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Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need
Dating Essentials for Men, by Dr. Robert Glover, the author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, is the “un-pickup” guide to dating success.
Are you ready to let go of the games, the tricks, the seduction, the pickup, the negs, the cocky-funny routines, the buying women drinks, the volunteering to help their sister move? Do you want to learn how to create the kind of authentic attraction that naturally brings women to you? If so, Dating Essentials for Men is the only dating guide you will ever need.
Dating Essentials for Men contains the best dating advice for men available. It is overflowing with tested, proven information that will help you:
• Identify your goals for dating – and achieve them.
• Face your fears and soothe your anxiety.
• Develop naturally powerful inner game.
• Talk to women with confidence.
• Test for interest.
• Understand what women want in a man.
• Successfully use online dating.
• Create powerful sexual polarity.
• Stay out of the friend zone.
• Effectively flirt and banter – even with the most attractive women.
• Successfully date after a divorce or break up.
• Pass women’s shit tests.
• Send text messages that create instant attraction and arousal.
• Break up with integrity.
It doesn’t matter if you want to hook up, create a loving long-term relationship (LTR), get married and have kids, or create a harem filled with “friends with benefits,” Dating Essentials for Men will teach you how.
If you struggle with dating, welcome to the club. Dating is not in our human DNA. It has only existed in Western culture for a few generations, and in the East – not even there yet. Nevertheless, we live in a world where dating skills are essential for finding companionship, love, and sex.
98% of all men struggle with the most basic aspects of dating. Fears of doing something wrong, looking foolish, getting rejected, or becoming a #MeToo casualty permeate the minds of most men. These fears typically manifest in playing it safe and doing nothing at all, or at best, in clumsy, ineffective attempts at approach. The all too common outcome of repeated failures leaves many men feeling defective and unlovable.
For the majority of his life, Dr. Glover was one of these guys. He assumed the good women he wanted just weren’t interested in him. When he did get a girlfriend, he typically hung on way too long for fear of having to enter the dating world all over again. But that all changed when he became single in his mid-forties.
Dr. Glover decided to approach dating as if it were a scientific experiment. To his surprise, he quickly found that getting women to talk to him, give him their numbers, date him, and have sex with him was nowhere nearly as difficult as he had thought. When women started approaching him, propositioning him for sex, and getting naked on first dates, he often wondered what planet he had landed on.
Many of his clients noticed his dating success and begged him to teach them what he was doing. Dating Essentials for Men arose from those requests. Dr. Glover has since taught thousands of men just like you how to interact confidently with women – get numbers, get laid, get amazing girlfriends, and create great relationships.
As you practice the principles presented in Dating Essentials for Men, you will also be working on essential life skills:
• Overcoming self-limiting beliefs.
• Embracing your masculinity.
• Becoming more honest and authentic.
• Overcoming shyness and social anxiety.
• Letting go of attachment to outcome.
Are you ready to let go of the games, the tricks, the seduction, the pickup, the negs, the cocky-funny routines, the buying women drinks, the volunteering to help their sister move? Do you want to learn how to create the kind of authentic attraction that naturally brings women to you? If so, Dating Essentials for Men is the only dating guide you will ever need.
Dating Essentials for Men contains the best dating advice for men available. It is overflowing with tested, proven information that will help you:
• Identify your goals for dating – and achieve them.
• Face your fears and soothe your anxiety.
• Develop naturally powerful inner game.
• Talk to women with confidence.
• Test for interest.
• Understand what women want in a man.
• Successfully use online dating.
• Create powerful sexual polarity.
• Stay out of the friend zone.
• Effectively flirt and banter – even with the most attractive women.
• Successfully date after a divorce or break up.
• Pass women’s shit tests.
• Send text messages that create instant attraction and arousal.
• Break up with integrity.
It doesn’t matter if you want to hook up, create a loving long-term relationship (LTR), get married and have kids, or create a harem filled with “friends with benefits,” Dating Essentials for Men will teach you how.
If you struggle with dating, welcome to the club. Dating is not in our human DNA. It has only existed in Western culture for a few generations, and in the East – not even there yet. Nevertheless, we live in a world where dating skills are essential for finding companionship, love, and sex.
98% of all men struggle with the most basic aspects of dating. Fears of doing something wrong, looking foolish, getting rejected, or becoming a #MeToo casualty permeate the minds of most men. These fears typically manifest in playing it safe and doing nothing at all, or at best, in clumsy, ineffective attempts at approach. The all too common outcome of repeated failures leaves many men feeling defective and unlovable.
