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The Love Study #3
The Life Revamp
All Mason wants to do is fall in love, get married and live happily ever after.
The hunt is beginning to wear him down…until he meets (slightly) famous fashion designer Diego. Everything sparks between them—the banter, the sex, the fiery eye contact across a crowded room.
There's just one thing: Diego is already married and living his happily-ever-after, which luckily (or not) for Mason includes outside courtships. But not quite in the way he'd always imagined.
Mason thought he knew what would make him happy, but it turns out the traditional life he'd expected has some surprises in store.
The hunt is beginning to wear him down…until he meets (slightly) famous fashion designer Diego. Everything sparks between them—the banter, the sex, the fiery eye contact across a crowded room.
There's just one thing: Diego is already married and living his happily-ever-after, which luckily (or not) for Mason includes outside courtships. But not quite in the way he'd always imagined.
Mason thought he knew what would make him happy, but it turns out the traditional life he'd expected has some surprises in store.
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First published November 30, 2021
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89 books406 followersKris Ripper lives in the great state of California and zir pronouns are ze/zir. Kris shares a converted garage with a kid, can do two pull-ups in a row, and can write backwards. (No, really.) Ze has been writing fiction since ze learned how to write, and boring zir stuffed animals with stories long before that.
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December 4, 2021A poly story focusing on two participants of a V shaped triad. Mason really wants to get married, have a big wedding, whole white picket fence thing. Diego is already married (to Claris, open relationship, she has a lot of no strings sex) but is looking for a second partner. Diego is committed to Claris and knows he isn't suited to monogamy with anyone. Mason really doesn't want to be anyone's second choice. But here we are.
This is a really chewy situation. Usually a romance shows us all the participants compromising, but here there's no compromise from Diego at all. It's his way or nothing. He's absolutely not a jerk about it, bends over backwards to make it clear from the start and works to make Mason happy with it, and we believe he's being completely honest about his needs and boundaries. But the fact remains that those needs and boundaries aren't compatible with what Mason wants. So if Mason wants to be with Diego, he has to adapt his own wants and needs pretty substantially.
I really liked this as a premise. It's not a situation that can be fixed with an authorial deus ex machina. Sometimes people's needs are just not compatible, and you have to decide if you give up on the need or the person, because one has to go. Mason has a really hard time of this, and we feel it.
It would be very easy to dislike Diego's role in this, as the man getting his entire way. We don't, because he does genuinely work his arse off to make Mason happy and is completely honest about it, and they are very lovely together, but it was a narrow squeak for me at points. I slightly felt that Mason's longing for a wedding/being the one and only were dismissed a bit too easily by Claris and his friends-- they're his feelings, he's allowed to have them. And their HEA is definitely going to involve a lot of couples (triples) therapy. (Claris takes everything in her stride: I kind of would have liked to see her feelings a bit more on page and how they fit as a three, but then again there's really already a lot here to be getting on with.)
Gnarly, yes. But we believe by the end that Mason loves Diego enough to go for it, and that Diego's going to do his best to make Mason happy, and sometimes that's what a happy ending looks like.
This is a really chewy situation. Usually a romance shows us all the participants compromising, but here there's no compromise from Diego at all. It's his way or nothing. He's absolutely not a jerk about it, bends over backwards to make it clear from the start and works to make Mason happy with it, and we believe he's being completely honest about his needs and boundaries. But the fact remains that those needs and boundaries aren't compatible with what Mason wants. So if Mason wants to be with Diego, he has to adapt his own wants and needs pretty substantially.
I really liked this as a premise. It's not a situation that can be fixed with an authorial deus ex machina. Sometimes people's needs are just not compatible, and you have to decide if you give up on the need or the person, because one has to go. Mason has a really hard time of this, and we feel it.
It would be very easy to dislike Diego's role in this, as the man getting his entire way. We don't, because he does genuinely work his arse off to make Mason happy and is completely honest about it, and they are very lovely together, but it was a narrow squeak for me at points. I slightly felt that Mason's longing for a wedding/being the one and only were dismissed a bit too easily by Claris and his friends-- they're his feelings, he's allowed to have them. And their HEA is definitely going to involve a lot of couples (triples) therapy. (Claris takes everything in her stride: I kind of would have liked to see her feelings a bit more on page and how they fit as a three, but then again there's really already a lot here to be getting on with.)
Gnarly, yes. But we believe by the end that Mason loves Diego enough to go for it, and that Diego's going to do his best to make Mason happy, and sometimes that's what a happy ending looks like.
December 1, 2021
Loved this one much more than I initially thought I would. What I like about this series is that it focuses on different types of romances. The first book focuses on a romance between a guy and a non-binary person, the second on two guys, one of them anxious and big-boned, and this book focuses on a polyamorous relationship. All books can be read separately from each other.
Diego and Claris are married and have an open relationship. When Mason meets Diego, he falls hard. Head over heels. But can he love someone who’s in another relationship too?
Diego mentions somewhere in the story that Mason is able to look at things from different angles. And that’s precisely what this story is about. Most people start judging and have prejudices when they hear you’re falling in love with someone who’s married. An open marriage in this case. You’re in love with each other? He’s in love with you, too? And he’s married? So, they’re getting a divorce? No? So, you’re having a secret affair? No? They’re still together, and you’re together with that guy, too? Huh? HUH? That’s not normal! And there it is. The word I have a love-hate relationship with.
NORMAL
We all are different and still can be normal. But many of us think that when someone is different or when someone’s relationship is different, they’re abnormal. And I have to admit, when I started reading The Love Revamp, I frowned multiple times. Falling in love with a guy who’s part of a happily married couple? Mmm. But like I once read:
There’s no such thing as weird, worthless, or abnormal, as long as you’re true to yourself.
So, if Mason is true to himself, and Diego and Claris are too, and there’s consent from the three of them, who am I to judge?
I liked the writing, I liked Mason, and I loved, loved Diego with his future playdates, the Manicuregate, and his courtship cake. The Life Revamp is funny without being over the top (like The Love Study was, in my opinion). I liked Mason’s internal discussions about how it would even work if his partner had more than one partner. Switch days like divorced people with kids do? This story is sweet and funny, and I loved how it got me thinking and pushing my limits at the same time. After finishing the story, questions kept popping up in my head. A lot of what if’s. But again, if Mason and Diego are happy, and Claris is too, why should I question their way of living? Isn’t it important we all live our lives the way we chose?
Pick up this book if you want to read a story that explores a relationship that may seem beyond our human comfort zones. It’s cosy and sweet, and puts a smile on your face. Definitely worth a read!
I received an ARC from Harlequin Carina Press and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Diego and Claris are married and have an open relationship. When Mason meets Diego, he falls hard. Head over heels. But can he love someone who’s in another relationship too?
Diego mentions somewhere in the story that Mason is able to look at things from different angles. And that’s precisely what this story is about. Most people start judging and have prejudices when they hear you’re falling in love with someone who’s married. An open marriage in this case. You’re in love with each other? He’s in love with you, too? And he’s married? So, they’re getting a divorce? No? So, you’re having a secret affair? No? They’re still together, and you’re together with that guy, too? Huh? HUH? That’s not normal! And there it is. The word I have a love-hate relationship with.
NORMAL
We all are different and still can be normal. But many of us think that when someone is different or when someone’s relationship is different, they’re abnormal. And I have to admit, when I started reading The Love Revamp, I frowned multiple times. Falling in love with a guy who’s part of a happily married couple? Mmm. But like I once read:
There’s no such thing as weird, worthless, or abnormal, as long as you’re true to yourself.
So, if Mason is true to himself, and Diego and Claris are too, and there’s consent from the three of them, who am I to judge?
I liked the writing, I liked Mason, and I loved, loved Diego with his future playdates, the Manicuregate, and his courtship cake. The Life Revamp is funny without being over the top (like The Love Study was, in my opinion). I liked Mason’s internal discussions about how it would even work if his partner had more than one partner. Switch days like divorced people with kids do? This story is sweet and funny, and I loved how it got me thinking and pushing my limits at the same time. After finishing the story, questions kept popping up in my head. A lot of what if’s. But again, if Mason and Diego are happy, and Claris is too, why should I question their way of living? Isn’t it important we all live our lives the way we chose?
Pick up this book if you want to read a story that explores a relationship that may seem beyond our human comfort zones. It’s cosy and sweet, and puts a smile on your face. Definitely worth a read!
I received an ARC from Harlequin Carina Press and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
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December 6, 2021 Well, I didn't like it. I read this book more for a couple of the previous books than the story itself. I really, really hate romance novels that one person has to give up something that is very important and fundamental to them to be with their partner. Mason has to struggle while Diego is in a very comfortable position and it didn't work for me.
