i 've one hour and 34 mins left on this listen (doing an Audible listen) i enjoy Dominique's voice. a huge reason why she is a person i am so grateful for finding her on YouTube.
FAKE IT, TIL YOU MAKE IT. we all do that for time to time. don't we all? i think so.
i'm not in her age range (similarity: women, hear us ROAR, both Geminis, i think we both enjoy having fun, and living our lives to the fullest, i enjoy the public interacting with other, but also enjoy being by ourselves (myself). to recenter yourself to get in there and find the peace and quiet) and i think any lady can be a tool to help each other in your lives, we don't have to be totally similar just having the willingness to listen and be companionate. set back and listen, try to learn. we can do it. with advice, funny moments u can learn from and adjust your life, or give u a boost, etc.) ...i respect her advice (i am 43 and will turn 44 in May of this year, so that doesn't mean i cannot listen and change or use her tips at times, etc.)
i don't know what age you are or what lifestyle u r living at the moment... maybe you need a BIG KICK IN THE butt, i think the kick in the butt i need is something totally different entirely (you might be that person who has been living under a rock and doing too much for others instead of making yourself a TOP PROPERITY, then you will need to open those ears and take a listen) to get going.
What i am looking for????????????????? what are we all looking for, i always say that you if you think have this plan for your life, you better think again, 'cause God is a funny God in that, he is laughing totally, at your plan, YEAH, girlfriend, let me show the ride you are gonna on??!! i think you have be as a free as a bird, to just enjoy it and try to be patient. what steppingstone am i missing.
elderly folks we come in contact with truly are there to help. why do you think they have made it so far??! u know??!
bit sticky and i will try to explain to the best of my abilities and how and all that jazz...
watched Dominique for gosh i forget how many yrs. now. i was watching LeighAnnSays and she recommended her channel. They are both from TX. Now why do I enjoy her YT channel? She is quirky, a Gemini, fun, silly and fun to listen to. I think that is one huge reason why she did so well in the news business. if you notice a huge population of YT are past newscast folks. just take note ... check that out. Emily Noel. Taren Denise. I am sure I am missing a few. I love those ladies as well. i guess for me ...what is the biggest "WAIT A MOMENT" part ... i often get kind of iffy saying i am a Christian ...i'm embarrassed to say it ...so many so-called Christians (it is like those people who are looking into the window and holding us at a different standard than others are held) giving my beliefs a bad name. perfect people do not exist. Christians are not perfect (Jesus was the perfect situation and we strive to have that in our lives, GOALS) .... failing is part of life and always will be. as a Christians we have to realize that those standards are there and that what other folks do in their daily lives is NOT how we must live. (Joyce Meyers says ...when you are grocery shopping ...do you take your shopping cart back to the proper spot? where it will not hit others' cars or property? that is what a GOOD PERSON would do. don't walk around with a Jesus bumper sticker, unless you are prepared to walk in the correct way. don't honk your horn and act all silly. acting in the negative way is not the right way. i am not saying u will not fail often but the point being ...lessons are learned ...move on to a new lesson. stop: not learning the lesson of putting away your cart.)
I was raised Methodist (mom was Baptist) so I'm a nice mix of both. i am NOT completely like my parents in what they believe, i think i have a mashed-up bits of both of them all together. i will always be changing. i will work on it and don't just look in with your FINE-TOOTH COMB and think that Christians should be this way. perfect doesn't happen in a day. everyone deserves a break.) ...what you were yesterday or months before YOU ARE NOT THAT NOW. What I mean is you work on certain items in your life and grow and change. (no i am not a mother, i don't believe you have had to birth a child (the mothering gene ...having birthed a kid through your loins does not always mean u have what it takes to be mother a kid. lots of kids could use some mothering and their mothers are not mothering them because of whatever reason, to busy, too much on their plates because they are using to many of their other hats, same with fathers. we need some help. these kids need people who can mentor (be a preacher, counselor.) mother/father them and as parents if you don't take on those responsibilities, u have gotta be okay with other folks doing the job. to have compassion, kindness, wellbeing for others, it is common kindness and nature to have it and allow others to feel how you treat them, it was how i was raised.
