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Co-Wives, Co-Widows
Bangui, Central African Republic. This is the story of Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou, the two widows of Lidou. Following their husband’s sudden and unexplained death, they find themselves fighting tooth and nail for all that is important to them. A playful, bittersweet, story full of dry wit and local colour, set against a backdrop of political instability, corruption and the friction between the old and the new.
128 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2015
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February 7, 2023
Corin Tellado en Bangui
2,5; llega 3 por el buen humor
Nndongo Passy su co-esposa Grekpoubou se visten con sus mejores galas para ir a votar por primera vez en su vida, mientras bromean con su esposo Lidou sobre el secreto del voto; un momento festivo. Lidou es un buen hombre y buen marido; muy trabajador e inteligente, con una situación económica holgada.
Pero hete aquí que sorpresivamente Lidou se muere; y su primo, hombre muy malo, con la complicidad de la hermana de Lidou, mujer con muchas necesidades, caen como buitres sobre las viudas y sus hijos y los dejan en la calle.
No cuentan con que Ndongo Passy, Mamá Coraje, es de armas tomar. Y con su co-viuda Grekpoubou recorrerán los caminos de la ignominia, y no se detendrán hasta la victoria final, siempre!
Una novela entretenida, con pocas sorpresas, apta para recuperar la serenidad perdida y levantar el ánimo.
Adrienne Yabouza (República Centroafricana, 1965) huyó de su país durante la guerra civil de 2013, y se radicó con sus cinco hijos en Francia, donde reside actualmente.
2,5; llega 3 por el buen humor
Nndongo Passy su co-esposa Grekpoubou se visten con sus mejores galas para ir a votar por primera vez en su vida, mientras bromean con su esposo Lidou sobre el secreto del voto; un momento festivo. Lidou es un buen hombre y buen marido; muy trabajador e inteligente, con una situación económica holgada.
Pero hete aquí que sorpresivamente Lidou se muere; y su primo, hombre muy malo, con la complicidad de la hermana de Lidou, mujer con muchas necesidades, caen como buitres sobre las viudas y sus hijos y los dejan en la calle.
No cuentan con que Ndongo Passy, Mamá Coraje, es de armas tomar. Y con su co-viuda Grekpoubou recorrerán los caminos de la ignominia, y no se detendrán hasta la victoria final, siempre!
Una novela entretenida, con pocas sorpresas, apta para recuperar la serenidad perdida y levantar el ánimo.
Adrienne Yabouza (República Centroafricana, 1965) huyó de su país durante la guerra civil de 2013, y se radicó con sus cinco hijos en Francia, donde reside actualmente.
March 12, 2023
This is a touching story of co-wives who live in the Central African Republic. They lose their successful husband suddenly and find that the law might not be there to protect them and their children. As their in-laws circle like vultures, scheming to steal their inheritance, they will think on their feet and gain support from family, neighbors, and friends. Their greatest strength is their commitment to one another, as sisters, in a society that functions by greased hands. One will not leave the side of the other no matter how the winds of fate blow.
March 30, 2023
Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou are the wives of Lidou, who owns a successful construction business in Bangui. The two women have managed to get along well in sharing their husband and household to date, but then Lidou dies unexpectedly and they find themselves expelled from the house by Lidou's family. The ladies face an uncertain future, but will stand together to face a justice system that ostensibly give protection to women and children while a presidential election serves as backdrop for the action. A novella with lovely characters introducing us to the life as lived by those who do not make the headlines when the world pays any attention to the latest unrest in the Central African Republic. All credit to Dedalus publishers for introducing a wider audience to Adrienne Yabouza.
November 18, 2024
What a life-affirming story. Adrienne Yabouza makes witty asides about politics in Central African Republic and society's treatment of women. Translated by Rachael McGill.
Grateful to Dedalus Africa, which "seeks out high-quality fiction from all of Africa, including parts of Africa hitherto totally ignored by English-language publishers." I will be searching for more of their titles.
Grateful to Dedalus Africa, which "seeks out high-quality fiction from all of Africa, including parts of Africa hitherto totally ignored by English-language publishers." I will be searching for more of their titles.
December 12, 2023
I wanted the cousin and sister to suffer more but life is not African magic
Shout out to my good sis Ndongo Passy for being the baddest to ever do it. She’s easily one of my favorite fmc. She took care of her co wife and stood on business. I have to respect that.