For the majority of his life, Dr. Glover was one of these guys. He assumed the good women he wanted just weren’t interested in him. When he did get a girlfriend, he typically hung on way too long for fear of having to enter the dating world all over again. But that all changed when he became single in his mid-forties.
Dr. Glover decided to approach dating as if it were a scientific experiment. To his surprise, he quickly found that getting women to talk to him, give him their numbers, date him, and have sex with him was nowhere nearly as difficult as he had thought. When women started approaching him, propositioning him for sex, and getting naked on first dates, he often wondered what planet he had landed on.
Many of his clients noticed his dating success and begged him to teach them what he was doing. Dating Essentials for Men arose from those requests. Dr. Glover has since taught thousands of men just like you how to interact confidently with women – get numbers, get laid, get amazing girlfriends, and create great relationships.
As you practice the principles presented in Dating Essentials for Men, you will also be working on essential life skills:
• Overcoming self-limiting beliefs.
• Embracing your masculinity.
• Becoming more honest and authentic.
• Overcoming shyness and social anxiety.
• Letting go of attachment to outcome.
206 pages, Paperback
Published August 9, 2021
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About the author
Robert A. Glover
12 books288 followersDr. Robert Glover is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Running Press, 2003) and Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need. Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University.
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July 10, 2019
It is working for me!
To me what Dr Glover propose is à real Re-Education Program. I have read his first book “No More Mr Nice Guy” a couple of times and followed several of his courses. It really helped me “reset” my way of looking at woman and at life in general. “Dating Essentials for Men” helped me get further out of the Nursery! Therefore I highly recommend it to any guy who is think that it may help him out because it sure cannot hurt them, quite the contrary!
To me what Dr Glover propose is à real Re-Education Program. I have read his first book “No More Mr Nice Guy” a couple of times and followed several of his courses. It really helped me “reset” my way of looking at woman and at life in general. “Dating Essentials for Men” helped me get further out of the Nursery! Therefore I highly recommend it to any guy who is think that it may help him out because it sure cannot hurt them, quite the contrary!
July 24, 2021
Really mature and great book for guys who are in phase of getting into relationship or already in one or dating,best part is author is psychotherapist with quite some experince in resolving conflicts and understanding the cause of conflicts between couples along with that he himself has commited mistakes in his early stages,all this he distillates and gives a clear road map across otherwise really rocky terrain as most of us spend substantial time with partners however spent very little time in thinking what we want and end up making piles of mistakes which ends up in dismal break-ups or worst case broken marriages.Overall great read I would recommned this over Mark Manson's models as latter is more about building external game without touching intricacies of longterm dynamics and inner game,hence lives upto its title !
June 24, 2021
Overall okay, but what the book preaches in its first half contradicts what it describes in the second half of the book... First it says that you should be yourself, accept how you look and act etc. Than suddenly everthing changes and he explains how to make a circus to gain the approval of women. Very disappointed actually.
March 8, 2021
This book is written in a strange way. The author defines a bunch of terms like 'Bad Dater' and then inconsistently refers to it throughout the book through acronyms. So you'll come across sentences filled with acronyms like BD (bad dater) and RGW (really great woman). I was hoping on a bit more given the author's best seller. Maybe the target audience is way below my age range and I just don't find acronyms cool enough.
Besides this, the whole book can be summarized in the following sentence:
Take care of yourself, build a great life that you love and learn to be social.
Which is true, so I still give him two stars.
Besides this, the whole book can be summarized in the following sentence:
Take care of yourself, build a great life that you love and learn to be social.
Which is true, so I still give him two stars.
August 27, 2019
Good book. Forget everything and just have fun!
Have fun...
Be open...
Understand what you want...
Understand what we don't want...
And don't ask...
You will be very happy...
Have fun...
Be open...
Understand what you want...
Understand what we don't want...
And don't ask...
You will be very happy...
March 31, 2024
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بخش اول ذهنیت کار ، بخش دوم نکته ها و باید و نباید هایی که رعایت شون مهمه.
به دو دلیل این کتاب رو خوندم :
۱. نویسنده کتاب پرفروش no more mr.nice guy هست
۲. نویسنده بعد از دو بار ازدواج به مدت ۲۵ سال و طلاق از جفتشون، دوباره به دنیای دیتینگ برگشته پس این کتاب حاصل تجربیاتشه نه صرفا تحقیقات.