Another thing I didn't like was Claris. I had the feeling that the moments between Mason and Diego always involved Claris in a way. When she wasn't in the scene ( and she was A LOT), Diego talked about her and even included her in future plans between him and Mason without considering if Mason would want that. And she was very pushy and overbearing, honestly, inserting herself in things that weren't her business at all.
And last not least, Mason is a very weak main character. He lets EVERYONE in his life dictate his feelings and dreams. His mother, and friends and Claris and Diego telling him his dreams were foolish, illusions, and that he actually didn't want to get married were infuriating. It never seemed it was Mason's realizations at all. And there is nothing wrong with the things he wanted, yet, everyone made him feel like it was.
In the end, Claris shouldn't have pushed for Diego and Mason to have a date, Diego shouldn't have pursued a relationship with someone who clearly wanted a monogamous life and Mason should have been smarter because he is the only one conceding and struggling in this relationship.
P.S: I won't rate this book because I don't want people accusing me of being a polyamory hater. I'm not. I just dislike when a partner has to give up life plans just to accommodate the other person. Sometimes people's plans are incompatible and love doesn't conquer all. And it's okay! If you disagree, please don't attack me. I'm not rating so I'm not harming the author because of my personal tastes.
Another thing I didn't like was Claris. I had the feeling that the moments between Mason and Diego always involved Claris in a way. When she wasn't in the scene ( and she was A LOT), Diego talked about her and even included her in future plans between him and Mason without considering if Mason would want that. And she was very pushy and overbearing, honestly, inserting herself in things that weren't her business at all.
And last not least, Mason is a very weak main character. He lets EVERYONE in his life dictate his feelings and dreams. His mother, and friends and Claris and Diego telling him his dreams were foolish, illusions, and that he actually didn't want to get married were infuriating. It never seemed it was Mason's realizations at all. And there is nothing wrong with the things he wanted, yet, everyone made him feel like it was.
In the end, Claris shouldn't have pushed for Diego and Mason to have a date, Diego shouldn't have pursued a relationship with someone who clearly wanted a monogamous life and Mason should have been smarter because he is the only one conceding and struggling in this relationship.
P.S: I won't rate this book because I don't want people accusing me of being a polyamory hater. I'm not. I just dislike when a partner has to give up life plans just to accommodate the other person. Sometimes people's plans are incompatible and love doesn't conquer all. And it's okay! If you disagree, please don't attack me. I'm not rating so I'm not harming the author because of my personal tastes.
November 17, 2021
The Love Study series is my first time reading Ripper and I am so glad ze have an extensive backlist for me to dive into! The Life Revamp is a great end to the series, and maybe the sweetest book of the three.
The good:
- I dissolved into giggles three times in the first five percent of the book. Diego has old world charm coupled with modern silliness and it's the perfect combination with Mason.
- The relationship is a polyamorous V - Diego and Claris have an open marriage, and while Claris likes playdates Diego is looking for something a little more solid.
- Mason has zero experience with polyamory and has a hard time imagining lasting relationships outside of marriage, so the reader gets to follow along in his head and learn about Diego and Claris' particular brand of polyam.
- We have care and consideration, the return of the lovely found family this series is built around, and fun. Lots of fun. I had a hard time putting the book down.
- After reading the full series I can see that Ripper is showing three very different people finding their way into adulthood and lasting relationships. In book one Declan goes back on the dating scene after avoiding it for years, in book two Oscar overcomes anxiety and being fired from his job while finding love along the way, and in this book Mason realizes he's been coasting both romantically and professionally and does something about it.
The not-so-good:
- I would have loved a convo between Claris and Mason going over particulars, throwing ideas around of how this relationship could work. We see this kind of work being down between Mason and Diego, but some details involving Claris are ignored.
- There's a third act breakup. It feels reasonable if sudden to me, but even so it brought my reading momentum to a halt.
All in all The Life Revamp was a burst of queer joy just when I needed it. Fun with a side of soul searching, it ties as my favorite book in the series - 3.5 stars, rounded up.
Thanks to Carina Press for providing a review copy.
The good:
- I dissolved into giggles three times in the first five percent of the book. Diego has old world charm coupled with modern silliness and it's the perfect combination with Mason.
- The relationship is a polyamorous V - Diego and Claris have an open marriage, and while Claris likes playdates Diego is looking for something a little more solid.
- Mason has zero experience with polyamory and has a hard time imagining lasting relationships outside of marriage, so the reader gets to follow along in his head and learn about Diego and Claris' particular brand of polyam.
- We have care and consideration, the return of the lovely found family this series is built around, and fun. Lots of fun. I had a hard time putting the book down.
- After reading the full series I can see that Ripper is showing three very different people finding their way into adulthood and lasting relationships. In book one Declan goes back on the dating scene after avoiding it for years, in book two Oscar overcomes anxiety and being fired from his job while finding love along the way, and in this book Mason realizes he's been coasting both romantically and professionally and does something about it.
The not-so-good:
- I would have loved a convo between Claris and Mason going over particulars, throwing ideas around of how this relationship could work. We see this kind of work being down between Mason and Diego, but some details involving Claris are ignored.
- There's a third act breakup. It feels reasonable if sudden to me, but even so it brought my reading momentum to a halt.
All in all The Life Revamp was a burst of queer joy just when I needed it. Fun with a side of soul searching, it ties as my favorite book in the series - 3.5 stars, rounded up.
Thanks to Carina Press for providing a review copy.
December 24, 2021
I didn't like this one as much as the rest of the series, but it's still a solid read. I just had a hard time relating to Mason in the beginning, and I found myself wondering if the author was struggling with that as well.
Mason is coming to terms with the fact that going after what he wants/thinks he wants from a relationship has him underwhelmed, and he's trying to figure out what he's doing wrong when the last guy he should make sense with is the one he has the most fun with. But that first chunk of the story gets a little drawn out and repetitive as Mason tries to wrap his head around his current situation.
The trick is, you have to buy into both the fact that polyamory is something he would never, ever be interested in *and* the fact that he ends up dating a man in an open marriage. But Mason's voice doesn't lend itself as well to the stream-of-consciousness style of writing the rest of the series has, so it feels very forced and unnatural in the beginning. There were moments it felt like a writing exercise for the author to get in the character's head, and it felt like we had that "aha" moment at the same time when the writing suddenly smoothed out just when I finally got a handle on the character.
From that point on, I really enjoyed Mason and Diego's story. Diego was very easy to root for and I liked the role his wife played in the book. But the central relationship conflict through the whole thing is Mason's struggle to understand how exactly this polyamorous relationship would work long term, and the book ended without fully answering that question. (Although I did feel confident they would work through it successfully, which was Diego's stance the whole time.)
Of course, Mason had to be all in the relationship before they could figure those specifics out, and it took him the whole book to go all in, which is why we didn't get the answers. But that ended up re-doubling my frustrations with the pacing issues in the first chunk of the book since I think it contributed to short-changing the ending. (I just checked to see if maybe there's been a sequel announced because I could totally see that. I would happily read a whole book about Mason navigating his role in Diego's marriage, especially if we got more scenes with Jack and Oscar!) Usually I would consider it an author's prerogative to to be as vague or specific as they want about the dynamics of a particular polyamorous relationship, but in this case Mason was the one who wanted a clearer picture of the specifics, so I did, too.
**This book was provided for free by the publisher in exchange for an honest review via NetGalley**
Mason is coming to terms with the fact that going after what he wants/thinks he wants from a relationship has him underwhelmed, and he's trying to figure out what he's doing wrong when the last guy he should make sense with is the one he has the most fun with. But that first chunk of the story gets a little drawn out and repetitive as Mason tries to wrap his head around his current situation.
The trick is, you have to buy into both the fact that polyamory is something he would never, ever be interested in *and* the fact that he ends up dating a man in an open marriage. But Mason's voice doesn't lend itself as well to the stream-of-consciousness style of writing the rest of the series has, so it feels very forced and unnatural in the beginning. There were moments it felt like a writing exercise for the author to get in the character's head, and it felt like we had that "aha" moment at the same time when the writing suddenly smoothed out just when I finally got a handle on the character.
From that point on, I really enjoyed Mason and Diego's story. Diego was very easy to root for and I liked the role his wife played in the book. But the central relationship conflict through the whole thing is Mason's struggle to understand how exactly this polyamorous relationship would work long term, and the book ended without fully answering that question. (Although I did feel confident they would work through it successfully, which was Diego's stance the whole time.)
