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Išgyvenimo knyga vaikams, turintiems autizmo spektro sutrikimų

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„Turiu labai stengtis, kad pastebėčiau, kas vyksta aplink."
„Man sudėtinga bendrauti. Pavyzdžiui, man sunku paklausti „Kaip sekasi?"
„Kai žiūriu žmonėms į akis, labai lengvai pametu mintį."
„Ar yra kažkas, ką norėčiau pasakyti žmonėms? Taip – aš nesikandžioju."

Taip kalba autizmo spektro sutrikimą (ASS) turintys vaikai. Kai kurie iš šių vaikų yra talentin­gi, o kai kuriems sunkiai sekasi mokytis. Vieni – labiau intravertai, o kiti stengiasi būti socialūs. Kai kurie „užstringa" ties daiktais, turi ribotus pomėgius, jiems būdingi kartojami judesiai. Visi ASS turintys vaikai auga ir keičiasi. Jiems reikia šaltinio, iš kurio galėtų nuolat semtis žinių ir kuris padėtų jiems siekti kuo didesnių tikslų pagal savo gebėjimus ir jiems tinkamu tempu. Tam ir yra skirta ši knyga.

Ją galite skaityti kartu su tėvais, joje keliami svarbūs klausimai („Kas yra ASS?", „Kodėl aš?") ir pateikiamos strategijos, kaip bendrauti, susirasti draugų, ką daryti, kad sektųsi mokykloje. Knygos dalyje apie kūną ir smegenis aiškinama apie simptomų valdymą, mankštą, dietą, higieną, atsipalaidavimą, miegą, tualeto reikalus ir stimus. Ypatingas dėmesys skiriamas padėti vaikams susidoroti su stipriomis emocijomis, keisti elgesį, o prireikus sulaukti paramos iš savo „pagalbininkų komandos". Knygoje yra daug citatų ir tikrų vaikų istorijų, taip pat joje pateikiama naudingų faktų, kontrolinių sąrašų, dialogų ir šaltinių.

Ši „Išgyvenimo knyga" – tai vadovėlis, kurį galima atsiversti visada, kai prireikia pagalbos. Naudokitės ja, kai reikia išmokti naują temą ar įgūdį. Atsiverskite ją iš naujo, kai vaikui kyla klausimų, kai jis susiduria su pokyčiais, išgyvena tam tikrą raidos eta­pą ar stengiasi įveikti sunkumus.

238 pages

First published March 1, 2012

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187 reviews2 followers
April 27, 2025
I wrote a whole rant about how much I despise this book and all of the issues I have with it, but basically, it’s an outdated, offensive, and ableist piece of garbage written by two autism moms who constantly speak negatively about autistic people and autistic traits. The authors urge autistic kids to make eye contact with other people and not stim at home or at school because it can make their family members, friends, and teachers “feel uncomfortable.” Instead of encouraging autistic kids to unmask and be themselves–or even teaching neurotypical kids (and adults, for that matter) to be kind to autistic people and treat us with respect–the authors tell autistic kids that they will only be accepted and loved by others if they “blend in” (AKA, if they mask). Additionally, the authors mention how some people believe that autism is caused by vaccines, or that autism needs to be cured, but they make no effort whatsoever to explain that these beliefs are wrong and harmful. To me, it seems like they might actually believe in these falsehoods–at the end of the book, they endorse/promote Autism Speaks as if it’s a good organization. News flash, it’s not; it’s a hate group that thinks there is a “cure” to autism.
Both of this book’s authors, Elizabeth Verdick and Elizabeth Reeve, are neurotypical women with autistic sons, and they act like this gives them the qualification to write a book about autistic people. One of the authors, Reeve, is apparently also a child psychiatrist who works with neurodivergent kids. If you can’t understand that Autism Speaks is bad, or that “vaccines cause autism” is a myth with no actual scientific basis behind it–hell, if you can’t even understand that autism is a type of neurodivergence, not a “medical condition”–then you shouldn’t be a psychiatrist. I feel bad for Reeve’s patients and her and Verdick’s kids; they obviously have no idea what they’re talking about when it comes to autism. These women think that they’re helping autistic people by writing this book, but they’re not. They’re ableist and their book is ableist.
As a self-diagnosed autistic person, this book did nothing but make me angry. I don’t know why it’s so damn difficult for neurotypical people to just treat us neurodivergent folks like human beings. They can’t accept that we exist and that we’re “different” from them. They want us to hide our true selves and mask our neurodivergent traits while, at the same time, also wanting us to be “cured.” We don’t need to be “cured.” We need acceptance, kindness, and respect like any other person on this planet. We have varying support needs that need to be accommodated. We are not a monolith, we are a spectrum. If you can’t understand that–if you can’t understand us–then you shouldn’t be writing a book about us.
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427 reviews44 followers
April 27, 2012
From the author of "Hands Are Not For Hitting" is a new book that talks to kids about what they experience because they are on the autism spectrum.