April 7, 2022
“What gets us into trouble is not what we don’t know. It’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain
Some may think, "What does THAT quote have to do with dating?" Well, a heck of a lot more than you may realize!
This book is more than just advice on how to date successfully. It's how to change your mindset because quite often that is what is hindering you from making healthy choices that would benefit you in the key areas of life. This book, obviously, applies that in the area of dating and it is directed at men as the title suggests. But I think following most of the advice in this book will not only help men find the love of their lives but also make the world a better place and make dating fun for both men and women who have had unfruitful or bad experiences.
On a personal note, the book really helped me see some areas in my thinking that were having a negative effect on my dating approach and that was turning me into what the author calls, "a Bad Dater." His insights and advice helped me view myself and women in a more realistic and positive light but they also increased my confidence in approaching women. His insights also helped me see why SO many people are single these days or in bad relationships.
That said, I did differ with the author on a couple of things - mostly his view on sex. He doesn't come from a Christian worldview so he doesn't share the Christian view I subscribe to that any sex outside of marriage (between a husband and a wife) is sinful and therefore harmful. So, I set his perspective on nonmarital sex aside.
If you're a "Nice Guy" who hasn't had any luck in the dating scene, this book will help! And I believe that it will help you grow as a person in other areas of your life besides your romantic relationship.
A couple of quotes -
"Your mind has been telling you unsubstantiated lies about yourself, women, and the world for most of your life."(4)
"The thinking part of your brain unquestioningly accepts everything recorded in the emotional centers of your brain to be one hundred percent accurate. These emotional beliefs are your mental operating system. They are your machine language or the DOS of your brain. Your thinking and reasoning rises out of and reflects your unconscious emotional paradigm. Your mind will always work to make sure your mental beliefs are consistent with the non-verbal, emotional beliefs you internalized as a young child." (6)
Some may think, "What does THAT quote have to do with dating?" Well, a heck of a lot more than you may realize!
This book is more than just advice on how to date successfully. It's how to change your mindset because quite often that is what is hindering you from making healthy choices that would benefit you in the key areas of life. This book, obviously, applies that in the area of dating and it is directed at men as the title suggests. But I think following most of the advice in this book will not only help men find the love of their lives but also make the world a better place and make dating fun for both men and women who have had unfruitful or bad experiences.
On a personal note, the book really helped me see some areas in my thinking that were having a negative effect on my dating approach and that was turning me into what the author calls, "a Bad Dater." His insights and advice helped me view myself and women in a more realistic and positive light but they also increased my confidence in approaching women. His insights also helped me see why SO many people are single these days or in bad relationships.
That said, I did differ with the author on a couple of things - mostly his view on sex. He doesn't come from a Christian worldview so he doesn't share the Christian view I subscribe to that any sex outside of marriage (between a husband and a wife) is sinful and therefore harmful. So, I set his perspective on nonmarital sex aside.
If you're a "Nice Guy" who hasn't had any luck in the dating scene, this book will help! And I believe that it will help you grow as a person in other areas of your life besides your romantic relationship.
A couple of quotes -
"Your mind has been telling you unsubstantiated lies about yourself, women, and the world for most of your life."(4)
"The thinking part of your brain unquestioningly accepts everything recorded in the emotional centers of your brain to be one hundred percent accurate. These emotional beliefs are your mental operating system. They are your machine language or the DOS of your brain. Your thinking and reasoning rises out of and reflects your unconscious emotional paradigm. Your mind will always work to make sure your mental beliefs are consistent with the non-verbal, emotional beliefs you internalized as a young child." (6)
July 11, 2021
Dr Robert Glover's work on his discovery of No More Mr Nice Guy Syndrome is ground breaking. It's not as simple as it sounds.
I recommend buying No More Mr Nice Guy before you read Dating Essentials For Men as the Nice Guy continues even further in this book alongside Bad Daters.
Again there's a serious realisation that a lot of us men are doing in this book without us even knowing it! There is a vast amount of priceless knowledge here that is quite detailed and he sets it out in a very clear and easy to read format.
Dr Robert Glover is the only person i know that is revealing this amazing life changing narrative.
Without doubt he is the best in the education of dating and the subject of the male species.
Also make sure you check out his YouTube content where he does lots of interviews teaching different techniques in each one (not every interview is the same!) and revealing amazing realisations as he does in these 2 books.
