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Ours: Biblical Comfort for Men Grieving Miscarriage
31-day devotional giving biblical comfort and practical support to men processing miscarriage.
This 31-day devotional gives biblical comfort and practical support to men processing miscarriage. The loss of a baby in the womb can leave the father reeling, as well as the mother. He may feel confused, helpless, lonely, deeply sad, or just numb.
As readers draw alongside Jesus in the pages of Luke’s Gospel, they’ll find help to process their grief and to address questions they may be too afraid to ask. There’s also lots of practical help on how to care both for themselves and for their family in the aftermath of miscarriage.
Eric Schumacher writes with sympathy and compassion as someone who has experienced the grief of multiple pregnancy losses making this book a great way to reach out to men who are suffering in this way. Includes foreword by Paul David Tripp and contributions from Nate and Lore Wilbert, Jenn Hesse, and Brian Croft. There is also space for journaling.
This 31-day devotional gives biblical comfort and practical support to men processing miscarriage. The loss of a baby in the womb can leave the father reeling, as well as the mother. He may feel confused, helpless, lonely, deeply sad, or just numb.
As readers draw alongside Jesus in the pages of Luke’s Gospel, they’ll find help to process their grief and to address questions they may be too afraid to ask. There’s also lots of practical help on how to care both for themselves and for their family in the aftermath of miscarriage.
Eric Schumacher writes with sympathy and compassion as someone who has experienced the grief of multiple pregnancy losses making this book a great way to reach out to men who are suffering in this way. Includes foreword by Paul David Tripp and contributions from Nate and Lore Wilbert, Jenn Hesse, and Brian Croft. There is also space for journaling.
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Published July 1, 2022
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April 2, 2024
5.0 // I’m so thankful for this devotional. The Lord used it to bring comfort, encouragement, and support in ways that surprised me. Eric Schumacher walks through the (entire) Gospel of Luke in 30 accessible but substantial meditations on the person and work of Christ that somehow connect in very real ways with the questions, doubts, pain, and wrestling that men experience in the aftermath of miscarriage. This is a resource that I will recommend from now on to any man who suffers the loss of an unborn child.
My wife gave this to me at a time when one might find it unusual to be doing a devotional like this: right after finding out that we were having another baby. And yet this wondrous news was stirring up difficult and painful memories of our previous two miscarriages, such that I found myself freshly grieving even though we were celebrating new life in Jami’s womb. The Lord used this devotional to draw me close to Himself and feel His comforting embrace. In his forward, Paul David Tripp says that the best thing about this devotional is that it points us to Jesus, and I can attest to this statement—its truth and beauty.
And while it took me five months instead of one to read it, how appropriate that I got to read the final passage (Luke 24 on Jesus’ resurrection) today, on Easter Sunday! What comfort that though the pain of miscarriage is real, ours is a God who defeats death and makes all things new. He is risen!
My wife gave this to me at a time when one might find it unusual to be doing a devotional like this: right after finding out that we were having another baby. And yet this wondrous news was stirring up difficult and painful memories of our previous two miscarriages, such that I found myself freshly grieving even though we were celebrating new life in Jami’s womb. The Lord used this devotional to draw me close to Himself and feel His comforting embrace. In his forward, Paul David Tripp says that the best thing about this devotional is that it points us to Jesus, and I can attest to this statement—its truth and beauty.
And while it took me five months instead of one to read it, how appropriate that I got to read the final passage (Luke 24 on Jesus’ resurrection) today, on Easter Sunday! What comfort that though the pain of miscarriage is real, ours is a God who defeats death and makes all things new. He is risen!
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January 31, 2025I am very grateful for this book. It contains a lot of wisdom, life, and truth. I wish I had these words immediately after our miscarriage.
June 23, 2022
I have read many different books about miscarriage and child loss, but they are all written by women and to women. Normally, authors will include one chapter about the dad, but they usually still address it to his wife, not him. Because of this, I have been looking forward to Ours ever since Eric Schumacher announced it. There are no other books like this, and after years of appreciating this author's work, I knew he would be the perfect person to write it. However, this still surpassed my expectations.
This book shares 31 daily devotions based on consecutive passages from the gospel of Luke, and each reading begins with a common question that men ask when grieving miscarriage. These include both spiritual questions, such as where God is in the midst of this, and practical questions, such as whether or not they should take time off work and if they're a burden to their friends. Schumacher relates each question to the passage for that day in a meaningful, insightful way, and it amazed me to see how well he tied in each issue with the Bible verses without ever oversimplifying the question or the Scripture reading.