This book is translated and I can’t imagine how beautifully written it is, if the English translation was this lyrical
Shout out to my good sis Ndongo Passy for being the baddest to ever do it. She’s easily one of my favorite fmc. She took care of her co wife and stood on business. I have to respect that.
This book is translated and I can’t imagine how beautifully written it is, if the English translation was this lyrical
June 12, 2023
3.5 stars
An engaging little novella about two women in the Central African Republic, who lose their husband unexpectedly and find their lives thrown into chaos when his family disputes their inheritance. Fortunately they are able to rely on each other and find the energy to keep moving forward. Alongside their story is some pointed commentary about politics, corruption and injustice in their country; the story is set in 2011 and the mix of tradition and modernity is fun. It’s also well-translated and highly readable. Not quite as upbeat as I expected, with some fairly depressing elements—the men hold highly patriarchal attitudes but it seems that only through marriage to them can a woman get ahead or achieve stability, while justice depends entirely on money and connections. And there’s not really much depth or complexity to the characters. Still, it maintains a fairly optimistic tone, and overall it’s a quick and enjoyable read that provides a window into a lesser-known country.
Oddly, the blurb on my copy claims this to be the first book from the CAR published in English, which it’s definitely not: Daba's Travels from Ouadda to Bangui came well before this (makes me wonder about the two other books I’ve read from this imprint that made the same claim!). I would recommend this one over Daba’s Travels for the adult reader, however.
An engaging little novella about two women in the Central African Republic, who lose their husband unexpectedly and find their lives thrown into chaos when his family disputes their inheritance. Fortunately they are able to rely on each other and find the energy to keep moving forward. Alongside their story is some pointed commentary about politics, corruption and injustice in their country; the story is set in 2011 and the mix of tradition and modernity is fun. It’s also well-translated and highly readable. Not quite as upbeat as I expected, with some fairly depressing elements—the men hold highly patriarchal attitudes but it seems that only through marriage to them can a woman get ahead or achieve stability, while justice depends entirely on money and connections. And there’s not really much depth or complexity to the characters. Still, it maintains a fairly optimistic tone, and overall it’s a quick and enjoyable read that provides a window into a lesser-known country.
Oddly, the blurb on my copy claims this to be the first book from the CAR published in English, which it’s definitely not: Daba's Travels from Ouadda to Bangui came well before this (makes me wonder about the two other books I’ve read from this imprint that made the same claim!). I would recommend this one over Daba’s Travels for the adult reader, however.
October 27, 2023
A beautiful and lyrically poetic read. It’s my first time reading an author from CAR (Central African Republic) and this was a pleasant experience. The writing is so rich and interesting, I often lingered over some parts and read them more than once, just to take them all in.
There are so many quotables, I wish I could list them all. My close favourite was the following: “Nobody came, and after a short period of intense suffering, Lidou set out alone for the house of his ancestors”. This really challenged my perspective on death. That perhaps death is the beginning of another journey and not a complete end as the Western world has ingrained in us. That as black people, we believe in the transcending to another realm, another life where we will be reunited with our ancestors.
The publishing house is intentional in their efforts to seek out high-quality African fiction and have it translated. As it’s often ignored by English publishers. The writing remained beautiful despite it being translated, I can only imagine how much more richer it is in the native languages.
Ndongo Passy really evidenced the power of sisterhood by ensuring her co-wife wasn’t neglected. She shared every single, little thing with her. The compassion and care they have for one another is rare to see in polygamous setups.
The ending felt very abrupt, I was keen to see if any conflict would arise with the two women living together but not being married to the same man and I wish that would have been explored.
This is a lovely, lovely book and I’m keen to read more works from this publishing house!
There are so many quotables, I wish I could list them all. My close favourite was the following: “Nobody came, and after a short period of intense suffering, Lidou set out alone for the house of his ancestors”. This really challenged my perspective on death. That perhaps death is the beginning of another journey and not a complete end as the Western world has ingrained in us. That as black people, we believe in the transcending to another realm, another life where we will be reunited with our ancestors.
The publishing house is intentional in their efforts to seek out high-quality African fiction and have it translated. As it’s often ignored by English publishers. The writing remained beautiful despite it being translated, I can only imagine how much more richer it is in the native languages.
Ndongo Passy really evidenced the power of sisterhood by ensuring her co-wife wasn’t neglected. She shared every single, little thing with her. The compassion and care they have for one another is rare to see in polygamous setups.
The ending felt very abrupt, I was keen to see if any conflict would arise with the two women living together but not being married to the same man and I wish that would have been explored.