This is the only book a man needs, to know everything about men & women when it comes to dating and with your life as a whole!
I recommend buying No More Mr Nice Guy before you read Dating Essentials For Men as the Nice Guy continues even further in this book alongside Bad Daters.
Again there's a serious realisation that a lot of us men are doing in this book without us even knowing it! There is a vast amount of priceless knowledge here that is quite detailed and he sets it out in a very clear and easy to read format.
Dr Robert Glover is the only person i know that is revealing this amazing life changing narrative.
Without doubt he is the best in the education of dating and the subject of the male species.
Also make sure you check out his YouTube content where he does lots of interviews teaching different techniques in each one (not every interview is the same!) and revealing amazing realisations as he does in these 2 books.
This is the only book a man needs, to know everything about men & women when it comes to dating and with your life as a whole!
August 17, 2019
An exceptional read for anyone dating...
Dr. Grover goes directly to the problem and gives practical tools and techniques for addressing the problem. I, especially, found the chapter on Bad Enders very enlightening and full of suggestions on what to say when ending a relationship. I have used the "get to rejection quickly" a number of times. I am still looking for my RGW, but know what to look for.
Dr. Grover goes directly to the problem and gives practical tools and techniques for addressing the problem. I, especially, found the chapter on Bad Enders very enlightening and full of suggestions on what to say when ending a relationship. I have used the "get to rejection quickly" a number of times. I am still looking for my RGW, but know what to look for.
July 26, 2021
Not much useful advice in this book. Save your time and money. The first 45% of this book continues to repeat the same common sense things over, and over, and over again. What a waste of reading time. Some of the "advice" likely will get you into trouble with respectful, successful, great women. These fine ladies deserve better then that "advice".
April 15, 2022
The constant labeling (Bad Dater, Really Great Woman, etc.) didn't really sold it to me. The book suggests to have fun in the dating world, but ends up administering tasks that sound more like chores. Still, some advices are sound.
April 30, 2021
Very informative. Men generally suck at this, especially who are analytical. Helped a lot.
January 29, 2022
Glover is still extremely needy inside. .
I can't stand this book. The languages Golver uses impy that he's still needy inside. Models ny Mark Manson is way better.
I can't stand this book. The languages Golver uses impy that he's still needy inside. Models ny Mark Manson is way better.
June 9, 2022
It focuses primarily in changing our self-limiting believes. Most of the time there is a voice that tell us that we can't do some things, that we aren't enough to do them, for example, we think that we can't deserve a job or we aren't valuable enough to ask a girl out because we aren't rich or beautiful. So this book works as an introduction to identify those thoughts that are making us think that we don't deserve dating and then it gives some tips to apply in order to get a date and somehow how to act within those dates. I think the book is very general, it tries to look at a lot of subjects and because of that it tends to repeat a lot of ideas. This is not a book with technics or a manual, it's just theory that provides the basis and some tools to generate a good confidence to start a conversation whit a person.
June 4, 2022
- Women perceive confidence just as men perceive sensuality (women's sensuality in itself is a confidence that few women possesses)
- When a woman shows low interests: do not try to rationalize it, do not wonder how you can improve: chances are, she is doing both of you a favor. Your energies just don't click (you probably also reject plenty of females for the same reason). Move on, don't waste either of you guys' time
- When a woman shows low interests: do not try to rationalize it, do not wonder how you can improve: chances are, she is doing both of you a favor. Your energies just don't click (you probably also reject plenty of females for the same reason). Move on, don't waste either of you guys' time
July 8, 2019
You're gonna love it if you're familiar with Robert Glover's work. I would racommend to read his first book, No More Mr Nice Guy, first, and just read this one, if you enjoyed the first one.
This book is an antidote to all the PUA culture. It doesn't teach you how to be chosen by women, but how and the importance to be the one who chooses.
I would have titled this book, No More Mr Bad Dater.
This book is an antidote to all the PUA culture. It doesn't teach you how to be chosen by women, but how and the importance to be the one who chooses.
I would have titled this book, No More Mr Bad Dater.
August 17, 2024
Dating guiding for men? Don't you rather mean: how to get women to sleep with you - a guide?
One could really mistake the title as this is mostly focused on how to get women and have sex with them, less about a relationship focus. Why? Because the author believes men are only driven by sex and a relationship would follow after. If men truly were like this, I would never want to date any man in this life time.
