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224 pages, Paperback
First published March 8, 2022
“Whites fear being labeled racist, which can derail careers and ruin relationships. Therefore many whites either become aggressively defensive or extremely compliant when faced with the possibility of being labeled a racist. Neither defensiveness nor compliance is useful in a collaborative conversation. People of color fear being dismissed or even ridiculed if they bring up their racial concerns. There is rejection and stigma attached to the notion of an “angry” person of color. This can lead them to either be aggressive in asserting their demands or simply to refuse to speak up. Neither response is useful in the development of productive communication.
“This cycle of fear inhibits our recovery from racial abuse. Whites’ fear lead them to ignore racial issues. Their efforts to dismiss those issues feed into the fears of people of color that their concerns about racism will not be taken seriously. Thus people of color increase their support for leaders who foolishly play the race card, whereby members of a racial minority use racism accusations to gain leverage in a situation but who take seriously concerns about racial justice. Playing the race card and similar acts only increase the fears of whites because they become concerned they will be labeled as racist no matter what they do. As whites’ fears intensify, they increase their efforts to push for colorblindness, which then exacerbates the fears of people of color. And the cycle of fear continues, deepening with each revolution through the cycle, and our dysfunctional race relations just deteriorate as we talk past each other instead of to each other.”