The Loving Parent Guidebook: The Solution is to Become Your Own Loving Parent

by ACA WSO INC.

The Solution in the Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families (ACA and ACoA) program is to become your own loving parent. The Loving Parent Guidebook explores, in practical terms, how to build this healing resource into your life. The book provides guidance on creating the conditions to reclaim your inner child and reparent yourself with gentleness, humor, love, and respect. You can apply everything you learn in this guidebook to parenting, interacting with children, and interacting with adults. When you become a friend to yourself, you're naturally a friend to others. The book is structured to help you access the love inside you and grow the awareness and skills you need to become your own loving parent.The Solution really is to become your own loving parent, and this book explains how. Developing your reparenting skills can change your life. Within these pages you’ll find practical tools to help you reparent yourself with gentleness, humor, love, and respect.“This book could benefit all ACAs and fills a huge need in our program for concrete information on how to embrace the ACA Solution. The Loving Parent Guidebook finally provides practical instruction on HOW to reparent.” - Fellow Traveler“This guidebook is excellent! It provides a new and powerful approach to loving parent work.” - Fellow Traveler“It’s like all the things I needed but didn’t get growing up are presented in this book. It’s such a beautiful and important piece of work. After nine years in ACA and 26 years in other 12 Step programs, I truly feel that I have finally arrived home.” - Fellow Traveler“I’m incredibly impressed with the sensitivity, care, strength, and power of this book.” - Fellow TravelerACA is a spiritual program based on action coming from love. It was created for people who have some or all of the 14 survival traits commonly known as the Laundry List. These are the personality traits that people who grow up in dysfunctional families frequently share.The Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families 12 step program is often the only program for many adult children recovering from growing up in a home with alcoholism or other family dysfunction. ACA meetings are intended to be safe places where we can share our experience, strength and hope without judgment or criticism. The program is recommended for people who have suffered abuse, neglect, abandonment, and trauma in childhood due to the behavior of addicted or dysfunctional immature parents. They often do not fully realize the impact these actions had on them until they are in the recovery process. This booklet provides answers that newcomers might have before they attend their first ACA meeting.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Parenting, Mental Health, Nonfiction, Health

241 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 20, 2021

Reviews

[Jen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am currently in an Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional families 12-Step group and several of us are working through this study together. It's incredible. I wish content like this could be taught in middle & high schools across the country.

[Candace Haskell · Rating 5 out of 5]

A innovative, useful, informative guide to understanding your distressed inner family members and bringing them together to live a more joyous, harmonious wonderful inner life.

[Claire · Rating 5 out of 5]

A helpful guide into the inner world where our inner families reside. I completed this in a little over a year with a few fellow travellers and appreciated the insight and tools offered by the book. I have a much more well rounded understanding of my inner family, how my past impacts me today, and how I can move into a more settled future. I'm very grateful this book exists!

[David Given Schwarm · Rating 5 out of 5]

Spectacular book.

[Ami Hon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent

[Eric Engleman · Rating 5 out of 5]

An exceptional guidebook filled with worksheets, exercises and meditations for developing a better functioning “inner family.” The guidebook paces the individual through the understanding of the inner child, inner teenager, critical parent and loving parent to develop a healthier mindset.

Published by ACA, Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families.

[AL · Rating 1 out of 5]

Too woke. I want throw it in the fire.

I may have jumped the gun on my initial appreciation of this book. While there are thoughtful questions, you gotta find them in the mess that is this book. The more I explore it the more unbereable it becomes as it was obviously written by fragile, overbearing, self-important woke idiots that think they're talking to idiots, too. The irony of this being a reparenting guidebook does not escape me.

"It's ok to take a gentleness break" is sprinkled throughout the book to make pages as busy as possible and tiresome to read. People don't know they can take breaks, really? There are many other gems, but they're too irritating to repeat. Oh, and all the parents depicted are gay and bizarre and/or creepy looking, and almost all of them look like child molesters for some reason. WTF is this...

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So far I've found it less spiritual than expected as it goes into woke territory. For instance, it has a trigger warning (!) about how "certain words may trigger old pain." You don't say! Is this book intended for stupid people? Close enough, it's written with woke people in mind.

[Catherine Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

Clearly explained, gentle and complete. I highly recommend it to anyone coming from a dysfunctional family.