Shocking! Revolutionary!

Wait....why aren't we talking to our kids about autism? That's something I've thought during most IEP meetings, at which my son is not present. Granted, he's 7. Then again, he's 7. Not stupid. And this is his life.

Elizabeth Verdick ("Hands Are Not For Hitting") and Elizabeth Reeve, MD are both mothers of sons on the autism spectrum. They've written a guide, meant to be read with a parent, to help children with autism to understand why they experience the world differently than their classmates, and to make choices to guide their future. There's a chapter about learning body language, complete with photos of a boy and girl giving knucks. The book talks about bedwetting, how to start a conversation, and exactly how hard you're supposed to hit someone in the game "tag."

I haven't yet read this book cover to cover, but I have read it sufficiently enough and with enough suspicion that it not be precious or condescending to recommend it to parents and family members of children with autism, but primarily for the children themselves. This is a step to help us all imagine a future as full as the futures of their neurotypical peers. I laud Verdick and Reeve for providing this book so that we can take it.
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August 30, 2024
*As a disclaimer, I only put a star in this review because it was required. This book deserves no stars* As an Autistic person, I found many problems with this book. For one, it is NOT WRITTEN BY AUTISTIC PEOPLE. There wasn’t even consultation from an Autistic person. The authors talk about ways to “survive” Autism, without even knowing what it’s like to be on the spectrum. Next, the chapters (in theory ) should have been helpful, but from reading it, they were mainly focused on how to blend into a neurotypical world, not how to accept your Autism. In the chapter about stimming, the authors only talk about hiding one’s stims, not accepting them. One quote that really disturbed me was this- “Her parents love her. But they don’t love her ASD because it makes her get ‘stuck’ on things.” This person’s parents dont like their kid’s disability because it makes act differently than neurotypicals?! It is so offending to the whole autistic community that these non autistic people had the audacity to write a book about autism with no idea how it really feels to be autistic, didn't consult an autistic person, wrote ableist things in the book, and then took their experience as mothers and doctors who worked with autistics as an invitation to write a wholly sad, unhelpful, and hurtful book. If you are autistic, please protect your mental health and don’t support these authors and their ableist writing.
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3,727 reviews95 followers
October 19, 2015
A colorful book that provides information on Autism Spectrum Disorders, living at home (family), at school, & in your community, body & brain basics, and more! Points are "illustrated" through text, personal essays, colorful tables, comics, "sidebars," etc. I cannot say enough good things about this book!
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87 reviews
January 8, 2024
Great book for kids and parents. It covers a lot of topics and aspects and explains things really well. Wish this was around when my brother was younger.
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601 reviews29 followers
July 16, 2013
Simply brilliant. This book is bright, smart, accessible, and thorough. My son, my husband and I have been using this as a guide for about a year now. It covers everything: from explaining ASD in terms a kid can understand, to school issues and concerns, behavior challenges, social skills, stims, sensory issues, toilet problems, and on and on. The chapters are wonderfully organized and include real kid examples to clarify each topic. The illustrations are colorful, clear, and enhance the text.

