This book started so weirdly and promisingly. It opens on the new widowhood of a young woman whose reckless, adrenaline-addict husband has just perished in a sailing accident. It turns out she was far more suited to his older brother anyway, and the first two thirds of the story describe Elizabeth’s slow realisation of this fact and the strangely fortunate hand fate has dealt her.
At the end of this section, she and Patrick get together with the force of all the crossed stars in the universe. And then … Elizabeth goes off on a musical work retreat, meets a married man, and proceeds to declare she’s fallen in love with him and commence an affair. The book ends with Elizabeth smugly declaring that this cruel infidelity, which she decides she’ll probably, eventually tell Patrick about, was necessary for her to ‘know herself better’.
I mean, sure, Liz, if the self you wanted to get to know was a total asshole. I get that this was 1975 and it was all ‘free love’ central, but Christ. I suppose, fifty years later, I simply have a more evolved opinion on open relationships and polyamory, which is that a fundamental ground rule is that the ground rules need to be agreed, in advance, by all parties. I don’t care how much my partner might ���learn’ from his infidelity. Elizabeth could have learned just as much – if not more to the purpose – by acknowledging her (inevitable) attraction to a person outside her relationship and then not acting on it. Like an ADULT.
The last – horrible, ill-considered, betraying – third of the book poisoned the rest for me. I then looked back on my reaction to the first parts, and all the meandering strings of descriptions of personality traits; and I’m now inclined to think that these are indulgent, and the extrapolations drawn from them tenuous.
You see, you have passages like this note that Elizabeth wrote to Sam:
‘S: I kissed your instep this morning but you only snorted. It is my sincere opinion that you are the cutest thing going. Have I told you lately that I love you? Yours sincerely, Elvis’
And these great character vignettes:
‘But she seemed to me like an egg, a perfect, opaque oval with no edges, that will crack at any point or at no point at all.’
‘Then he took a sip of his drink with the same controlled gestures cats have when licking their paws.’
But these are fleeting side characters who have little to no real impact on what plot there is, and certainly not on the minimal character development. I mean, the main thing Elizabeth does is lie to herself.
‘When I was by myself, I realized that I missed Patrick the way you would miss your arm if it were sheared off, or your eyesight, or your best friend.’
This is what she’s thinking as she’s cheating on him. WTF.
‘You said you wanted me. We’re both people with deep commitments. I don’t make decisions like this easily. I had to go through some hard times trying to figure out what was right. Now I’ve made up my mind, and now you’re chicken.’
Elizabeth’s idea of a hard time, a hard decision, or hard thinking about a (BAD!!!) choice, is nonsense. Total nonsense. She meets this married man and about two seconds later is like sure, why not, we’ll have an affair. Not just a one-night stand or a purely physical interaction, but full-on declaring love to each other while also declaring they love their other, oblivious partners. NICE. SO NICE.
Overall, a very juvenile conclusion to what promised to be an interesting psychological portrait. It’s like Colwin decided to finish an oil painting with crayon.