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Man UNcivilized
Expansive text that redefines how modern men may view and express their masculinity by reconnecting them to their primal and divine masculine essence.
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364 pages, Paperback
Published January 1, 2019
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December 31, 2019
After hearing Traver Boehm on Ryan Michler's "Order of Man" podcast, I went out and ordered it immediately as Traver's voice offered a unique view of saving manhood from the savage jaws of "toxic masculinity" Whereas I do not 100% agree with Traver (or at times Ryan), I understand the need to help teach my sons (17 and 14) that the root of the problem is not them as males, but how they handle what life throws at them. A great read for men and women who want to know what the positive sides of the masculine are and can be once again.
July 8, 2021
I totally get the message. It is based in Carl Jung philosophy of embracing our shadow and light, our yin and our yang. I totally get it, and it actually ressonates with me.
The writing though... some times I felt the author was writing rudely for the sake of masculine man should be rude. Come on, I also fought muay thai, I also pump iron and lift heavy stuff daily, I also study EQ, Psychology and lots of personal development stuff. You dont need to be so damn rude in your writing. You can be uncivilized without being a caveman.
But the message is a really good one. Would recommend for both man and woman.
The writing though... some times I felt the author was writing rudely for the sake of masculine man should be rude. Come on, I also fought muay thai, I also pump iron and lift heavy stuff daily, I also study EQ, Psychology and lots of personal development stuff. You dont need to be so damn rude in your writing. You can be uncivilized without being a caveman.
But the message is a really good one. Would recommend for both man and woman.
June 8, 2021
Disappointed.
I really wanted to like this book. In fact, I had been looking forward to reading it for months.
There are a lot of good points Traver makes in this book. He sets up, on the whole, a pretty good standard for men looking to move past the polarizing societal viewpoints of how to be a man.
However, where this book falls short is that it does not go beyond laying out the rules.
I have a feeling most men reading this already know there’s a better way to live and express their masculinity. But the author does not go beyond those concepts into the “how”, he only talks about the “what” and “why”.
If we knew how to dig deep, face our fears and wounding, figure out our passion and life mission statement, we wouldn’t need to be reading this book.
There were quite a few examples of him talking about his own victories from being “uncivilized” as to become overly self indulgent, particularly all the references to his sexual prowess. After the first few times, it went beyond self confidence to arrogance.
This, in addition to the multiple references of his website and program, seem to be due to him trying to position himself as an authority and leader of this movement he’s worked to create and grow.
To me, this book should have simply been about laying out a guide for men and also an explanation on how they can actually accomplish each step. I don’t like it when self-development writers use books as a way to upsell readers into their programs or classes and this book definitely had hints of this.
So the arrogance, aggressive tone in some chapters, insinuation that diverting from this path would make you “civilized” (framed in a way akin to “sheep”, until the very last chapter where he claims to respect all men regardless of what they choose), and lack of actual guidance to achieve the rules discussed really took away from the overall message of the book for me.
That being said, I am still interested in exploring a bit more what he has to offer as the podcast interview I originally heard him on really resonated deeply.
To anyone thinking about reading this book, I would recommend skipping and sticking to interviews and Ted talks the author has done.
I really wanted to like this book. In fact, I had been looking forward to reading it for months.
There are a lot of good points Traver makes in this book. He sets up, on the whole, a pretty good standard for men looking to move past the polarizing societal viewpoints of how to be a man.
However, where this book falls short is that it does not go beyond laying out the rules.
I have a feeling most men reading this already know there’s a better way to live and express their masculinity. But the author does not go beyond those concepts into the “how”, he only talks about the “what” and “why”.
If we knew how to dig deep, face our fears and wounding, figure out our passion and life mission statement, we wouldn’t need to be reading this book.
There were quite a few examples of him talking about his own victories from being “uncivilized” as to become overly self indulgent, particularly all the references to his sexual prowess. After the first few times, it went beyond self confidence to arrogance.
This, in addition to the multiple references of his website and program, seem to be due to him trying to position himself as an authority and leader of this movement he’s worked to create and grow.
To me, this book should have simply been about laying out a guide for men and also an explanation on how they can actually accomplish each step. I don’t like it when self-development writers use books as a way to upsell readers into their programs or classes and this book definitely had hints of this.
So the arrogance, aggressive tone in some chapters, insinuation that diverting from this path would make you “civilized” (framed in a way akin to “sheep”, until the very last chapter where he claims to respect all men regardless of what they choose), and lack of actual guidance to achieve the rules discussed really took away from the overall message of the book for me.
That being said, I am still interested in exploring a bit more what he has to offer as the podcast interview I originally heard him on really resonated deeply.
To anyone thinking about reading this book, I would recommend skipping and sticking to interviews and Ted talks the author has done.
September 4, 2024
This book has changed my life (as a heterosexual woman), and it will be required reading for an potential future partner of mine.
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July 10, 2024My roommate gave me this book a while ago. He took jujitsu with the guy who wrote it. I told him I'd hate this kind of book, but he said that's fine but that he was curious what I think about it.