It's a wonderful resource we will turn to again and again. I would recommend this to parents and caregivers with children on the spectrum, and children with ASD. Probably best for ages 7 and up, but that depends on the child too. We started reading it with our son when he was 8 and he had a lot of questions about things. Some older children could read on their own while others will need help from their parents or other adult caregivers.
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Author 7 books147 followers
July 21, 2019
A friend with an autistic child recommended this book to me. I am not autistic and do not have an autistic child, but I was interested in the topic, so I read the book. I did learn a lot about autism spectrum disorders and how they can be managed, and what some of the challenges can be. I liked how this book had many examples using children from different ethnic backgrounds. It seemed very empowering and thoughtful as well.

I think this would be a good book for a parent to read with an older child who had just been diagnosed. I liked how the book was centered on the children's experience.
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36 reviews
May 3, 2024
I found this book to have a condescending tone and it read like a how to not be autistic or how to mask all yourself while with neurotypical people.
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1,460 reviews311 followers
March 21, 2013
From the back cover (pretty much sums it up):

"I have to work hard to pay attention to what is happening."
"I have trouble communicating. Like it's hard for me to say 'what's up?"
"It's really easy to lose focus when I look people in the eye."
"Is there something I'd like to tell people? Yes: I don't bite."

These are the words of children with autism spectrum disorders (ASD). Some of these children are gifted; others struggle academically. Some are more introverted, while others try to be social. Some get "stuck" on things, have limited interests, or experience repeated motor movements. All children with ASD grow and change. They need a book that keeps them informed and helps them achieve to the best of their abilities and at their own pace. This book is that guide.

Meant to be read with a parent, it addresses big questions ("What is ASD? Why me?") and provides strategies for communicating, making friends, and succeeding in school. A section on body and brain basics highlights symptom management, exercise, diet, hygiene, relaxation, sleep, toileting, and 'stims.' Special emphasis is placed on helping children handle intense emotions and behaviours and get support from their "team of helpers" when needed. Filled with quotes and stories from real kids, the book also offers helpful facts, check lists, dialogues, and resources.

Think of this Survival Guide as a handbook to turn to whenever help is needed. Use it to introduce a new topic or skill. Come back to it when your child is asking questions, facing challenges, reaching a milestone, or struggling.
Author 5 books9 followers
December 5, 2015
SUMMARY: This is a guide for kids on the Autism Spectrum. It is designed to help them understand their situation better and to provide ways to help them to help themselves through information. Section 1 provides information about Autism, what it is and what it means to have Autism. Section 2 is called Home, School and Community. It talks about family issues, social skills, making friends and how to succeed in school. Section 3 is called Body and Brain Basics. It talks about handling stress, stims, body issues and how to take care of yourself.

REVIEW: I LOVE THIS BOOK! I have a child on the spectrum and wish I had it when he was younger. It would have been a great help. This book has an amazing layout (colorful and fun) that makes it easy for kids to read. This book is written for kids with ASD so they can teach themselves things that will help them navigate the social world. The layout is also helpful for parents looking for information. This book is not a heavy read so you are going to get the basics without more background information or the science behind the story. Extremely user friendly. I recommend this book for any family with a child on the spectrum or educators as a resource.

