I have been on a DFW binge for about a year now. He has sincerely enlightened me and has felt like a big brother and mentor all at once. I can't write well right now but he has inspired me to improve my communication skills. Reading DFW has stretched me intellectually, emotionally, & spiritually. I've lost family to mental health issues and struggled quietly with my own -- I think most of us do at one point or another if we are honest with ourselves -- and my soul aches just thinking about the suffering that he and others with acute mental health challenges face.
DFW has an incredible ability to breathe into the grey area of life. To see and empathize with both sides of an argument. Also, he's a genius...so he's got that going for him; if I ever doubted that before reading this book, it's been settled. He has an uncanny ability to articulate stuff that I feel on a gut/subconscious level but can't wrap my head around. I know I'm not alone here and that's why I find his work so important and refreshing.
There are a lot of quotes I would like to share but in the interest of time here are some of my favorite insights from this book that are short paragraphs:
"The interesting thing is why we're so desperate for this anesthetic against loneliness. You don't have to think very hard to realize that our dread of both relationships and loneliness, both of which are like sub-dreads of our dread of being trapped inside a self (a psychic self, not just a physical self), has to do with angst about death, the recognition that I'm going to die, and die very much alone, and the rest of the world is going to go merrily on without me. I'm not sure I could give you a steeple-fingered theoretical justification, but I strongly suspect a big part of real art-fiction's job is to aggravate this sense of entrapment and loneliness and death in people, to move people to countenance it, since any possible human redemption requires us first to face what's dreadful, what we deny."
"The cliche that getting a lot of attention is not the same as getting a lot of affection takes on new dimensions when you learn it through experience."
"Like the fact that it takes enormous courage to appear weak. Hadn't heard that anywhere else. I was just starting to entertain the fact that that might be true."
"I'm not sure how fiction and poetry work, but part of it is that really we notice a lot more than we notice we notice. A particular job of fiction is not so much to note things for people but rather to wake readers up to how observant they already are, and that's why for me as a reader the descriptions or just toss offs that I like the most are not the ones that seem utterly new but the ones that have that eerie 'good Lord I've noticed that too but have never even taken a moment to articulate to myself.'"
"Because you want your art to be hip and seem cool to people, you want people to like the stuff, but a great deal of what passes for hip or cool is now highly, highly commercially driven. And some of it is important art. I think The Simpsons is important art. On the other hand, it's also - in my opinion - corrosive to the soul, and everything is parodied, and everything's ridiculous. Maybe I'm old, but for my part I can be steeped in about an hour of it, and I sort of have to walk away and look at a flower or something. If there's something to be talked about, that thing is this weird conflict between what my girlfriend calls the 'inner sap' - the part of us that can really whole-heartedly weep at stuff - and the part of us that has to live in a world of smart, jaded, sophisticated people and wants very much to be taken seriously by those people. I don't know that it's that irony tyrannizes us, but the fashions that are so easy to criticize but are so incredibly powerful and authentic-seeming when we're inside them, tyrannize us. I don't know that it's ever been any different. That probably makes absolutely no sense. That was my experiment at telling the truth."