I have never been a fan of Marilyn Monroe. Not that I disliked her, I just didn't give her much thought. Then I saw a picture of her reading Ulysses. Anyone who reads Ulysses has my respect. Then I heard that she had more than 400 books in her personal library, including Middlemarch, Crime and Punishment, books by Nietzsche and books on Judaism, and I knew I had to know more about this woman who was apparently more than a stupid, blonde beauty icon.
Boy, what a life she had and what a complex woman. I think I have to make lists to be able to tell you what I thought of this book.
The first list:
Things that I admire about Marilyn Monroe/Norma Jeane:
1. She was a good, kind woman and a true friend. You get the sense that Marilyn was through and through a good person, always there for her friends, kind to her colleagues (when her problems didn't annoy the hell out of them) and she fought hard to help her mother which couldn't have been easy for her.
2. Her ability to start from rock bottom - or below that - and make something of herself through sheer determination and hard work
3. Her wit. She was an intelligent and fast-thinking woman with quotes that have gone down in history (who doesn't know her Chanel no. 5 comment, and when 20th Century Fox heard that there were nude pictures of her in circulation an angry boss asked Marilyn, "Is that you on those pictures?!" and Marilyn replied, "Yes, but I don't think they got me from my best angle.")
4. Her ability to turn bad publicity into good publicity.
5. Her indifference to money. Marilyn wasn't in the business for the money, but because she loved her art and ... well, she liked the limelight.
Reasons why I am thankful I am not Marilyn
1. Mental instability ran in the family. Her grandfather went crazy and died young, her grandmother went crazy too and her mother was diagnosed paranoid scizophrenic and spent most of her life in mental hospitals and institutions. When in her 20s, Marilyn started to hear voices. Imagine how scary that must have been. Marilyn knew that something was wrong with her, and ended up seeing doctors and psychiatrists almost daily. She also suffered from severe depressions for most of her life and tried to kill herself a couple of times.
2. Her pill addiction. Pills to fall asleep, pills to get up, pills to stay awake, pills to get through the day, pills to keep the voices out of her head, pills to keep her borderline paranoid scizophrenia in bay, etc. Add alcohol to this and you have a dangerous coctail.
3. Her taste in men. First husband Jim was possessive and wanted Marilyn to give up her career. She had married him at 16 to avoid going back to the orphanage. Second husband Joe was possessive and jealous and didn't like her career (do you see the pattern?). After the famous hot air-scene in the Seven Year Itch - you know, Marilyn in a white dress trying to keep the dress from flying up over her head - Jim beat her. Third husband Arthur Miller was intelligent, but didn't understand Marilyn's problems and dependence on him and the marriage was as good as over after 3 weeks.
4. Her childhood. She never knew her father, her mother was paranoid scizophrenic and Norma Jeane spent the first 7 years of her life with Wayne and Ida Bolender. Then she lived with her mother and a woman called Grace. Then another family. Then the orphanage. Then another family. And another family. Then she was back with Grace. Then an aunt Ana. Then Grace. Then she married Joe. Marilyn spent most of her life looking for a family, searching for stability, love, security. It is scary how many men she called "Dad" - lovers, husbands, father-in-laws, bosses... Pat Kennedy Lawford believed that Marilyn became obsessed with the Kennedy family because they were so loving and close-knit and they had each other's backs - they were everything that Marilyn wanted and had never had.
5. Her cribbling insecurity and self-doubts, made worse by her mental problems and pill addiction.
6. She was followed by the FBI. Imagine you are borderline paranoid scizophrenic and thinks that someone is always following you, and then, someone actually IS following you and knows your every move.
Things that annoyed me about this book
1. For some reason the author has to constantly remind us of how beautiful Marilyn is. "In Gentlemen Prefer Blondes she was stunningly beautiful", "when she walked into a room everyone stopped and stared at her, she was so beautiful" etc. I mean, it's Marilyn Monroe we are talking about. I know she is beautiful and don't need to be reminded of it every five pages.
2. People interviewed for this book can always remember just what Marilyn was wearing at certain events. "We had lunch at a restaurant. Marilyn was wearing a white blouse and a black skirt with flat, white shoes". How is it that everyone can always remember what Marilyn was wearing on any random day?
3. The author insisted that Marilyn always gave splendid performances and was always the show-stealer. Surely she must have given just one luke warm performance in her life?
4. When a disputed point is debated it is clear what the author's personal opinion is and he wants us to agree with him which I didn't like. He should have been more neutral.
5. At some point Taraborrelli says that no one knows how Marilyn and Frank Sinatra first got introduced, how they got to know each other. A few pages later he says that Frank Sinatra and Marilyn's husband Joe were good friends. So here's a crazy thought: They met through Joe?
But overall a very interesting book and I certainly learned a lot about Marilyn and all the odds she had against her. It is amazing that she went on to become one of the biggest movie legends of all time because life certainly wasn't kind to her. It was always one step forward, two steps back for her. But in spite of her chaotic and frightening life she had the ability to make people care for her and take an interest in her welfare which she was very much in need of. Today, 50 years after her death, I can't help both loving her and feeling very, very sorry for her.
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P.S. I watched "My Week With Marilyn" yesterday. Michelle Williams was an excellent Marilyn I think, and Branagh a ditto Olivier. I really enjoyed the movie, though there wasn't much in the way of a plot