Divorce (being a Christian in one area of your life doesn't mean that you can weed out other part of that existence. u have to take on all of the principals, not just the ones u so desire or wish to work on) it's not in my word bank and my hubby knows that. we know that. we know that we don't want that. it has been that way from the beginning. we will struggle, and cry and moan and groan (we got married in Nov '04 but we have been together for 22 yrs. now. the longest relationship i've ever been in) it's never gonna happen. and for those struggling points and moments in our MARRIAGE life we can look back over them and know it took TIME, ENERGY and with BLESSINGS (mercies of my heavenly FATHER, to help us through each and every day, that is what PRAY is for, asking for help, praying for help. begging ...guidance, if we miss something asking ones we know who we trust to guide and help.) not just anyone should get married. It is hard. It takes work. and I will never justify or try to say this or that when I only know a bit of what I know. but both Nick and Dominique seemed like folks who had both similar interests and backgrounds ...it should have worked. i see 2 divorces in the punch. I wish I could speak one on one with Ms. Sachse to ask her questions. (did you by chance see the video of Nick and her having a Q & A, about marriage, that broke my heart ...i mean that was so total goals ... marriage goals i mean there. But I was like, what the hell happened? they just filmed that and suddenly, over and done?? now i get it you cannot reveal (being that is an ongoing situation it is hard to talk about and so on) and tell everyone everything, it is truly not our business or point.
i fear for kids and others growing up (i recall when my hubby and i were planning our wedding ...i asked for advice from the ladies and men in our church who has been married for yrs. they we almost tight lipped to reveal anything, THIS IS HUGE ...elderly folks are the ones who need to bless us with that wisdom ...not that you are trying to scare people but be realistic and help others to understand it is not a cake walk.) ... Disney be damned. Yes, they make great movies, but you have to have a realistic point or view of what marriage is. add counseling if you need it. get the help that you deserve and wish for. no one can decide that and should ever tell u what is right or wrong. you be the cheerleader for yourself. go to your preacher or whomever) now i feel she deserves her own path ...how Dominique sees fit. times where marriage is not a good go ... i am sure you know what i mean ...and i am certainly not saying marriage needs to stay during those circumstances. but u have to have 2 people who come into it and know what they wish for the end. (i have had a wake up call about marriage, i never knew it could be so hard) i'm here for the long haul ... i didn't want a divorce and i will be dammed to say i will stay here through heck or high water to get us through this. i am stronger than that. he and i are stronger than that. we grew up with parents who have been and are still together for well over 50 yrs. plus together. that's awesome. but you gotta understand ...there are times that you are gonna pull the load and other times he is gonna pull the load. but what makes me sad ... i wish some one could have saved the situation. that is what i'm saying ... because if OUR KIDS (our soon to be older generation) continues to see folks not staying married, thinking they can get married as often as they change their shoes or underwear, they are gonna miss the point. that is why i wish i could find more folks to help with the point of ...being a Christian ...yes it is a commitment, but it is so much more ... i don't see why folks get it? It's huge. without FAITH, without faith, without a foundation of what my Christian faith, life and continuing to try to strive for that end goal how can you go on?? i can not imagine!!! ... why or how would you continue to live or exist??! within my family we have had 1 divorce and that was my Grandfather (Pop-Pop) who after losing his wife of gosh i forget how long they were married well over ... he was 93 when he passed. for a long time. He met a lady of his similar age and they didn't work ...Pop wanted a lady to take care of him and Edgar (the wife) didn't wanna be a caregiver ...and we were friends with her til her passing. no hard feelings. we understood. we got it. i guess for me ...if you are looking for a pep talk ...and kick you in the butt ... and fake it til you make it kind of speech ...Dominique can give you that here. but I guess I was looking for more. I am 43 and always looking for advice ... I mean who is not.
i will say that Dominique is so blessed to have had the chance to be a newscaster (like did you notice that her book was $12.99 ...that is not cheap, thankful for her to have a publisher who can boost up that price and bring in the doe for her to continue her great life. but for most that is not in the budget?? i a curious if she thought of that? i will say that i don't feel terrible over the cost i did pay for the Audible book because every month i pay $14.95 for a book credit that is there and if i use it, it's gone but if i don't it will wait for me to use it up. i tend to have a "wish list" to pick from and next month i am leaning on Will Smith's book ...because i wish to support him for his great read. i think that is a different topic completely than what we are speaking about here but i believe that both men in the situation didn't walk the right path. they are both in the wrong. actions have conscious and they have an ending that might be good or worse for each. i don't think that Chris Rock is completely innocent. i believe physical violence is not called for? but Chris Rock (his humor has never been funny to me) so called humor, was uncalled for and was a type of "bullying" i am curious why no one is saying that? BULLYING is never right. never kind or respected. i guess for me, when something is truly funny everyone can LAUGH. but if you are laughing at a person, for an outfit, for their hairstyle, for whatever reason is not cool. be kind.) and come in contact with so many amazing bits (she truly has been placed in a situation