Wow, Janet experienced such tragedy and hardship at such young ages that I couldn't imagine how I would have reacted if they'd happened to me. This memoir was published almost 20 years ago, but it still resonates. Amidst the pandemic and the Black Lives Matter and Stop Asian Hate movements, her reflections of finding her own identity as a half Black/half Filipina child of elder parents was heartbreaking yet hopeful. I appreciated her vulnerability and identified with her insecurities. Even though she's about my oldest brother's age, her reminiscences of her childhood and college years are very familiar, especially her experiences in Southern California and the Bay Area. Overall an important story in the Fil-Am diaspora.