This is a lovely, lovely book and I’m keen to read more works from this publishing house!
January 29, 2025
Co-wives, Co-widows" by Adrienne Yabouza is a masterful exploration of the complexities of polygamous relationships. The novel delves into the lives of two women united by their marriage to the same wealthy man, and the devastating consequences that follow his sudden death.As the story unfolds, Yabouza sheds light on the intricate dynamics of polygamous households, revealing the complicated web of emotions, loyalties, and rivalries that exist within. The characters are multidimensional and relatable, making it easy to become invested in their journeys.
The bond between the two co-wives is particularly striking. Despite the challenges they face, they find solace and strength in each other's company, forging a powerful alliance that helps them navigate the treacherous landscape of their lives.
Throughout the novel, Yabouza tackles complex themes with sensitivity and nuance. She raises important questions about cultural identity, family dynamics, and the social norms that govern women's lives.
Ultimately, "Co-wives, Co-widows" is a testament to the power of female relationships and the resilience of women in the face of adversity.This story will force you to appreciate the people that stayed with you when times got hard on a much much deeper level.This books will definitely linger in my mind for a long time.
The bond between the two co-wives is particularly striking. Despite the challenges they face, they find solace and strength in each other's company, forging a powerful alliance that helps them navigate the treacherous landscape of their lives.
Throughout the novel, Yabouza tackles complex themes with sensitivity and nuance. She raises important questions about cultural identity, family dynamics, and the social norms that govern women's lives.
Ultimately, "Co-wives, Co-widows" is a testament to the power of female relationships and the resilience of women in the face of adversity.This story will force you to appreciate the people that stayed with you when times got hard on a much much deeper level.This books will definitely linger in my mind for a long time.
January 4, 2024
Co-Wives, Co-Widows is een verhaal over polygamie, een onderwerp dat we vaker terugzien in de Afrikaanse literatuur. Waar in de meeste verhalen de verschillende echtgenoten de strijd met elkaar aangaan, gooit Adrienne Yabouza het over een heel andere boeg. In deze eerste Centraal-Afrikaanse roman die in het Engels werd vertaald, krijgen we een inkijkje in het gelukkige huwelijk van Lidou en zijn twee vrouwen Ndongo Passy en Grekpoubou. Wanneer hun echtgenoot plotseling overlijdt en de weduwen het moeten opnemen tegen stelende familieleden en een onrechtvaardig rechtssysteem worden de vrouwen hechter dan ooit.
“When a dead man entered the house of his ancestors, what had been tied to him was untied. His wife or his wives, whether he’d loved them or beaten them, were set free. So free in fact, that often nobody cared if they went to bed hungry. The family of the dead man would guzzle up everything they could: they’d eat the dead man himself if he tasted good enough.”
Nergens in het verhaal plaatst Yabouza de weduwen in een slachtofferrol. Zeker Ndongo Passy is een sterke vrouw die weigert zich te laten intimideren door zogenaamde belangrijke mannen. Samen met haar ‘zus’ Grekpoubou gaat ze op spitsvondige wijze de strijd aan met de patriarchale maatschappij.
“It’s OK. My life’s been tied in a knot that I can’t undo with my fingers, but I’ll use my teeth.”
Yabouza’s relaas van de relatie tussen Ndongo Passy en Grekpoubou biedt ons een ander perspectief op polygamie in Afrikaanse context: het verhaal is in feite een viering van vrouwelijke vriendschap en de strijd om sociale rechtvaardigheid. Co-Wives, Co-Widows is een hartverwarmende en humoristische novelle met heerlijk feministische personages die zich afspeelt tegen een achtergrond van politieke instabiliteit, corruptie en de wrijving tussen het oude en het nieuwe in Bangui in de Centraal-Afrikaanse Republiek. Leuk detail: je ontdekt hoe moederdag in dit land gevierd wordt. De man des huizes verkleed zich als vrouw en kookt voor het hele gezin.
“When a dead man entered the house of his ancestors, what had been tied to him was untied. His wife or his wives, whether he’d loved them or beaten them, were set free. So free in fact, that often nobody cared if they went to bed hungry. The family of the dead man would guzzle up everything they could: they’d eat the dead man himself if he tasted good enough.”
Nergens in het verhaal plaatst Yabouza de weduwen in een slachtofferrol. Zeker Ndongo Passy is een sterke vrouw die weigert zich te laten intimideren door zogenaamde belangrijke mannen. Samen met haar ‘zus’ Grekpoubou gaat ze op spitsvondige wijze de strijd aan met de patriarchale maatschappij.
