Anxious Attachment No More !!: The Exclusive Roadmap To strive Towards Secure Attachment In Relationships

by Taha Zaid

Do you find yourself worrying that your partner will leave you or cheat on you? Do fears that you are unworthy make you fixate on the idea that you aren’t good enough for strong relationships. Do you find yourself getting angry at your partner when anxious feelings creep in? Do you want to feel safer in your relationships? If the answer to any of these questions are yes, you may have an anxious attachment style that causes you to feel a great deal of anxiety over normal relationship activities and behaviors. You cannot relax in the relationships when you have this anxiety, so you miss out on much of the happiness that you could have if you had an insecure attachment style. Millions of people around the world have insecure attachment styles. Anxious attachment is a common form of insecure attachment, and it creates worry and distrust in relationships. Twenty percent of all people have an anxious attachment style, which makes it hard for those people to build relationships that feel safe. When you have an insecure attachment style, you may tend to self-sabotage relationships, and you may feel unable to trust your partner’s love. You may think that you are never going to be worthy of another person’s love, and you worry that they will someday betray you. Those worries are based on the past issues that have taught you to expect certain types of treatment in relationships, and those expectations make you feel insecure and anxious. This book will teach If you have an anxious attachment style, you may struggle to believe you will ever be worthy enough for potential partners, and you may doubt that relationships will ever work out. While it takes hard work to change an insecure attachment style, research shows that people can create secure attachment by doing work on themselves and facilitating better communication with partners. All you need is to learn the tools that this book provides and begin to apply them to your life. Don’t wait to feel secure in relationships. Start right now! If you want to get to the root of your relationship problems and resolve them for good, then scroll up and click the “Add to Cart” button right now.

Genres: Relationships

162 pages, Paperback

Published May 21, 2021

About the author

I am Taha Zaid, a Dating Coach. For over three years, I have been advising my clients with their own relationship problems that they did not understand. I know that every human in the world seeks connection. Even those who are anxious or avoidant can achieve healthy attachments that you will need to establish healthy and supportive relationships. By understanding yourself, getting to know yourself and your partner, becoming capable of accepting yourself and your partner, and facilitating communication, anyone can learn to love their partner healthily. It may take time and effort, but anyone can learn to have good, stable relationships.

Reviews

[Piret Pernik]

I've read a lot on attachment styles and cognitive behavioural therapy. I'd recommend this book to a reader who is new in this type of literature. One thing that interested me in this book was ways to improve self-esteem. The book rightly states that people with anxious attachment style tend to have low self-esteem and are prone to anxiety and depression. Everyone knows that self-esteem is important but how do increase it is a challenge. Staring from early childhood, you grow up thinking there's something wrong with you. Social norms reinforce this. The book advises to accept failure, take care of self (exercise), indulge your interests (which make you feel confident), and challenge your flawed beliefs about yourself. "Ugly" is a social standard and you don't have to believe in it, suggests the book. For example, per beauty standards, women with beard are considered not feminite and not very sexy, but in reality 10-20% of women have not only unwanted hair but also struggle with extra weight (for example, those who have PCOS). So you may start to think that hair is okay. You may start to see that your negative thoughts about being ugly are actually not true. You may have some beautiful parts (maybe your hands, or your eyes) and this negates a label of ugly. Instead of focusing on negative beliefs, make the positive ones. The trick is not to accept societal standards, because you are unique and how you are, is beautiful in your eyes (don't believe into social norms). Negative thoughts and feelings are just thoughts and feelings, it is not the real you. This helps to build self love and thus self esteem. The book is full of advise in various areas related to attachment styles and romantic relationships. For example, it advises that don't try to control your partner. Overall, this advise is very good, but the question remains - even though we know that smoking is unhealthy and kills, how do we quit when we are addicted to it?

[Sunita S · Rating 5 out of 5]

Humans have two types of people, one being giver and the other one being taker. The human race runs smoothly when both the givers and takers set up their own boundaries. However in today’s world, people who give are so much into giving that they cease to forget themselves as humans. “Anxious Attachment” by Taha Zaid is one such book which guides people on how they should carry themselves and how everything is fixable in life.

With too much giving, people tend to get attach easily and the minutest of reaction sets up into overthinking. People do fall in a loop wherein they themselves fail to understand on how to deal with a situation or relationship or living-in a constant fear. Zaid clarifies us on how this behaviour is something which is linked to childhood and is completely acceptable and guides the readers on how we can work on changing them. The book speaks of people’s mind on how they feel emotionally unavailable or worthless when they are devoid of the expectations they make.

