuk pada bagian awal setiap topik.

- Setiap halamannya banyak ditambahkan kutipan penting dengan di highlight menggunakan font tulisan yang lebih besar.

- Penyampaian cerita yang disampaikan juga mudah dipahami.

[K; · Rating 4 out of 5]

Di bab awal relate banget sama aku. Bacanya juga enjoy, aku nggak merasa digurui, ngalir aja kayak diajak ngobrol sama psikolog. Setelah aku baca semua, isinya hampir sama kayak buku self improvement pada umumnya kayak abis diajak ngobrol terus dikasih tips. Poin plusnya buku ini beneran kayak temen curhat, ngedengerin semua keluh kesahku dan give me advice instead of memojokkanku for what i've done.

[Triogi Putra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Buku ini lebih ke menceritakan hal yang umum terjadi pada orang-orang, begitu juga aku. Tapi ibarat ada masalah tidak ada solusi akan sia-sia dan akan membuat diri menjadi semakin terluka jika itu masih dikenang. Aku bisa katakan buku ini cocok untuk pengenalan diri dan mengenali diri.

[Dyaaa · Rating 4 out of 5]

apakah cinta pada pandangan pertama tama itu ada?didalam buku ini menjelaskan bedanya antara cinta dan "nafsu". cinta pandang pertama banyak orang yang merasa itu begitu hebat, ternyata cinta pandangan pertama muncul hanya karna nafsu semata.

[Evita · Rating 3 out of 5]

Banyak yang relate sama aku, jadi, lumayan deh.

[Evita Oktaviani · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sebuah insights singkat dan bermakna ketika lagi ngga baik-baik aja. Singkat, padat, dan jelas serta mudah dipahami