“It’s OK. My life’s been tied in a knot that I can’t undo with my fingers, but I’ll use my teeth.”
Yabouza’s relaas van de relatie tussen Ndongo Passy en Grekpoubou biedt ons een ander perspectief op polygamie in Afrikaanse context: het verhaal is in feite een viering van vrouwelijke vriendschap en de strijd om sociale rechtvaardigheid. Co-Wives, Co-Widows is een hartverwarmende en humoristische novelle met heerlijk feministische personages die zich afspeelt tegen een achtergrond van politieke instabiliteit, corruptie en de wrijving tussen het oude en het nieuwe in Bangui in de Centraal-Afrikaanse Republiek. Leuk detail: je ontdekt hoe moederdag in dit land gevierd wordt. De man des huizes verkleed zich als vrouw en kookt voor het hele gezin.
December 24, 2024
reading around the world one book at a time 2024: central african republic
the book follows the lives of two co-wives after the death of their husband, cheated by the husband’s family who tries to take their rightful inheritance, we have a clear view of how far corruption takes you (and how much it can fuck your life over)
the novel is relayed in a very humorous tone that i enjoyed, and that paired well with the story being told and the resourcefullness of the first wife
(we love to see women win)
the book follows the lives of two co-wives after the death of their husband, cheated by the husband’s family who tries to take their rightful inheritance, we have a clear view of how far corruption takes you (and how much it can fuck your life over)
the novel is relayed in a very humorous tone that i enjoyed, and that paired well with the story being told and the resourcefullness of the first wife
(we love to see women win)
August 8, 2024
"Love was a better system than democracy. It could go wrong and cause suffering of course, just as democracy could, but when it worked well, it was the best political regime in the world."
For all of my love of reading women in translation, I have a real blindspot when it comes to literature from the African continent. Noticing this and a lack of representation here online, I tried to correct that for myself while browsing the African literature section of Black Squirrel Books. In between books of Achebe, I came across a book down near the end of the row called Co-Wives, Co-Widows by Adrienne Yabouza. Translated by Rachael McGill, it has the honour of being the first book from the Central African Republic. Telling the story about the two wives and widows of a man named Lidou after his sudden passing, Yabouza takes us on a trip through the clashing cultures in new and old in the capital city of Bangui amongst a scene of political change and corruption that plays out in the lives of those left behind by Lidou's untimely passing.
"My life's been in a knot that I can't undo with my fingers, but I'll use my teeth."
Ndongo Passy is the real star of this novel, being a powerful and strong balancing between being a wife and an independent woman. She empowers other woman in her life and community and is not afraid to stand up to the members of Lidou's family after things get messy with her husband's death. Ndongo Passy takes part in the democratic and legal processes to find justice only to find that it seems little more than an illusion. Fighting for her right to raise her children as well as her co-wife's family, she comes up against the harsh reality of the patriarchal and untrustworthy systems ruling her community and country. All of this leads to Ndongo's family taking on rationalized vigilante justice to bring about justice and balance back to the life of her and her co-wife Grekpoubou so that they can move on after this tragedy.
"When even God sometimes messed things up, what could possibly be expected from people?"
I read this book in a day and I would suggest doing the same. It was an enriching experience learning about a far off land and life which is one of the main reason's why I love to read women in translation. Published on an imprint that has a minimal online presence, I will try to look into more books from Africa put out by Dedalus Books.
What books have you read from women in translation in Africa?
"Life's a chamaleon; always changing colur."
For all of my love of reading women in translation, I have a real blindspot when it comes to literature from the African continent. Noticing this and a lack of representation here online, I tried to correct that for myself while browsing the African literature section of Black Squirrel Books. In between books of Achebe, I came across a book down near the end of the row called Co-Wives, Co-Widows by Adrienne Yabouza. Translated by Rachael McGill, it has the honour of being the first book from the Central African Republic. Telling the story about the two wives and widows of a man named Lidou after his sudden passing, Yabouza takes us on a trip through the clashing cultures in new and old in the capital city of Bangui amongst a scene of political change and corruption that plays out in the lives of those left behind by Lidou's untimely passing.
"My life's been in a knot that I can't undo with my fingers, but I'll use my teeth."
