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Kuidas pääseda nõiaringist? Kuidas õppida end armastama just sellisena, nagu oled? Sellest raamatust leiad rohkelt lihtsaid võtteid, mis aitavad su sisemist kriitikut vaigistada ja saada üle alaväärsusest. Sa leiad võimsaid ärksuse ja endasse südamlikult suhtumise vahendeid, et tulla toime negatiivsete mõtete ja tunnetega, ning nõuandeid, kuidas väärtustada oma tugevaid külgi ja jõuda selleni, mida sa elus kõige enam soovid.
Psühholoogiadoktor Michelle Skeenil on kraad kliinilises psühholoogias. Ta on kirjutanud seitse suhete parandamisele pühendatud raamatut, et aidata meil luua tervislikke ja rahulolu pakkuvaid inimsuhteid. Tema tütar Kelly Skeen lõpetas Georgetowni Ülikoolis ameerika uuringute eriala ning kirjutas koos emaga raamatu, et õppida endaga leppimise kunsti ning saada õnnelikuks.
Kuidas pääseda nõiaringist? Kuidas õppida end armastama just sellisena, nagu oled? Sellest raamatust leiad rohkelt lihtsaid võtteid, mis aitavad su sisemist kriitikut vaigistada ja saada üle alaväärsusest. Sa leiad võimsaid ärksuse ja endasse südamlikult suhtumise vahendeid, et tulla toime negatiivsete mõtete ja tunnetega, ning nõuandeid, kuidas väärtustada oma tugevaid külgi ja jõuda selleni, mida sa elus kõige enam soovid.
Psühholoogiadoktor Michelle Skeenil on kraad kliinilises psühholoogias. Ta on kirjutanud seitse suhete parandamisele pühendatud raamatut, et aidata meil luua tervislikke ja rahulolu pakkuvaid inimsuhteid. Tema tütar Kelly Skeen lõpetas Georgetowni Ülikoolis ameerika uuringute eriala ning kirjutas koos emaga raamatu, et õppida endaga leppimise kunsti ning saada õnnelikuks.
156 pages, Hardcover
First published July 1, 2018
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Michelle Skeen
11 books22 followersMichelle Skeen, PsyD, has a doctorate in clinical psychology. She is author of seven books, all designed to enhance relationships by emphasizing the importance of identifying core values and valued intentions, limited thinking, mindfulness, self-compassion, empathy, and effective communication and conflict resolution skills. Her passion is coaching individuals in creating and maintaining healthy relationships by bringing awareness to obstacles (fears and beliefs), which often work unconsciously to limit connections with others. Michelle believes that an early introduction and education in core values and healthy communication are essential life skills for success. To that end, Michelle and her daughter, Kelly, coauthored Communication Skills for Teens and Just As You Are.
Skeen completed her postdoctoral work at the University of California, San Francisco. She codeveloped an empirically validated protocol for the treatment of interpersonal problems that resulted in two books: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems and The Interpersonal Problems Workbook. Michelle’s work has appeared in more than thirty publications around the world. She hosts a weekly radio show called Relationships 2.0 with Dr. Michelle Skeen that airs nationally. To find out more, visit her website at www.michelleskeen.com.
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Skeen completed her postdoctoral work at the University of California, San Francisco. She codeveloped an empirically validated protocol for the treatment of interpersonal problems that resulted in two books: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems and The Interpersonal Problems Workbook. Michelle’s work has appeared in more than thirty publications around the world. She hosts a weekly radio show called Relationships 2.0 with Dr. Michelle Skeen that airs nationally. To find out more, visit her website at www.michelleskeen.com.
Source: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/m...
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May 9, 2018Being a teenager these days is both very different to when I was one – and also pretty much the same. Every generation goes through many of the same things, but these days there’s this thing called the internet, and this other thing called social media.
The internet has made some aspects of adolescence easier (try doing research for an assignment back when you had to catch a bus to the library and take photocopies out of books!), but it has also created a pretty hostile environment for a lot of people.
Just As You Are takes present-day obstacles into consideration and speaks directly to teenagers with the message: you’re not alone in this. It also offers activities of sorts for teens to work issues out for themselves.
