BOOKS: Dan's 73 books have been published in 24 countries. His adult best-sellers include EXES, LOVE KILLS, HOW TO BE A JEWISH MOTHER, HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE, and HOW TO AVOID LOVE AND MARRIAGE. How to be a Jewish Mother sold several million copies. It and How to Make Yourself Miserable were in print for 30 years and were on Publishers Weekly’s list of all-time bestsellers. Amazon will publish Dan’s third psychological thriller, FEAR ITSELF, in January 2014. They’ll also republish his first two thrillers, EXES and LOVE KILLS. He’s written four series of children's books: THE ZACK FILES, SECRETS OF DRIPPING FANG, WEIRD PLANET, and MAXIMUM BOY. The Zack Files sold more than 2 million copies, was translated into 20 languages, and generated an Emmy-winning 52-episode TV series that ran on Showtime and Fox Family.
ADVENTURES: Dan has written extensively about his adventures: Riding with NYPD homicide detectives for two years to research thrillers FEAR ITSELF, EXES, and LOVE KILLS. Interviewing murderers alone in their maximum security prison cells for FEAR ITSELF. Attending autopsies in the NYC morgue for EXES. Learning how to discipline tigers and lions on a Texas tiger ranch. Swimming with 80,000 lb. humpback whales in the deep ocean. Flying upside down with a stunt pilot in an open-cockpit biplane. Participating in dangerous voodoo rites in Haiti. Riding with NYC firemen for four months and following them into burning buildings. Searching for the Loch Ness Monster. Assisting exorcists in a Connecticut house attacked by poltergeists. Acting a major character role in a Western movie filmed in Spain. Doing stand-up comedy at the New York Improv, and on TV talk shows. Getting screamed at by Orson Welles on the set of Catch-22 in Mexico.
MAGAZINES: Dan’s articles have appeared in The New Yorker, Esquire, New York Magazine, The New York Times Book Review, The New York Times Magazine, Vanity Fair, The Huffington Post, Time, Life, Newsweek, Ms., Playboy, and have been reprinted in 44 humor anthologies in the U.S. and England.
MOVIES AND TV: Dan has had six of his feature films produced, two of which are on Variety’s list of top grossing films.
THEATER: Along with Jules Feiffer, John Lennon and Samuel Beckett, Dan was a contributor to Oh! Calcutta!, which ran on Broadway for 21 years. He was also a contributor to Free to be You and Me, which ran off and on Broadway for years.
MISC.: Dan has appeared on The Today Show, The Tonight Show, Larry King Live, and Late Night with David Letterman. He grew up in Chicago, got his BFA from the University of Illinois, and his MFA from UCLA. He lives in Westchester, NY and British Columbia with his author wife Judith Greenburg and many cats.
I just finished this after a friend read it an thought of me. It is a really funny book, but I think the well-adjusted might assume it is hyperbole. With the exception of a couple sections, this book more or less encapsulates my current world view/emotional state with only the slightest amount of over-exaggeration.
The entire process of reading this book was me reading a passage, feeling like it was a very accurate description of my reactions, thoughts and decisions in a situation and then realize with faint horror/mild embarrassment that the whole book is, in fact, written as gentle mockery meant to prod people out of stubbornly making themselves miserable. In that effort, it largely succeeds, although naturally the utility of the book will largely depend on how much you identify with the caricatures within. I would really like to say I closed the book with a hearty laugh, and went roaring out the door with a lightness in my heart and merriment in my mind. I did not do that. But it really gave me a lot to think about. I think I had never before realized how completely I let anxiety and a stubborn refusal to be happy take over my entire life.
I recommend this book if:
a) You make yourself miserable and are ready to take a little friendly prodding about it.
b) you want to understand how your anxious friends work. People really do exist this way and it's a hard thing to break out of.
c) You need a laugh. It's genuinely amusing, especially if you like mocking anxious people.