Still, I never read it till now, and I picked it up out of boredom, depression, and just reading something for the sake of reading that I normally wouldn't.
So with an open mind I entered this corny book.
And yeah it is pretty corny.
The advice isn't terrible, but it could be a lot better, calmer, and less edgy.
He tells us how calm and in control he is all while using aggressive words that I imagine jacked up sweating men yell to each other to pump each other up.
Not my thing at all.
“Think with your head. Feel with your heart. Do with your balls. Follow this and life will be like nothing you've ever experienced…”
No thank you, I don't think I'll be doing this.
Despite the silliness of this book, it isn't terrible. Meditation, self-awareness, health, these truly are things many of us desperately need to survive, and the book’s messages may help certain types of men in overcoming depression.
I am not that type of man. I don't think of myself as a “man”, so this book was never going to work for me, as it's all about M E N and silly men talk.
Just write a chill, philosophical self-help book next time. This weird, aggressive, pumping-up language is counterintuitive imo.
Like he also says be dangerous but not a danger, that some of the most in-control men he knows work with guns and gyms and potentially violent jobs all the time… But are they really mentally in control if they anticipate and build their lives on the expectation of violence?
Be a pacifist. Don't be so obsessed with your cock. Just be kind and discover why you are so inwardly violent. I don't think becoming more of a MaN leads you to self-awareness; I think only letting go of these condition-ladened images of yourself is the actual meditation.
Still, I never read it till now, and I picked it up out of boredom, depression, and just reading something for the sake of reading that I normally wouldn't.
So with an open mind I entered this corny book.
And yeah it is pretty corny.
The advice isn't terrible, but it could be a lot better, calmer, and less edgy.
He tells us how calm and in control he is all while using aggressive words that I imagine jacked up sweating men yell to each other to pump each other up.
Not my thing at all.
“Think with your head. Feel with your heart. Do with your balls. Follow this and life will be like nothing you've ever experienced…”
No thank you, I don't think I'll be doing this.
Despite the silliness of this book, it isn't terrible. Meditation, self-awareness, health, these truly are things many of us desperately need to survive, and the book’s messages may help certain types of men in overcoming depression.
I am not that type of man. I don't think of myself as a “man”, so this book was never going to work for me, as it's all about M E N and silly men talk.
Just write a chill, philosophical self-help book next time. This weird, aggressive, pumping-up language is counterintuitive imo.
Like he also says be dangerous but not a danger, that some of the most in-control men he knows work with guns and gyms and potentially violent jobs all the time… But are they really mentally in control if they anticipate and build their lives on the expectation of violence?
Be a pacifist. Don't be so obsessed with your cock. Just be kind and discover why you are so inwardly violent. I don't think becoming more of a MaN leads you to self-awareness; I think only letting go of these condition-ladened images of yourself is the actual meditation.
November 13, 2021
A self help book recommended to me by friends. I don’t know why someone would need to read this, it’s all standard common sense stuff. Middle of the road for a self help book I guess.
February 4, 2020
Traver writes this book for men but anyone can read it and become uncivilized. Its incredible and an easy read! Gift to every man in your life!
March 13, 2024
Raw, powerful, direct, and not for everyone, but this is a book for men who are looking for a big kick in the ass, for men who are tired of the way the civilized world has treated them and who are looking for a better way to connect to their head, their heart, and their balls. Traver is not that "Yes man" buddy of yours who will put up with your bullshit and keep letting you dig your hole. He's the buddy who says, "There is a better way to be, but the way is hard, and you can't do it alone."
This book is Traver's guidance through a new paradigm for men: The Uncivilized Man. It defies culture's stereotypes about men and reveals that the way most men live today (lives of "quiet desperation") isn't working; men are killing and being killed at an alarming rate. But the Uncivilized paradigm offers a new way to viewing manhood, one that gives access to the whole masculine, the primal and the divine.
The book is direct, stirring, and laced with profanity because it deals with raw issues that affect men deeply. It is also a necessary manifesto to true masculinity that feels authentic and true.
This book is Traver's guidance through a new paradigm for men: The Uncivilized Man. It defies culture's stereotypes about men and reveals that the way most men live today (lives of "quiet desperation") isn't working; men are killing and being killed at an alarming rate. But the Uncivilized paradigm offers a new way to viewing manhood, one that gives access to the whole masculine, the primal and the divine.
The book is direct, stirring, and laced with profanity because it deals with raw issues that affect men deeply. It is also a necessary manifesto to true masculinity that feels authentic and true.
February 15, 2021
Finding it difficult to put in words what I think about this book.
On the one hand I think the end goal is correct, I think men do need to re-grow some balls, it seems to me that we do have a masculinity crisis.
I also think that the book is a good kick up the ass to get going.
On the other hand the book sounds like it was written by a jock.
It’s almost as if the author got paid a dollar for each fuck occurrence and sexual analogy which makes the book sound like proletariat shallow ramblings into masculinity.
It makes me also think about people swinging to the extremes after bad episodes in life, divorce, sitting in a dark room for 28 days, whether this is extreme masculinity being portrayed.