AGE RECOMMENDATION: Advertised for GRADES 2-8. For the younger ages in this range, parents can read the book with their child. For the older kids--they may be more comfortable reading it completely by themselves, depending on the child.
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June 17, 2014
1) Fiction Twin Text Book: David's World, Author: Dagmar H. Mueller, Verena Ballhaus, Copyright: 2012
2) Rationale: I selected these books because we do an elective on disabilities at schools. One book is a fictional tale of a boy who has a brother with autism. The nonfiction selection is a guide to autism. It is written for kids with autism but I believe it gives good information for anyone to read. The book is broken down into three sections: A look into autism spectrum disorders, home, school and community and body and brain basics.
3) Text Structure of non-fiction book/ Strategy: The design features in the book include Text Divisions(Chapter and sections), lists, and insets. The graphics are kid friendly and age appropriate. Important words are in bold and color. There is a table of contents, headings, subheadings, appendixes and references. The structure of this book follows a problem solution and question and answer structure. I would use with these two books is the KWL strategy and have students create a list of what they already know, what they want to know and what they learn after reading the selection.
4) (2012, May 01). School Library Journal. http://www.booksinprint.com.leo.lib.u...#
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356 reviews7 followers
April 24, 2014
As a parent of a special needs child I am always looking for resources that can help my family. Much to my surprise I stumbled onto this book at my local library and was very pleased. This book is an excellent resource for any parent that has a child on the autism spectrum. What makes this book so special is that it is both for parents and children. I have never come across a book that has been set up quite like this before, so this was something new for me. I was impressed with the examples that were provided throughout the book for the reader to follow. I thought the authors did an excellent job and can tell they did a lot of research when writing this book! I have to recommend this book hands down and I honestly feel that the best way to give a review is too just ask you to read it. There is too much valuable information in this book to pass on and as a parent I need all the help I can get. I feel it would be tragedy to miss out on such recent material. I have to give a shout out to the authors for doing an excellent job on such an important subject.
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383 reviews17 followers
February 26, 2016
What a hard book this must have been to write. It’s such a hard topic. I imagine it was very difficult to write a generalized book, such as this, for something that is so individualized.

I read the entire book on my own and then read some with my daughter. I skipped around a lot in reading with her. Some of it I felt she wouldn’t really be interested in and the rest was just not relevant for her. I believe we wound up reading only about half the book together. I think she liked learning about autism—what it is and the issues involved. There were a couple chapters that were somewhat helpful with some of her personal hard issues that I might refer back to. The vast majority out of the parts we did read, however, she has already learned just by living life. I’m not sure she realized she knew it, so it was nice to be able to say, “Look how much of this you already know!”

All in all, I think we could have skipped this book. The amount of irrelevant information for us greatly outweighed any benefit. And I didn’t particularly like the highly secularized viewpoint expressed throughout.
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401 reviews72 followers
December 10, 2020
This book here had absolutely everything I needed in regards to organized information. It is written by two mommas (one of them is a M.D.) who have children on the spectrum. Each chapter is broke down by topic and there are three parts to this book. Food, toileting, medication, body language and social skills, hygiene, and well known people with ASD are just a few of the topics discussed. It's a book for both children and adults and it provides several resources in the form of books and websites for kids and teens as well as adults to continue their education journey about ASD. It even includes real excerpts from kids with ASD who want you to know what its like to live day to day with certain issues they struggle with. I give this a solid 5 🌟 and recommend it to anyone who needs info about ASD.
1 review1 follower
June 25, 2017
A great learning tool for parent & child

I have learned so much and confirmed a lot of what I always suspected with this book. What I especially love is the easy language used. I have read or started reading books & articles on Autism and stopped immediately because of the vocabulary, I felt I had to have a PhD in order to understand them. And, I also love the fact that my 10 year old son can read, relate and understand this book. I could see on his face as we were reading when a situation struck close to home. I'm glad that he can see for himself that it's not just happening to him and that his differences are not bad things. Thank you ladies and Amazon for having this book available to me
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749 reviews4 followers
May 11, 2012
The colors and layout of the book make you want to pick it up and thumb through it. The realistic, honest info with real life stories about how other kids with autism deal with day to day situations makes you not want to put it down. As a teacher, I come across students on the autism spectrum every year. This is a great resourse to reccommend to a parent of a child with autism. A perfect book for parent and child to read together and open the door to some conversations that will help the autistic child better understand their condition and strategies they can use to help funtion in day to day interactions at home and at school.
33 reviews2 followers
February 1, 2015
This book is definitely is very informative. It has true short stories on different kids with autism life's and their issues they deal with daily. I have two kids with autism and it's very hard to deal with, and this gave me some great insights on what they deal with. It's very kids friendly is what I also liked. I read this to my daughter and sometimes we would read this together.
This also helped her understand and answer her questions on whys she feels and think they way she does. This also lets her know that she is not alone. Awesome read to educated others that are not really familiar in kid form on autism. Great read and a must have for me. I really enjoyed it.
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51 reviews7 followers
April 7, 2015
I bought this for my son (with Aspergers) who has known for a few years that he has it, but I wanted a book he could dip into as and when he felt the need.