I first read this book nearly 45 years ago, and of course it is written as humor, though when I first read it, I was uncomfortably aware that I did many of the things in the book even though I most certainly did not want to be miserable! It is written as a "how to" guide, and indeed, if you followed its instructions y0u would be miserable. You could also read it as a cautionary tale and stop torturing yourself. The guide covers: 1. Basics of Self Torture 2. Seven Classic Misery Making Situations: Noises in the Night, Giving and Receiving Gifts, Waiting, Vacations, Dinner Parties, Minor Infractions of the Law, Pregnancy and Childbirth, Fintress Exercise & Dieting, Flying 3. Misery about the Past, Present and Future 4. How to Lose Friends and Alienate People 5. How to Lose Your Job 6. How to Avoid Deep, Romantic Relationships 7. How to Destroy Deep, Romantic Relationships 8. How to Lose and Remaining Relationships My favorite part of the book is the authors explanation of how to create a First Class Anxiety (FCA): First, create a 3 dimensional worry. To create a 3-D worry, it must meet the following criteria: 1. There must be hell to pay if your fear proves to be true 2. There must be some evidence that your fear will prove to be true 3. There must be a substantial period of time to wait before you can find out if your fear is true Second, you must add creative negative thinking, then mellow it with time Finally, you take 3 steps to turn your fears into a First Class Anxiety (FCA): 1. Figure out the one way you could find out if your fears are justified 2. Figure out why the action of finding out is impossible to take 3. Figure out why inaction is equally impossible to take This will produce Frenzy, thus completing the transformation to Anxiety because..... a mellow 3-dimensional worry (3DWm) plus Frenzy (F) are all you need to create a First Class Anxiety (FCA), so 3DWm + F = FCA This is a great gift for the neurotic masochist in your life!!
A pretty funny book! It pointed out so many things we do to make ourselves miserable without even thinking about it. It's an insightful and humorous book that makes puts some things of one's life into perspective.
A hilarious, sarcastic view of how we strive to make ourselves miserable. You'll downright laugh at all the petty reasons we choose to mope over or get anxious about. A short, fun, eye-opening read 🙌🏻
I read the Swedish 1970s edition, and it made me laugh a lot. HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE is an almost perfect parody of those countless American "positive thinking" self-help books (more are coming every year).
This book "teaches" you how to become more neurotic, depressed, unsuccessful and lonely - through the power of Negative Thinking. It works both as a send-up of self-help books, and as a guide to recognizing self-destructive negative thinking.
Some people think this book is too dark, or touches a raw nerve. But humor helps us deal with and talk about uncomfortable subjects - and if this book won't make you laugh, please seek professional help.
On of my friend gave me this book in a used book library and it is the best gift i have received in a long time. If it is your kind of humor you will love this book. The auteur gives advice to make your own life miserable and while reading you will keep telling yourself ''this is ridiculous, who would do such things, ever?'' and then you get to a point in the book and go ''Oh, I do this''. That is the moment the book gets hilarious when it makes you realize some of the things you do that are completely stupid and serve no other purpose than make your life harder.
* Možda možete osetiti privremenu bedu pokušavajući da čitate ovu knjigu u knjižari, pod sumnjičavim okom prodavca. Ali za pravo, trajno bedno stanje – zašto ne biste kupili knjigu, odneli je kući i posvetili ovoj vitalnoj oblasti svog života zasluženu pažnju?
* Čemu vas uči ova knjiga
- Zašto da cmizdrite ako niste bogati, poznati, lepi, talentovani - Zašto da cmizdrite ako jeste bogati, poznati, lepi, talentovani - Kako da se kajete zbog svega što ste ikada učinili ili što je trebalo da učinite - Kako da se nervirate zbog čudnih šumova u noći - Kako da se nervirate zbog skupih restorana - Kako da se nervirate u vezi s letovanjem u inostranstvu - Kako da se uništavate dok čekate važan telefonski poziv - Kako da upropastite veče kada ste konačno izašli sa nekim - Kako da postignete da vas ljudi odbace na zabavama i drugim mestima - Kako da izgubite posao, prijatelje, životnog partnera - Kako da se osećate još teskobnije nego do sada
i još mnogo, mnogo toga...
* Uvod
Poštovani prosečni mazohisto! Previše ste se zapetljali u neefikasne i zaobilazne puteve u ostvarivanju tako važnog cilja kao što je kažnjavanje samog sebe za svoje različite grehove. Suviše vremena trošite da biste gajili svoju nedovoljno kvalitetnu nervozu i nesavršene metode samokažnjavanja, jednostavno zato što je ovo izuzetno značajno polje oduvek bilo naučno zapostavljeno. Konačno, ispred vas je knjiga koju ste dugo čekali. Ona će Vas voditi korak po korak u istraživanje svake faze samomučenja i samoponižavanja, otkrivajući Vam metode koje su autori isprobali na svojoj koži. Od srca Vam želimo da na ovim stranicama nađete inspiraciju i otkrijete načine za vođenje jednog zaista bolnog, ništavnog i bednog života.
* Zašto da budete bedni?