Ndongo Passy is the real star of this novel, being a powerful and strong balancing between being a wife and an independent woman. She empowers other woman in her life and community and is not afraid to stand up to the members of Lidou's family after things get messy with her husband's death. Ndongo Passy takes part in the democratic and legal processes to find justice only to find that it seems little more than an illusion. Fighting for her right to raise her children as well as her co-wife's family, she comes up against the harsh reality of the patriarchal and untrustworthy systems ruling her community and country. All of this leads to Ndongo's family taking on rationalized vigilante justice to bring about justice and balance back to the life of her and her co-wife Grekpoubou so that they can move on after this tragedy.
"When even God sometimes messed things up, what could possibly be expected from people?"
I read this book in a day and I would suggest doing the same. It was an enriching experience learning about a far off land and life which is one of the main reason's why I love to read women in translation. Published on an imprint that has a minimal online presence, I will try to look into more books from Africa put out by Dedalus Books.
What books have you read from women in translation in Africa?
"Life's a chamaleon; always changing colur."
December 18, 2020
This novella is a treasure. Even though it deals with the somber topic of two co-wives in the Central African Republic coping with the fallout after the death of their spouse, the author has a dry sense of humor that adds vitality and nuance to the book. Several times I laughed out loud. Too bad this book hasn't been translated into English yet...I'm hoping it will so it can reach a larger audience.
February 1, 2025
I started and finished this book on my way to Toronto, completely engrossed in its incredible story of survival against all odds—especially when your own in-laws are the enemy.
The plot is based on two co-wives, Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou, who are suddenly widowed when their husband, Lidou, dies in their village in the Central African Republic. What follows is the all-too-familiar drama of a polygamous family where the deceased’s brother believes he is entitled to everything his late sibling owned—his land, his home, his properties, and even control over his widows. But unlike many co-wives who might turn against each other in the chaos, Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou form an unbreakable alliance and formidable sisterhood. Together, they stand firm against their scheming, thieving in-laws, determined to protect what is rightfully theirs.
I was particularly in awe of Ndongo Passy’s resilience—her courage and defiance in the face of relentless pressure were nothing short of inspiring. She is the kind of woman who refuses to be erased or bullied into submission. Also, her subplot with the Fulani farmer was so sweet!
This book has cemented my growing admiration for literature from the Central African Republic. There’s something deeply compelling about the way these stories explore family, power, and survival with such raw honesty. I can’t wait to read more!
The plot is based on two co-wives, Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou, who are suddenly widowed when their husband, Lidou, dies in their village in the Central African Republic. What follows is the all-too-familiar drama of a polygamous family where the deceased’s brother believes he is entitled to everything his late sibling owned—his land, his home, his properties, and even control over his widows. But unlike many co-wives who might turn against each other in the chaos, Ndongo Passy and Grekpoubou form an unbreakable alliance and formidable sisterhood. Together, they stand firm against their scheming, thieving in-laws, determined to protect what is rightfully theirs.
I was particularly in awe of Ndongo Passy’s resilience—her courage and defiance in the face of relentless pressure were nothing short of inspiring. She is the kind of woman who refuses to be erased or bullied into submission. Also, her subplot with the Fulani farmer was so sweet!
This book has cemented my growing admiration for literature from the Central African Republic. There’s something deeply compelling about the way these stories explore family, power, and survival with such raw honesty. I can’t wait to read more!
December 22, 2022
This tells the story of the two co-wives of Lidou, who upon his death become co-widows and have to fight for their inheritance. Having lived in African countries I have seen widows dispossessed by their husbands' relations, otherwise I might not believe this would actually happen. Lots of details about everyday life in Central African Republic. An enjoyable read.
April 30, 2025
This book took me by surprise! I've come to expect African novels to be fairly heavy reading, but Yabouza's writing is fresh, sharp and funny, it had me immediately captivated. Still covered some serious themes, but was very readable. I liked the focus on the everyday lives of women, and felt like I learnt a lot about their culture.
January 21, 2023
Exquisite. If it still resonates in a few weeks, will up the rating. Crisp, clear prose (excellent translation); loca texture that is not in your face; beautiful characterisation of two co-wives, with a lovely tender ending that is not cloying.
December 13, 2023
I love books about women supporting women. This was my first time reading a book by an author from Central Africa and I loved every part of this book.
The author's writing was seamless and enjoyable with a few moral lessons here and there. I highly recommend this!
The author's writing was seamless and enjoyable with a few moral lessons here and there. I highly recommend this!