The advice the author gives sounds good at first but often his explanations or "in-depth analysis" boils down to not understanding women and blatant misogyny as well as false facts. What do I mean? Example: You as a reader are told that you need to be assertive and self-confidence. Why? Because women notice that and like it about you because now they don't have to worry that they need to do more than necessary to make the date work. Why? Because women naturally love to follow and if a men doesn't lead, they can't do that.
I also absolutely loath how the author is against the friends first approach because men would be classified as "girl friend with a penis" if they did that. There were so many other ways to phrase that but noooooo.
One could really mistake the title as this is mostly focused on how to get women and have sex with them, less about a relationship focus. Why? Because the author believes men are only driven by sex and a relationship would follow after. If men truly were like this, I would never want to date any man in this life time.
The advice the author gives sounds good at first but often his explanations or "in-depth analysis" boils down to not understanding women and blatant misogyny as well as false facts. What do I mean? Example: You as a reader are told that you need to be assertive and self-confidence. Why? Because women notice that and like it about you because now they don't have to worry that they need to do more than necessary to make the date work. Why? Because women naturally love to follow and if a men doesn't lead, they can't do that.
I also absolutely loath how the author is against the friends first approach because men would be classified as "girl friend with a penis" if they did that. There were so many other ways to phrase that but noooooo.
May 21, 2020
Another Fantastic Book from Robert Glover
Dr Robert Glover's work on his discovery of No More Mr Nice Guy Syndrome is ground breaking. It's not as simple as it sounds.
I recommend buying No More Mr Nice Guy before you read Dating Essentials For Men as the Nice Guy continues even further in this book alongside Bad Daters.
Again there's a serious realisation that a lot of us men are doing in this book without us even knowing it! There is a vast amount of priceless knowledge here that is quite detailed and he sets it out in a very clear and easy to read format.
Dr Robert Glover is the only person i know that is revealing this amazing life changing narrative.
Without doubt he is the best in the education of dating and the subject of the male species.
Also make sure you check out his YouTube content where he does lots of interviews teaching different techniques in each one (not every interview is the same!) and revealing amazing realisations as he does in these 2 books.
This is the only book a man needs to know everything about men & women when it comes to dating and with your life as a whole!
Dr Robert Glover's work on his discovery of No More Mr Nice Guy Syndrome is ground breaking. It's not as simple as it sounds.
I recommend buying No More Mr Nice Guy before you read Dating Essentials For Men as the Nice Guy continues even further in this book alongside Bad Daters.
Again there's a serious realisation that a lot of us men are doing in this book without us even knowing it! There is a vast amount of priceless knowledge here that is quite detailed and he sets it out in a very clear and easy to read format.
Dr Robert Glover is the only person i know that is revealing this amazing life changing narrative.
Without doubt he is the best in the education of dating and the subject of the male species.
Also make sure you check out his YouTube content where he does lots of interviews teaching different techniques in each one (not every interview is the same!) and revealing amazing realisations as he does in these 2 books.
This is the only book a man needs to know everything about men & women when it comes to dating and with your life as a whole!
January 21, 2024
It's an okay read, there are probably better books out there. The first three to four chapters are worth reading and just focusing on the psychology - highlighting your self-limiting beliefs.
I think self-limiting beliefs are the root cause of a lot of dysfunction and disappointment in life. I'm not a psychologist, but from what I have seen and read it rings true.
"Many of your beliefs about yourself, women, and sex aren’t necessarily true or accurate, but your mind believes them because it has repeatedly thought them."
"All of your SLBs are the result of repeatedly internalizing inaccurate interpretations of life’s events. Your mind has been telling you these things since you were a child and you have found plenty of evidence to support these beliefs through adolescence and adulthood."
"People act consistently with their deepest held beliefs."
"The guys who challenge themselves and consciously seek rejection always experience an amazing transformation in their love lives."
I think self-limiting beliefs are the root cause of a lot of dysfunction and disappointment in life. I'm not a psychologist, but from what I have seen and read it rings true.
"Many of your beliefs about yourself, women, and sex aren’t necessarily true or accurate, but your mind believes them because it has repeatedly thought them."
"All of your SLBs are the result of repeatedly internalizing inaccurate interpretations of life’s events. Your mind has been telling you these things since you were a child and you have found plenty of evidence to support these beliefs through adolescence and adulthood."
"People act consistently with their deepest held beliefs."
"The guys who challenge themselves and consciously seek rejection always experience an amazing transformation in their love lives."