Schumacher shares vulnerable stories from his own experiences with recurrent miscarriages, and he is both a kind companion and a wise pastoral guide to the men who will read this book. I highly recommend this as a gift to men grieving miscarriage, along with the publisher's original devotional Held by Abbey Wedgeworth for their wives, and I hope that women will also read Ours to better understand a male perspective on this issue. This book is much-needed and truly excellent, and I highly recommend it to grieving men and their support systems.
I received a free copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
This book shares 31 daily devotions based on consecutive passages from the gospel of Luke, and each reading begins with a common question that men ask when grieving miscarriage. These include both spiritual questions, such as where God is in the midst of this, and practical questions, such as whether or not they should take time off work and if they're a burden to their friends. Schumacher relates each question to the passage for that day in a meaningful, insightful way, and it amazed me to see how well he tied in each issue with the Bible verses without ever oversimplifying the question or the Scripture reading.
Schumacher shares vulnerable stories from his own experiences with recurrent miscarriages, and he is both a kind companion and a wise pastoral guide to the men who will read this book. I highly recommend this as a gift to men grieving miscarriage, along with the publisher's original devotional Held by Abbey Wedgeworth for their wives, and I hope that women will also read Ours to better understand a male perspective on this issue. This book is much-needed and truly excellent, and I highly recommend it to grieving men and their support systems.
I received a free copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
April 25, 2025
I wish I never had to read this. But I did. And it was a gift of God to me when I needed it.
July 13, 2022
What does miscarriage mean for Christian men? Ours, by Eric Schumacher, brings Biblical comfort for men grieving miscarriage.
Biblical Precision and Tender Care
Having experienced 3 miscarriages, Schumacher writes with Biblical precision and tender care. The devotional is written around the book of Luke. This book, like Luke, opens with the fact that God knows about our specific sorrows and suffering. “A book about Jesus opens with a story about a couple that could not have children.” What a profound note!
The book goes on to tackle subjects such as grief, uncertainty, and trust. I was most surprised at Chapter 5, that speaks of our need for repentance. Schumacher knows we must honor Christ in our miscarriage, but admits we sometimes make mistakes in our coping. Lashing out in angry words, demanding too much of our loved ones, envy, bitterness, and anger are all sins that must be confessed.
Comfort and Ressurance
Chapter 6 gives a direct answer to the question: Does God know what I’m going through? “God knows what it is to experience the death of a child. That means that he can identify with you in your suffering.” This means that for those who have experienced miscarriage, God has not forgotten or ignored you. In fact, Jesus is forever a Son, and God is forever a Father. Schumacher gives comfort and reassurance in that God knows and cares.
This book is not afraid to face the hard realities of suffering. Along with despair and mourning, anger is a common response for men. The book tackles anger in Chapter 11, and Schumacher shows us how the Lord leads us to love even our enemies. We can put a rest to our resentment. By looking at Jesus, we can behave out of grace by blessing others.
Husbands and Wives
Schumacher does believe that “miscarried children go to heaven at death and will be raised on the last day with glorious bodies.” And he places his hope on the firm promise that Jesus will wipe all of our tears away. Death shall be no more. This gives hope to those who grieve, and we eagerly await for resurrection glory.
By looking at Jesus, Schumacher shows that husbands can care for their wives by showing mercy, taking notice, serving, affirming, and comforting. Schumacher also looks at sex, resolving to show love to our wives as they would want to be loved — and valuing her comfort ahead of our own.
Christ Our Hope in Life and Death
Discussion questions and prayer prompts are included at the end of each chapter. At the back of the book are several appendices, including Understanding the Medical Side of Miscarriage by Jenn Hesse, How to Grieve by Brian Croft, Loving Your Wife: Nate’s Story by Nate Wilbert. The proper end of the book closes with Jesus’ promise of peace.
This book is a must-read for men who have experienced miscarriage. Wives will understand the unique struggles their husbands experience. Pastors and leaders will learn how to minister with compassion. And Christ will be championed as our hope in life and death.
I received a media copy of Ours and this is my honest review.
Biblical Precision and Tender Care
Having experienced 3 miscarriages, Schumacher writes with Biblical precision and tender care. The devotional is written around the book of Luke. This book, like Luke, opens with the fact that God knows about our specific sorrows and suffering. “A book about Jesus opens with a story about a couple that could not have children.” What a profound note!
The book goes on to tackle subjects such as grief, uncertainty, and trust. I was most surprised at Chapter 5, that speaks of our need for repentance. Schumacher knows we must honor Christ in our miscarriage, but admits we sometimes make mistakes in our coping. Lashing out in angry words, demanding too much of our loved ones, envy, bitterness, and anger are all sins that must be confessed.
