After 35 years of marriage, Elora decides to show more initiation in her marriage by creating a series of dates—known as Date Year—with her husband. Together, they decide to make quality time for each other without a specific agenda or worrying about work and family issues. During the course of this "experiment," they picnic, travel to the Philippines, invest in beautifying their home, and revisit some hobbies they once shared. They talk through sensitive issues and also find comfort in one another's silences.
The author encourages the reader to be consistent about date events and stresses that showing up is already a big step in the right direction. She urges us to love the idiosyncrasies we may have overlooked in our partner while courting and remember that these are the faults we fell in love with. She reminds us that by placing value in ourselves, we place value in each other.
Through their Date Year, Elora came to appreciate her husband even more and took his cue by learning to relax in the moment. One interesting aside she shares is that what you know about yourself deep inside isn't necessarily what your partner sees from the outside.
There are many other astute observations, but rather than summarizing them here, I recommend you read the ebook if you want to learn how to better reconnect with your partner, rediscover common bonds, and establish new ones. Good luck!
What a lovely book. At around 35 pages it is a 1-2 hour read. It's well written and combines real life experiences with interesting insights. I resonated with much, like me being impatient when trying for a good 'date' and my husband being the patient one and the experience with the board game made me smile as it was so relatable. Also a total surprise and treat was that I did not know the author lived near me and I am familiar with a number of places she mentioned.
A delight to read and has sparked me to invest more time in creating new sparks, new memories and renewed connection.