Of course, Mason had to be all in the relationship before they could figure those specifics out, and it took him the whole book to go all in, which is why we didn't get the answers. But that ended up re-doubling my frustrations with the pacing issues in the first chunk of the book since I think it contributed to short-changing the ending. (I just checked to see if maybe there's been a sequel announced because I could totally see that. I would happily read a whole book about Mason navigating his role in Diego's marriage, especially if we got more scenes with Jack and Oscar!) Usually I would consider it an author's prerogative to to be as vague or specific as they want about the dynamics of a particular polyamorous relationship, but in this case Mason was the one who wanted a clearer picture of the specifics, so I did, too.
**This book was provided for free by the publisher in exchange for an honest review via NetGalley**
December 13, 2021
The Life Revamp is the third in Kris Ripper’s The Love Study series, and I’m seriously hoping it’s not the last we’ll hear from the Motherfuckers! This is Mason’s story, and I think it’s best to read the series in order, so start with Declan’s romance in The Love Study, and find out how it all began.
Kris Ripper always challenges traditional relationship dynamics, and this is an incredibly thought provoking look into polyamory. Having spent most of his life longing for a traditional relationship, where he’s the sole focus of his partner’s attention, Mason has to reevaluate everything when he meets Diego.
Diego and his wife Claris have different ways of incorporating polyamory into their lives, and their relationships. And this is Kris Ripper’s point, that this is a personal and unique understanding each person must make for themselves. It’s Mason’s journey to make, and find out if he’s able to take the plunge, and “revamp” his whole outlook on his future.
It took me a couple weeks to work my way through this book. Ripper’s intensely personal exploration of everything that Mason is experiencing, plus finally getting Mason’s side of his relationship with Dec, made The Life Revamp an incredibly meaningful story. I highly recommend this powerful series.
thank you to Harlequin, Carina Press, and NetGalley for providing me with an advanced copy of The Life Revamp, all opinions are my own
Kris Ripper always challenges traditional relationship dynamics, and this is an incredibly thought provoking look into polyamory. Having spent most of his life longing for a traditional relationship, where he’s the sole focus of his partner’s attention, Mason has to reevaluate everything when he meets Diego.
Diego and his wife Claris have different ways of incorporating polyamory into their lives, and their relationships. And this is Kris Ripper’s point, that this is a personal and unique understanding each person must make for themselves. It’s Mason’s journey to make, and find out if he’s able to take the plunge, and “revamp” his whole outlook on his future.
It took me a couple weeks to work my way through this book. Ripper’s intensely personal exploration of everything that Mason is experiencing, plus finally getting Mason’s side of his relationship with Dec, made The Life Revamp an incredibly meaningful story. I highly recommend this powerful series.
thank you to Harlequin, Carina Press, and NetGalley for providing me with an advanced copy of The Life Revamp, all opinions are my own
September 23, 2021
I've enjoyed this series so much and I'm glad to say I enjoyed this installment as well! I've been rooting for Mason throughout the series so it was so great to read about him finding his HEA. The book was somewhat slow to start for me, but I immediately really liked Diego and he absolutely made the book for me. What I especially loved about this book is how it shows that there isn't one way to have a HEA and that people get to define what their relationship(s) look like and what works and doesn't work for them.
December 13, 2021
Oh, my freaking goodness what a wonderful; and delightful story, the relaxed atmosphere, the build-up to some anxiety, the vulnerability, all the feelings, the adorable characters, the banter, the humor, from the first page on, I enjoyed it all immensely!
Okay, Diego, the upcoming famous fashion designer, was married but that doesn’t mean Mason couldn’t think about him. Even though Mason was in a sort of relationship with someone else, Diego made him smile, gave him butterflies.
Claris, Mason’s friend, introduced him to Diego. Claris and Diego have a happy and open marriage. Confused yet? No need, it’s all quite lovable.
What Mason really wants is to get married, have a house, kids, and a hea, to be someone’s person. In his opinion, those things aren’t possible with his new, charming, delightful, married friend.
To paint the picture in short, Mason and Claris are friends. Claris and Diego are married and in an open relationship and polyamorous. Claris introduces Mason and Diego with the purpose to bring both men together. Mason and Diego are into each other, deeply. Even though it sounds chaotic and maybe even a bit awkward, at some level it all feels quite natural and comfortable.
The difficulty here is Mason has some expectations for his future, to change those isn’t easy.
I got all giggling watching Mason and Diego. Diego was an emotional, romantic, tentative man and madly in love.
“Are we allowed to kiss?” I said softly. “Definitely and completely and yes, please. Please,”
Just like Mason I had to accommodate into these new circumstances. It sounds all maybe natural and simple, but gosh, it is far from simple.
While Claris was a great vibrant personality I wanted to hush her away, stop meddling, please! Until she spoke seriously that’s where I loved her the most.
Both men are so incredibly sweet, pure, honest, super romantic, super intense, and passionate. They are, I’m not sure how to express, but it’s almost something like grateful to have found each other. It felt amazing.
It was a slow burn, they were absolutely adorable together, but I wanted to push them in some directions, get them to act more clear, it took them some time to come together, maybe this is my only complaint with this story, but that’s me and my impatience.
The thoughts and argumentations between Mason and Diego about their relationship, about polyamory, about confusion, jealousy, about the future, were justifiably and well expressed.
It was such an intimate story, Mason shows us the farthest corners of his mind, all the passion, all the doubts, all the glory, his and Diego’s, marvelous!
Let’s not forget The MF group of friends, they are there for each other, always, hilarious, honest, warm, and dedicated. MF stands for The MotherFu… yeah, you got it.
Overall quite an engrossing story, captivatingly and beautifully written, with humor, banter, fun, seriousness, a lot of romantic gestures, and emotional moments. A winner!
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Okay, Diego, the upcoming famous fashion designer, was married but that doesn’t mean Mason couldn’t think about him. Even though Mason was in a sort of relationship with someone else, Diego made him smile, gave him butterflies.
Claris, Mason’s friend, introduced him to Diego. Claris and Diego have a happy and open marriage. Confused yet? No need, it’s all quite lovable.
What Mason really wants is to get married, have a house, kids, and a hea, to be someone’s person. In his opinion, those things aren’t possible with his new, charming, delightful, married friend.
To paint the picture in short, Mason and Claris are friends. Claris and Diego are married and in an open relationship and polyamorous. Claris introduces Mason and Diego with the purpose to bring both men together. Mason and Diego are into each other, deeply. Even though it sounds chaotic and maybe even a bit awkward, at some level it all feels quite natural and comfortable.
The difficulty here is Mason has some expectations for his future, to change those isn’t easy.
I got all giggling watching Mason and Diego. Diego was an emotional, romantic, tentative man and madly in love.
“Are we allowed to kiss?” I said softly. “Definitely and completely and yes, please. Please,”
Just like Mason I had to accommodate into these new circumstances. It sounds all maybe natural and simple, but gosh, it is far from simple.
While Claris was a great vibrant personality I wanted to hush her away, stop meddling, please! Until she spoke seriously that’s where I loved her the most.
Both men are so incredibly sweet, pure, honest, super romantic, super intense, and passionate. They are, I’m not sure how to express, but it’s almost something like grateful to have found each other. It felt amazing.
It was a slow burn, they were absolutely adorable together, but I wanted to push them in some directions, get them to act more clear, it took them some time to come together, maybe this is my only complaint with this story, but that’s me and my impatience.
The thoughts and argumentations between Mason and Diego about their relationship, about polyamory, about confusion, jealousy, about the future, were justifiably and well expressed.
It was such an intimate story, Mason shows us the farthest corners of his mind, all the passion, all the doubts, all the glory, his and Diego’s, marvelous!
Let’s not forget The MF group of friends, they are there for each other, always, hilarious, honest, warm, and dedicated. MF stands for The MotherFu… yeah, you got it.
Overall quite an engrossing story, captivatingly and beautifully written, with humor, banter, fun, seriousness, a lot of romantic gestures, and emotional moments. A winner!
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May 19, 2024Hmm lol, the vibes are far too similar to people I know irl whose dating priorities/preferences are uh extremely not mine! To each their own etc etc, I wish them all the best etc etc, I have no desire to put up with hearing the details if I am not friends with these people already.
Objectively, very well-written. Obviously. DNF @ 35%.
Objectively, very well-written. Obviously. DNF @ 35%.
October 17, 2021
Oh I loved this book. Yeah, the polyamorous relationship shown really sidelined the character of Claris in the name of keeping the two boys falling in love front and centre, but given the line I suppose I can forgive it.
Reading polyamorous novels by Kris Ripper these days is about the closest one can get to reading a new Xan West novel. It's amazing how similar some of the turns of phrases between the two novelists are.
In this novel, we meet Mason as the main character. For those who have read Love Study, they may remember him as the person that Declan jilted at the alter when they were much younger. Although Mason seemed more or less together and over it up till now, we see a lot more of his baggage in this single point of view novel. We also got to see his mother again, who I remember adoring when we met her previously too.
