Richard Antoine White wrote a book, "I'm Possible." having read the whole book, I think the publisher should have dropped the apostrophe and called it "IMPOSSIBLE!" First some stats: When Richard was born, his father was already serving a life sentence for an unspecified crime. His mother, age 17, was an alcoholic of no known address. Finally, Richard weighed just over one pound. He survived and was discharged from the hospital but not to home. There was no home. A short time later, neighbors heard a baby crying in an abandoned building nearby. A relative shot several rats that were beginning to gnaw at Richard's still moist umbilical cord. In childhood, one of Richard's daily challenges, as the sun began to set, was to find Mama. He would then curl up beside her when that quest was successful. By the end of the book, we have a black man who has a PhD from Indiana University, a family, a house, and a job as first tuba in the New Mexico Symphony orchestra, which he later resurrected from bankruptcy. By the way, the first performance of the new symphony was Mahler's Symphony No. 2, the resurrection symphony. (If you nave never, don't miss it.)
A remarkable story, certainly, but my interest in reading it was to find out how this unlikely young man achieved some measure of success. What drove him? This might provide a clue to what drives others like him to succeed where siblings and neighbors fail. This subject has been examined before, and there are clues. Some succeed because they are brilliant. Richard was not a scholar. He had a talent (tuba), but he struggled with non-music subjects. Some have a mentor. Richard had at least two, and he listened to them. In fact, he selected them after hearing them play. He asked for advice, and he got it. Eventually, he learned to practice roughly twice as many hours per day as was his habit. And he got better. He auditioned for jobs but failed. He admitted to himself that the winner had played better than he did. But he vowed that would not happen again. So he practiced and took lessons and got better. At one point, the rest of life got better also. Grandparents were able to separate Richards basic needs from his mother's alcoholism and took him (but not her) in to live with them. He how had a bed, food, and a school. Opportunities, but that's not enough. Richard lists a pneumonic for HOPE: H-for holding on. O-opportunities. Take advantage of them. P-persistence. E-excellence. He expands on this last point other places in the book, and I think it may be the key to his success. When he failed an audition, he asked. the winner for tips on doing it better. When a teacher showed him how the music should sound, his response was, "I can't play that as well as you today, but next week I will." One of his chapter titles is "The World Deserves the Best Version of You." This compulsion for excellence drove him. Now, about those other kids . . . .