This is an extraordinary book about a very special relationship.
Raymond Jaffe is a 16 year old black boy who lives with his white mother and her husband and their children. Raymond doesn’t feel like he fits in with this family, or with his father and his young wife who seems to resent that Raymond exists. He has no friends at school, so he feels like he doesn’t fit in there either.
One day an elderly, blind neighbor, Millie Gutermann, is standing outside her apartment asking everyone who walks by if they have seen Luis Velez, a man who had been helping her for 4 years and had suddenly disappeared. Raymond takes it upon himself to start helping Millie with her shopping and banking, while he begins a search for Luis Velez. Raymond and Millie develop a close friendship, and end up helping each other in ways they would never have expected.
Raymond is the type of young man that every boy should grow up to be: he is caring, considerate, empathetic, loyal and exceedingly kind. He puts other people’s needs ahead of his own. In his search for Luis Velez, he brings out the best in many of the people he encounters, and they in return do their best to help him in surprising ways.
Millie is a wise, pragmatic woman, who has experienced a lot of sorrow in her 92 years, some of it weighing heavily on her psyche. Raymond is able, with the help of a variety of people, to break through her perspective that she is at fault for events that happened in the past and she should not enjoy her life.
I can’t say that I liked Raymond’s mother, stepmother or stepfather much. Given what a great kid Raymond is, I don’t understand their treatment of him. I have to say that Raymond’s father has terrible taste in women.
The book is beautifully written. The story is told from Raymond’s point of view, but you get insight into most of the characters. The prose is just so insightful at times.
Some of my favorite quotes are:
“Tell me what it is about your life that is making you so unhappy.”
“I didn’t say I was unhappy.”
“You didn’t need to.”
He struggled inwardly for a moment, floundering in the embarrassment of having been seen. It struck him odd that he’d had to come to the home of a blind woman to be seen clearly. At long last.
“It goes like this, but purely subconsciously: Is the person I’m supposed to be judging our tribe, or another tribe? If she’s us, mistakes can be forgiven. He’ll, everyone makes mistakes. The mistake becomes an anomaly, because it’s us, and we’re good people. If she’s them, mistakes need to be punished, because that’s how they are. The mistake only proves the point that that’s how they are.”
“Back when I first met you. I stopped to talk to you. You said that most people don’t stop, because you’re a ‘them’ and not an ‘us.’ I don’t think you were talking about race, though. Just the way people stick with those they know.”
“The world will still be a place where people do terrible things. But here’s the thing about despair. We fall into despair when the terrible gangs up on us and we forget the world can be wonderful. We just see terrible everywhere we look. So what you do for your friend is you bring up the wonderful, so both are side by side. The world is terrible and wonderful at the same time. One doesn’t negate the other, but the wonderful keeps us in the game. It keeps us moving forward. And, I’m sorry to tell you this, Raymond, but that’s as good as the world is going to get.”
“After all, the only thing that hurts more than tears shed is tears unshed.”
The story addresses themes of family, fitting in, justice, what constitutes a life of value, privilege, fairness and unfairness, tribalism, sexuality, kindness, empathy, hope among others. This is a novel for all ages, teens to centenarians.
It is an absolute recommend!