Mason is currently dating a man who ticks all his boxes. He is a doctor, he is successful, he is stable and sufficiently adult. At first, I actually thought this was going to be one of the polyamorous characters in the novel and assumed the conversation they were setting up to have at the beginning of the book was about just that topic. I was wrong, however, and I soon see why. This character is painted as pretty boring and the chemistry between him and Mason is at a zero, despite him being exactly what Mason is looking for.
And then Mason allows his sometimes co-worker Claris to set him up with her husband. From the start, we know that they are polyamorous, which is obviously great. And chemistry is immediately ramped up to 100, which we find out through Mason's texts and Snapchats with Declan. This narratively also goes to show us through the rest of their friendship group how much more they are invested in Diego than the more boring Tim-with-no-lastname.
I said at the beginning of this review that Claris was very sidelined. Yes, she does appear multiple times to share her enthusiastic encouragement of the relationship forming between Mason and Diego. But I would have liked to see more detail, I guess, in her thought process. I would have loved seeing anything where the two of them negotiated directly times when they might see Diego so that no one misses out. I would have liked to see Mason talking about his concerns about the fact that he will never get to marry her husband because, of course, he is already married. Seeing Claris taking a serious moment to actually talk through that with someone who is meant to be her friend as well as co-worker would have been wonderful.
But polyamory in books is still new and we don't get the complexity of these relationships in every novel.
Without that, though, I felt as though there were missed opportunities and the characters coming across as more two dimensionally trope-y than they needed to.
Reading polyamorous novels by Kris Ripper these days is about the closest one can get to reading a new Xan West novel. It's amazing how similar some of the turns of phrases between the two novelists are.
In this novel, we meet Mason as the main character. For those who have read Love Study, they may remember him as the person that Declan jilted at the alter when they were much younger. Although Mason seemed more or less together and over it up till now, we see a lot more of his baggage in this single point of view novel. We also got to see his mother again, who I remember adoring when we met her previously too.
Mason is currently dating a man who ticks all his boxes. He is a doctor, he is successful, he is stable and sufficiently adult. At first, I actually thought this was going to be one of the polyamorous characters in the novel and assumed the conversation they were setting up to have at the beginning of the book was about just that topic. I was wrong, however, and I soon see why. This character is painted as pretty boring and the chemistry between him and Mason is at a zero, despite him being exactly what Mason is looking for.
And then Mason allows his sometimes co-worker Claris to set him up with her husband. From the start, we know that they are polyamorous, which is obviously great. And chemistry is immediately ramped up to 100, which we find out through Mason's texts and Snapchats with Declan. This narratively also goes to show us through the rest of their friendship group how much more they are invested in Diego than the more boring Tim-with-no-lastname.
I said at the beginning of this review that Claris was very sidelined. Yes, she does appear multiple times to share her enthusiastic encouragement of the relationship forming between Mason and Diego. But I would have liked to see more detail, I guess, in her thought process. I would have loved seeing anything where the two of them negotiated directly times when they might see Diego so that no one misses out. I would have liked to see Mason talking about his concerns about the fact that he will never get to marry her husband because, of course, he is already married. Seeing Claris taking a serious moment to actually talk through that with someone who is meant to be her friend as well as co-worker would have been wonderful.
But polyamory in books is still new and we don't get the complexity of these relationships in every novel.
Without that, though, I felt as though there were missed opportunities and the characters coming across as more two dimensionally trope-y than they needed to.
October 29, 2021
Thank you to Netgalley for gifting me this ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Full disclosure, before this, I had never read a romance novel where navigating polyamory/open relationships is the actual plot, and I was a little concerned that it would just be love-triangle-jealous-stress-and-fighting all the time… it is not that. At all. (Thank god.)
Instead, it’s a truly lovely, respectful and positive representation that I could not recommend more.
It’s a romcom, most definitely, with a range of diverse characters—none of whom are cookie-cutter, which I think could have been an easy to fall into trap here. Each character is given time and depth—not just the MCs—and they’re all fleshed out well. Sometimes I find in romcoms that I forget who someone is and it literally doesn’t matter because there are at least 3 side characters who’re basically just the same person. This book is not that. And it was delightful.
The love interest (Diego) is the sweetest man on earth in all honesty. I’m not usually a fan of pure earnest sweetness 24/7, but I was never bored of him. Or of their interactions with each other. Their banter is a delight, the awkwardly flustered and incredibly endearing interactions are so wonderfully human, and it’s very clear that they fit together, so it was a joy to read them muddling through dates and trying to figure it out.
I would have liked more communication from/with Claris (Diego’s wife) though, on page. I assumed Diego had had conversations with her off screen but we don’t get to see Mason and Claris discuss/negotiate boundaries and desires etc, and I think it would have been good to see that, as well as the lovely support she gives.
The sex is mostly fade to black, except for once. And, whilst I know the romance novel banter is entirely the point here, it still took the hotness out of that scene for me, because old school erotica staples of “yes, take me. Oh, please take me!” etc. make me cringe even when they’re done in pseudo-role play. BUT, this is a personal taste thing, because it does feel right for them as characters.
Also some of the conversations (in general, not the sex) were a little too… overly verbose? to be believable in parts. I sometimes found myself thinking “people don’t actually talk in this way out loud” and it hindered my reading experience enough that I dropped it down a star solely for that. The rest I could have looked past, I think.
I’ve heard a lot about Kris Ripper and just hadn’t gotten around to reading any of zirs famed books before, but I bought 3 of zirs other books the second I finished this one so you could say I’m definitely now a fan.
Full disclosure, before this, I had never read a romance novel where navigating polyamory/open relationships is the actual plot, and I was a little concerned that it would just be love-triangle-jealous-stress-and-fighting all the time… it is not that. At all. (Thank god.)
Instead, it’s a truly lovely, respectful and positive representation that I could not recommend more.
It’s a romcom, most definitely, with a range of diverse characters—none of whom are cookie-cutter, which I think could have been an easy to fall into trap here. Each character is given time and depth—not just the MCs—and they’re all fleshed out well. Sometimes I find in romcoms that I forget who someone is and it literally doesn’t matter because there are at least 3 side characters who’re basically just the same person. This book is not that. And it was delightful.
The love interest (Diego) is the sweetest man on earth in all honesty. I’m not usually a fan of pure earnest sweetness 24/7, but I was never bored of him. Or of their interactions with each other. Their banter is a delight, the awkwardly flustered and incredibly endearing interactions are so wonderfully human, and it’s very clear that they fit together, so it was a joy to read them muddling through dates and trying to figure it out.
I would have liked more communication from/with Claris (Diego’s wife) though, on page. I assumed Diego had had conversations with her off screen but we don’t get to see Mason and Claris discuss/negotiate boundaries and desires etc, and I think it would have been good to see that, as well as the lovely support she gives.
The sex is mostly fade to black, except for once. And, whilst I know the romance novel banter is entirely the point here, it still took the hotness out of that scene for me, because old school erotica staples of “yes, take me. Oh, please take me!” etc. make me cringe even when they’re done in pseudo-role play. BUT, this is a personal taste thing, because it does feel right for them as characters.
Also some of the conversations (in general, not the sex) were a little too… overly verbose? to be believable in parts. I sometimes found myself thinking “people don’t actually talk in this way out loud” and it hindered my reading experience enough that I dropped it down a star solely for that. The rest I could have looked past, I think.
I’ve heard a lot about Kris Ripper and just hadn’t gotten around to reading any of zirs famed books before, but I bought 3 of zirs other books the second I finished this one so you could say I’m definitely now a fan.
September 18, 2021
I received an advance copy from the publisher via Netgalley for review purposes. This in no way influences my review; all words, thoughts, and opinions are my own.
Content notes:
This book was an utter delight!! After reading, and loving, The Love Study and The Hate Project, I couldn’t wait for Mason’s romance. And I loved so much about this book!
Mason has always wanted to get married, but after being left at the alter by his best friend he’s only done casual dating. He thinks things may be getting serious with Tim, who he’s been dating for a while now, but when Tim proposes defining their relationship and making it exclusive, Mason has a minor freak out and they shelve them conversation. The next day Mason has a blind date of sorts with his friend Claris’ husband, and Mason is already sure things can’t work because all he wants is to be married. Right?!
One of my favorite elements of this book, series, is the chosen family. The way the Motherf*ckers are there for each other and support one another is always so great. They don’t let each other get away with lying to themselves, but are also there when you need a place to vent. Their friendship is all so wonderful and I always love seeing the group together.
