Speak Up and Get Along!: Learn the Mighty Might, Thought Chop, and More Tools to Make Friends, Stop Teasing, and Feel Good About Yourself

by Scott Cooper

What if every kid had a handy toolbox of ways to get along with others? That’s just what this book a collection of 21 concrete strategies kids can pull out and use to express themselves, build relationships, end arguments and fights, halt bullying, and beat unhappy feelings. Like the Mighty Might, which takes all the fun out of teasing. And the Thought Chop, which helps kids resist self-defeating thoughts. And the Squeaky Wheel, a type of persistence that gets results. And the Coin Toss, a simple way to resolve small conflicts. Each tool is clearly described, illustrated with true-to-life examples, and accompanied by dialogue and lines kids can practice and use. Stories and anecdotes show each tool in action. A terrific resource for any young person—and any adult committed to teaching social skills. Includes a note to adults.
Part of the Bully Free Kids™ line

Genres: Parenting, Self Help

128 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2005

About the author

Scott Cooper is a principal and CFO of an international planning and design firm and a member of the local school board. He has been a teacher, basketball coach, scout leader, and Boys' and Girls' club volunteer. He lives in California with his wife and three children.

Reviews

[Hannah · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is about different tools that help you with different situations. This book has 116 pages and 21 tools. I loved how the author used different birds to start the chapters. I give this book 4 out of 5 stars because it could really help people out using these different tools. I was so surprised that I have used these tools before but I never knew the names of them! Overall I really enjoyed this book!

[Jana · Rating 4 out of 5]

A very useful book for you if you have ever been bullied.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great introduction to relationship and problem solving techniques for children.

[Ami · Rating 3 out of 5]

A kids' primer on anti-bullying techniques and keeping one's emotions and actions in check. Sections are themed by bird--for example, the conflict resolution techniques are called "Tools of the Dove". I especially liked the "Tools of the Owl", meant to help you see clearly in the darkness within, which dealt with separating your emotions from your thoughts, and trying to reframe your thoughts, which will hopefully help change negative emotions. Like most juvenile nonfiction I read, some of it is too simple to apply to my adult life, which is, you know, totally expected, but some of it is really good stuff and is way easier to learn BECAUSE it has been simplified. I've been trying to practice the "But Twist" during the day. You hear your self talk getting negative, and then you counter it with a "but...[related positive thought:]". So, "it's dumb that I read so much juvenile nonfiction...but sometimes I get a lot out of them and they make me feel confident to continue my learning in more depth using adult resources". Sweet!

[Jim · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to know how to solve bullying and get along with other people. This book would be good for anyone to read.

[Marilyn Mercado · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is very useful to those who are experiencing bullies for the first time.This book has many examples and definitions of ways to get rid of bullies.

[شيخه · Rating 4 out of 5]

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[Star ⭐️ · Rating 4 out of 5]

it really gives good tips and tools that i think they would help me a lot :3

[Nashiea Edmiston · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked this book up when my daughter, a 4th grader, was having bullying issues during her extracurriculars. This book teachers children social skills and how to deal with difficult situations. It makes difficult issues simpler by giving real-life examples that readers will be able to visualize and put into practice.
A great resource to have in your classroom and in your home.

[Mary Beth Revesz · Rating 4 out of 5]

While the advice in the book was nothing new, I like how it gave each strategy a name and specific role playing situation for kids to use. It could be a great teaching tool for class meetings and character education.

[Mary · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good tools and strategies for the kids... I am 'pre-reading' a bunch for them... can you tell? ;-)

[Genevieve Caron · Rating 5 out of 5]

very good to teach how to be assertive for grade 6 and under.

[أبو صالح 909 · Rating 5 out of 5]

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[Jayleen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book for teaching kids how to verbally and appropriately deal with tough situations.