The book focusses on what secure attachment is and explains in brief on how people can identify the anxious and trigger patterns and how they can work on themselves to overcome it. With many practical exercises being discussed in the book, as a reader I felt each one of us surely passes through them at some stage of our life and these exercises are genuinely necessary in today’s world.

The best part of the book is how Zaid calmly explains that this all is a process and will need time to implement it. With todays fast paced generation and growing technology, definitely there is a gap when it comes to human emotions, relationships, friendships but this book guides us on how we need to maintain between all the relations and the key point being first focus on us and ourselves. This book is surely a must read for all readers to understand themselves and the people around you. Do grab your copies at the earliest.

[Annie · Rating 5 out of 5]

As humans, we surely have one or relationship in our life which somewhere affects us the most. The relationship could be any relation wherein any small reaction or unavailability do triggers us. “Anxious Attachment” by Taha Zaid describes in brief all about those relationship patterns and how we need to deal with ourselves and others while sailing through them.

With anxious attachment being explained in depth, Zaid does bring in the confidence amongst readers on how it is a part of human life and how we can fix up the same. He has traced the roots of anxious attachment to childhood and how people do co-relate every small incident or reaction to past is something which needs to be worked on. Zaid also focusses on how people should work on vulnerability, self esteem, setting up boundaries and their own mental health to overcome anxious attachment.

Zaid also has explained on how people should be able to analyse the patterns they are attracting it life and work on corrective measures to handle them. Zaid has also shared a list of practical exercises which definitely needs to be followed to slowly heal ourselves and is necessary for long lasting relationship. With Active listening and open communication being one of the key concepts to a healthy relationship, the book has a good list of exercises with multiple situations which can make a person calmer and analyse their thoughts.

Zaid also explains in brief various techniques on how people should be open, assertive and be kind along with setting boundaries, seeking help if they are struggling with mental health issues. This book is surely the need of the hour with today’s people falling a lot to anxiety, depression and various mental health issues. This book feels like a calm, slow healing guide which holds your hand during times of relationship adversity. A must have in your shelf for sure.

[Elena · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practical book

I enjoyed this practical and simple book, with no fluff or theories at all. How the writer put the chapter's on order made it super easy to follow along and swim with the flow. I was blessed to be one of the first readers who had the chance to read this effective journey and start to figure out the missing pieces to strive towards secure attachment and have an ending with my insecurities. I also liked that there are no false promises or guaranteed results from the writer. The journey needs work and consistency, but I'm sure that it will be simple for every anxious attacher in a relationship with the guide of this book. Thank you for the work, and congrats again.

[Alexis Chateau · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book on anxious attachment

This was a brief and informative read! I bought the book after someone joked that I may have an anxious attachment style, but it turns out I don't really relate to anything in this book. Instead, it describes my ex. The thing I found interesting is how having even one anxious attachment person in a relationship can start to skew things in a negative direction, especially if the other person is not accustomed to that level of anxiety in a partner. I, unfortunately, was totally unprepared for that level of anxious behavior.

[Maria · Rating 5 out of 5]

People who struggle with anxiety in relationships or finds themselves repeating the same painful patterns then this book is definitely for them also beneficial for people in general. Taha Zaid explains complex ideas like attachment theory in very simple terms showing how childhood experiences shape how we connect with others as adults. It helps readers understand that anxious attachment isn’t a flaw but it’s something that can be healed. The step by step tools for improving communication, managing emotions, and creating healthy, secure relationships are truly treasures in my opinion.

[MD. Silvia Montenegro · Rating 5 out of 5]

Asombroso

Realmente pude darme cuenta de la raiz del apego ansioso, las heridas emocionales creadas desde la infancia que pueden ser tratadas para no estancarme emocionalmente. Recomiendo este libro pars todos los que desean liberarse de culpas y vivir más plenamente reconociendo los lenguajes del amor y la importancia de sintonizar con nuestras parejas para sentirnos amados y dar el amor que los otros requieren, no necesariamente es la forma como yo me siento amado.

[Durganandy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is incredibly genuine. The author’s honest sharing about having an emotionally unavailable parent immediately makes the topic of attachment feel real. The early sections clearly list the seven ways childhood trauma prevents secure attachment. Reading this provided instant clarity on the roots of my own relationship struggles. It's a supportive and highly informative read from the start.

[Ajith · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is highly practical. It clearly explains how avoidant and anxious attachment styles ruin adult relationships with clinginess or distance. Crucially, it provides immediate steps to improve communication. The sections on active listening and defining arguments are simple, effective, and gave me tools I can use immediately to stop repeating the same relationship mistakes. Excellent stuff!

[Paolapass08gnail.Com · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book!

I recently realized that I have a anxious attachments in my relationships. I had no idea why but in my quest to heal I have been looking for books that could make me understand my actions and reactions to certain behaviors.
Thank you so much for writing this very helpful book.