My other favorite thing with this book was the way polyamory was shown. So often books with polyamory show closed triad dynamics, so seeing a V dynamic and seeing Mason and Claris’ metamour dynamic brought me so much joy. He and Claris had been friends first and early on she’d thought he and Diego would hit it off, and her support for their relationship and the friendship she has with Mason was so fun.
Mason and Diego together is utterly delightful and constantly left me grinning. From their playful flirting to the sweet dates they shared, their relationship was so sweet and fun, and I loved the easy way they initially fell into things. Because Mason was kind of already assuming he couldn’t have a future with Diego, he felt free and able to be his authentic self rather than first-date-acceptable self, and that resulted in them creating a spy story while they explored an art museum. Mason also really enjoys historical romances, particularly Georgette Heyer, and he and Diego will often fall into flirting like they’re the leads of a regency novel.
My biggest qualm is the third act breakup. In many ways it makes sense, but at the same time the execution almost felt shoe-horned in as an element of romance novels. I was really hoping for a continue fluffy read, and this is overall a very fluffy low-angst read, so them breaking up was kind of jarring. I did like the way things were resolved and I definitely believe in their continued relationship, especially with their (especially Mason‘s) communication skills growth. Because Diego has been in a polyamorous relationship longer, he’s more accustomed to the ways jealousy and insecurity have to be navigated, and I honestly did enjoy how Mason is new to polyam and has to learn as he goes.
Overall this book was a delight, and a very fun, light read that brought me much joy. This may be my favorite of the Love Study series and I love seeing different iterations of polyamory shown. Strongly recommend for those who enjoy a light, fun romance full of chosen family and metamours who are friends first.
Content notes:
This book was an utter delight!! After reading, and loving, The Love Study and The Hate Project, I couldn’t wait for Mason’s romance. And I loved so much about this book!
Mason has always wanted to get married, but after being left at the alter by his best friend he’s only done casual dating. He thinks things may be getting serious with Tim, who he’s been dating for a while now, but when Tim proposes defining their relationship and making it exclusive, Mason has a minor freak out and they shelve them conversation. The next day Mason has a blind date of sorts with his friend Claris’ husband, and Mason is already sure things can’t work because all he wants is to be married. Right?!
One of my favorite elements of this book, series, is the chosen family. The way the Motherf*ckers are there for each other and support one another is always so great. They don’t let each other get away with lying to themselves, but are also there when you need a place to vent. Their friendship is all so wonderful and I always love seeing the group together.
My other favorite thing with this book was the way polyamory was shown. So often books with polyamory show closed triad dynamics, so seeing a V dynamic and seeing Mason and Claris’ metamour dynamic brought me so much joy. He and Claris had been friends first and early on she’d thought he and Diego would hit it off, and her support for their relationship and the friendship she has with Mason was so fun.
Mason and Diego together is utterly delightful and constantly left me grinning. From their playful flirting to the sweet dates they shared, their relationship was so sweet and fun, and I loved the easy way they initially fell into things. Because Mason was kind of already assuming he couldn’t have a future with Diego, he felt free and able to be his authentic self rather than first-date-acceptable self, and that resulted in them creating a spy story while they explored an art museum. Mason also really enjoys historical romances, particularly Georgette Heyer, and he and Diego will often fall into flirting like they’re the leads of a regency novel.
My biggest qualm is the third act breakup. In many ways it makes sense, but at the same time the execution almost felt shoe-horned in as an element of romance novels. I was really hoping for a continue fluffy read, and this is overall a very fluffy low-angst read, so them breaking up was kind of jarring. I did like the way things were resolved and I definitely believe in their continued relationship, especially with their (especially Mason‘s) communication skills growth. Because Diego has been in a polyamorous relationship longer, he’s more accustomed to the ways jealousy and insecurity have to be navigated, and I honestly did enjoy how Mason is new to polyam and has to learn as he goes.
Overall this book was a delight, and a very fun, light read that brought me much joy. This may be my favorite of the Love Study series and I love seeing different iterations of polyamory shown. Strongly recommend for those who enjoy a light, fun romance full of chosen family and metamours who are friends first.
October 28, 2022
This one was WAY off the beaten path for me!
To be introduced by your new charismatic friend to her husband (as a possible long term romantic partner!) is a concept so BANANAS, I had to keep reading. It’s a tale of polyamory, which sounds like inevitable disaster.
“You don’t mind?“
“Darling, when will you ever learn? His joy, is my joy. And his joy is YOU.” She kissed me on the lips, lightly, casually. “Go.”
I went.
Are these humans are this evolved, or just nutty?!
It’s a lot to wrap your head around, the possibility (and logistics) of these kind of relationships, which are ultimately like families. It certainly challenges you to consider situations out of your comfort zone, and explore those gray bits, because we all know nothing is ever black or white.
So, although this was unexpected, it was well written and an overall joyful read.
To be introduced by your new charismatic friend to her husband (as a possible long term romantic partner!) is a concept so BANANAS, I had to keep reading. It’s a tale of polyamory, which sounds like inevitable disaster.
“You don’t mind?“
“Darling, when will you ever learn? His joy, is my joy. And his joy is YOU.” She kissed me on the lips, lightly, casually. “Go.”
I went.
Are these humans are this evolved, or just nutty?!
It’s a lot to wrap your head around, the possibility (and logistics) of these kind of relationships, which are ultimately like families. It certainly challenges you to consider situations out of your comfort zone, and explore those gray bits, because we all know nothing is ever black or white.
So, although this was unexpected, it was well written and an overall joyful read.
November 7, 2021
What do you do when what you want more than anything is to get married, but your perfect man is married to the woman who set the two of you up on a blind date? Mason has been dating a man who seems perfect, but they keep not taking the step from casual to serious. Meanwhile, his friend Claris has finally nagged him into agreeing to a date with her husband, a fashion designer named Diego. They are in an open relationship. While Mason is ok with one date before locking down his forever with Dr. Tim No-Last-Name, he can’t take Diego seriously, because Diego is already married. Without the burden of expectations, Mason and Diego have a wonderful time, and then another wonderful time. They click so beautifully, but Mason can’t see how he would ever be anything else but the guy on the side.
The Life Revamp is a lovely romance about expectations and connections. Most polyamory romances are about 3 or 4 people in a closed romantic group all having sexy times together. The open V relationship, where one person is in a romantic or sexual relationship with two people who are not romantically or sexually involved, is less represented, but very common in reality. I loved that Mason’s questions and insecurities are dealt with realistically. Mason is friends with Claris, but he is uncomfortable with her being the wife of the man he loves. It takes him a long time to believe that he could have the kind of life and love he wants with Diego. Diego is amazing. Diego and Claris are great together, and Diego and Mason are great together. Mason has wonderful friends and a pretty great life, once he gets out of his own way.
The Life Revamp is one of my favorite books I’ve read this year, and I’ve read some fantastic books this year. It’s funny and heartbreaking and cathartic. I want to spend more time with the Motherf*ckers, so I will be going back to read Kris Ripper’s The Love Study and The Hate Project. This hug of a book will be out in time to sooth your soul between Thanksgiving and the Winter Holidays.
I received this as an advance reader copy from NetGalley and Carina Adores. My opinions are my own.
The Life Revamp is a lovely romance about expectations and connections. Most polyamory romances are about 3 or 4 people in a closed romantic group all having sexy times together. The open V relationship, where one person is in a romantic or sexual relationship with two people who are not romantically or sexually involved, is less represented, but very common in reality. I loved that Mason’s questions and insecurities are dealt with realistically. Mason is friends with Claris, but he is uncomfortable with her being the wife of the man he loves. It takes him a long time to believe that he could have the kind of life and love he wants with Diego. Diego is amazing. Diego and Claris are great together, and Diego and Mason are great together. Mason has wonderful friends and a pretty great life, once he gets out of his own way.
The Life Revamp is one of my favorite books I’ve read this year, and I’ve read some fantastic books this year. It’s funny and heartbreaking and cathartic. I want to spend more time with the Motherf*ckers, so I will be going back to read Kris Ripper’s The Love Study and The Hate Project. This hug of a book will be out in time to sooth your soul between Thanksgiving and the Winter Holidays.
I received this as an advance reader copy from NetGalley and Carina Adores. My opinions are my own.
December 8, 2021
Five stars simply do not do The Life Revamp justice. In fact, I'm calling the third and final book in Kris Ripper's The Love Study series as my favorite of 2021.
The Life Revamp is the most romantic, sweet, fuzzy, squeal-inducing romance I've read in a while. I just adored Mason and Diego. And Claris was a delightful conduit for their coming together.
As I've mentioned in my reviews of the previous two books, the Marginalized Motherfuckers is the group of friends I would only be so lucky to have. Their support of each other is unwavering and they rally around Mason to help him get his happily ever after.