If you’ve got your masculinity somewhat integrated I wouldn’t bother with this book, if you’re not integrated at all then it might be worth picking up.
Having said that I think the mission is good and I hope Trever continues his mission but this is still not a good book in my opinion
On the one hand I think the end goal is correct, I think men do need to re-grow some balls, it seems to me that we do have a masculinity crisis.
I also think that the book is a good kick up the ass to get going.
On the other hand the book sounds like it was written by a jock.
It’s almost as if the author got paid a dollar for each fuck occurrence and sexual analogy which makes the book sound like proletariat shallow ramblings into masculinity.
It makes me also think about people swinging to the extremes after bad episodes in life, divorce, sitting in a dark room for 28 days, whether this is extreme masculinity being portrayed.
If you’ve got your masculinity somewhat integrated I wouldn’t bother with this book, if you’re not integrated at all then it might be worth picking up.
Having said that I think the mission is good and I hope Trever continues his mission but this is still not a good book in my opinion
February 26, 2020
The best part about this book is the actual layout and art work. The second best part is the quotes from all the other writers, artists, & poets. Well done assembling those. Boehm’s phraseology and delivery bring the book down. He also steals from other authors by simply changing their phrases by one or two words. The content is contradictory in parts and cultish in delivery. The Kool-Aid is there for the drinking. Boehm has had some amazing experiences in his life; no denying it, and he can surely take me to the ground. He has some points with which I, and most men & women with common sense, would agree; however, the book is an extended sales pitch, and I’m not buying, nor would I recommend it to others.
November 9, 2020
After hearing Traver Boehm on a podcast, I decided I was curious enough about his ethos on masculinity to check his book out. If you’ve ever read a book about how to make yourself a better person or if you’ve ever gone to therapy, most of Traver’s points will not be new. However, he reframes some things that could be really helpful for some folks. I took away some tips that I’m already implementing throughout my days.
This book is written by a man, for men. That being said, this book can be read and enjoyed by any human, especially since the phrase, “toxic masculinity,” is thrown around in casual “woke” conversation. I appreciate Traver for pointing out that masculinity isn’t bad; toxic behavior is. Maybe that should seem obvious, but it isn’t always clear.
This book is written by a man, for men. That being said, this book can be read and enjoyed by any human, especially since the phrase, “toxic masculinity,” is thrown around in casual “woke” conversation. I appreciate Traver for pointing out that masculinity isn’t bad; toxic behavior is. Maybe that should seem obvious, but it isn’t always clear.
January 16, 2024
This is hard hitting book that will get you thinking about how you show up as a man as well as what you need to work on within yourself. I found this book to be emotional and thought provoking from the first page to the last page. The author doesn’t pull any punches and if you take his words in you will come out the other side a better man and person for reading and applying the wisdom in this book.
July 1, 2020
I can not recommend this book highly enough.
Traver’s insight into masculinity is something desperately needed in the world today.
Head, heart and b**ls is his approach to men and masculinity. This is so much more than a “Man Up” or “You’re bad for feeling the way you do”.
If you’re man or have a man in your life who is lost this maybe the book that will bring them out of the storm.
Traver’s insight into masculinity is something desperately needed in the world today.
Head, heart and b**ls is his approach to men and masculinity. This is so much more than a “Man Up” or “You’re bad for feeling the way you do”.
If you’re man or have a man in your life who is lost this maybe the book that will bring them out of the storm.
September 20, 2021
Whether you've lost it all, need a pick-me-up, or are just curious, Man Uncivilized by Traver Boehm is a must-read. It reads like a series of journal entries or a string of consciousness- but don't let that fool you; there is a ton of knowledge and level-ups in these words.
This is a must-read for all sexes, races, and backgrounds
This is a must-read for all sexes, races, and backgrounds
October 11, 2020
The book I didn't know I needed to read. Traver describes and calls up masculinity in a way that makes pure, perfect sense as an equal to the fully integrated feminine.
Highly recommend to not only understand masculine energy but healthy masculinity within UNcivilized society.
Highly recommend to not only understand masculine energy but healthy masculinity within UNcivilized society.
April 28, 2025
For any man trying to find himself and his masculinity in a world where it is believed to be toxic—this book is what you’re looking for to inspire your journey. Blunt, to the point and forcefully articulated. I’d recommend this to any man suffering as a “nice” guy out there!
April 15, 2020
Uniquely written and thought provoking book! Not for the faint of heart but for finding our warrior within
November 4, 2022
Inspiring concepts
February 6, 2023
Life-changing quick read on masculinity, and how that is a separate thing from toxicity. Traver is the perfect reader for his own work.
December 3, 2020
Great Read for Any Man Struggling with his Own Identity
Any guy struggling with his own masculinity (but will never admit it) this is the book for you. As a gentle (and not so gentle) guide to addressing the real issues men have to face.
Any guy struggling with his own masculinity (but will never admit it) this is the book for you. As a gentle (and not so gentle) guide to addressing the real issues men have to face.
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