which has given her the opportunities to have items that some may not be given for whatever reason. her budget and her style and the ability to afford and get hairstyles, colors, nails, meet certain doctors, or mentors, injections, etc. yet again i will remind you i have no problem either way and i not saying that it bugs me in the slightest (i am 43 like i said, and i have gotten to the point that i feel that ... women are the ones in the world who are the most judgmental of all of us, (not that men are ever not judgmental, but the ones i come in contact with are the women) we need to give praise to the ones who want this or that, not because u care but you wish to give the cheers for what they want.), Dominique (so for me i look at this book as a chance to any one reading it to see that they can have whatever they so desire. get out there and find it, even for myself. but i wish that all the world could realize that we are all walking different parts and paths in our lives, and it is okay and to judge is not the point. STOP IT. so that is so important.) is fun and she does that for her, that is awesome, but that lady or man who wants to. and how do they get that chance ...that is the persons i feel for ...sometimes that style of life is not in the cards for some. do you see my point??!! some folks are living paycheck to paycheck and that is just not able to happen. no saying that on down the line it might not happen. u see my point??!) that have come into her life that so many of us will not have the chance to do so ...now i am not jealous ...that is a lesson i don't have a probably with ...many you do. how is it not a problem ...i guess for me is how do you go about telling others who look at you as different and don't see why you don't do this or that? (for me i have trouble because i think leave me allow, i am trying so hard to live my life i don't need some1 looking at me and thinking why i don't have kid or why i don't do this? is it truly any of your business ... i am not like the K folks who blast all their lives over the internet which is so not the point of life and i think that kills it for the rest of us ...why do you need to know. not the point. so not the point. u know??!) i mean my WHOLE LIFE i have been judged why are you not doing this or that at church? why do you like these kinds of clothes? why all the cool girls are doing this and u r not? (i am thankfully for my weirdness-es and i love that i am not like her or him, i prefer who i am ...i love my quirkiness and how i wear my hair ... i was raised in a world where all the ladies had short hair, i have never enjoyed longer hair but i get so much judgement over that. since when was it okay for a MAN do this or that?? i think this probably a big deal ...i am not the tided i think that for me ...what has been hard is trying to explain why i like this or that and i can't get others to see why? maybe the point is ...that doesn't matter. but the point being is that having a friend or someone who can sympathize or understand would be so nice. one to cheer you on i mean. i think that is truly what we all want from time to time. we want that person to say WELL DONE, you did it. what you picked in your life be it different from others is okay.
tips that would have made the book better you might be asking of me? pictures. past outfits that she thought would be good, anything, i am rather shocked there is nothing in that side of things. i will say that Dominique is a huge visual person by her doing her makeup, her hair, or whatever she is trying to teach you ...she doesn't give you examples. the BOOK IS MISSING EXAMPLES, speaking of a vision board, i am a visual learner ...that would have been nice. PICTURES. i guess for $12.99 i did expect more.
what is the takeaway?? thinky face. maybe she thought it would get you to come to her YT channel for more advice or something more? i don't personally subscribe to her channel but i visit. point being i am a pretty head strong person, i do what i want and my mother thinks what the heck. i was the person who had always wondered what the heck i would look like without hair, so i shaved my head bald, yeah i did it. why the heck not. i agree with the point of being who you are and not regretting it one bit. u know the point in G.I. Jane where Demi Moore shaves her head ...that experience is the most FREEING EXPERIENCE, all the crap you have been living through, the stress, being a lady, dealing with all you deal with ...let it go. let it down ... feel the feelings and breathe through it all. let it go. and try not to take it all so seriously. LIFE IS FUN. let it be fun.
When times get gritty in marriage YOU HAVE TO BUCKLE DOWN and refuse to budge. work for the good of what you wanted and remember you both are different, constantly changing, what you were will not always be. but the point of being there, you are there to work through past moments, deal and move forward. each of you have to be there for the common good. moving toward that GOAL, that end result. keep going. keep moving & let me tell you something my MOM always told me, you look at that other person, that other woman or man (yeah, he/she is hot ...he looks good but look away move on) ...what makes you think it is gonna be any easier with them?? (the grass maybe greener, may look hotter, sexier or whatever but u made a commitment, stick it out, work through it and enjoy that bond that is there.) there will always be crap to work through. it's just different crap. crap is crap. the quicker you deal, with whatever is bugging you the quick you can move on to the next stone and so on. Just like other times in life you have to FIGHT, fight for what you believe in and make it happen. life is not always peachy ...WAKE UP CALL, girl get your butt in gear and do what you love, what makes you happy, healthy and you enjoy most. u have take care of yourself first and foremost ...do so you can take care of whomever u need to. i wish you all well and keep reading.
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found a good quote & it gives the feels as to what i am saying within my review up there: "There is so little difference between husbands you might as well keep the first." -- Adela Rogers St. Johns