This book is bright and colourful, and definitely aimed at a child-friendly level.

Since purchasing, my youngest has been diagnosed with Autism, so I believe he'll also get a good use out of it when he feels ready. I would highly recommend it. It's also very beneficial to adults who may not fully understand the condition, or who are looking for specific strategies.
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1,175 reviews11 followers
January 8, 2016
I found this book at the Austin library. It does an excellent job of covering all aspects of autism from symptoms and how they vary to those who try different diets, different meds, how some fret about the cause but mostly it's about helping kids and their parents (perhaps reading this book together) talk about how they may be different that others but that's perfectly fine and ok.
Since it's aimed at kids and their parents it delves into some of the harder issues, like dealing with loud or annoying kids at school, changes in routine, etc.
50 reviews1 follower
December 5, 2015
The book "The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders" by Elizabeth Verdick was an amazing book in my eyes. I placed this book under the contemporary realistic fiction genre because this book used fictional characters to help students deal with fitting in. In general, many students have trouble fitting in at their schools, but realistically students with disabilities have a harder time. This book is actually very uplifting and interesting. I really enjoyed this book.
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246 reviews5 followers
April 29, 2019
I read this with my 12-year-old son who's on the autism spectrum. He seemed to find parts of it helpful. I wish this book had been around 9 years ago when he was first diagnosed (or at least around the time he started school). I appreciate its upbeat tone and the many individual kids' stories that highlighted solutions and workarounds for their struggles.
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30 reviews2 followers
December 30, 2019
Honestly, I didn't like the book very much. It contains some fairly good information for Kids with Autism but it's reiteration from time to time to claim it as a Disorder put it in somewhat negative reference. I would recommend "Uniquely Human" for the parents and for Kids too and from this book go over the real-life examples and communication strategies.
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2,052 reviews66 followers
February 23, 2020
This book is written by a doctor and an autism activist who are both parents to kids with this disorder. This book is a very informative and easy-to-read guide that lets readers inhabit the kids' perspective and extraordinary experiences. It also offers tons of practical advice on coping mechanisms and thriving mechanisms that can help kids.
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40 reviews1 follower
September 26, 2020
Very helpful

My son was recently diagnosed with high functioning autism. I was a bit in denial after seeing changes with ABA therapy. This helped me look at these symptoms and realize the diagnosis really does fit my son and it helped me better understand what things are like for him.
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Author 3 books2 followers
September 6, 2021
Written for children and teens with an Autism Spectrum Disorder, this is also a great resource for parents and teachers. It concisely explains common issues associated with living with an ASD, shares first hand examples from children and teens with an ASD, and gives simple but effective suggestions for all areas of daily life.
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894 reviews58 followers
October 6, 2023
This book is amazing!

Absolutely loved how this was geared towards the kids, and they truly covered every single conceivable topic. The advice, the specific examples, the anonymous quotes from other kids with ASD. Brilliant!

I recommend this to my coworkers who are in charge of purchasing for children and adults at our library.
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39 reviews2 followers
January 26, 2018
Great book. Love the differently coloured chapters. Explanations and suggestions tailored to kids reading this book. You can simply leave out any chapters that are not an issue for your child; pick and choose what’s needed.
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3 reviews2 followers
January 2, 2021
It would be a good book to share with autistic children if it did not refer to “disorder” throughout and if it were a bit more positive as to the benefits of autism, as well as the challenges. As it is, I have read it and then hid it on a high shelf.
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