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Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire
A practical guide to understand both low and high libido, drawing on science, straight talk and useful exercises to stop blame and rekindle pleasure.
From the Vatican to Vegas, From Disney to PornHub, we’ve been tricked into believing love and sex are like a hand in a glove, though few of us experience them that way. In Sex When You Don’t Feel Like The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire,Cyndi Darnell helps demystify our relationship to desire by making it authentic, relatable, and most importantly, attainable. Darnell guides readers step-by-step through a useful framework to discover their authentic longings while recognizing it can feel uncomfortable when they’re unaccustomed to deep, soul-nourishing conversations about sex. From reading this book, you will learn what desire needs to thrive and how to understand your unique erotic template.
At its core, Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It is honest. It understands that exploring sex is complicated in a culture that insists sex is both natural and dangerous. It doesn’t promise eternal happiness with tips and tricks in three-easy-steps. It does, however, get to the heart of how everything we’ve been led to believe about erotic desire is untrue, and demonstrates how these beliefs shape our struggles with cultivating pleasure and understanding the nature of passion. Darnell takes desire from a passive, resigned sense of failure to an inspired quest by offering countless prompts, practices, suggestions and reflections to help the reader understand why they’re feeling what they’re feeling, why they’re feeling stuck, what they really want, and how to get there. This book offers abundant alternatives to sexual struggles and tackles the self-doubt, awkwardness, and embarrassment of exploring erotic desire to support the reader in creating a dynamic erotic identity that is uniquely theirs.
From the Vatican to Vegas, From Disney to PornHub, we’ve been tricked into believing love and sex are like a hand in a glove, though few of us experience them that way. In Sex When You Don’t Feel Like The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire,Cyndi Darnell helps demystify our relationship to desire by making it authentic, relatable, and most importantly, attainable. Darnell guides readers step-by-step through a useful framework to discover their authentic longings while recognizing it can feel uncomfortable when they’re unaccustomed to deep, soul-nourishing conversations about sex. From reading this book, you will learn what desire needs to thrive and how to understand your unique erotic template.
At its core, Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It is honest. It understands that exploring sex is complicated in a culture that insists sex is both natural and dangerous. It doesn’t promise eternal happiness with tips and tricks in three-easy-steps. It does, however, get to the heart of how everything we’ve been led to believe about erotic desire is untrue, and demonstrates how these beliefs shape our struggles with cultivating pleasure and understanding the nature of passion. Darnell takes desire from a passive, resigned sense of failure to an inspired quest by offering countless prompts, practices, suggestions and reflections to help the reader understand why they’re feeling what they’re feeling, why they’re feeling stuck, what they really want, and how to get there. This book offers abundant alternatives to sexual struggles and tackles the self-doubt, awkwardness, and embarrassment of exploring erotic desire to support the reader in creating a dynamic erotic identity that is uniquely theirs.
259 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 10, 2022
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November 18, 2022
Cyndi Darnell, an inimitable powerhouse of eclectic brilliance in the fields of human behavior, intimacy, and sexuality, provides a groundbreaking book on highly important subjects we all face, subjects not discussed enough.
Not one to allow herself to be easily categorized or labeled, Darnell's liberated, dynamic, and relatable literary style throws opens the door for us to have a peek at what life, love, and sex will be like when we become equipped to have informed, honest conversations about the fluctuating nature of desire and libido and how they inform each other and how they affect our sexual, erotic, intimate relationships.
Darnell has shattered longstanding, fear-driven silence with this expertly crafted, significant addition to the literature. The work ahead lies with us all - to read, to learn, and to develop the language and the courage to practice what this Master therapist teaches so beautifully.
Not one to allow herself to be easily categorized or labeled, Darnell's liberated, dynamic, and relatable literary style throws opens the door for us to have a peek at what life, love, and sex will be like when we become equipped to have informed, honest conversations about the fluctuating nature of desire and libido and how they inform each other and how they affect our sexual, erotic, intimate relationships.
Darnell has shattered longstanding, fear-driven silence with this expertly crafted, significant addition to the literature. The work ahead lies with us all - to read, to learn, and to develop the language and the courage to practice what this Master therapist teaches so beautifully.
November 25, 2022
Highly recommended. This book will support people of all ages, genders and sexualities to understand sexual desire in wonderful new ways, and busts lots of common myths about sex and desire. I particularly loved the different lists and questions for reflection. As a sex therapist, one of the most common reasons couples see me is because there are not having sex, or are not having the amount of sex that they want (or one of them wants). This book answers many common questions, and best of all is. It shaming or trying to ‘fix’ anyone. (Spoiler alert- you’re not broken). I will be recommending to many of my clients. Thanks Cyndi!
July 5, 2022
This is a book that every single human can benefit from! As a psychotherapist and sex therapist, I so appreciate having this book to recommend to my clients and their partners. It's straightforward, accessible, inclusive, and practical, and it feels great to be 100% confident that it will help my clients (of every gender and orientation) feel empowered and informed.
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