Vi ste, to zasigurno možemo tvrditi, krivi. Ne znamo baš tačno za šta ste krivi, ali to zapravo nije ni važno. Najverovatnije se radi o nečem mutnom. Možda pomišljate na slučaj kada ste vašem tati ponudili kolonjsku vodu umesto njegovog omiljenog aperitiva, ili kada ste pobegli sa devojkom vašeg najboljeg prijatelja. Ili se radi o nečem još egzotičnijem, kao što su tajna, romantična osećanja prema: (1) poslovođi vaše samoposluge; (2) vašoj sestri; (3) vašem dobermanu; (4) vašem kišobranu. Štogod da ste odabrali, vaša stvar. Za nas je jedino važno da ste se dobro upetljali, da se zbog toga osećate krivim, i da, sasvim logično, želite da budete kažnjeni za svoju krivicu. Ko će vas kazniti? Vaš otac? Vaš najbolji prijatelj? Onaj poslovođa? Teško. Ovi ljudi nemaju pojma koliki su vaši gresi. Osim toga, suviše su zauzeti kažnjavanjem sebe da bi se bavili vama. Očigledno je da ćete taj posao morati da obavite sami. Dobro, ali kako? Kako da učinite sebe toliko bednim koliko zaista zaslužujete? Verovatno ste već razvili nekoliko vlastitih metoda za postizanje bednog stanja, kao što je kinjenje bolesnim strahom u vezi sa boluckanjem u stomaku, ili gnjavaža oko toga šta je trebalo reći neotesanom prodavcu iz robne kuće. Ali mi vam možemo pomoći da sve to radite bolje. U ovoj knjizi ćemo vam prikazati dva puta do bede koji su veoma laki za praćenje, a krajnje su efikasni. Prva metoda. “Kreiranje anksioznosti”, može se sprovoditi nasamo. Druga, “Kako da vas ljudi odbace”, zahteva korišćenje drugih kao nesvesnih saučesnika. Ove tehnike, kombinovane u jedan intenzivan, ali senzitivan program praćenja mućenja sebe (self-torture), predstavljaju sve što treba da dostignete da biste ovladali naprednijom metodom “Totalne lične bede”.
* Konačno sami!
Čestitamo! Isterali ste sve koje ste znali iz vašeg života. Neometani poslom, partnerom ili prijateljima, sad ste slobodni da cmizdrite dvadeset četiri časa dnevno zbog proteklog života, jer su vas svi na kraju izneverili kao što ste od uvek i očekivali. Uz pomoć tehnika razrađenih u ovoj knjizi – “Kreacija anksioznosti” i “Kako navesti ljude da vas odbace” – sada ćete postići cilj: “Totalnu ličnu bedu”. I bićete dovoljno kažnjeni za sve za šta ste krivi. Da li baš za sve?
I found How to Make Yourself Miserable one day, when I was feeling particularly miserable. I read it, and ate up the info about how the mind works when one is feeling bad about oneself. Now, this did not cure my misery (an antidepressant helped me, years later). However, I have still kept this book, some 30 years later, because of the value I discovered in it. Yes, it is a satirical book; however, I found many truly valuable insights in How to Make Yourself Miserable. It has been one of the most meaningful books of my life.
Quick funny read; book on how to lose all your relationships by acting like a Debbie Downer and how to properly brood about unwarranted anxieties and stress the day away. It was written in the 60s so I’m sure if it was written today it would have a lot more chapters about cell phones, social media, etc.
I had been searching for this book for a while, as I had come across a fragment thereof and enjoyed it. I love unique and intricate books, but this one did not appeal to me. I did not enjoy the writing style, and the content was not always understandable.
Not a good book while the concept seemed promising, the result was disappointing. All that time I will never get back seemed go be more about being bitter and Political vs what could have been a good study
This book is absolutely hilarious. And yet I have never felt more called out.
Warning: this book is very old, definitely pre 9/11; who on earth arrives for their flight at the time of departure? Also... it uses holocaust in its original meaning...
You are likely to enjoy this book if you regularly make yourself miserable and appreciate self-depreciating humor. Overall, the book is insightful insofar as it identifies some thought patterns associated with anxiety and poor self-esteem.
dropped like 1/3 way through, thought the book didn't add much insight.
edit - in hindsight, this is actually a very bad book. Should be inversion thinking but in actuality is just gimmicky and the majority of the content isn't actionable.
Mostly cliche and not great, but there were some funny parts. Could definitely have used less cliche and more realistic examples of things to worry about. I like that it is a short book.