I enjoyed Mason's gradual realization and acceptance of what he imagined his HEA looking like and the reality of it. Diego is the perfect love interest, his attentiveness to Mason's needs and his passion in romancing Mason. Diego and Mason truly are the perfect couple.
I am thrilled how Mason's HEA turned out. He absolutely deserved to find a partner to give him the love he craved and had to offer.
***Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.***
The Life Revamp is the most romantic, sweet, fuzzy, squeal-inducing romance I've read in a while. I just adored Mason and Diego. And Claris was a delightful conduit for their coming together.
As I've mentioned in my reviews of the previous two books, the Marginalized Motherfuckers is the group of friends I would only be so lucky to have. Their support of each other is unwavering and they rally around Mason to help him get his happily ever after.
I enjoyed Mason's gradual realization and acceptance of what he imagined his HEA looking like and the reality of it. Diego is the perfect love interest, his attentiveness to Mason's needs and his passion in romancing Mason. Diego and Mason truly are the perfect couple.
I am thrilled how Mason's HEA turned out. He absolutely deserved to find a partner to give him the love he craved and had to offer.
***Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.***
December 1, 2021
Definitely thought i would’ve liked this more than I did. The premise is very interesting and based off the other book in the series I was interested in Mason’s perspective. However, it felt a little uninspired. Though I really appreciate reading a romance that felt adult, something about it felt too business like? I didn’t feel chemistry, just the ingredients for one.
With that being said, I did like Diego. I liked seeing the other relationships again. The banter was fun and felt very new and different from the other relationships. Again, this had a more mature adult feeling that came across more grounded in reality— which I liked. Just felt slow and somewhat boring?
I did enjoy reading. I wish there was more oomph to the plot.
Thank you to Netgally and Harlequin Press for this arc in exchange for my honest review.
With that being said, I did like Diego. I liked seeing the other relationships again. The banter was fun and felt very new and different from the other relationships. Again, this had a more mature adult feeling that came across more grounded in reality— which I liked. Just felt slow and somewhat boring?
I did enjoy reading. I wish there was more oomph to the plot.
Thank you to Netgally and Harlequin Press for this arc in exchange for my honest review.
August 28, 2023
I did not enjoy reading this book and read it for the sake of finishing the series. I could not relate to the mc at all but enjoyed reading the previous books much more, I identified with Oscar a lot. This is absolutely not a hate on polyamory -I have read many reverse harems en poly books and have enjoyed them immensely- but this was not IT for me. Mostly bc I felt like Mason did NOT want this and had to give up on his dream of being the one person his SO would choose always and forever and had to share Diego with Claris ALL the time! if she wasn't butting in which she did a lot, Diego would bring her up in conversation. So conversations between Mason and Diego somehow always revolved around her. I did not see how their relationship could work long term, Diego and Claris lived together so if Mason wanted to even live with Diego he would need to share a house with Claris as well if they wanted to have kids together they would have to somehow involve Claris -who didn't even want kids- in the process, so he somehow ends up in a relationship with Diego and has to always take Claris into consideration in every decision they make. Also, Claris had multiple play-mates outside her marriage Diego had both Claris AND Mason but Mason ONLY had Diego which does not seem fair. Mason doesn't want that for himself which he shouldn't have to and it's not fair for him to be with someone who is never going to put him first, while he simultaneously always will.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
December 29, 2021
Definitely one of the weirdest romances I've read, and that's saying something.
I found Mason's objections perfectly legitimate. The ending felt unsatisfying. Maybe if there was an epilogue from years down the road? Still not sure I would have bought what this story was selling.
I found Mason's objections perfectly legitimate. The ending felt unsatisfying. Maybe if there was an epilogue from years down the road? Still not sure I would have bought what this story was selling.
December 24, 2021
Sometimes the path to the love you want may be a little complicated. That's the message of Kris Ripper's
The Life Revamp
.
You’d think that being left at the altar at a young age would sour Mason on the idea of happily ever after, but he wants it all—marriage, children, a house, someone to drink coffee with in bed. But even though he’s dating someone, clearly that guy is not the one he wants.
Enter Diego. He’s a handsome fashion designer, he’s funny and intelligent. And he’s married to a (female) friend of Mason’s, but she’s the one setting them up. It turns out Diego is polyamorous and willing to have multiple relationships, regardless of the person’s gender or sexual identity.
Mason feels immediate chemistry with Diego. Their banter and flirtation ignite into something more, something which gives them both life. But how will he get the ever-after he wants if the person he wants is already married? Can he adjust his dreams and expectations, or is he setting himself up to get hurt?
The Life Revamp was a really sweet and thought-provoking book. Diego and Mason's banter was amazing!! This is the third book in a series (with The Love Study and The Hate Project ), but you can read them as standalones. (I read the first book, but not the second one.)
If you’re not open to the idea of polyamory and open relationships, I’d say this one won’t be for you. But it’s a really enjoyable book, one worth reading.
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You’d think that being left at the altar at a young age would sour Mason on the idea of happily ever after, but he wants it all—marriage, children, a house, someone to drink coffee with in bed. But even though he’s dating someone, clearly that guy is not the one he wants.
Enter Diego. He’s a handsome fashion designer, he’s funny and intelligent. And he’s married to a (female) friend of Mason’s, but she’s the one setting them up. It turns out Diego is polyamorous and willing to have multiple relationships, regardless of the person’s gender or sexual identity.
Mason feels immediate chemistry with Diego. Their banter and flirtation ignite into something more, something which gives them both life. But how will he get the ever-after he wants if the person he wants is already married? Can he adjust his dreams and expectations, or is he setting himself up to get hurt?
The Life Revamp was a really sweet and thought-provoking book. Diego and Mason's banter was amazing!! This is the third book in a series (with The Love Study and The Hate Project ), but you can read them as standalones. (I read the first book, but not the second one.)
If you’re not open to the idea of polyamory and open relationships, I’d say this one won’t be for you. But it’s a really enjoyable book, one worth reading.
See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com.
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October 28, 2021
Thank you to Carina Press for providing me with an ARC of The Life Revamp!
Mason has always been a romantic. He wants all of it: wedding bells, and a house in the suburbs, and the white picket fence. His dating history has been less than stellar, but he finally has a perfectly respectable guy. A doctor who is kind and good-looking and successful. But when Mason agrees to go on a blind date with a friend's husband just to get her off his back, he finds himself drawn to the charismatic and polyamorous Diego, a fashion designer who wears his emotion on his sleeve. Is it possible that his happily ever after might look completely different than how he imagined it?
I'm a big fan of this series, so I jumped on the chance to read Mason's story! After Declan left him at the alter and him just generally being incredibly good-looking and mopey, I was excited to read his HEA.
This is a great book on how happiness looks different for everyone. Throughout the books we see how Mason has had this one idea of what he wanted a relationship to look like, and when he finds everything he wants in a guy that's already married, it's a hard pill to swallow. There's a lot of really great commentary here on polyamory, in particular, that loving one person doesn't diminish love for another person. Mason has to decide if not being the one person his partner chooses above anyone else is okay for him, and what that might look like.
I loved Diego and Mason together. The chemistry was fantastic, and I love being able to see Mason's silly side! You could really feel the connection between them and Diego was just so incredibly sweet and earnest.
Overall, great read!
Mason has always been a romantic. He wants all of it: wedding bells, and a house in the suburbs, and the white picket fence. His dating history has been less than stellar, but he finally has a perfectly respectable guy. A doctor who is kind and good-looking and successful. But when Mason agrees to go on a blind date with a friend's husband just to get her off his back, he finds himself drawn to the charismatic and polyamorous Diego, a fashion designer who wears his emotion on his sleeve. Is it possible that his happily ever after might look completely different than how he imagined it?
I'm a big fan of this series, so I jumped on the chance to read Mason's story! After Declan left him at the alter and him just generally being incredibly good-looking and mopey, I was excited to read his HEA.
This is a great book on how happiness looks different for everyone. Throughout the books we see how Mason has had this one idea of what he wanted a relationship to look like, and when he finds everything he wants in a guy that's already married, it's a hard pill to swallow. There's a lot of really great commentary here on polyamory, in particular, that loving one person doesn't diminish love for another person. Mason has to decide if not being the one person his partner chooses above anyone else is okay for him, and what that might look like.
I loved Diego and Mason together. The chemistry was fantastic, and I love being able to see Mason's silly side! You could really feel the connection between them and Diego was just so incredibly sweet and earnest.
Overall, great read!
January 24, 2022
Mason is in his 30's. He's got friends, a good job, a good family relationship, a steady but "boring" romantic relationship, but he wants more.
He may just have found his 'more' through his friend Claris, with her husband, semi-famous fashion designer, Diego.
