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208 pages, Paperback
Published November 29, 2022
“Because mythologies and sciences alike aspire to be true, they are perpetually under revision,” Bringhurst explains. “Both lapse into dogma when this revision stops.”
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Monotheism is trapped by its attachment to a mythic monologue. Sky gods think sunshine, abstraction, and ascension are the answer to everything. But the problem with the sun is that if it isn’t tempered by darkness and rain and decay, it tends to create deserts instead of biodiverse ecosystems.
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How can honoring our “both-ness” change courtship into a terrain that is more egalitarian, playful, and reciprocal than the patriarchal modes of romance that seem to invite sexual violence and domination?
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Bodies, liquid in a flesh silhouette, are tides of lunacy, constantly shifting their internal shorelines. To be lunar means to change—to be full and ripe one night, and tired and reclusive another.
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Hundreds of years of simplistic binaries have led us to believe that the hearth fire is tended by the feminine, while the hunt or external world is governed by the masculine. The man is welcomed back into the home, fed, and cared for, but he is never the lap of plenty. He rules the home. But he is not allowed to “be” the home.
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Myths that stay the same don’t survive.
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As philosopher Isabelle Stenger urges, we must somehow make decisions in the presence of those who will bear their consequences.
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Dionysus was also popularly called Liber. In fact, this version of the vegetal god’s name is the root of our words for freedom and liberation and deliverance. Why, then, do we only think of Dionysus as a god of drunken foolishness? His worshippers very clearly saw him as a god of revolution and independence. Mythically, his arrivals signaled the inversion of social norms and the blooming of unfettered, uncivilized celebration, often conducted by a society’s underdogs. This behavior isn’t just fermented ecstasy. This is spontaneous, unruly revolt.
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Climate collapse will not be solved by techno-narcissism. Patriarchy will not be cured with shame and guilt. Racism cannot be cut out of our brains with a sword.
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My favorite aspect of their relationship is that in many stories and images—a wonderful example being the frieze from the Villa of the Mysteries in Pompeii—Ariadne is depicted as occupying the sovereign throne while Dionysus sits in her lap. Their relationship is flipped, dynamic, unfettered by gendered stereotypes. There is no dominating “king.”
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What does it mean to approach the beloved knowing that they have been wronged? What does it look like to tenderly heal that wounding and that power imbalance? My guess is the answer is more luscious and beautiful and sexy than we can even imagine. Healing doesn’t have to be hard work. It can be romantic. It can be a bacchanal.
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The body and the psyche’s place is distinctly opposed to the culture’s suicidal sprinting.
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Real healing cannot be rushed. If we don’t emerge slowly from the shallows, we won’t give our lungs time to adjust to the intoxicating chill of fresh air. If we don’t give our wings time to dry, we will never be able to fly. Stepping out of dominant cultural narratives involves a process of grieving, tending to our losses, and transforming our dreams. This doesn’t happen in an hour. And it can’t be “gamed.”
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But let us halt the story, because stories are often defense mechanisms used to distract from pain. Trauma can look like heroism. It can look like strength. Sound like beautiful music. It can be handsome and well behaved. What beautiful Tristan really represents is pain.
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So much of the current rhetoric about healing is wedded to progress and to narrative. But the body is not a story. It is porous and complicated and changeable. It needs to dance and swim. It needs to lie on the ground for days, re-regulating its nervous system to the seasonal heartbeat of the soil. The concept of “healing” has become the time-sensitive demand of a culture bent on progressing, and unwittingly taken up by wellness and new age spiritual communities. They say we must be “integrated” and whole again; we must achieve functionality so that we can keep the narrative moving. But a body doesn’t need to move through healing. It just needs to move. And then it needs to be still. It needs to feel safe.
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It is ironic that Joseph Campbell’s favorite hero, Tristan, is so desperate to escape the very thing Campbell wanted to enshrine him inside: the hero’s journey.
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We have to admit that our world is not a linear romp into civilized eloquence, with cardboard cut-out temptresses, riddling dragons, and singular heroes. It is a polytemporal explosion of contingencies and sorrows and contamination.