July 11, 2021
Like a cross between Models, The Way of the Superior Man and No More Mr Nice Guy. Emphasis is on the dating stage of a relationship. Similar to Models, the book contains a lot of actionable advice to help men with dating.
A few things stood out, making it different from the other books mentioned above:
Guidance on reading indicators of interest.
Women are security seeking and sensuality seeking creatures. Biologically women are programmed to attract attention because it's a survival mechanism.
Confidence is an aphrodisiac; women get a similar rush of dopamine from a confident man that a man gets from seeing a pretty woman.
How to end the dating process if you decide the woman isn't the right one.
A few things stood out, making it different from the other books mentioned above:
Guidance on reading indicators of interest.
Women are security seeking and sensuality seeking creatures. Biologically women are programmed to attract attention because it's a survival mechanism.
Confidence is an aphrodisiac; women get a similar rush of dopamine from a confident man that a man gets from seeing a pretty woman.
How to end the dating process if you decide the woman isn't the right one.
June 4, 2021
Quite possibly the best dating book you’ll ever read as a guy.
I listened to the audio version and am re-listening to it the book has so many gems. I really enjoyed learning how to identify and deal with my self-limiting beliefs and dealing with approach anxiety.
Dr. Glover gives you amazing mental tools on how to destroy what is holding you back and what women really want in a man.
I’ve seen my online dating profiles explode in popularity and I’m approaching women in the day time again too thanks to his testing and “Open Door” 3- Step program.
If you’ve struggled with eDating or regular dating as a man, this book is for you. Invest into your future.
I listened to the audio version and am re-listening to it the book has so many gems. I really enjoyed learning how to identify and deal with my self-limiting beliefs and dealing with approach anxiety.
Dr. Glover gives you amazing mental tools on how to destroy what is holding you back and what women really want in a man.
I’ve seen my online dating profiles explode in popularity and I’m approaching women in the day time again too thanks to his testing and “Open Door” 3- Step program.
If you’ve struggled with eDating or regular dating as a man, this book is for you. Invest into your future.
August 27, 2021
Very Practical Advice
I have followed Robert Glover for a while after coming across No More Mr. Nice Guy. That book was eye-opening, and in some cases a harsh reflection of upbringing, but it helped change how I interact with the world and myself. With his new book, even though it explores dating, it actually explores living a full life. Glover gives practical advice on how to make the most of social situations and to meet really great women. It is worth a read and definitely worth practice.
I have followed Robert Glover for a while after coming across No More Mr. Nice Guy. That book was eye-opening, and in some cases a harsh reflection of upbringing, but it helped change how I interact with the world and myself. With his new book, even though it explores dating, it actually explores living a full life. Glover gives practical advice on how to make the most of social situations and to meet really great women. It is worth a read and definitely worth practice.
August 11, 2022
So here I am again listening to dating books for Startup event conversations :) This book was about breaking down the negative beliefs that one can have, and to live a better more fulfilling life. And on top of that, to meet people - but now from a better starting point. But the book was a bit weird, like a science professor from time to time forcing himself to use the word “Fuck” :) But then again, the core audience i presume are also other nerd professors that need to be made comfortable with that word :D A book about masculinity to men who are in feminine mindset.
August 29, 2022
This book is really down to earth, yes it's a bit repetitive, but in this case it's a good thing as the author really drives his point in. I listened to it as an audio book, and the format worked well. It kind of reminds me of Dale Carnegie's books since the content isn't really new, but he does such a good job explaining it, that you just have to end up agreeing on most points. Some points were a bit politically incorrect, and I don't think it's 100% accurate, but overall the book to read if you have struggled with the topic.
November 19, 2023
I am in between.
On the one hand, the book is very well structured. It provides a good basic guide that can be particularly beneficial for beginners. A lot of things are repeated.
At one point he contradicts himself: On the one hand he claims that “self-limited beliefs” like “I’m too fat” are not helpful, on the other hand he sends us to the gym because women don’t like fat men. If that's the case, I don't need this book.
Nevertheless, I gave it a good score because it explains how a good meeting with a woman who might be interesting should work. I think these little tips will help a lot.
On the one hand, the book is very well structured. It provides a good basic guide that can be particularly beneficial for beginners. A lot of things are repeated.
At one point he contradicts himself: On the one hand he claims that “self-limited beliefs” like “I’m too fat” are not helpful, on the other hand he sends us to the gym because women don’t like fat men. If that's the case, I don't need this book.
