Sexual abuse— and yes, it is a book that deals with sexual abuse, regardless if the majority of the reviews say physical— is a topic near and dear to my heart. I was talking to some writing friends about maybe writing a book that would give kids vocabulary to talk about sexual abuse.
“Sounds like Dust by Dusti Bowling,” one of them said.
“Really?” I had just finished reading Insignificant Events in the Life of a Cactus a few months prior and Dusti Bowling was on my list of Trustworthy Authors.
And so to Hoopla and KU and Everand I went, searching for an ebook. I checked the reviews and reported back that it seemed to deal with physical abuse.
“I remember it being about sexual abuse,” my friend said.
So, with ebook in hand from Hoopla, I scanned it. My heart broke.
It was.
But the victim was a boy.
And that, my friends, is why I read this book. Dusti could have easily chosen a girl. But she chose a boy. An “unlikely victim”.
The beauty in this book is that it starkly shows how much evil can hide in unsuspecting places, in a way that tweens can understand and digest. I deeply wish I had this book when I was Avalyn’s age. I was the girl who stood up to bullies, but had a hard time standing up to my own.
Speaking of which…
Realistic bullying: also points. A lot of books stick to this cartoonish, tropey idea of bullies from bygone eras when, as I, the little homeschooler who only knew of these caricatures from books, discovered as I got older.
The big sister in me was ANGRY. I wanted to protect those kids so badly and I couldn’t and it made me cry (yes the book made me cry) because I understand so so so deeply that fear of telling. That feeling you can work it out yourself. The weight of the secret.
Avalyn and her parents are sweet. A little stereotypical at the beginning but they come through in the end which I’m glad of. I wish Avalyn had slightly less catty tween vibes but it’s a MG book, can’t be helped.
And Adam *sobs*
Im adding this to my too-small collection of male SA rep books. SO few people talk about it, and it makes my heart ache for all the Adams in this world where the girls will be told “it wasn’t your fault” while the boys will be discriminated and put aside because “boys don’t get sexually abused”
Oh yes, they do, and it breaks my heart. I pray for all the little boys who read this book, see Adam, and are given courage to speak up. My heart goes out to all the Adams grown up and finding this book now. You’re not alone. And your experience is not invalidated because you’re male.
Thank you, Dusti, for giving them a voice through Adam.
The SA was masterfully handled. Not graphic. But enough for a kid to understand. Wonderful work. We need more novels like this. The ending was happy but realistic which I appreciated.
Excellent audiobook too, would recommend. It’s 400+ pages but a fast read.
Kids 10+ could read this book with advice from parents.
CONTENT WARNINGS: The bullying is intense. Kids are shoved, Avalyn is berated for her asthma and at one point they take her inhaler from her when she’s having an asthma attack (cruel). They also pour dirt on her several times. Nan, Avalyn’s friend, is mocked for being a Mexican immigrant. A kid is pantsed at one point. Bullies call Avalyn’s male friend Dillon a girl several times and in a notable incident forcibly strap a bra onto him.
Biggest thing is the SA plotline, at one point Avalyn goes to Adam’s house and finds him after his uncle has assaulted him, and it implies he’s partially naked (not in a graphic way, this was an incredibly well written scene that made it clear to the reader what was going on without being graphic). Definitely something to talk about with younger readers and make sure you’re having conversations with your kids while they read this book. Still think it’s an important book for kids to read though, especially the ones who don’t have the vocabulary to speak up.