After being roped in by Claris to provide the marketing for a diversity fashion show, Mason finds a new meaning and possible relationship with Diego. How can that work though when he's married? How can Mason revamp his life when what he wants is unachievable romantically?
Find out!
In this third story by Kris Ripper, featuring a diversified group of friends, this one takes a look at the oft unexplored world of poly relationships. Myself, having witnessed multiple couples with a similar arrangement, this was not something new, though it was in terms of literature. (The only other time I've seen this relationship was the thruple in The Guncle by Steve Rawley.) It was nice to see this explored by all of those involved. Mason, Diego, Claris and the other characters are all well-developed and have their own arcs. This particular story hit on similar notes of "communication issues" in my personal life so thank you Kris Ripper for that reminder.
All in all, a fun and romantic read about finding yourself, going for what you want, and making things work, even in odd circumstances.
He may just have found his 'more' through his friend Claris, with her husband, semi-famous fashion designer, Diego.
After being roped in by Claris to provide the marketing for a diversity fashion show, Mason finds a new meaning and possible relationship with Diego. How can that work though when he's married? How can Mason revamp his life when what he wants is unachievable romantically?
Find out!
In this third story by Kris Ripper, featuring a diversified group of friends, this one takes a look at the oft unexplored world of poly relationships. Myself, having witnessed multiple couples with a similar arrangement, this was not something new, though it was in terms of literature. (The only other time I've seen this relationship was the thruple in The Guncle by Steve Rawley.) It was nice to see this explored by all of those involved. Mason, Diego, Claris and the other characters are all well-developed and have their own arcs. This particular story hit on similar notes of "communication issues" in my personal life so thank you Kris Ripper for that reminder.
All in all, a fun and romantic read about finding yourself, going for what you want, and making things work, even in odd circumstances.
April 9, 2023
Reread April 2023
Look at me, rereading this series and just upgrading all the ratings to 5 stars because these are really great books.
I love this little group of found family, I loved all of their stories, and I love that Ripper has written a few short stories about these characters that are available on zir Patreon (which is totally worth it, ahem ahem).
e-ARC received from NetGalley, thanks!
What a delightful book!
I’ve been hearing good things about Kris Ripper, but this is the first time I’ve read one of zir books.
This is also the first time I’ve read a romance that revolves around polyamory and I honestly wasn’t sure what to expect going in. I really liked how it was written and it felt real to me, though I don’t have any standing to say how accurately it’s portrayed or not. I think it could have easily been turned into a mess of jealousy, but it wasn’t. I liked all of the communication between the main characters, and how thoughtfully concerns were dealt with.
I liked the MC, Mason, and I really liked the love interest, Diego, and together they were so freaking adorable, I can’t even. Diego is the sweetest and the dates he planned were so swoon-y! Though it did feel rather one-sided, as Mason didn’t seem to plan much of anything, just went along with the *amazing* things Diego planned.
I also got a bit annoyed at Mason for how he viewed the relationship with Diego when he was talking/thinking about how others would see it. More than once he talked about cheating with Diego (as in, Diego was cheating on his wife with Mason), but if their marriage is open/poly, it’s not cheating. Especially where Mason is friends with Diego’s wife, Claris, and she is the one who set them up, so it’s quite obviously not cheating. And while I know Mason has these heteronormative ideas about marriage, it still felt weird that he would think of his relationship with Diego as cheating. idk, it just felt off.
Even though this is the third book in the series, I didn’t really feel like I was missing anything for having not read the first 2 books. Though with how much I enjoyed this one, I will be getting to the first two soon. They tell the stories of some of the other characters in Mason’s friend group, so I’m really looking forward to them.
Look at me, rereading this series and just upgrading all the ratings to 5 stars because these are really great books.
I love this little group of found family, I loved all of their stories, and I love that Ripper has written a few short stories about these characters that are available on zir Patreon (which is totally worth it, ahem ahem).
e-ARC received from NetGalley, thanks!
What a delightful book!
I’ve been hearing good things about Kris Ripper, but this is the first time I’ve read one of zir books.
This is also the first time I’ve read a romance that revolves around polyamory and I honestly wasn’t sure what to expect going in. I really liked how it was written and it felt real to me, though I don’t have any standing to say how accurately it’s portrayed or not. I think it could have easily been turned into a mess of jealousy, but it wasn’t. I liked all of the communication between the main characters, and how thoughtfully concerns were dealt with.
I liked the MC, Mason, and I really liked the love interest, Diego, and together they were so freaking adorable, I can’t even. Diego is the sweetest and the dates he planned were so swoon-y! Though it did feel rather one-sided, as Mason didn’t seem to plan much of anything, just went along with the *amazing* things Diego planned.
I also got a bit annoyed at Mason for how he viewed the relationship with Diego when he was talking/thinking about how others would see it. More than once he talked about cheating with Diego (as in, Diego was cheating on his wife with Mason), but if their marriage is open/poly, it’s not cheating. Especially where Mason is friends with Diego’s wife, Claris, and she is the one who set them up, so it’s quite obviously not cheating. And while I know Mason has these heteronormative ideas about marriage, it still felt weird that he would think of his relationship with Diego as cheating. idk, it just felt off.
Even though this is the third book in the series, I didn’t really feel like I was missing anything for having not read the first 2 books. Though with how much I enjoyed this one, I will be getting to the first two soon. They tell the stories of some of the other characters in Mason’s friend group, so I’m really looking forward to them.
December 12, 2021
This was so fun! I really want to read more poly rep that isn't closed relationships. I'm probably saying it wrong but I want to read more books with metamours and multiple partners who aren't all together as one. This book features Mason who we know from the rest of the series as Declan's ex. Mason is a romantic and he wants to get married and have a white picket fence and the whole nine yards. His dream is disrupted when he starts to fall for Diego, who is already married to Claris. Diego and Claris have an open marriage and Mason has to kind of navigate whether or not he can handle this sort of ethical non-monogamy. The audiobook for this is exceptionally well done as expected since the other two in the series were also great audios.
My single gripe with this book is that there's a quote towards the beginning where Mason makes a comment about how he is "basically demisexual" and he uses it as a way to describe that he WANTS to have an emotional connection with people before he has sex with them and that sort of blatant misrepresentation of demisexuality is actually harmful to the asexual community and even though it's a small comment in his book it is a big deal. Friendly reminder that demisexuality means that someone doesn't feel sexual attraction until they form an emotional bond. They literally NEED an emotional bond before they feel any sort of sexual attraction. This is not the same as waiting to have sex until you are emotionally connected to someone. Also I don't even know why this was really pointed out in this book because at numerous parts Mason identifies as pansexual and of course someone can be both demisexual and pansexual but that wasn't the message that was sent here.
As a whole though I really enjoyed this book and while The Love study remains my favorite of the series, this was an enjoyable read.
My single gripe with this book is that there's a quote towards the beginning where Mason makes a comment about how he is "basically demisexual" and he uses it as a way to describe that he WANTS to have an emotional connection with people before he has sex with them and that sort of blatant misrepresentation of demisexuality is actually harmful to the asexual community and even though it's a small comment in his book it is a big deal. Friendly reminder that demisexuality means that someone doesn't feel sexual attraction until they form an emotional bond. They literally NEED an emotional bond before they feel any sort of sexual attraction. This is not the same as waiting to have sex until you are emotionally connected to someone. Also I don't even know why this was really pointed out in this book because at numerous parts Mason identifies as pansexual and of course someone can be both demisexual and pansexual but that wasn't the message that was sent here.
As a whole though I really enjoyed this book and while The Love study remains my favorite of the series, this was an enjoyable read.
February 3, 2022
I ADORE Kris Ripper, and I adore the rest of the M0therfu£kers series, but this one wasn't for me. I had to DNF at about 20%. I even went and read the last few chapters to see if maybe I was being too hasty because I LOVE KRIS RIPPER, but it still wasn't my cup of tea.
Essentially, I couldn't get past the fact that Mason had to be the one to give everything up. I respect Diego's boundaries, but I honestly couldn't imagine how they could have a future when Mason was surely going to feel jealousy and FOMO in future. I felt as though if we came back to the characters in 5 years, Mason might be resentful. That's a surefire way to more and more bitterness as the years go by. And they talk about bringing KIDS into it.
I think what would have saved this would have been a longer dénouement, a serious conversation between Mason and Claris (and Diego!) about logistics, as well as an epilogue showing a few years later how they worked it out. Diego just saying "we'll work it out!" wasn't sufficient for me.
I'm SO SORRY Kris! I love you as a writer, but this one didn't do it for me. Looking forward to your next release tho!! 💖💖💖
Essentially, I couldn't get past the fact that Mason had to be the one to give everything up. I respect Diego's boundaries, but I honestly couldn't imagine how they could have a future when Mason was surely going to feel jealousy and FOMO in future. I felt as though if we came back to the characters in 5 years, Mason might be resentful. That's a surefire way to more and more bitterness as the years go by. And they talk about bringing KIDS into it.