Nevertheless, I gave it a good score because it explains how a good meeting with a woman who might be interesting should work. I think these little tips will help a lot.
September 13, 2020
Thanks to the artofmanliness.com, i've come across this amazing author. Where has he been when i was a teenage boy and nobody could tell me how to make it with the opposite sex?
A book contains a simple yet extremely adequate approach on how to date women. If someone is looking for a book like "How to get laid with an insta model if you are short and penniless" this is not the book for you.
A book contains a simple yet extremely adequate approach on how to date women. If someone is looking for a book like "How to get laid with an insta model if you are short and penniless" this is not the book for you.
August 10, 2020
I read this as a follow-up to No More Mr Nice Guy which was a brilliant book. This book did what it said and give some really good pointers to try out. But other than that it was an extention of NMNG so I would recommend you to read that first. All in all a good read!
May 2, 2021
Change your personality
I love reading your books, it's a game changing to me. I will practice and test until I find my soul mate. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I love reading your books, it's a game changing to me. I will practice and test until I find my soul mate. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
January 17, 2023
Unremarkable
April 18, 2024
I know that there will be a lot needed to un-pack with the book, as at times it felt like I was working way too hard to do everything "correctly" for a formula to work. I think the biggest lesson that I learned from Dr. Glover is that being a "nice guy" and "dating" do not have to be complicated. The former is a condition from which I feel I suffer, as I grew up thinking that if I pleased everyone, life would work in my favour. In the end, I broke my own heart whenever I was passed over at work, under-appreciated in my involvement, or fail with my teenage way of having crushes. Fundamentally, all this was internal.
In a lot of ways, Dr. Glover articulated some of my experiences, such as being a "male girlfriend" to women I found attractive, a passive aggressive nature blaming people around me for my stagnant dating life (except for myself), trying to hard not to be myself in either becoming a "pick-up artist" or put on an act, fearful of true vulnerability.
The biggest lesson and life reversal that I took and reflected on from the book has to be the following: I do not fear rejection as it simply means she is not interested, but I do fear me thinking that if this occurs, it means I am a worthless human being. A few years ago, I recorded in my journal (digital, audio, and hand-written) that I thrive on being a hopeless romantic. Listening now with cringe and reading Dr. Glover helped me to accept that this was unhealthy for me and not the fault of the women I found attractive. While simple, it helped to know that when I despair in silence listening to music and basking in my insecurity, literally none of the women on my mind are doing the same for me. While a harsh truth, Dr. Glover helped me to discover this on my own.
I do not want a testimonial, but I did take the advice and went on a nice first date recently, not perfect, but I learned a lot of lessons, so if you want to listen/read someone articulate a lot of your struggles in dating as a "nice guy," and are willing to learn by facing your fears and just talking to everyone and being yourself to women you find attractive, I recommend it.
I recognise that questions may come from the scope, but I am writing from my experiences as a heterosexual, cis-gender male of Pacific Island/French background, so I applied these reflections to myself and my relatively young dating life.
In a lot of ways, Dr. Glover articulated some of my experiences, such as being a "male girlfriend" to women I found attractive, a passive aggressive nature blaming people around me for my stagnant dating life (except for myself), trying to hard not to be myself in either becoming a "pick-up artist" or put on an act, fearful of true vulnerability.
The biggest lesson and life reversal that I took and reflected on from the book has to be the following: I do not fear rejection as it simply means she is not interested, but I do fear me thinking that if this occurs, it means I am a worthless human being. A few years ago, I recorded in my journal (digital, audio, and hand-written) that I thrive on being a hopeless romantic. Listening now with cringe and reading Dr. Glover helped me to accept that this was unhealthy for me and not the fault of the women I found attractive. While simple, it helped to know that when I despair in silence listening to music and basking in my insecurity, literally none of the women on my mind are doing the same for me. While a harsh truth, Dr. Glover helped me to discover this on my own.
I do not want a testimonial, but I did take the advice and went on a nice first date recently, not perfect, but I learned a lot of lessons, so if you want to listen/read someone articulate a lot of your struggles in dating as a "nice guy," and are willing to learn by facing your fears and just talking to everyone and being yourself to women you find attractive, I recommend it.
I recognise that questions may come from the scope, but I am writing from my experiences as a heterosexual, cis-gender male of Pacific Island/French background, so I applied these reflections to myself and my relatively young dating life.
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