Comfort and Ressurance
Chapter 6 gives a direct answer to the question: Does God know what I’m going through? “God knows what it is to experience the death of a child. That means that he can identify with you in your suffering.” This means that for those who have experienced miscarriage, God has not forgotten or ignored you. In fact, Jesus is forever a Son, and God is forever a Father. Schumacher gives comfort and reassurance in that God knows and cares.
This book is not afraid to face the hard realities of suffering. Along with despair and mourning, anger is a common response for men. The book tackles anger in Chapter 11, and Schumacher shows us how the Lord leads us to love even our enemies. We can put a rest to our resentment. By looking at Jesus, we can behave out of grace by blessing others.
Husbands and Wives
Schumacher does believe that “miscarried children go to heaven at death and will be raised on the last day with glorious bodies.” And he places his hope on the firm promise that Jesus will wipe all of our tears away. Death shall be no more. This gives hope to those who grieve, and we eagerly await for resurrection glory.
By looking at Jesus, Schumacher shows that husbands can care for their wives by showing mercy, taking notice, serving, affirming, and comforting. Schumacher also looks at sex, resolving to show love to our wives as they would want to be loved — and valuing her comfort ahead of our own.
Christ Our Hope in Life and Death
Discussion questions and prayer prompts are included at the end of each chapter. At the back of the book are several appendices, including Understanding the Medical Side of Miscarriage by Jenn Hesse, How to Grieve by Brian Croft, Loving Your Wife: Nate’s Story by Nate Wilbert. The proper end of the book closes with Jesus’ promise of peace.
This book is a must-read for men who have experienced miscarriage. Wives will understand the unique struggles their husbands experience. Pastors and leaders will learn how to minister with compassion. And Christ will be championed as our hope in life and death.
I received a media copy of Ours and this is my honest review.
December 8, 2024
I proofread this book before gifting it to a friend, and promptly returned it. It is hyper Calvinistic and believes God causes miscarriages, says that while we can't be sure that babies go to heaven, they probably do, and is extremely judgemental of normal emotions. This is an excerpt directly from the book that shows just how bad it is:
"While my wife experienced sadness, I toyed with, and eventually gave in to bitterness-a deep and hidden raised fist in the face of God. Once when I left our apartment after one of the miscarriages so I could get a prescription for Maria, I started the car only to hear on the radio the news that a scandalously immoral, unmarried female celebrity was pregnant-again. I scrunched up my face and breathed out a scoffing 'prayer': 'How's that just? This woman is pregnant while my sweet and godly wife, who would be an excellent mother, lies sobbing into her pillow upstairs.' I think that moment was perhaps the worst sin I've ever committed. I knew far better, but I was calling into question the goodness of my God to me."
"While my wife experienced sadness, I toyed with, and eventually gave in to bitterness-a deep and hidden raised fist in the face of God. Once when I left our apartment after one of the miscarriages so I could get a prescription for Maria, I started the car only to hear on the radio the news that a scandalously immoral, unmarried female celebrity was pregnant-again. I scrunched up my face and breathed out a scoffing 'prayer': 'How's that just? This woman is pregnant while my sweet and godly wife, who would be an excellent mother, lies sobbing into her pillow upstairs.' I think that moment was perhaps the worst sin I've ever committed. I knew far better, but I was calling into question the goodness of my God to me."
December 2, 2024
The good: Carrying applications of Biblical truth that we know apply to other areas of life and applying them to miscarriage.
The bad: Believes that Old Testament references of children being a blessing are transformed into applying to spiritual children and not biological. Ends up falling into the trap of affirming without qualification which can lead to sin. Chapter 1 and 30 are especially just filled with ridiculousness.
The in-between: Sections where his application could lead either to solid biblical application or feelings based destructive application. Unfortunately, I believe the author would typically land on the wrong side of that if he elaborated more.
In total: A decent book if you are a mature Christian reading with scrutiny, looking to glean the good while sifting out his poor applications, and his incorrect view of children and blessing (and whatever that miscarriage and bareness bit in chapter one was trying to say). But even then, probably not worth the time. Has good chapters for younger Christian men, but would need to be mentored by a mature man to help avoid the errors.
The bad: Believes that Old Testament references of children being a blessing are transformed into applying to spiritual children and not biological. Ends up falling into the trap of affirming without qualification which can lead to sin. Chapter 1 and 30 are especially just filled with ridiculousness.
The in-between: Sections where his application could lead either to solid biblical application or feelings based destructive application. Unfortunately, I believe the author would typically land on the wrong side of that if he elaborated more.
