This is a gripping and very emotional read about how grief and loss affect so many people in a family.
Caitlyn’s 18 year old daughter, Beth, on the cusp of going to University with her friends, dies in a tragic drowning accident. All members of her family show how her loss is felt, and how they all pull together initially, and then, some reassess their futures.
I read this through the eyes of a Nurse, who has had experience of looking after patients on life support, the tests that have to be carried out daily to assess functional ability, and the stresses and skills needed to communicate with parents and family members as their hopes and dreams are slowly extinguished.
The difficulties of declaring brain death has been well documented in some sensational cases, headlines shriek of people who made full recoveries despite Drs. declaring they wouldn’t survive. There is always the hope for a miracle, children have been removed from hospital care here, in order to undergo experimental treatments abroad, and that is their right, but, I personally feel it is an unkind delusion. Brain death is diagnosed exactly as in the book, plus extra fail safe procedures are performed.
How life goes on afterwards is well described here, the intense guilt , did I give in too easily, what if the doctors got it wrong, why is everyone else moving on with life, whilst I am stuck here mourning my child, very emotive, and heart breaking. Some bereaved families want their loved ones life to benefit others, by organ donation, believe me, that is such a difficult conversation at such a time, very tricky, we are sometimes compared to body snatchers. Others do fund raise for memorial gardens, benches in a pretty seating area, others go into campaigns and do booklets that help people through the first few days, weeks and years of grief, who to contact, and it is normal to feel you will never recover, but you will.
I teach end of life care and this book will be a modern way of reinforcing this difficult subject, for young nurses. A five star read. I will purchase a few for the hospital library in the next teaching year.
My thanks go to Netgalley, and publisher’s Penguin Michael Joseph, for my ARC in return for my honest review. I will leave reviews to Goodreads and other outlets later.