I think what would have saved this would have been a longer dénouement, a serious conversation between Mason and Claris (and Diego!) about logistics, as well as an epilogue showing a few years later how they worked it out. Diego just saying "we'll work it out!" wasn't sufficient for me.
I'm SO SORRY Kris! I love you as a writer, but this one didn't do it for me. Looking forward to your next release tho!! 💖💖💖
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
June 8, 2024
2.5. I liked this the least of the series.
I’m not against romances that feature poly relationships. I just think the one in this book strained plausibility. And left me feeling angry on behalf of the monogamous main character (who I loved from the previous two books). This didn’t feel like a happy ending to me.
I couldn’t get past the ultimate conflict that a monogamous person falls in love with a polyamorous person who is in an open marriage. The poly person was really dismissive of the other’s concerns and needs. At one point they basically said “I’m poly, so deal.” I would have liked to see the other person reply, “I’m not” or “I’m monogamous.” How can you have a successful relationship where there’s such a fundamental difference in expectations? How could this relationship not end in resentment?
Also, the ending was super abrupt. I agree with other reviewers that this would have benefited from an epilogue showing how this ultimately worked out.
I’m not against romances that feature poly relationships. I just think the one in this book strained plausibility. And left me feeling angry on behalf of the monogamous main character (who I loved from the previous two books). This didn’t feel like a happy ending to me.
I couldn’t get past the ultimate conflict that a monogamous person falls in love with a polyamorous person who is in an open marriage. The poly person was really dismissive of the other’s concerns and needs. At one point they basically said “I’m poly, so deal.” I would have liked to see the other person reply, “I’m not” or “I’m monogamous.” How can you have a successful relationship where there’s such a fundamental difference in expectations? How could this relationship not end in resentment?
Also, the ending was super abrupt. I agree with other reviewers that this would have benefited from an epilogue showing how this ultimately worked out.
November 12, 2021
I had such a good time reading this. I started one evening planning to just read a bit, but it turned into one of those too-late nights because I just wanted more of them. I loved both MCs. The banter and comfortableness of them with each other is a delight to read.
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The story: Mason agrees to an evening out with a friend and her husband, who are in a polyamorous relationship. Mason knows he wants marriage, kids, and practically the white picket fence, so even though the friend is playing matchmaker between Mason and her husband, Mason knows it won’t become anything.
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…And then he meets Diego.
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It’s written in Mason’s single POV, and I think Kris Ripper did a great job with his uncertainties and insecurities about what he wants in life and relationships. Ripper’s relationships are all so different, and I always enjoy discovering how zir characters will find their ways to each other.
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I want more more more of Mason and Diego being together…I would definitely appreciate a “5 years later” style epilogue, which isn’t part of the book. But I know Ripper often sends out bonus material on zir newsletter, so I’m hoping for that. I LOVE THEM and I’m going to reread this book now.
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Note on being book 3: You’ll be ok even without reading the previous two, but certainly knowing the backstory on some of the friends adds another level. The friends are well and truly *themselves* even when in another’s book: no easy feat.
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The story: Mason agrees to an evening out with a friend and her husband, who are in a polyamorous relationship. Mason knows he wants marriage, kids, and practically the white picket fence, so even though the friend is playing matchmaker between Mason and her husband, Mason knows it won’t become anything.
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…And then he meets Diego.
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It’s written in Mason’s single POV, and I think Kris Ripper did a great job with his uncertainties and insecurities about what he wants in life and relationships. Ripper’s relationships are all so different, and I always enjoy discovering how zir characters will find their ways to each other.
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I want more more more of Mason and Diego being together…I would definitely appreciate a “5 years later” style epilogue, which isn’t part of the book. But I know Ripper often sends out bonus material on zir newsletter, so I’m hoping for that. I LOVE THEM and I’m going to reread this book now.
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Note on being book 3: You’ll be ok even without reading the previous two, but certainly knowing the backstory on some of the friends adds another level. The friends are well and truly *themselves* even when in another’s book: no easy feat.
December 1, 2021
The Life Revamp is a fabulously unique romance by Kris Ripper. The third book in The Love Study series, it's easily read as a standalone.
The romance in this one is an untraditional one, making for a fantastic read.
Mason always wanted to fall in love, get married, and spend his life happily ever after with the man he loves. But things change when he meets Diego.
Diego's a polyamorous man who's married to Mason's friend. Diego wants to be with Mason but Mason struggles with what that might look like.
This book is an important look into what love can look like. Not everyone wants monogamy. Not everyone wants to be in a throuple. Some people want to be married, but also have a separate relationship with someone else.
I enjoy all of Mason's thought processes and insecurities about what a relationship with Diego could look like.
But best of all, I like Mason and I like Diego. Their non-traditional romance is well done, compelling, and well worth a read.
This is Mason's story, all told from Mason's first person pov. The author does a great job exploring Mason's feelings, worries, and doubts.
The Life Revamp is an interesting read. I definitely recommend this Kris Ripper book when you're in the mood for a romance that's a little different.
The romance in this one is an untraditional one, making for a fantastic read.
Mason always wanted to fall in love, get married, and spend his life happily ever after with the man he loves. But things change when he meets Diego.
Diego's a polyamorous man who's married to Mason's friend. Diego wants to be with Mason but Mason struggles with what that might look like.
This book is an important look into what love can look like. Not everyone wants monogamy. Not everyone wants to be in a throuple. Some people want to be married, but also have a separate relationship with someone else.
I enjoy all of Mason's thought processes and insecurities about what a relationship with Diego could look like.
But best of all, I like Mason and I like Diego. Their non-traditional romance is well done, compelling, and well worth a read.
This is Mason's story, all told from Mason's first person pov. The author does a great job exploring Mason's feelings, worries, and doubts.
The Life Revamp is an interesting read. I definitely recommend this Kris Ripper book when you're in the mood for a romance that's a little different.
October 25, 2021
Copy provided by the publisher and NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
The Life Revamp is a total gem! It's full of heart, love and charm. I loved this book so much! I haven't read any of the other stories from the Love Study series but I will be getting them now! I had no issues reading this without reading the other first. I loved Mason! He was so much fun to get to know. I also loved Diego! I really enjoyed reading about a different type of relationship. It's rare to read a story about polyamory. It's even rarer to read one that's written in such a delightful positive way. I loved watching Mason and Diegos relationship flourish. Also, I enjoyed the theme of chosen family in this story. I really couldn't have loved The Life Revamp anymore!
The Life Revamp is a total gem! It's full of heart, love and charm. I loved this book so much! I haven't read any of the other stories from the Love Study series but I will be getting them now! I had no issues reading this without reading the other first. I loved Mason! He was so much fun to get to know. I also loved Diego! I really enjoyed reading about a different type of relationship. It's rare to read a story about polyamory. It's even rarer to read one that's written in such a delightful positive way. I loved watching Mason and Diegos relationship flourish. Also, I enjoyed the theme of chosen family in this story. I really couldn't have loved The Life Revamp anymore!
November 27, 2021
4.5/5 stars
Unexpectedly good!
This type of story and general relationship between MCs is new to me and I was so excited to read about it for the first time! I think this is a perfect "beginner" book to introduce a reader to a polyamorous relationship because I really enjoyed this story, I loved all the characters, and the relationship between the MCs was new, but it opened my eyes to a whole new romance genre! It's a unique read that I think everyone should read at least once and get to witness Diego in all his glory!
Thank you to NetGalley and Harlequin for the earc in return for an honest review.
Unexpectedly good!
This type of story and general relationship between MCs is new to me and I was so excited to read about it for the first time! I think this is a perfect "beginner" book to introduce a reader to a polyamorous relationship because I really enjoyed this story, I loved all the characters, and the relationship between the MCs was new, but it opened my eyes to a whole new romance genre! It's a unique read that I think everyone should read at least once and get to witness Diego in all his glory!
Thank you to NetGalley and Harlequin for the earc in return for an honest review.
April 23, 2022
Okay YES I loved this one! Best in the series for sure. I adored the characters and the way they were silly and playful together. The unusual relationship dynamic was explored so authentically and with such care. I really loved how Mason's fears and concerns were given airtime and how Diego helped him process his changed image of the future. Also, Mason is definitely going on the list of characters I would love to just, hang out with and have an inspiring conversation together.
Top marks as well for the audiobook narrator here - he definitely added layers to my enjoyment of this story!
Top marks as well for the audiobook narrator here - he definitely added layers to my enjoyment of this story!
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