In total: A decent book if you are a mature Christian reading with scrutiny, looking to glean the good while sifting out his poor applications, and his incorrect view of children and blessing (and whatever that miscarriage and bareness bit in chapter one was trying to say). But even then, probably not worth the time. Has good chapters for younger Christian men, but would need to be mentored by a mature man to help avoid the errors.
June 21, 2022
I am not the intended audience for this book, but after struggling with recurrent pregnancy loss I love to have resources on hand to give to friends who trust me with their grief. This is a fantastic devotional for the loved men in our lives who also grieve the loss of their children. Each day focuses on a different passage in the book of Luke and the author is compassionate and truth-filled in his approach. Highly recommend for the man who might find a book comforting in the wake of his loss.
August 31, 2022
A book that I wish didn’t need to be written, but in a fallen world this book is incredibly helpful. Highly recommend.
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January 20, 2023DNF. It's good, but I can't finish it right now and I'm not the target audience for it.
October 25, 2022
A devotional through the book of Luke with an eye for its details and teachings on the subject of grief, our response as men to it, and if not grief directly then our general hopes, expectations, aspirations, and roles/callings as men. Schumacher regularly offers some great insights and observations, drawing details that I had never noticed in Luke before. However, the longer I went through the book, the less of an impact I felt it having on me in my own grief journey, and the more I realized there is just no replacing grief before God with directly soaking in his word and prayer at your own pace.
Having said that, when some chapters instruct to read the entirety of one chapter of Luke, and then offer only a couple pages of high-level commentary, this leaves something to be desired. Also, I do not agree with everything Schumacher says here. Nonetheless I commend the book for grieving Christian men who do not know where to start in sifting through their loss.
Having said that, when some chapters instruct to read the entirety of one chapter of Luke, and then offer only a couple pages of high-level commentary, this leaves something to be desired. Also, I do not agree with everything Schumacher says here. Nonetheless I commend the book for grieving Christian men who do not know where to start in sifting through their loss.
March 11, 2024
Recommended for anyone walking through a season of miscarriage AND those who want to be helpful to friends who walk through this season.
August 26, 2024
I am so grateful for this book. After my wife miscarried, I felt like I was lost in a whirlwind, and there are so few resources to help. This book provided biblical comfort and guidance to help me as I processed what we had been through and let me be able to help my wife better.
July 1, 2022
Ours: Biblical Comfort for Men Grieving Miscarriage is the latest book by author and pastor, Eric Schumacher. This book is the first of its kind, at least to my knowledge, as it addresses the topic of miscarriage with men as the intended audience. Ours is the companion book to Abbey Wedgeworth’s helpful volume, Held. Held was a great comfort to me as I experienced a miscarriage early last year and I wish Ours would have been available because as I’ve read it recently, I’ve found it to be incredibly helpful.
Ours includes 31 brief devotionals to help men as they process the grief of miscarriage. In the book, Schumacher uses the book of Luke to help readers understand the compassion of Jesus for those who are hurting. Each devotional points readers to Jesus and concludes with space for journaling. The exterior of the book is aesthetically pleasing. The interior includes a bookmark which may seem like a small detail but it is one that demonstrates much care for those who are grieving as it may be hard for them to keep track of where they are in the book. Schumacher and his wife, Jenny, are no stranger to the grief of miscarriage as they’ve experienced it 4 times. Schumacher writes with tenderness and compassion for those who are suffering. As a woman, I’m grateful that I was able to find many resources that pointed me to Christ during my miscarriage. I’m grateful that Ours now exists to do the same for men (and ultimately help the women they love).
I received Ours compliments of The Good Book Company in exchange for my honest review.
Ours includes 31 brief devotionals to help men as they process the grief of miscarriage. In the book, Schumacher uses the book of Luke to help readers understand the compassion of Jesus for those who are hurting. Each devotional points readers to Jesus and concludes with space for journaling. The exterior of the book is aesthetically pleasing. The interior includes a bookmark which may seem like a small detail but it is one that demonstrates much care for those who are grieving as it may be hard for them to keep track of where they are in the book. Schumacher and his wife, Jenny, are no stranger to the grief of miscarriage as they’ve experienced it 4 times. Schumacher writes with tenderness and compassion for those who are suffering. As a woman, I’m grateful that I was able to find many resources that pointed me to Christ during my miscarriage. I’m grateful that Ours now exists to do the same for men (and ultimately help the women they love).
I received Ours compliments of The Good Book Company in exchange for my honest review.
April 21, 2025
Great wisdom for men who have suffered the loss of a child through miscarriage.
May 21, 2025
This is an excellent resource for grieving fathers.
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