Now to heal!!

[Ayush Singh · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book focus on building self-awareness to developing a secure sense of self.when you feel your connection with a partner is threatened constantly checking phone ,sending repeated messages.Instead of these things people can change mindset and turn activities that help you feel better in the moment.Must read....

[Abhishek Yadav · Rating 5 out of 5]

This involves recognising patterns of behaviour stemming from a fear of abandonment,practicing mindfulness and challenging negative beliefs about relationships.when you feel anxious treat yourself with kindness and understanding this help build a foundation of self -worth,comfort in stability and calm connection.

[Amaan Siddiqui · Rating 5 out of 5]

An overview of overcoming anxious attachment by understanding learn to calm yourself using deep breathing , meditation and other grounding technique when you feel triggered.Express your needs and desires in a clear direct way to foster understanding and sense of security in your relationships and developing a secure attachment style. I really liked this book.

[Disha Singh · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book offers techniques for learning how to communicate effectively and set boundaries in a healthy way and teaches methods for self -soothing and managing intense emotions on your own.This builds independence and emotional resilience.It encourage readers to engage in self reflection and healings from emotional wounds builds trust and reduce relationship stress . Highly recommended.

[Shanthini · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book shifts from why we have attachment issues to how to grow and change your relationships. The focus on mental toughness and seeing challenges as opportunities is truly motivating. It gave me practical advice on how to be more open and honest with my partner during hard times, which is essential for lasting connections.

[Siva · Rating 5 out of 5]

This final part brings everything together perfectly by explaining interdependence. It’s so helpful to see the difference between healthy dependency (mutual give-and-take) and harmful codependency. The book expertly guides you toward finding the right balance between independence and intimacy, ensuring your relationships are strong, loving, and sustainable.

[Divya · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you feel permanently "damaged" by your past, read this book now. This section is a massive relief, focusing on true self-empowerment. It teaches that you are not a victim of your past; you have the power to heal and turn insecure attachment into a secure bond. The emphasis on self-care and gratitude is brilliant.

[Pooja · Rating 5 out of 5]

This section dives deep into compatibility, which is so important! I loved learning about the Six Kinds of Love and how they mix with attachment styles. The book doesn't just name the problems; it gives a clear framework for understanding why you connect with certain people. It's a fantastic, insightful guide to choosing a healthier partner.

[Tiffany Randle · Rating 4 out of 5]

easy read

Good perspectives
Guidelines to a more healed individual
Seems like basic steps and self explanatory.
Real easy read….
First step to recovery. Now it’s on you to do the work

[Diana Navarrete · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very informative

I enjoyed this book because I was able to experience self realizations and work through my insecurities. This book was a great outlook on overcoming anxious attachment.

[Sai · Rating 5 out of 5]

If anyone is struggling with insecurities in relationship and want to build a healthy one, this book is full of advices and also comforting to read. By the end, you'll be able to spot your inner doubts and have simple, practical, effective steps to work on them.

[Sejal Warwatkar · Rating 5 out of 5]

I liked the chapter on cultivating emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence plays a critical role when you suffer from insecure attachment. Good emotional intelligence helps you communicate better, empathize with others, and defuse conflict. Much needed insights.

[Natalie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent and informative book, with helpful suggestions to assist the anxiously attached move towards security.

[Caprice · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good advice and explaination. Enjoyed this book overall.

[Sandy · Rating 2 out of 5]

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[Inam · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing!
This is the most helpful book I’ve read concerning Anxious attachment style. It’s very informative and the author explains everything in a simple yet precise way. It’s been an eye opener for me, as I have realized the many areas I need to work on. It’s also very accurate and I found myself relating to pretty much everything. What I liked most about it is the ways listed in which we can overcome anxious attachment. I would definitely recommend this to everyone looking to heal from it. Loved it!!

[Andrés Hernández · Rating 5 out of 5]

He leído varios de estos títulos ya que mi apego ansioso no me deja relacionarme de la mejor manera con mis círculos. La mayoría peca de extenderse en la teoría, sin embargo este tiene una buena dosis de teoría mezclada con mucha acción, realmente puntos de vista que te permiten tomar cartas en el asunto para entender mejor como mudar ese apego ansioso hacia uno más seguro. Altamente recomendado.

[Chelsea Carreira · Rating 2 out of 5]

It was ok. Didn't find it to be as insightful as the other things I learned about attachments this year.

[Gaia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I cried. I laughed. I healed.
one of my favorite books.

[Tamara Ventura · Rating 3 out of 5]

..."Tus primeras relaciones te enseñaron que las personas no son confiables y que eventualmente te decepcionarán"...