Mental health is health. Even in the darkness, you are worthy of the light. That's the central idea of this collection of poems about accepting yourself, finding yourself, and always moving towards the light, even when you are at your lowest.
This stunning collection of poetry has a song-like movement about it, and the perceptive depth of the verses reminded me of my favorite poet, artist and songstress, Joni Mitchell. The poems depict a range of real experiences in love, voiced as "I" and "me" "him" and "her" and "she" and the poet shows the gaps in meaning and understanding between voices and experiences, mind and heart, thought and feeling. The woman starts out as a wide universe, searching for a man who will understand her being. Understands and fathoms her complexities, her depths, as if he looks into the silence of a midnight sky, and his gaze is infinite and deep. The poet takes us on a journey that starts with the quest for love of a naive teen, who theorizes about love, and yet: "She realised that he only loved on a scale model so his whole universe fit into the palm of her hand" She doesn't know that: "the thing about being sixteen is that the world doesn't let you stay so naive and green and soft" Rejecting lust in her quest for love she fears both abandonment and the kind of commitment in which she might lose herself: "he wanted her and she wanted a story so he wrote her a chapter and she stayed for fifty years because she wanted to see how it ended" The poetess leads us through all the range of emotions in the woman's quest. All the kinds of situations that one who has lived a life will know: searching for an idealistic, unrealistic kind of love in our youth, fear of abandonment, wanting to grow, losing in love to someone else, jealousy, make-believe and emptiness: "it's the pretending that makes it real" The Mitchellian line I love for it's satire and wisdom: "She gave so much of herself to each man she loved like a plate of hors d'oeuvres at a party" The realisation that she is short-changed and empty of self-love begins a time of soul-searching: "the closer she got to him the further she got from herself" Another Mitchellian line I love: "I tried to give myself away to a new man after he left but I realised I forgot to pack up the deepest parts of me with my dishes and workout clothes" After this comes a reflection on the fighting, the alcohol, the affairs, the disappointments, the conflict of love. My most favorite part of the book, which I will not spoil by quoting it here is the reconciliation, the ending in which the broken woman is healed and whole as her lover embraces her as a beautiful collage, a whole: "he loved her poetry that didn't rhyme ..." I loved this poetry that didn't rhyme, too!
The poet presents an outstanding collection of romance poetry. Although presented from the female perspective, this elderly male connected with much of her insight. She presents a good deal of romantic wisdom, especially for someone so relatively young. Then again, that may be the point in life when the fire burns brightest and hottest. Well done in any case.
Every Constellation is a beautiful reflection of the multifaceted aspects of relationships. It touches the pre-disposed ideas that men and women have as it relates to their expectations in a partner and it sheds light on the realities as compared. Sonnenberg-Pietila explores the depths of intimacy, it’s durability, and the inevitability of its highs and lows. As she delves into the fantasy of romance and desire, poetic expression is vivid. Yet, the longing for more than what meets the eye is the undertone that leaps off every page. It is the motivating factor that inspires the search and it is that once in a life-time love that may never be found again. Every Constellation reminds me of the adage, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
The difficult thing about poetry is that it can accomplish its main goal of conveying the writers feeling appropriately while also failing to connect with a perspective reader. It is by nature a very fickle form of writing and therefore, extremely tricky to review. On paper the words look good and I can tell the author poured her heart out on the pages which automatically makes me like the book. On the flip-side, the writing in this one just didn’t connect with me fully. I have no doubt many others will enjoy the emotions that the author puts on display. I did very much enjoy the authors abundant use of metaphorical language from front to back cover.
This book is divine. I was surprised to get to the end so quickly. That's how immersed I was in the author's words. What I enjoyed most is the consistency of the poems. Sometimes, when I am reading poetry, the compositions vary. Some of them are on par with the theme, some of them are not. Some of them I like, some of them I can do without. I am happy to say that wasn't the case here. Everything flowed, like a love story. The author's tone and lyrical brilliance resonated all the way through. My favorite line:
"Her past was not pretty but she was because she chose not to wear it."
I really felt the authors pain in some of these and could very much relate. I hope she did find the man to make her bloom. I gave it four, not five, because I’d liked to have read more about others ways for a woman to complete herself than finding a new man. Saying that, the sentiment was beautifully expressed.
Okay, so this book DEFINITELY has potential! …I just don’t think it quite reached it. The poet’s style is more simplistic, which actually would be accepted by the “masses” as I call them (aka the ridiculous number of people who enjoy simple poetry because it makes them feel something without getting too deep or complicated). There’s nothing wrong with that either.
Where I think this book could have been improved was using punctuation - mainly commas - to even out the pacing and make certain lines stand out/have more emotional impact. There were a few odd lines that could be changed grammatically to read smoother too. Lastly, I do wish all the poems were gender neutral (i.e. used ‘I’, ‘you’, ‘we’, etc) since the book’s title and purpose is directed toward all readers.
Still, there were so many poems that really did inspire me and I love the author’s intent with self-empowerment, self-love, and so on. I REALLY do think this has potential and I would love to see how the author improves their style!
A collection of lyrical meditations on love and life, sometimes hopeful, sometimes heartbroken. I found these poems moving and authentic reflections on the struggle between the fantasy we imagine love to be and the chore it often is. Both are real, but the holding of them in tension can be more than we bargained for.
As far as images, the poet provided vivid images that complements the theme. However, I am more of a romance poetry fan. I wish it was a bit more optimistic. But this opinion is subject to my poetry taste!