Sometimes in life you find a book that changes you. A book that challenges everything you thought you knew and your perspectives are rewritten forevermore. For me, this book was And Then I Met You by Erica Lee. I have so many things to say about this book that this is going to one hell of a rant/review so if you are still with me at the end, know that I thank you in advance for allowing me the space to vent.
I’ve read so many things recently about the genre of romance in its bare literary form and honestly for a community that seeks to embrace change it’s insane how books that dare to challenge or play with the boundaries are often shunned or slated. The Romance genre by definition has a primary focus on the relationship between two people and typically has an “emotionally satisfying and optimistic ending”. For me this book definitely fell into this criteria but I know there will be those who seek to argue against that. To them I'd like to reference Walter Scott who defined romance as “a fictitious narrative” that seeks to display “marvellous and uncommon incidents”, this book definitely contains a marvellously uncommon incident, in that Lee dares to write a death into the narrative. Alas, I digress.
The books’ Prologue opens with a speech from the main character Rosemary, a careful, studious, sensitive soul whose ability to love with her whole self is shown in the first line she speaks. This is a character who I came to feel deeply for with each turn of the page. It’s in this opening that the entire direction of the book is revealed and although some might consider it a spoiler and others a reason to put the book down, it only made me want to read even more. You see that’s the thing about Erica Lee, she makes room for you in the chair next to her as she writes and opens up her world to you. Her vulnerability is part of her charm and the reason my kindle and bookshelf are full of her work.
As the novel progresses we move through Rosemary's life, starting from the moment she meets Willow Stone, a free spirited, go with the flow, breathtakingly beautiful, confident teen. Someone who seems like she has her whole life in front of her, but we know from the opening how little life she has left. Willow has been told by not one but two psychics that her life will end on a specific date. The outcome of this is that she truly embodies the notion of someone living their life rather than simply passing through it. She is courageous and stoic in the face of something soul crushing. She is optimistic and finds joy in every aspect of life that people normally forget to really experience. Lee really used this character in a way that causes the reader to dive deep into their own experiences and confront them. Some might worry that knowing this would possibly detract from the reading experience, sort of give the reader this feeling of unease at not knowing when exactly we encounter this loss but the author literally prepares us by reminding us of the dates as the story lives.
There are so many different components of reality interwoven into this narrative from the sweet inexperience of youth to the reckless innocence of first love. It all reads as tangible. The first encounter of the main characters is written wonderfully, it’s not a blink and you’ll miss it kind of chemistry. It weaves its way through the words on the page instantly and you can’t help but want more. This book has it all. There are tentative first touches, stolen moments in dorm rooms that fill you with excitement, fake consensual relationships to cover real ones and lines delivered that the Bronte's would be proud to have penned. The supporting characters are fully recognised and provide the comedic relief needed for what is intended to be a touching, weighty plot. Lisa is feisty and offers us a glimpse into the first girl who managed to make Rosemary throw caution to the careful and embrace the unknown. She is the driving force for the action that propels the cautious Rosemary literally into a place that becomes an anchor for Willow and Rosemary's love story. We are introduced to opposition from parents regarding their relationship which is such an occurrence within our community still that for those of us who experience this, the narrative can hit close to home. Lee does a brilliant job of relaying those parent/child conflicts in a manner that really is relatable. But what she also does is show us why dealing with all of that is worth it. For a love like Rosemary's and Willows, it’s always worth it.
The characters aren’t without their flaws (oh gosh, does that mean they’re human? Lol) and Willow likes to pretend nothing is happening and refuses to talk deeply about the reality of her fate. On the flipside, Rosemary is a little too compliant in this and while their conflicts are minor, I imagine had I been in her shoes I'd have been a constant wreck. I’m annoying enough as a sentient human, literary me would have been a challenge to control even for someone with Erica's talent. As a reader this only strengthens the characters believability as existing outside of the fictional universe. To me this could have been Lee watching someone's life unfold and choosing not to censor their story as she retold it. These characters take chances, and possibly the biggest chance they take is to choose one another to experience life with, with all it’s ups and downs.
This story isn’t all butterflies and rainbows though, I do want to stress that but if you’re like myself and you want something to sink your teeth into this book is ideal. I love angst. I always say that when I read, I want the author to break me and put me back together again but I don’t mind being left incomplete. I think it’s a true testament to any writer's ability if they can take a part of you when the last page is turned.
My final thought about this book (other than stressing that everyone reads it) is that I'd loudly advise those who are maybe considering bypassing this not to. Take a moment to allow your mind to reconsider what you know and think about love as well as romance. Take a chance on this book. Allow yourself to question if your concepts like mine were too narrow and open yourself up to the possibility that you can’t place parameters on something so transcendental.
If we are to look at in the grand scheme of things, we have to acknowledge that we are all dying and all of us are leaking sand into the bottom of our hourglasses. If our deaths are what defines if our lives have been romantic enough and we want our characters to leap off the pages/ live long after the last page has been turned; Is any story really a happy ever after?
The answer is always YES. Every encounter with love is romantic, whether it's minimal or grandiose. This book sings with possibly the truest experience of love I’ve ever read and I read a lot. It wouldn’t be out of place sitting next to Jodi Picoult's novels at my local bookstore and I'd warn her to watch out because Erica Lee has definitely set the bar with this one.
You will laugh, you will definitely cry and you will ultimately realise why Erica Lee is one of the best, most underrated authors in this genre. If you read this Erica, you broke me and I'm good with that... thank you for reminding me of the power of books.