know where you want to go—you just need a road map for getting there.
adopting an internal “locus of control.”
Those who lean toward an external locus of control are likely to blame outside forces for their circumstances, credit random luck for their successes, and feel powerless when facing challenging situations.
People who attain success work with what does happen, not with what should happen. Sure, a company should contact you after an interview to say they are moving forward with another candidate, but sometimes they leave you hanging.
Switchers are excited to make a major change, but many aren’t so jazzed about the sacrifices that often come with it—like taking a salary cut, dropping levels on the organizational chart, or relocating to another city.
salary, title, or status—will change
Ask yourself, “What are my true non-negotiables?”
we all have a list of wants a mile long
Tony Robbins summed it up nicely when he said, “A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.”
The human brain is amazingly advanced in many ways, but it’s also incredibly outdated in other ways. Many of the functions that were designed to protect the survival of our species in the caveman days, for better or worse, still influence our behavior today.
“What if I can’t do the job?” “What if the team doesn’t like me?” “What if I make the wrong choice?” “What if I fail?” This keeps us in a state of mild anxiety and robs us of our ability to muster the courage and energy to change.
TO PERSUADE A BABY bird to leap from the nest takes a lot of coaxing, withholding food, and creative methods.
The security of the “nest”—which comes as familiar routines, lifelong habits, perceived obligations, and the comfort of a steady paycheck—is extremely seductive.
In the words of Frederick Wilcox, “You can’t steal second base and keep one foot on first.”