November 13, 2024
I finished this in 3 hours which is unheard of for me but this is an excellent story about co-wives and co-widows who really treat each other like sisters during their time with their husband and after.
They go through a horrendous time with their in-laws who kick them out but then fate has something better planned for them.
It can be a bit spicy and graphic at times but it’s a warm and uplifting story.
They go through a horrendous time with their in-laws who kick them out but then fate has something better planned for them.
It can be a bit spicy and graphic at times but it’s a warm and uplifting story.
December 13, 2024
Okay, tricky country off my "Read-around-the-World" list, my understanding is that this is the only book from the Central African Republic out in the world available in English. But maybe that's all it was for me? And I don't want this reading challenge to go that way, I want to find books I am excited about to read and not just check marks for my list. But to quote deep German philosophy: "Das Leben ist kein Wunschkonzert" and sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to advance on your reading list. But I am going to reexamine some of my planned books and try to find more exciting options again to regain my momentum.
But I liked this more than I thought I would. Fair enough, many plot elements weren't particularly my jam but I thought this was written well with a dash of humor and spoonful of wisdom. Yabouza is a smart observer of life and people. I enjoyed this little peak into culture different from my own, into lives very different from my own. This also throws some jabs at the local justice system and the rampant corruption. The plot drops dramatically after the trial and now we have to follow a storyline of remarriage as the happy ending.... Personally, I would have liked a few more critical thoughts on the concept of polygamous marriage, it is very much portrayed as the best thing ever here where the wives grow to be basically sisters: no issues between them whatsoever and their little threesome being a ray of sunshine. And sure, I am certain that occasionally that is indeed the case and with that why not give it some representation. But any practice that asks different behaviors from women than from men and gives them limitations is far from ideal, imho. Don't tell me it's the only way for women in the culture to be financially secure and defend it, ask for a better system or make it equal opportunity before you want me to be more tolerant of discrimination.
Also, why so much sex and boob descriptions? Started to wonder if this was truly written by a woman considering moments like a woman admiring her own breasts in the shower?! I know I come off prudish here, maybe it means I am a prude in my books but everyone's obsession with having daily sex with their husband and the husband delivering on that front (which let to his death in the end): it wasn't the most fascinating thing to read about for me, let's say that. Taking all that into account, my feelings towards this book overall are perfectly neutral.
2.5*
But I liked this more than I thought I would. Fair enough, many plot elements weren't particularly my jam but I thought this was written well with a dash of humor and spoonful of wisdom. Yabouza is a smart observer of life and people. I enjoyed this little peak into culture different from my own, into lives very different from my own. This also throws some jabs at the local justice system and the rampant corruption. The plot drops dramatically after the trial and now we have to follow a storyline of remarriage as the happy ending.... Personally, I would have liked a few more critical thoughts on the concept of polygamous marriage, it is very much portrayed as the best thing ever here where the wives grow to be basically sisters: no issues between them whatsoever and their little threesome being a ray of sunshine. And sure, I am certain that occasionally that is indeed the case and with that why not give it some representation. But any practice that asks different behaviors from women than from men and gives them limitations is far from ideal, imho. Don't tell me it's the only way for women in the culture to be financially secure and defend it, ask for a better system or make it equal opportunity before you want me to be more tolerant of discrimination.
Also, why so much sex and boob descriptions? Started to wonder if this was truly written by a woman considering moments like a woman admiring her own breasts in the shower?! I know I come off prudish here, maybe it means I am a prude in my books but everyone's obsession with having daily sex with their husband and the husband delivering on that front (which let to his death in the end): it wasn't the most fascinating thing to read about for me, let's say that. Taking all that into account, my feelings towards this book overall are perfectly neutral.
2.5*
April 17, 2024
Onze bib houdt dit jaar een lees-rond-de-wereld reading challenge, waardoor het een heel stuk makkelijker is om boeken te lezen die ik waarschijnlijk zelf niet snel uit het gigantische aanbod zou halen. Dit boek past er perfect in en voelde ook echt als een onderdompeling in een andere cultuur.