There’s one page of the book I had a problem with: the example of a girl who regrets shutting down a political argument and not wanting to hear a boy’s opposite point of view.
In this current climate, that’s hugely problematic, because chances are that girl didn’t want to hear the misogyny being spewed by a boy on the Trump side of the spectrum. I see NO problem with what she did!
Otherwise, this is a thoughtful read for young people. I might not be in the target audience, but we’ve all been there at some point in time.
Review copy from NetGalley.
The internet has made some aspects of adolescence easier (try doing research for an assignment back when you had to catch a bus to the library and take photocopies out of books!), but it has also created a pretty hostile environment for a lot of people.
Just As You Are takes present-day obstacles into consideration and speaks directly to teenagers with the message: you’re not alone in this. It also offers activities of sorts for teens to work issues out for themselves.
There’s one page of the book I had a problem with: the example of a girl who regrets shutting down a political argument and not wanting to hear a boy’s opposite point of view.
In this current climate, that’s hugely problematic, because chances are that girl didn’t want to hear the misogyny being spewed by a boy on the Trump side of the spectrum. I see NO problem with what she did!
Otherwise, this is a thoughtful read for young people. I might not be in the target audience, but we’ve all been there at some point in time.
Review copy from NetGalley.
April 28, 2018
As strange as it may sound.. Even us teens need some tips and pointers on how to get through everything. Sometimes it's not what we want to hear, sometimes we want to try it ourselves and sometimes.. Well.. This book just teaches us 'kids' how we could do better; how we'd be our perfect self and it shows us how things are percieved from an other point of view. I for one, am not really into these kind of books; they tell you what to do and I really don't like that. But I can see this being really helpful for a lot of people!
I kind of felt it was written in a magazine 'Q&A' kind of way.. I'm still not sure what to think of that, it has something.. I'm just not sure if it's a good or a bad thing.
I kind of felt it was written in a magazine 'Q&A' kind of way.. I'm still not sure what to think of that, it has something.. I'm just not sure if it's a good or a bad thing.
March 13, 2019
well that's an hour of my life I'll never get back.
at least it might boost my netgalley approval rating.
at least it might boost my netgalley approval rating.
July 20, 2020
This book is like the best friend you needed growing up. Telling you all the insecurities that you have inside you really as big as you think they are. It's a book I wish had whilst growing up. Although the insecurities never go away at least you know you're not alone in it and everyone is too busy with their own to notice yours. Recommend this book to young teens.
September 11, 2021
Contains some helpful information, but not exactly what I was looking for.
October 23, 2024
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196 hal
Di luar ekspektasi, buku ini ternyata daging banget.
Sempet skeptis karena buku ini ditujukan buat remaja bukan remaja kolot kaya saya, tapi ternyata isinya bisa diterapkan buat segala usia.
Buku ini cocok buat kamu yang ngerasa pengen berubah karena merasa ke trigger dengan sesuatu, baik itu perlakuan seseorang kepada kamu ataupun situasi. Kita juga jadi mengenal value dan menyadari kalau kita harus selalu merevaluasi value yang kita punya, apakah masih relevan dengan kondisi sekarang. Ini penting karena bisa membantu kita mengubah perilaku negatif.
Selain itu, juga ditekankan pentingnya buat mengenali emosi negatif, belajar dengan teknik mindfulness dengan cara memikirkan hal yang membuat kita merasakan emosi negatif atau kondisi yang men trigger kita, melabeli emosi itu, dan mengucapkan selamat tinggal kepada emosi itu.
Well, latihan ini emang nggak semudah kedengarannya tapi dengan melepaskan emosi negatif, kita memberikan ruang untuk bisa netral dan menjadi orang yang nggak mudah ke trigger, yang dikit dikit dah emosi. Latihan ini juga bisa kamu gunakan buat kamu yang punya trauma, karena terapis aku juga mengajarkan buat latihan ini.
Di akhir bab, penulis juga memberikan summary apa aja yang penting, yang mungkin missed kita baca atau kita catat.
Notes: kalau baca buku ini, jangan skip latihan yang diberikan karena ini membantu banget buat kita “pulih”
196 hal
Di luar ekspektasi, buku ini ternyata daging banget.