Polygamie ken ik enkel als een abstract idee waar vanuit westerse superioriteitswaan wat neerbuigend over wordt gedaan (of uit wheel of time en andere fantasyboeken). Dit boek maakt het een stuk concreter, waarbij het gegeven dat er twee echtgenotes zijn tegelijkertijd centraal staat en er niet toe doet. Het voelt zoals de eerste boeken die ik las waarin een lgbtq koppel de hoofdpersonages zijn, maar het verhaal niet draait om hoe ze het feit dat het geen hetero koppel is. Het normale van de situatie lijkt eerst anders en nieuw, maar het doet me vooral beseffen hoe beperkt mijn wereldbeeld was en hoe zalig het is om te lezen over een voor mij onbekende situatie die toch meteen heel natuurlijk en echt aanvoelt. Deze twee vrouwen hebben dan misschien niet gekozen voor elkaar, maar hun band gaat op veel vlakken verder dan dichte vriendschap. Iemand in je leven krijgen die je door en door kent en aan je zijde staat is altijd een geschenk.
Polygamie ken ik enkel als een abstract idee waar vanuit westerse superioriteitswaan wat neerbuigend over wordt gedaan (of uit wheel of time en andere fantasyboeken). Dit boek maakt het een stuk concreter, waarbij het gegeven dat er twee echtgenotes zijn tegelijkertijd centraal staat en er niet toe doet. Het voelt zoals de eerste boeken die ik las waarin een lgbtq koppel de hoofdpersonages zijn, maar het verhaal niet draait om hoe ze het feit dat het geen hetero koppel is. Het normale van de situatie lijkt eerst anders en nieuw, maar het doet me vooral beseffen hoe beperkt mijn wereldbeeld was en hoe zalig het is om te lezen over een voor mij onbekende situatie die toch meteen heel natuurlijk en echt aanvoelt. Deze twee vrouwen hebben dan misschien niet gekozen voor elkaar, maar hun band gaat op veel vlakken verder dan dichte vriendschap. Iemand in je leven krijgen die je door en door kent en aan je zijde staat is altijd een geschenk.
December 17, 2023
3.75✨
My life’s been tied in a knot that I can’t undo with my fingers, but I’ll use my teeth’.
Never has exploring the intricate workings of a polygamous household failed to make for an interesting read in domestic fiction. Having read a handful of novels that have spotlighted various aspects of this family type, I have always wanted to read one in which the co-wives are: not always scheming or plotting each other’s downfall; at least civil with each other; and at most support each other.
Co-wives Co-widows met all three cravings and even the ones I didn’t know I had. Ndongo Passy is a formidable protagonist. I love her and I doubt that I will ever forget her.
I absolutely loved that this book was heavy handed with satire; which was more often accompanied with dry wit than was not. It also had these beautiful evocative proverbs and metaphors that warmed my heart.
Indeed, Yabouza’s voice is a superb addition to that of other great writers from the Francophone African countries that I adore such as Mariama Bâ, Sembene Ousmane and Beti Mongo.
My life’s been tied in a knot that I can’t undo with my fingers, but I’ll use my teeth’.
Never has exploring the intricate workings of a polygamous household failed to make for an interesting read in domestic fiction. Having read a handful of novels that have spotlighted various aspects of this family type, I have always wanted to read one in which the co-wives are: not always scheming or plotting each other’s downfall; at least civil with each other; and at most support each other.
Co-wives Co-widows met all three cravings and even the ones I didn’t know I had. Ndongo Passy is a formidable protagonist. I love her and I doubt that I will ever forget her.
I absolutely loved that this book was heavy handed with satire; which was more often accompanied with dry wit than was not. It also had these beautiful evocative proverbs and metaphors that warmed my heart.
Indeed, Yabouza’s voice is a superb addition to that of other great writers from the Francophone African countries that I adore such as Mariama Bâ, Sembene Ousmane and Beti Mongo.
November 3, 2024
4 stars
After a string of three star reads, I feel revived again.
Co-Wives, Co-Widows is a little story surrounding two women who, after the death of their husband, lose everything to his scheming cousin and family.
This book isn’t very plot heavy, as we’re mostly following the lives of these sister wives but I thoroughly enjoyed it.
The highlight of this book for me, was the writing. The events of this book are tragic. We see the unfair treatment faced by widows and the corruption that runs rampant through the nation. The way a man, especially one regarded as important, can get away with anything. Yet the writing is infused with a dry sort of humor and I love the effect it created.
I also loved the relationship between the two women. Before their husband’s death, they appeared to have a good relationship but as widows, they come together and a beautiful connection blossoms.
The political backdrop also added an extra interesting element to the story.
Reading this was such a pleasant experience.
After a string of three star reads, I feel revived again.
Co-Wives, Co-Widows is a little story surrounding two women who, after the death of their husband, lose everything to his scheming cousin and family.