Sempet skeptis karena buku ini ditujukan buat remaja bukan remaja kolot kaya saya, tapi ternyata isinya bisa diterapkan buat segala usia.
Buku ini cocok buat kamu yang ngerasa pengen berubah karena merasa ke trigger dengan sesuatu, baik itu perlakuan seseorang kepada kamu ataupun situasi. Kita juga jadi mengenal value dan menyadari kalau kita harus selalu merevaluasi value yang kita punya, apakah masih relevan dengan kondisi sekarang. Ini penting karena bisa membantu kita mengubah perilaku negatif.
Selain itu, juga ditekankan pentingnya buat mengenali emosi negatif, belajar dengan teknik mindfulness dengan cara memikirkan hal yang membuat kita merasakan emosi negatif atau kondisi yang men trigger kita, melabeli emosi itu, dan mengucapkan selamat tinggal kepada emosi itu.
Well, latihan ini emang nggak semudah kedengarannya tapi dengan melepaskan emosi negatif, kita memberikan ruang untuk bisa netral dan menjadi orang yang nggak mudah ke trigger, yang dikit dikit dah emosi. Latihan ini juga bisa kamu gunakan buat kamu yang punya trauma, karena terapis aku juga mengajarkan buat latihan ini.
Di akhir bab, penulis juga memberikan summary apa aja yang penting, yang mungkin missed kita baca atau kita catat.
Notes: kalau baca buku ini, jangan skip latihan yang diberikan karena ini membantu banget buat kita “pulih”
April 22, 2018
This book is a guide for teenagers struggling with various feelings or issues surrounding themselves and their self worth and value.
The guide has steps chapter by chapter to improve on negative thoughts about any aspect of themselves at all with ways to improve and begin to change negative behaviour to positive growth and provide them with more strength of character which in turn will help them grow.
This book is a great addition to the market as a guide for people to provide teenagers with and could prove an helpful essential for any young teen suffering with the constant negativity they may be wallowing in day to day.
Many thanks to the publishers for allowing me to review this book for them!
The guide has steps chapter by chapter to improve on negative thoughts about any aspect of themselves at all with ways to improve and begin to change negative behaviour to positive growth and provide them with more strength of character which in turn will help them grow.
This book is a great addition to the market as a guide for people to provide teenagers with and could prove an helpful essential for any young teen suffering with the constant negativity they may be wallowing in day to day.
Many thanks to the publishers for allowing me to review this book for them!
April 26, 2023
saya membaca buku terjemahan Bahasa Indonesianya yang ada di gramedia digital. Jujur saja saya tidak terlalu yakin dengan konteks dari buku originalnya, tetapi kata-kata di versi terjemahannya sangat bertele-tele dan susah untuk dimengerti. Isi dari buku ini memang ada benarnya dan sesuai dengan judul bukunya tetapi kurang didukung oleh fakta dan tidak ada poin spesifik yang bisa diambil. Intinya ya buku ini memang merupakan buku self-improvement tetapi bukan yang akan saya rekomendasikan ke orang-orang.
June 4, 2018
I really enjoyed this self-help book for your self-worth and self-esteem. It gave a lot of great examples of some struggles that we go through all the time. It was a very positive book and had some great ideas and techniques. The only thing that seemed old were some the people's name's who gave their stories to this book. Some of the names seems a bit fake which lead me to think some of the stories weren't true.
But overall, this book was very helpful and I would recommend it to others.
But overall, this book was very helpful and I would recommend it to others.
June 21, 2023
Some helpful information for older teens and teens getting ready for college. Younger teens may have difficulty rationalizing through the exercises on their own, based purely on physiological brain developmental perspective.
June 13, 2023
Isi bukunya lebih ke panduan untuk menghilangkan emosi dan pikiran negatif
July 3, 2023
Vetted this for a middle schooler in my family, and it’s actually pretty good!
April 29, 2018
A concise, very accessible guide to identifying and managing our maladaptive thoughts and behaviors. Teens and young people will find this very relatable...full of insight, tips and personal experiences. Without becoming trite or preachy, this book offers the readers practical ways to improve their feelings of self worth through exploring their own thought processes and behaviors. As a psychologist, I was impressed with this book. I plan on purchasing a copy for my own family.
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