This book isn’t very plot heavy, as we’re mostly following the lives of these sister wives but I thoroughly enjoyed it.
The highlight of this book for me, was the writing. The events of this book are tragic. We see the unfair treatment faced by widows and the corruption that runs rampant through the nation. The way a man, especially one regarded as important, can get away with anything. Yet the writing is infused with a dry sort of humor and I love the effect it created.
I also loved the relationship between the two women. Before their husband’s death, they appeared to have a good relationship but as widows, they come together and a beautiful connection blossoms.
The political backdrop also added an extra interesting element to the story.
Reading this was such a pleasant experience.
January 19, 2024
A funny, beautiful novella about what love and family means (and some quite surprising Carry On hanky panky which made me blush!). This is the first book in translation to English from the Central African Republic, and the depictions of landscape, food and culture were so concisely and vividly realised I feel like I've been! So glad to have read this.
March 21, 2023
It was okay, a little slice of life piece.
February 17, 2025
the writing is so good and funny
October 31, 2022
This is the first book from the Central African Republic to be translated into English. It is a beautiful story.
September 27, 2023
Around the World Reading Challenge: CENTRAL AFRICAN REPUBLIC
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I quite enjoyed this book, which centers two co-wives and the aftermath of the sudden death of their husband. It's a quick and engaging read, and I really enjoyed the wives and the community around them.
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I quite enjoyed this book, which centers two co-wives and the aftermath of the sudden death of their husband. It's a quick and engaging read, and I really enjoyed the wives and the community around them.
November 7, 2025
Do wish we had gone down the lesbian route
May 30, 2025
”It’s OK. My life’s been tied in a knot that I can’t undo with my fingers, but I’ll use my teeth.”
Reading around the world: Central African Republic 🇨🇫
Surprisingly sweet and emotional book that left me with a good feeling for once. I was hesitant at first, since the first few chapters focused so largely on Lidou, the husband, and not as much on his two co-wives. And he was incredibly selfish and unlikeable. But as the title suggests, he isn’t with us for long, and I really loved to see the close relationship between the two women Ndongo Passy and Grekpuobou develop, and them grow even closer after the death of their husband.
I knew basically nothing about CAR before reading this little book, but just within these 100 pages, I feel like the author has managed to really capture its spirit. There were also some mentions of the political system, with the first democratic election I think, and it was interesting to see what the different characters thought about it. I also really liked some of the commentary about life and death, and how we tend to praise the dead no matter how they were when they were alive.
The writing style was very simple, and sometimes it felt a bit too dry, but it also had some really nice highlights. I was also maybe not 100% satisfied with the ending, but it wasn’t bad. Overall, I’d really recommend this one!
Reading around the world: Central African Republic 🇨🇫
Surprisingly sweet and emotional book that left me with a good feeling for once. I was hesitant at first, since the first few chapters focused so largely on Lidou, the husband, and not as much on his two co-wives. And he was incredibly selfish and unlikeable. But as the title suggests, he isn’t with us for long, and I really loved to see the close relationship between the two women Ndongo Passy and Grekpuobou develop, and them grow even closer after the death of their husband.
And now you and I have found each other.’
‘What do you mean?’
‘I mean that you’re here and I’m here. I’ve come to understand that life is never afterwards, never tomorrow. It’s only now.’
I knew basically nothing about CAR before reading this little book, but just within these 100 pages, I feel like the author has managed to really capture its spirit. There were also some mentions of the political system, with the first democratic election I think, and it was interesting to see what the different characters thought about it. I also really liked some of the commentary about life and death, and how we tend to praise the dead no matter how they were when they were alive.
The dead person was always wonderful. No one ever said, ‘The deceased was a bastard.’ The day the elected president died, the day his united and intransigent opponents died, people would hold forth about what responsible spouses, brothers, friends and citizens they were, how perfectly they’d balanced the sharp with the sweet, how virtuously they appreciated both the nationalist gozo and the republican plantain.
If the dead had all been as perfect as their funeral elegies suggested, life in the republic would’ve been a beautiful thing.
Such are the conventions of life and of death.
The writing style was very simple, and sometimes it felt a bit too dry, but it also had some really nice highlights. I was also maybe not 100% satisfied with the ending, but it wasn’t bad. Overall, I’d really recommend this one!
When even God sometimes messed things up, what could possibly be expected from people?
July 16, 2023
A sparky short novel about newly widowed co-wives who try to resist the depredations of their dead husband's family. Combines warmth and black humour.
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